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|#178374 - Guys, need some serious help here and i would really appreciat… [+] (6 new replies)||03/20/2015 on Advice - love advice,...||0|
#178387 - anon (03/20/2015) [-]
I've had mixed results with this. Sometimes they feel genuinely happy when you bring stuff like the person below mentioned and sometimes they don't. Either with tears of happyness or tears of anger. One person thought that my worry and advice made it seem like she was insane and incapable while another was happy to know someone cares. My advice is this question. If you get into a fight or something happens to make her feel bad, how likely is she to do something she will regret? Can you handle this, and if it was your fault how would you react? If she is long distance than I'd say absolutely not, because you would be worried and couldn't do a thing about it which is terrible.
Really, I would say don't date. It's not worth it, that may seem shallow and cold, but really they shouldn't be dating at all until they are truly better. They just aren't in the right place for it.
#178375 - iliekcereal (03/20/2015) [-]
First off, don't become her boyfriend until both of you are in a good situation. Any relationship you guys get into will (almost definitely) end badly. She's crazy right now, and I don't blame her. I would be too if my girl did that to me. But don't date her with intentions of fixing her. That will just make things bad for the both of you.
Second, being together in person really helps. When someone is in that type of situation, there's not a whole lot you can say to help them feel better. But being physically present will go a long way. Hugs are great as well (barring personal space issues or whatever). However, I understand that might not be convenient, possible, or even wanted on her part.
Chances are she won't kill or seriously injure herself. A lot of times people in that situation just say they want to, because they genuinely do, but they don't actually do that. Again, that's not a bad thing. I've been there before. If she's talking to you about this, that means she probably either really trusts you, or really needs a friend. Or likely a combination of both. So be her friend. Just talk to her about it. Ask honest questions. Point to the positives in her life, but don't make it seem like you're saying she doesn't have the right to be sad. Don't tell her what to do. That is an extremely important thing. You can make suggestions, but unless she specifically asks for your advice, do not tell her what to do. Empathize with her. Tell her you can understand why she feels that way. Talk about a similar experience you've had, if you've had one, but make sure you're not steering the conversation away from her problems to yours. Tell her what happened, what you did, how it worked out, and what, if anything you would have done differently. I've been on both sides of these types of situations, and I've found that empathizing in this way is the most effective thing you can do.
Hope this helps. Good luck! Let me know how it goes.
#178423 - swallowedinthesea (03/20/2015) [-]
You were right, she just needed someone to be there. We just talked for a few hours about everything, she's still pretty scared, but definitely saw an improvement. I know you said she probably wouldn't actually take her own life but still, what you told me might have saved her, so i can't thank you enough!
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