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#8 - Yes, a bit off topic ^^ But yes, Riot made a gamemode…  [+] (1 new reply) 07/30/2014 on Don't troll Madlife.. 0
#9 - jaxonnn (07/30/2014) [-]
Oh sweet, the vibe I got was that it was going to be a permanent change
I tried it, didn't like it very much
Cheers mate
#144589 - Wow my big tittied mommy changed them to intense bodylove wi… 07/15/2014 on Advice - love advice,... 0
#144588 - *testing* you're your  [+] (1 new reply) 07/15/2014 on Advice - love advice,... 0
User avatar #144589 - wermii (07/15/2014) [-]
Wow my big tittied mommy changed them to intense bodylove with grammar nazis..

you're = You r
your = You are
#144586 - Well yea.. i want the good times back, and i have been talking…  [+] (1 new reply) 07/15/2014 on Advice - love advice,... +1
User avatar #144623 - thatnigger (07/15/2014) [-]
You can also tell her sometimes you think too much about things, and you get hurt just like she does. Tell her that even though you hurt each other, at the end of the day you still don't want to lose her as a best friend and you miss the times you had.
Relationships don't always work though, friendships or otherwise. Tell her if she thinks it's worth it though, that she should give you another chance to be good friends with her or at least you'll try to make it worth it.
#144585 - Really great advice, and i will certainly try something a long…  [+] (2 new replies) 07/15/2014 on Advice - love advice,... +1
User avatar #144588 - wermii (07/15/2014) [-]
*testing*

you're
your
User avatar #144589 - wermii (07/15/2014) [-]
Wow my big tittied mommy changed them to intense bodylove with grammar nazis..

you're = You r
your = You are
#144458 - Well, i was happy with her. Heck she would be the last thing i…  [+] (7 new replies) 07/14/2014 on Advice - love advice,... 0
#144522 - xXThatxOnexGuyXx (07/15/2014) [-]
When you get down to it, all relationships Even friendships rely on one basic principle: Communication.

Although it seems like you've exhausted all of you're possible options.
You need to talk this through with her one last time.
Now when you approach her with this, cut the "unnecessary tension" aspect and go straight for:
> "Hey... So.. I know I may have brought this up before, but it really seems like you don't want to talk to me at times... It makes the friendship feel one-sided. It feels like I'm missing out on something; That I'm the only one trying to keep it going. I might be blowing this out of proportion, and if I am tell me, but the friendship isn't the same as it used to be..."
See where that takes you. You can change that however you like, and by no means do you have to repeat it word for word. It's a simple suggestion.

Just be open and honest with her, as you are with us right now.

If you and her are conversing with each other for more than two hours a day, every day, then it should be obvious that both of you have feels for each other.
Online relationships, even friendships, are extremely hard to keep. Drop contact for more than 8 hours? That's going to affect the relationship. Drop contact for more than 16 hours? your really dampening it now, and will hurt it for quite a while. Drop contact for a full day or more? Irreversible damage. Longer than 3 days? It's over.
Friendships are easier to maintain, but when you start going on a spree of speaking to one another for several hours a day, everyday... Then breaking that constant form of contact in the slightest will really hinder the entire thing.

Now it's clear that she does like you, or did at some point. But once girls start slowly ignoring certain aspects of you're conversation, then that means they have a big problem, and are keeping quiet about it. For instance, my ex stopped adding hearts after "Good Night," then she quickly dropped saying "Good Night" all together.
#144524 - xXThatxOnexGuyXx (07/15/2014) [-]
Appending my comment:

The best course of action you can do right now, is talking it through with her. Preferably with a statement close to the one I made.
Otherwise the friendship relationship is doomed to die off. There is a problem and if it isn't talked through and resolved, then it'll only get worse.

Let's face it, you are practically in an online relationship with her, but both of you are stubborn enough to not admit it. Again, any more contact than a few hours a day means both parties have feelings for each other. Another dead give away, would surely be if you and her have talked about you're ex's. If she brought that up at any point, or if she was willing to speak about it, then you both certainly feelings for each other.

She sounds like a really great match for you, don't let this go.
Try to fix things between you and her.

Anyhow, it honestly sounds like both of you have some growing up to do. No offense; However if both of you are far too stubborn to state the obvious, that you two are in a relationship of some sort, then both aren't really mature enough to keep it going.
She needs to learn to state her problems with you/ the relationship. She needs to know that your there for her to be completely open and honest with.
Be open and honest with her, open you'reself up to her, and see if she opens herself up as well.

Tell her that you like her. Do not tell her you love her, just like. Love is far too strong of a word for an online relationship. You know it, I know it, she knows it, and there's just no point in going that far. This shows even more immaturity.
Tell her that your afraid that at some point she may become distant from you, and you don't want to lose her.

See if she owns up to her feelings for you.
Besides, what have you got to lose? She's already becoming distant. Worst case scenario you don't do anything and she becomes more and more distant from you.
User avatar #144585 - wermii (07/15/2014) [-]
Really great advice, and i will certainly try something a long the line of you're quote.

And you are right with she was begginning to drop certain things that i really kind of missed..

And yes we do have a really close bond, by i allways saw it as "best friends".

Also this was how our "relationship" started, i was really down at one point where everything was kinda falling apart, and she was there at the right time and i kinda letted her in, and then we began first talking about all the stuff in my life, and she helped me out and suddently she also began opening for me. And we got really close, like we would have conversations from we woke up till we went to bed, but yea lately it has been a bit dull.. maybe also on my part, because i sometimes feel like i was the one allways trying to start it and keep it going.

She knows i really like her and care about her and that i am afraid to miss her, she have also said this back too me. But maybe reminding her would maybe help..

Thank you again, you really open my eyes more up with this, and help me see some better solutions than my own that was obviously not the greatest..
User avatar #144588 - wermii (07/15/2014) [-]
*testing*

you're
your
User avatar #144589 - wermii (07/15/2014) [-]
Wow my big tittied mommy changed them to intense bodylove with grammar nazis..

you're = You r
your = You are
#144460 - minutes (07/14/2014) [-]
I am glad I could help you but I don't really know what to say anymore. I don't know you 2 so I can't really say more then what I already said, sorry. Maybe one of the other advice-fags can help you better.

thatadmin xXThatxOnexGuyXx
User avatar #144528 - thatnigger (07/15/2014) [-]
Ahhh, I can't get mentions....
#144446 - Really appreciate the advice, but i really don't think a relat…  [+] (9 new replies) 07/14/2014 on Advice - love advice,... 0
#144451 - minutes (07/14/2014) [-]
This is a really complex situation I gotta say. Well it all comes down to you're decision. It's probably not very healthy to continue like this but if you feel happy the way it is then i see no problem why you shouldn't. Talk to her about you're problems, afterall your close right? If you can mantain a friendshio with her without being on a self destruction mode (rejecting everyone else because of her, obsessing over what she thinks) you can definitly continue like this.
User avatar #144458 - wermii (07/14/2014) [-]
Well, i was happy with her. Heck she would be the last thing i thought before i slept and the first thing i would think of when i woke up, the thought of her allways gave me a smile, and i was just allways happy when i talked with her, just to be able to talk with her..

And yes we are close, but i have talked with her about the whole situation that i feel that there is a unneccesary tension lately between us and i want to know what if anything was wrong, and we would talk about it for a while and we would stop, and be good friends again but the very next day the same tension will appear from her side..

And it is like if i ask if she is okay, sometimes she wont answer. But if i ask her maybe an hour later another question like "what are you doing?" she would asnwer that and would still ignore the previous question, and i feel like i need to push her before she is willing to answer me, but obviously i can't push her.. Where before there was no problem and she would say if she was fine or not and we would talk about stuff together and have a good time in generel, but it seems like now she doesn't want me as a close friend anymore, more just like a normal friend.. and this really makes me frustrated because i have only made one mistake (what i know of), and she is still tormenting me with it.. Where i could easier forgive her with her hurting me multiple times and we would come back from it closer and stronger together.. But right now it just seems so hard to get back to how we were before..

Sorry for keeping on writing all this crap, but i guess i need to get all these thoughts out somewhere, and when she is the only one i have ever trusted i don't know where else to go than her.. But now i am trying this because i feel like i would have a hard time atm. talking with her about this because of her recent behaviour towards me..

Again i really appreciate all the help you are offering to me! thanks again!
#144522 - xXThatxOnexGuyXx (07/15/2014) [-]
When you get down to it, all relationships Even friendships rely on one basic principle: Communication.

Although it seems like you've exhausted all of you're possible options.
You need to talk this through with her one last time.
Now when you approach her with this, cut the "unnecessary tension" aspect and go straight for:
> "Hey... So.. I know I may have brought this up before, but it really seems like you don't want to talk to me at times... It makes the friendship feel one-sided. It feels like I'm missing out on something; That I'm the only one trying to keep it going. I might be blowing this out of proportion, and if I am tell me, but the friendship isn't the same as it used to be..."
See where that takes you. You can change that however you like, and by no means do you have to repeat it word for word. It's a simple suggestion.

Just be open and honest with her, as you are with us right now.

If you and her are conversing with each other for more than two hours a day, every day, then it should be obvious that both of you have feels for each other.
Online relationships, even friendships, are extremely hard to keep. Drop contact for more than 8 hours? That's going to affect the relationship. Drop contact for more than 16 hours? your really dampening it now, and will hurt it for quite a while. Drop contact for a full day or more? Irreversible damage. Longer than 3 days? It's over.
Friendships are easier to maintain, but when you start going on a spree of speaking to one another for several hours a day, everyday... Then breaking that constant form of contact in the slightest will really hinder the entire thing.

Now it's clear that she does like you, or did at some point. But once girls start slowly ignoring certain aspects of you're conversation, then that means they have a big problem, and are keeping quiet about it. For instance, my ex stopped adding hearts after "Good Night," then she quickly dropped saying "Good Night" all together.
#144524 - xXThatxOnexGuyXx (07/15/2014) [-]
Appending my comment:

The best course of action you can do right now, is talking it through with her. Preferably with a statement close to the one I made.
Otherwise the friendship relationship is doomed to die off. There is a problem and if it isn't talked through and resolved, then it'll only get worse.

Let's face it, you are practically in an online relationship with her, but both of you are stubborn enough to not admit it. Again, any more contact than a few hours a day means both parties have feelings for each other. Another dead give away, would surely be if you and her have talked about you're ex's. If she brought that up at any point, or if she was willing to speak about it, then you both certainly feelings for each other.

She sounds like a really great match for you, don't let this go.
Try to fix things between you and her.

Anyhow, it honestly sounds like both of you have some growing up to do. No offense; However if both of you are far too stubborn to state the obvious, that you two are in a relationship of some sort, then both aren't really mature enough to keep it going.
She needs to learn to state her problems with you/ the relationship. She needs to know that your there for her to be completely open and honest with.
Be open and honest with her, open you'reself up to her, and see if she opens herself up as well.

Tell her that you like her. Do not tell her you love her, just like. Love is far too strong of a word for an online relationship. You know it, I know it, she knows it, and there's just no point in going that far. This shows even more immaturity.
Tell her that your afraid that at some point she may become distant from you, and you don't want to lose her.

See if she owns up to her feelings for you.
Besides, what have you got to lose? She's already becoming distant. Worst case scenario you don't do anything and she becomes more and more distant from you.
User avatar #144585 - wermii (07/15/2014) [-]
Really great advice, and i will certainly try something a long the line of you're quote.

And you are right with she was begginning to drop certain things that i really kind of missed..

And yes we do have a really close bond, by i allways saw it as "best friends".

Also this was how our "relationship" started, i was really down at one point where everything was kinda falling apart, and she was there at the right time and i kinda letted her in, and then we began first talking about all the stuff in my life, and she helped me out and suddently she also began opening for me. And we got really close, like we would have conversations from we woke up till we went to bed, but yea lately it has been a bit dull.. maybe also on my part, because i sometimes feel like i was the one allways trying to start it and keep it going.

She knows i really like her and care about her and that i am afraid to miss her, she have also said this back too me. But maybe reminding her would maybe help..

Thank you again, you really open my eyes more up with this, and help me see some better solutions than my own that was obviously not the greatest..
User avatar #144588 - wermii (07/15/2014) [-]
*testing*

you're
your
User avatar #144589 - wermii (07/15/2014) [-]
Wow my big tittied mommy changed them to intense bodylove with grammar nazis..

you're = You r
your = You are
#144460 - minutes (07/14/2014) [-]
I am glad I could help you but I don't really know what to say anymore. I don't know you 2 so I can't really say more then what I already said, sorry. Maybe one of the other advice-fags can help you better.

thatadmin xXThatxOnexGuyXx
User avatar #144528 - thatnigger (07/15/2014) [-]
Ahhh, I can't get mentions....
#144444 - She lives in cologne, and we have actually talked a lot of mee…  [+] (11 new replies) 07/14/2014 on Advice - love advice,... 0
#144445 - minutes (07/14/2014) [-]
Well if you can be so open about anything with her, why don't you tell her that? I mean if you think about cutting contact you might as well try everything else before. You got a few options to choose from here so I will just list them to make it easier for you.

1. Continue like now - wouldn't really recommend that since your obviously not happy with the situation
2. cut contact back a bit, stay friends - gives you the option to work on you're social life outside of the internet
3. cut contact completely
4. tell her about you're feelings for her and try to get with her

As said I would totally recomment number 4 cause afterwards you still have options 2 and 3 if it fails. If she does like you you can save up money for a meeting and maybe things will work out for you? I don't know. I can't tell you what to choose, it's you're choice to make.
User avatar #144446 - wermii (07/14/2014) [-]
Really appreciate the advice, but i really don't think a relationship would work, first i don't feel like being in a relationship as of right now, and secound we have been talking about being together with people and she told me a lot of times she closed boys completly out because they tell her they love her. She told me that she doesn't feel capable of loving and she doesn't want a relationship, and she hates people who tell her they love her because it forces her out in a situation where she needs to reject them because she is a bit weird on that point.

And i am actually scared that there is a chance that i could lose her because i come out of nowhere and try to start a relationship..

But i also considdered just trying to close her out a bit, and make her feel wanting to get back in, and be a bit reserved myself.. i don't know if its a good idea, because i have allways been open towards her with everything and allways told her what i was doing..

But here i am just scared of her not wanting to get back in..
#144451 - minutes (07/14/2014) [-]
This is a really complex situation I gotta say. Well it all comes down to you're decision. It's probably not very healthy to continue like this but if you feel happy the way it is then i see no problem why you shouldn't. Talk to her about you're problems, afterall your close right? If you can mantain a friendshio with her without being on a self destruction mode (rejecting everyone else because of her, obsessing over what she thinks) you can definitly continue like this.
User avatar #144458 - wermii (07/14/2014) [-]
Well, i was happy with her. Heck she would be the last thing i thought before i slept and the first thing i would think of when i woke up, the thought of her allways gave me a smile, and i was just allways happy when i talked with her, just to be able to talk with her..

And yes we are close, but i have talked with her about the whole situation that i feel that there is a unneccesary tension lately between us and i want to know what if anything was wrong, and we would talk about it for a while and we would stop, and be good friends again but the very next day the same tension will appear from her side..

And it is like if i ask if she is okay, sometimes she wont answer. But if i ask her maybe an hour later another question like "what are you doing?" she would asnwer that and would still ignore the previous question, and i feel like i need to push her before she is willing to answer me, but obviously i can't push her.. Where before there was no problem and she would say if she was fine or not and we would talk about stuff together and have a good time in generel, but it seems like now she doesn't want me as a close friend anymore, more just like a normal friend.. and this really makes me frustrated because i have only made one mistake (what i know of), and she is still tormenting me with it.. Where i could easier forgive her with her hurting me multiple times and we would come back from it closer and stronger together.. But right now it just seems so hard to get back to how we were before..

Sorry for keeping on writing all this crap, but i guess i need to get all these thoughts out somewhere, and when she is the only one i have ever trusted i don't know where else to go than her.. But now i am trying this because i feel like i would have a hard time atm. talking with her about this because of her recent behaviour towards me..

Again i really appreciate all the help you are offering to me! thanks again!
#144522 - xXThatxOnexGuyXx (07/15/2014) [-]
When you get down to it, all relationships Even friendships rely on one basic principle: Communication.

Although it seems like you've exhausted all of you're possible options.
You need to talk this through with her one last time.
Now when you approach her with this, cut the "unnecessary tension" aspect and go straight for:
> "Hey... So.. I know I may have brought this up before, but it really seems like you don't want to talk to me at times... It makes the friendship feel one-sided. It feels like I'm missing out on something; That I'm the only one trying to keep it going. I might be blowing this out of proportion, and if I am tell me, but the friendship isn't the same as it used to be..."
See where that takes you. You can change that however you like, and by no means do you have to repeat it word for word. It's a simple suggestion.

Just be open and honest with her, as you are with us right now.

If you and her are conversing with each other for more than two hours a day, every day, then it should be obvious that both of you have feels for each other.
Online relationships, even friendships, are extremely hard to keep. Drop contact for more than 8 hours? That's going to affect the relationship. Drop contact for more than 16 hours? your really dampening it now, and will hurt it for quite a while. Drop contact for a full day or more? Irreversible damage. Longer than 3 days? It's over.
Friendships are easier to maintain, but when you start going on a spree of speaking to one another for several hours a day, everyday... Then breaking that constant form of contact in the slightest will really hinder the entire thing.

Now it's clear that she does like you, or did at some point. But once girls start slowly ignoring certain aspects of you're conversation, then that means they have a big problem, and are keeping quiet about it. For instance, my ex stopped adding hearts after "Good Night," then she quickly dropped saying "Good Night" all together.
#144524 - xXThatxOnexGuyXx (07/15/2014) [-]
Appending my comment:

The best course of action you can do right now, is talking it through with her. Preferably with a statement close to the one I made.
Otherwise the friendship relationship is doomed to die off. There is a problem and if it isn't talked through and resolved, then it'll only get worse.

Let's face it, you are practically in an online relationship with her, but both of you are stubborn enough to not admit it. Again, any more contact than a few hours a day means both parties have feelings for each other. Another dead give away, would surely be if you and her have talked about you're ex's. If she brought that up at any point, or if she was willing to speak about it, then you both certainly feelings for each other.

She sounds like a really great match for you, don't let this go.
Try to fix things between you and her.

Anyhow, it honestly sounds like both of you have some growing up to do. No offense; However if both of you are far too stubborn to state the obvious, that you two are in a relationship of some sort, then both aren't really mature enough to keep it going.
She needs to learn to state her problems with you/ the relationship. She needs to know that your there for her to be completely open and honest with.
Be open and honest with her, open you'reself up to her, and see if she opens herself up as well.

Tell her that you like her. Do not tell her you love her, just like. Love is far too strong of a word for an online relationship. You know it, I know it, she knows it, and there's just no point in going that far. This shows even more immaturity.
Tell her that your afraid that at some point she may become distant from you, and you don't want to lose her.

See if she owns up to her feelings for you.
Besides, what have you got to lose? She's already becoming distant. Worst case scenario you don't do anything and she becomes more and more distant from you.
User avatar #144585 - wermii (07/15/2014) [-]
Really great advice, and i will certainly try something a long the line of you're quote.

And you are right with she was begginning to drop certain things that i really kind of missed..

And yes we do have a really close bond, by i allways saw it as "best friends".

Also this was how our "relationship" started, i was really down at one point where everything was kinda falling apart, and she was there at the right time and i kinda letted her in, and then we began first talking about all the stuff in my life, and she helped me out and suddently she also began opening for me. And we got really close, like we would have conversations from we woke up till we went to bed, but yea lately it has been a bit dull.. maybe also on my part, because i sometimes feel like i was the one allways trying to start it and keep it going.

She knows i really like her and care about her and that i am afraid to miss her, she have also said this back too me. But maybe reminding her would maybe help..

Thank you again, you really open my eyes more up with this, and help me see some better solutions than my own that was obviously not the greatest..
User avatar #144588 - wermii (07/15/2014) [-]
*testing*

you're
your
User avatar #144589 - wermii (07/15/2014) [-]
Wow my big tittied mommy changed them to intense bodylove with grammar nazis..

you're = You r
your = You are
#144460 - minutes (07/14/2014) [-]
I am glad I could help you but I don't really know what to say anymore. I don't know you 2 so I can't really say more then what I already said, sorry. Maybe one of the other advice-fags can help you better.

thatadmin xXThatxOnexGuyXx
User avatar #144528 - thatnigger (07/15/2014) [-]
Ahhh, I can't get mentions....
#144441 - Sorry i guess i didn't realize it myself.. 1. I have …  [+] (13 new replies) 07/14/2014 on Advice - love advice,... 0
#144442 - minutes (07/14/2014) [-]
It doesn't have to be short. In fact, the more text the better. Sometimes you can already see certain habits/intentions just from the choice of words so it's really helping.

Well you really have to figure out you're feelings for her. For me it sound like you have some feelings for her cause you get hurt by stuff like that. You said you can't live with her, you feel excluded sometimes and you want to be special to her, all signs that you want more then a friendship. If you never met her this will be difficult though. I wouldn't want to get this attached to a girl online, i got a good online friend as well who would probably make a great girlfriend but cause of the distance I just want to stay friends you know? You should try to find more friends or other girls in real life, maybe go out more often, try to talk to more people you don't know, just overall be open minded. If you really wanna try it with her though, you could arrange a meet up. I mean the distance between denmark and germany isn't exactly the biggest is it? In what part of germany does she life btw?
User avatar #144444 - wermii (07/14/2014) [-]
She lives in cologne, and we have actually talked a lot of meeting up. The only problem that have been for not doing so have been our economy, because my job went bankrupt recently so i have only had enough money to survive. But yea i guess i do have feelings for her, because i often get a bit jealous around her when she does stuff with other people, because i feel like i want to be there when she has fun.. But this is really weird because normally i never get jealous on anything, i didn't really get jealous either with my ex girlfriend if she was having a fun time with other boys (Ofcourse fun like in partying/talking). But with this girl she could apperantly give me this feeling of jealousy.. Even if she was just talking with some others. But also a thing to note is she also got the tendency to be jealous around me when i talked with others and played with others. We have talked about this together and worked it out, i still tend to be jealous but i can fast shake it off because i still know she is closer with me than she is with anybody else. Or atleast she tells me that, but one thing i know is she is the only person i have ever trusted to open myself up too and i guess that is why i have a fear of loosing her, because she became very important to me very quickly because she allways been there for me and helped me out when i was down.

And i think you are right, i realized some stuff while writing this, and i been thinking about them, but i still feel like i am a bit lost with i don't know if i should keep trying to stay with her, because i sometimes get the feeling that she isn't fighting as much as me and it can hurt a bit.
#144445 - minutes (07/14/2014) [-]
Well if you can be so open about anything with her, why don't you tell her that? I mean if you think about cutting contact you might as well try everything else before. You got a few options to choose from here so I will just list them to make it easier for you.

1. Continue like now - wouldn't really recommend that since your obviously not happy with the situation
2. cut contact back a bit, stay friends - gives you the option to work on you're social life outside of the internet
3. cut contact completely
4. tell her about you're feelings for her and try to get with her

As said I would totally recomment number 4 cause afterwards you still have options 2 and 3 if it fails. If she does like you you can save up money for a meeting and maybe things will work out for you? I don't know. I can't tell you what to choose, it's you're choice to make.
User avatar #144446 - wermii (07/14/2014) [-]
Really appreciate the advice, but i really don't think a relationship would work, first i don't feel like being in a relationship as of right now, and secound we have been talking about being together with people and she told me a lot of times she closed boys completly out because they tell her they love her. She told me that she doesn't feel capable of loving and she doesn't want a relationship, and she hates people who tell her they love her because it forces her out in a situation where she needs to reject them because she is a bit weird on that point.

And i am actually scared that there is a chance that i could lose her because i come out of nowhere and try to start a relationship..

But i also considdered just trying to close her out a bit, and make her feel wanting to get back in, and be a bit reserved myself.. i don't know if its a good idea, because i have allways been open towards her with everything and allways told her what i was doing..

But here i am just scared of her not wanting to get back in..
#144451 - minutes (07/14/2014) [-]
This is a really complex situation I gotta say. Well it all comes down to you're decision. It's probably not very healthy to continue like this but if you feel happy the way it is then i see no problem why you shouldn't. Talk to her about you're problems, afterall your close right? If you can mantain a friendshio with her without being on a self destruction mode (rejecting everyone else because of her, obsessing over what she thinks) you can definitly continue like this.
User avatar #144458 - wermii (07/14/2014) [-]
Well, i was happy with her. Heck she would be the last thing i thought before i slept and the first thing i would think of when i woke up, the thought of her allways gave me a smile, and i was just allways happy when i talked with her, just to be able to talk with her..

And yes we are close, but i have talked with her about the whole situation that i feel that there is a unneccesary tension lately between us and i want to know what if anything was wrong, and we would talk about it for a while and we would stop, and be good friends again but the very next day the same tension will appear from her side..

And it is like if i ask if she is okay, sometimes she wont answer. But if i ask her maybe an hour later another question like "what are you doing?" she would asnwer that and would still ignore the previous question, and i feel like i need to push her before she is willing to answer me, but obviously i can't push her.. Where before there was no problem and she would say if she was fine or not and we would talk about stuff together and have a good time in generel, but it seems like now she doesn't want me as a close friend anymore, more just like a normal friend.. and this really makes me frustrated because i have only made one mistake (what i know of), and she is still tormenting me with it.. Where i could easier forgive her with her hurting me multiple times and we would come back from it closer and stronger together.. But right now it just seems so hard to get back to how we were before..

Sorry for keeping on writing all this crap, but i guess i need to get all these thoughts out somewhere, and when she is the only one i have ever trusted i don't know where else to go than her.. But now i am trying this because i feel like i would have a hard time atm. talking with her about this because of her recent behaviour towards me..

Again i really appreciate all the help you are offering to me! thanks again!
#144522 - xXThatxOnexGuyXx (07/15/2014) [-]
When you get down to it, all relationships Even friendships rely on one basic principle: Communication.

Although it seems like you've exhausted all of you're possible options.
You need to talk this through with her one last time.
Now when you approach her with this, cut the "unnecessary tension" aspect and go straight for:
> "Hey... So.. I know I may have brought this up before, but it really seems like you don't want to talk to me at times... It makes the friendship feel one-sided. It feels like I'm missing out on something; That I'm the only one trying to keep it going. I might be blowing this out of proportion, and if I am tell me, but the friendship isn't the same as it used to be..."
See where that takes you. You can change that however you like, and by no means do you have to repeat it word for word. It's a simple suggestion.

Just be open and honest with her, as you are with us right now.

If you and her are conversing with each other for more than two hours a day, every day, then it should be obvious that both of you have feels for each other.
Online relationships, even friendships, are extremely hard to keep. Drop contact for more than 8 hours? That's going to affect the relationship. Drop contact for more than 16 hours? your really dampening it now, and will hurt it for quite a while. Drop contact for a full day or more? Irreversible damage. Longer than 3 days? It's over.
Friendships are easier to maintain, but when you start going on a spree of speaking to one another for several hours a day, everyday... Then breaking that constant form of contact in the slightest will really hinder the entire thing.

Now it's clear that she does like you, or did at some point. But once girls start slowly ignoring certain aspects of you're conversation, then that means they have a big problem, and are keeping quiet about it. For instance, my ex stopped adding hearts after "Good Night," then she quickly dropped saying "Good Night" all together.
#144524 - xXThatxOnexGuyXx (07/15/2014) [-]
Appending my comment:

The best course of action you can do right now, is talking it through with her. Preferably with a statement close to the one I made.
Otherwise the friendship relationship is doomed to die off. There is a problem and if it isn't talked through and resolved, then it'll only get worse.

Let's face it, you are practically in an online relationship with her, but both of you are stubborn enough to not admit it. Again, any more contact than a few hours a day means both parties have feelings for each other. Another dead give away, would surely be if you and her have talked about you're ex's. If she brought that up at any point, or if she was willing to speak about it, then you both certainly feelings for each other.

She sounds like a really great match for you, don't let this go.
Try to fix things between you and her.

Anyhow, it honestly sounds like both of you have some growing up to do. No offense; However if both of you are far too stubborn to state the obvious, that you two are in a relationship of some sort, then both aren't really mature enough to keep it going.
She needs to learn to state her problems with you/ the relationship. She needs to know that your there for her to be completely open and honest with.
Be open and honest with her, open you'reself up to her, and see if she opens herself up as well.

Tell her that you like her. Do not tell her you love her, just like. Love is far too strong of a word for an online relationship. You know it, I know it, she knows it, and there's just no point in going that far. This shows even more immaturity.
Tell her that your afraid that at some point she may become distant from you, and you don't want to lose her.

See if she owns up to her feelings for you.
Besides, what have you got to lose? She's already becoming distant. Worst case scenario you don't do anything and she becomes more and more distant from you.
User avatar #144585 - wermii (07/15/2014) [-]
Really great advice, and i will certainly try something a long the line of you're quote.

And you are right with she was begginning to drop certain things that i really kind of missed..

And yes we do have a really close bond, by i allways saw it as "best friends".

Also this was how our "relationship" started, i was really down at one point where everything was kinda falling apart, and she was there at the right time and i kinda letted her in, and then we began first talking about all the stuff in my life, and she helped me out and suddently she also began opening for me. And we got really close, like we would have conversations from we woke up till we went to bed, but yea lately it has been a bit dull.. maybe also on my part, because i sometimes feel like i was the one allways trying to start it and keep it going.

She knows i really like her and care about her and that i am afraid to miss her, she have also said this back too me. But maybe reminding her would maybe help..

Thank you again, you really open my eyes more up with this, and help me see some better solutions than my own that was obviously not the greatest..
User avatar #144588 - wermii (07/15/2014) [-]
*testing*

you're
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User avatar #144589 - wermii (07/15/2014) [-]
Wow my big tittied mommy changed them to intense bodylove with grammar nazis..

you're = You r
your = You are
#144460 - minutes (07/14/2014) [-]
I am glad I could help you but I don't really know what to say anymore. I don't know you 2 so I can't really say more then what I already said, sorry. Maybe one of the other advice-fags can help you better.

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User avatar #144528 - thatnigger (07/15/2014) [-]
Ahhh, I can't get mentions....
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User avatar #144537 - thatnigger (07/15/2014) [-]
Alright, you got a lot of work to do.
Honestly, I get how you feel. So you just want to get you're best friend back and have fun talking day after day again, but you also might have feelings for her.
I say the first thing you need to do is surprise her with something nice, do something nice for her. I guess it's hard because you don't actually live near her, but try and like create a really nice moment with her. Like play an online game together or watch something together and joke around and have so much fun. If she really enjoyed it, then bring up that you miss being able to do this because she seems to distance nowadays and hopefully she'll at least pay more attention to you.
As for the feelings part, you can either move on, or start extremely slow. Basically, start building up trust with her but more importantly, try and get to the point that she'll be able to tell you anything and you'd be able to tell her anything. Like you don't even need to ask, she'd already tell you how her day's going or even you're both not afraid to tell each other something. Then try and see if she likes you, if there are no signs, then still tell her you're feelings but don't expect too much. When you do tell her you're feelings, make sure you don't just full come out and just tell her that you've thought of the idea and wanted to know what she thought. If you're already talking so much and trust each other, you should hope that she's not afraid to tell you what she's actually thinking and then hopefully you'll know whether it's time to move on or get with her.
User avatar #144586 - wermii (07/15/2014) [-]
Well yea.. i want the good times back, and i have been talking/playing with her a bit lately but it still seems like she is a bit reserved atm. We used to be able to talk about everything (though with her i needed to ask a lot), but because i acciedently hurted her she closed me a bit out, and she really doesn't seem to forgive me yet. And this is really just confusing me because we used to be so happy together, she could allways make me smile and laugh.. and now she just seems a bit distance, like we went from "best friends" to "friends" and this really annoys me because 5 month of really awesome time together got ruin by one stupid accident by me, that in my opinion wasn't that bad at all..

But i guess i can try and create a nice moment with her.. and tell her this, but i feel like i need to remind her that i am here too every week almost, because she have some weird things that are really hard (driving me crazy) to live with and work around, and it is these things that keep hurting me, example she forgets a lot of stuff, she can in generel be very hard too understand, and what to do and not to do around her. But i tried and told her that i stay with her no matter what and no matter what problems would come, that i care for her and wouldn't want to lose her. But it all seems too fall apart atm. because i also even considdered to cut communication.. and she just manage to get on my nerves for what ever reason..
User avatar #144623 - thatnigger (07/15/2014) [-]
You can also tell her sometimes you think too much about things, and you get hurt just like she does. Tell her that even though you hurt each other, at the end of the day you still don't want to lose her as a best friend and you miss the times you had.
Relationships don't always work though, friendships or otherwise. Tell her if she thinks it's worth it though, that she should give you another chance to be good friends with her or at least you'll try to make it worth it.
#144434 - minutes (07/14/2014) [-]
You really wrote a lot of stuff without telling much. It's like you are a politician, if your going to elaborate then you can also include the important information. I got a few questions here:

1. Do you have feelings for her in a romantical way? Were you in a relationship of some sort?
2. What exactly did she do to "hurt" you?
3. What do you mean you were too "pushy"?
4. What was that thing that you did to make her mad? Was is the "being to pushy" stuff?
User avatar #144441 - wermii (07/14/2014) [-]
Sorry i guess i didn't realize it myself..

1. I have been questioning this myself.. I really don't know because i really like her she is really great, she could allways make me laugh and smile, but i never thought of being in a relationship with her. Because we are really close and i think i would find it weird if we were a in a relationship.

2. I can give a example, we were getting really close atm. and she began calling me "sweety" and because she didn't do it before i felt flattered by it, and she also told me i and her ex best friend was the only people she called that, but then i was in a skype group conversation and heard her call somebody else "sweety" i felt kinda lied too and got a bit confused, where she tried to explain further to me that she called other people it too because they needed it too sometimes (She is a person who helps almost everybody with problems), and then she made me feel like just another guys she is trying to help.. and because she told me earlier that i was one of the only ones she called that i also felt lied too.. this is just one of the instances but this one is the most fresh in my mind atleast.

3. I was too pushy in a way that we were talking together and she had just been to a festival and i asked if there was something really intresting happen, and she said "maaaybe" and i ofcourse got curious and asked into it, but it ended up with me pushing her a bit to try to tell me it, even though it wasn't my intention, she told me she hates to feel pushed to do something and she will just completly shut you out if you do it, and that is what happende to me i guess..

4. Yes, it was me that was being too pushy.

A little add one for some more information, we met online and we have actually never met in real life yet, we have ofcourse been on skype together, and wrote a lot with each other but we also live in different countries (Me in Denmark, she in Germany).

Jeez i am not good at making these short..
#144442 - minutes (07/14/2014) [-]
It doesn't have to be short. In fact, the more text the better. Sometimes you can already see certain habits/intentions just from the choice of words so it's really helping.

Well you really have to figure out you're feelings for her. For me it sound like you have some feelings for her cause you get hurt by stuff like that. You said you can't live with her, you feel excluded sometimes and you want to be special to her, all signs that you want more then a friendship. If you never met her this will be difficult though. I wouldn't want to get this attached to a girl online, i got a good online friend as well who would probably make a great girlfriend but cause of the distance I just want to stay friends you know? You should try to find more friends or other girls in real life, maybe go out more often, try to talk to more people you don't know, just overall be open minded. If you really wanna try it with her though, you could arrange a meet up. I mean the distance between denmark and germany isn't exactly the biggest is it? In what part of germany does she life btw?
User avatar #144444 - wermii (07/14/2014) [-]
She lives in cologne, and we have actually talked a lot of meeting up. The only problem that have been for not doing so have been our economy, because my job went bankrupt recently so i have only had enough money to survive. But yea i guess i do have feelings for her, because i often get a bit jealous around her when she does stuff with other people, because i feel like i want to be there when she has fun.. But this is really weird because normally i never get jealous on anything, i didn't really get jealous either with my ex girlfriend if she was having a fun time with other boys (Ofcourse fun like in partying/talking). But with this girl she could apperantly give me this feeling of jealousy.. Even if she was just talking with some others. But also a thing to note is she also got the tendency to be jealous around me when i talked with others and played with others. We have talked about this together and worked it out, i still tend to be jealous but i can fast shake it off because i still know she is closer with me than she is with anybody else. Or atleast she tells me that, but one thing i know is she is the only person i have ever trusted to open myself up too and i guess that is why i have a fear of loosing her, because she became very important to me very quickly because she allways been there for me and helped me out when i was down.

And i think you are right, i realized some stuff while writing this, and i been thinking about them, but i still feel like i am a bit lost with i don't know if i should keep trying to stay with her, because i sometimes get the feeling that she isn't fighting as much as me and it can hurt a bit.
#144445 - minutes (07/14/2014) [-]
Well if you can be so open about anything with her, why don't you tell her that? I mean if you think about cutting contact you might as well try everything else before. You got a few options to choose from here so I will just list them to make it easier for you.

1. Continue like now - wouldn't really recommend that since your obviously not happy with the situation
2. cut contact back a bit, stay friends - gives you the option to work on you're social life outside of the internet
3. cut contact completely
4. tell her about you're feelings for her and try to get with her

As said I would totally recomment number 4 cause afterwards you still have options 2 and 3 if it fails. If she does like you you can save up money for a meeting and maybe things will work out for you? I don't know. I can't tell you what to choose, it's you're choice to make.
User avatar #144446 - wermii (07/14/2014) [-]
Really appreciate the advice, but i really don't think a relationship would work, first i don't feel like being in a relationship as of right now, and secound we have been talking about being together with people and she told me a lot of times she closed boys completly out because they tell her they love her. She told me that she doesn't feel capable of loving and she doesn't want a relationship, and she hates people who tell her they love her because it forces her out in a situation where she needs to reject them because she is a bit weird on that point.

And i am actually scared that there is a chance that i could lose her because i come out of nowhere and try to start a relationship..

But i also considdered just trying to close her out a bit, and make her feel wanting to get back in, and be a bit reserved myself.. i don't know if its a good idea, because i have allways been open towards her with everything and allways told her what i was doing..

But here i am just scared of her not wanting to get back in..
#144451 - minutes (07/14/2014) [-]
This is a really complex situation I gotta say. Well it all comes down to you're decision. It's probably not very healthy to continue like this but if you feel happy the way it is then i see no problem why you shouldn't. Talk to her about you're problems, afterall your close right? If you can mantain a friendshio with her without being on a self destruction mode (rejecting everyone else because of her, obsessing over what she thinks) you can definitly continue like this.
User avatar #144458 - wermii (07/14/2014) [-]
Well, i was happy with her. Heck she would be the last thing i thought before i slept and the first thing i would think of when i woke up, the thought of her allways gave me a smile, and i was just allways happy when i talked with her, just to be able to talk with her..

And yes we are close, but i have talked with her about the whole situation that i feel that there is a unneccesary tension lately between us and i want to know what if anything was wrong, and we would talk about it for a while and we would stop, and be good friends again but the very next day the same tension will appear from her side..

And it is like if i ask if she is okay, sometimes she wont answer. But if i ask her maybe an hour later another question like "what are you doing?" she would asnwer that and would still ignore the previous question, and i feel like i need to push her before she is willing to answer me, but obviously i can't push her.. Where before there was no problem and she would say if she was fine or not and we would talk about stuff together and have a good time in generel, but it seems like now she doesn't want me as a close friend anymore, more just like a normal friend.. and this really makes me frustrated because i have only made one mistake (what i know of), and she is still tormenting me with it.. Where i could easier forgive her with her hurting me multiple times and we would come back from it closer and stronger together.. But right now it just seems so hard to get back to how we were before..

Sorry for keeping on writing all this crap, but i guess i need to get all these thoughts out somewhere, and when she is the only one i have ever trusted i don't know where else to go than her.. But now i am trying this because i feel like i would have a hard time atm. talking with her about this because of her recent behaviour towards me..

Again i really appreciate all the help you are offering to me! thanks again!
#144522 - xXThatxOnexGuyXx (07/15/2014) [-]
When you get down to it, all relationships Even friendships rely on one basic principle: Communication.

Although it seems like you've exhausted all of you're possible options.
You need to talk this through with her one last time.
Now when you approach her with this, cut the "unnecessary tension" aspect and go straight for:
> "Hey... So.. I know I may have brought this up before, but it really seems like you don't want to talk to me at times... It makes the friendship feel one-sided. It feels like I'm missing out on something; That I'm the only one trying to keep it going. I might be blowing this out of proportion, and if I am tell me, but the friendship isn't the same as it used to be..."
See where that takes you. You can change that however you like, and by no means do you have to repeat it word for word. It's a simple suggestion.

Just be open and honest with her, as you are with us right now.

If you and her are conversing with each other for more than two hours a day, every day, then it should be obvious that both of you have feels for each other.
Online relationships, even friendships, are extremely hard to keep. Drop contact for more than 8 hours? That's going to affect the relationship. Drop contact for more than 16 hours? your really dampening it now, and will hurt it for quite a while. Drop contact for a full day or more? Irreversible damage. Longer than 3 days? It's over.
Friendships are easier to maintain, but when you start going on a spree of speaking to one another for several hours a day, everyday... Then breaking that constant form of contact in the slightest will really hinder the entire thing.

Now it's clear that she does like you, or did at some point. But once girls start slowly ignoring certain aspects of you're conversation, then that means they have a big problem, and are keeping quiet about it. For instance, my ex stopped adding hearts after "Good Night," then she quickly dropped saying "Good Night" all together.
#144524 - xXThatxOnexGuyXx (07/15/2014) [-]
Appending my comment:

The best course of action you can do right now, is talking it through with her. Preferably with a statement close to the one I made.
Otherwise the friendship relationship is doomed to die off. There is a problem and if it isn't talked through and resolved, then it'll only get worse.

Let's face it, you are practically in an online relationship with her, but both of you are stubborn enough to not admit it. Again, any more contact than a few hours a day means both parties have feelings for each other. Another dead give away, would surely be if you and her have talked about you're ex's. If she brought that up at any point, or if she was willing to speak about it, then you both certainly feelings for each other.

She sounds like a really great match for you, don't let this go.
Try to fix things between you and her.

Anyhow, it honestly sounds like both of you have some growing up to do. No offense; However if both of you are far too stubborn to state the obvious, that you two are in a relationship of some sort, then both aren't really mature enough to keep it going.
She needs to learn to state her problems with you/ the relationship. She needs to know that your there for her to be completely open and honest with.
Be open and honest with her, open you'reself up to her, and see if she opens herself up as well.

Tell her that you like her. Do not tell her you love her, just like. Love is far too strong of a word for an online relationship. You know it, I know it, she knows it, and there's just no point in going that far. This shows even more immaturity.
Tell her that your afraid that at some point she may become distant from you, and you don't want to lose her.

See if she owns up to her feelings for you.
Besides, what have you got to lose? She's already becoming distant. Worst case scenario you don't do anything and she becomes more and more distant from you.
User avatar #144585 - wermii (07/15/2014) [-]
Really great advice, and i will certainly try something a long the line of you're quote.

And you are right with she was begginning to drop certain things that i really kind of missed..

And yes we do have a really close bond, by i allways saw it as "best friends".

Also this was how our "relationship" started, i was really down at one point where everything was kinda falling apart, and she was there at the right time and i kinda letted her in, and then we began first talking about all the stuff in my life, and she helped me out and suddently she also began opening for me. And we got really close, like we would have conversations from we woke up till we went to bed, but yea lately it has been a bit dull.. maybe also on my part, because i sometimes feel like i was the one allways trying to start it and keep it going.

She knows i really like her and care about her and that i am afraid to miss her, she have also said this back too me. But maybe reminding her would maybe help..

Thank you again, you really open my eyes more up with this, and help me see some better solutions than my own that was obviously not the greatest..
User avatar #144588 - wermii (07/15/2014) [-]
*testing*

you're
your
User avatar #144589 - wermii (07/15/2014) [-]
Wow my big tittied mommy changed them to intense bodylove with grammar nazis..

you're = You r
your = You are
#144460 - minutes (07/14/2014) [-]
I am glad I could help you but I don't really know what to say anymore. I don't know you 2 so I can't really say more then what I already said, sorry. Maybe one of the other advice-fags can help you better.

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User avatar #144528 - thatnigger (07/15/2014) [-]
Ahhh, I can't get mentions....
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