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saltyfries (05/14/2015) [-] 
I'm seeing a lot of posts about fat shaming or making fun of fat people, while it's kind of wrong making fun of people, at the same time you people are right, there's no excuse to be fat. Same with me, I was at my lightest 240lbs. after high school, I'm almost 300lbs. now, no excuse for it. I could lose it at any time, I can change at any time, because only I have that control, but I have problems.
I am a picky eater, anything that's healthy tastes like **** to me, anything that's bad for me, tastes awesome. I'm to the point where I don't like anything, and my mom and I are almost too poor to buy any actual groceries. So I'm left with eating pizza, mac'n'cheese, fast food (I don't order large or super size, just small or regular size), chicken, or other meats and potatoes, there's not a lot of food I like. I can't even eat onions anymore because they do **** to me like nobody's business. So I've lost control with my eating. I could never diet because I would be torturing myself, that wouldn't make me happy, it would only cause me pain, it would be unhealthy.
I cannot run or do endurance exercises because they're also painful, they're not fun, exercising to me is not fun, if I want to exercise, I want it to be fun. I like to lift, but when I don't put my mind to it, I won't do it. For me to go lifting, I need a friend who's willing to put up with me and willing to hang out with me, lift, and just be a friend.
I don't necessarily want to lose weight, but I want to become that mountain man strong, that lumberjack strong, where I have a body that can fight bears, I don't want to tone my body like Batista from WWE, I don't want to be skinny, I don't want to be a model, I just want to be strong like an Offensive Lineman in the NFL. I have a co-worker who told me I could've been that or a defensive lineman! I just never lifted or played football .
All these posts have me conflicted, because while I do respect people's accomplishment's for losing weight, while I understand that being fat is unhealthy, I just have to ask these people, are they happy? Do they feel better and happy that they lost weight? If so, ok, good for them, because honestly I don't think my sadness is caused by my fat. I think my sadness is caused by my lack of initiative to make friends, my lack of confidence, my different interests and hobbies, all of those would just require a personality change, not necessarily weight loss. For me, happiness isn't losing weight, happiness is having friends, laughing, having fun, crying, being a part of a family, adventure, and just living the life.
that would make me very happy.
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I am a picky eater, anything that's healthy tastes like **** to me, anything that's bad for me, tastes awesome. I'm to the point where I don't like anything, and my mom and I are almost too poor to buy any actual groceries. So I'm left with eating pizza, mac'n'cheese, fast food (I don't order large or super size, just small or regular size), chicken, or other meats and potatoes, there's not a lot of food I like. I can't even eat onions anymore because they do **** to me like nobody's business. So I've lost control with my eating. I could never diet because I would be torturing myself, that wouldn't make me happy, it would only cause me pain, it would be unhealthy.
I cannot run or do endurance exercises because they're also painful, they're not fun, exercising to me is not fun, if I want to exercise, I want it to be fun. I like to lift, but when I don't put my mind to it, I won't do it. For me to go lifting, I need a friend who's willing to put up with me and willing to hang out with me, lift, and just be a friend.
I don't necessarily want to lose weight, but I want to become that mountain man strong, that lumberjack strong, where I have a body that can fight bears, I don't want to tone my body like Batista from WWE, I don't want to be skinny, I don't want to be a model, I just want to be strong like an Offensive Lineman in the NFL. I have a co-worker who told me I could've been that or a defensive lineman! I just never lifted or played football .
All these posts have me conflicted, because while I do respect people's accomplishment's for losing weight, while I understand that being fat is unhealthy, I just have to ask these people, are they happy? Do they feel better and happy that they lost weight? If so, ok, good for them, because honestly I don't think my sadness is caused by my fat. I think my sadness is caused by my lack of initiative to make friends, my lack of confidence, my different interests and hobbies, all of those would just require a personality change, not necessarily weight loss. For me, happiness isn't losing weight, happiness is having friends, laughing, having fun, crying, being a part of a family, adventure, and just living the life.
that would make me very happy.
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badnewsanon (11/19/2015) [-] You seem like a genuinely good person. Your lack of happiness seems to come from thinking about too many things too much. I totally understand the weight thing. I struggled with my weight for awhile so I know the feeling of being conflicted between being okay with it and not enjoying it.
Can I ask what your major interests are?
Can I ask what your major interests are?
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saltyfries (11/19/2015) [-] Video Games
Internet (Here, TFS, that kind of thing)
Sports, mainly NFL, MLB, and NHL. Soccer and NBA can suck a dick
WWE/Pro Wrestling obviously
and that's about it...
it's funny because I've had counseling the last month, had a good 3 melt downs last month. College, it does **** to ya. He basically cured me in a way my mom would've never figured out. or at least helped me see the light
My problem is that I cause my own dilemmas
I'm afraid of success, but past behavior has showed that I can do what I have to do
I'm afraid of making friends, because past behavior has showed (aside from the practical reason of not wasting gas) that I would rather stay home than to hang out with people. Doesn't help that I was bullied most of my life and that I have a tough time socializing and trusting people. I don't even like hanging out with nerds because they remind me of my past self, and my past self was really dumb and autistic. In fact, I don't have much in common with a lot of people
I'm afraid of getting a girlfriend, partly because of this site and SJW's, partly because of my brother's experiences, and partly because of my fear of being taken advantage of.
I'm afraid if I spend ANY large amount of money on myself (I want to build a PC for example), my mom will somehow get into financial trouble, thus I have to help her, priorities.
All of these fears have held me back to where it's no wonder I'm depressed as **** .
It will take time however, I have made plans of action, somewhat.
Friends/Girlfriends will come in due time, nothing I can do there, my practical reason is also a factor.
My mom has told me straight up that she can take care of herself, while I understand that, it's uncanny when she gets into financial trouble, about as uncanny as wanting me to do a chore as soon as I play League, or when I try to clean my cash register I get a customer at work. This has held me back more than anything as I'm preventing myself from doing what I want to do and live my life instead of putting it on hold.
I've talked to my mom about next semester's classes, I'm only taking classes that benefit my associate degree, that's it, i'll consider bachelors after all the **** I went through.
It has made me feel better about myself the past couple weeks, now I just wish **** would happen.
Internet (Here, TFS, that kind of thing)
Sports, mainly NFL, MLB, and NHL. Soccer and NBA can suck a dick
WWE/Pro Wrestling obviously
and that's about it...
it's funny because I've had counseling the last month, had a good 3 melt downs last month. College, it does **** to ya. He basically cured me in a way my mom would've never figured out. or at least helped me see the light
My problem is that I cause my own dilemmas
I'm afraid of success, but past behavior has showed that I can do what I have to do
I'm afraid of making friends, because past behavior has showed (aside from the practical reason of not wasting gas) that I would rather stay home than to hang out with people. Doesn't help that I was bullied most of my life and that I have a tough time socializing and trusting people. I don't even like hanging out with nerds because they remind me of my past self, and my past self was really dumb and autistic. In fact, I don't have much in common with a lot of people
I'm afraid of getting a girlfriend, partly because of this site and SJW's, partly because of my brother's experiences, and partly because of my fear of being taken advantage of.
I'm afraid if I spend ANY large amount of money on myself (I want to build a PC for example), my mom will somehow get into financial trouble, thus I have to help her, priorities.
All of these fears have held me back to where it's no wonder I'm depressed as **** .
It will take time however, I have made plans of action, somewhat.
Friends/Girlfriends will come in due time, nothing I can do there, my practical reason is also a factor.
My mom has told me straight up that she can take care of herself, while I understand that, it's uncanny when she gets into financial trouble, about as uncanny as wanting me to do a chore as soon as I play League, or when I try to clean my cash register I get a customer at work. This has held me back more than anything as I'm preventing myself from doing what I want to do and live my life instead of putting it on hold.
I've talked to my mom about next semester's classes, I'm only taking classes that benefit my associate degree, that's it, i'll consider bachelors after all the **** I went through.
It has made me feel better about myself the past couple weeks, now I just wish **** would happen.
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badnewsanon (11/19/2015) [-] I understand the college thing, dude. Its why I don't come on here much. I'm currently finishing up my bachelor's in History with two minors, and considering pursuing my Masters.
I'm really stoked that you have a plan set out though. You seem like a genuinely good human being and I seriously wish you nothing but the best. Wish I could do more except kinda be on here for support.
Oh and as far as the SJW stuff on here goes, don't be afraid. Its not that bad. Thats a small percent that FJ makes seem like a majority, and even then, FJ blows it all up because reasons.
I'm really stoked that you have a plan set out though. You seem like a genuinely good human being and I seriously wish you nothing but the best. Wish I could do more except kinda be on here for support.
Oh and as far as the SJW stuff on here goes, don't be afraid. Its not that bad. Thats a small percent that FJ makes seem like a majority, and even then, FJ blows it all up because reasons.
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saltyfries (11/19/2015) [-] I thank the lord I've never met one in town, my college is only a tech college and I have yet to see one/meet one. I pray that I don't.
Good luck on history btw, if it weren't for math History would be my next favorite subject, but I'm really good at math so as a result I'm in Manufacturing Engineering. What's awesome is that my tech school offers the Bachelor's program in that I can stay there all 4 years should I so choose, but technically I'll be a UW-Stout grad if I get my bachelors. This semester has been ******* hard though, I'm taking Calc Based Physics (hard part of that is setting up the problem, not the math), Solidworks and Geometric Dimensions and Tolerances (SOLIDWORKS CAN GO STRAIGHT TO HELL! SATAN MADE THAT PROGRAM!), and Automation (I'm a man of routine, and this classes forces me to go to school on day offs to do the work, and it's hard to motivate myself to do that, it's not hard, just hard to get to school.
Also, thanks very much for your support, seems like you're nothing but... GOOD NEWS !
Good luck on history btw, if it weren't for math History would be my next favorite subject, but I'm really good at math so as a result I'm in Manufacturing Engineering. What's awesome is that my tech school offers the Bachelor's program in that I can stay there all 4 years should I so choose, but technically I'll be a UW-Stout grad if I get my bachelors. This semester has been ******* hard though, I'm taking Calc Based Physics (hard part of that is setting up the problem, not the math), Solidworks and Geometric Dimensions and Tolerances (SOLIDWORKS CAN GO STRAIGHT TO HELL! SATAN MADE THAT PROGRAM!), and Automation (I'm a man of routine, and this classes forces me to go to school on day offs to do the work, and it's hard to motivate myself to do that, it's not hard, just hard to get to school.
Also, thanks very much for your support, seems like you're nothing but... GOOD NEWS !
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badnewsanon (11/19/2015) [-] Support is no problem. I've been down some dark paths in my life, and something it instilled in my is a care for everyone, although I will admit I have a bit more of a want to see you succeed than most people.
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saltyfries (11/19/2015) [-] cuz I was the first person who saw through your gimmick username ;D
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badnewsanon (11/19/2015) [-] One of my minors is actually in Gender Studies, so I know quite a few people who FJ would consider SJWs. Hell, I may even tread into that territory. If you meet people who know what they're talking about, they're not terrible. I know quite a few who don't shove views down your throat at all. All I'm saying is don't judge a book by its cover.
I'm basically done with History though. I'll be done with my degree within the next 4 months. Thanks though.
And all that stuff you just said to me went over my head haha. Theres a reason I'm a History major with minors in gender studies and English. I'm terrible at Math. But honestly, your Bachelors is totally worth it if you decide to get it. Take it one step at a time. You seem to like what you're doing though, which is awesome
I'm basically done with History though. I'll be done with my degree within the next 4 months. Thanks though.
And all that stuff you just said to me went over my head haha. Theres a reason I'm a History major with minors in gender studies and English. I'm terrible at Math. But honestly, your Bachelors is totally worth it if you decide to get it. Take it one step at a time. You seem to like what you're doing though, which is awesome
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saltyfries (11/19/2015) [-] lets just say combine an un-user friendly program style with programming issues/frequent crashes and you get Solidworks, **** doesn't even save properly at times.
like I said, darealsnooki can fill you in, we have an FJWF.
like I said, darealsnooki can fill you in, we have an FJWF.
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badnewsanon (11/19/2015) [-] Like I said, I still won't be on a whole lot. I'm currently working on my capstone, which is a 40-45 page history essay, that my graduation grade depends on, as well as editting stuff to send to Masters programs, so I just have a whole lot on my plate haha.
I also have a girlfriend to juggle around with all of this.
I also have a girlfriend to juggle around with all of this.
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badnewsanon (11/19/2015) [-] I have experience these types of Feds. I am a legend. I deserve a Lesnar deal.
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darealsnooki (11/19/2015) [-] I do run the FJWA as well. The tag titles are now on the line. The thing about the tag titles is that you don't really have to be there for the defense. Just your partner.
Sound interested?
Sound interested?
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badnewsanon (11/19/2015) [-] Well I'd have to know details.
I was in a few feds like these back when I was like 15/16. In one we literally booked the matches, winners and created stories. In the other, we kinda made stories then had legit competitive matches.
I was in a few feds like these back when I was like 15/16. In one we literally booked the matches, winners and created stories. In the other, we kinda made stories then had legit competitive matches.
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darealsnooki (11/19/2015) [-] We compete in the FJWF and FJWA using the roll system on FJ
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saltyfries (11/19/2015) [-] good luck m8, you need it more than I do, but when you come back (and I know you will) FJWF will be there for ya.
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badnewsanon (11/19/2015) [-] I should be on semi-often. Especially now with break coming up.
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luluwho ONLINE (10/15/2015) [-] Chromium Picolanate, just a reg. vitamin that regulated metabolism to stop the cravings form off and on low blood sugar, it helps me... the rest is you need to realize there are addictive things in fast food, like msg. that do this to you. Making you like a tribble, the more you eat the more you crave until you end up malnourished on cheetos while overweight. Good Luck my bro Try red or green grapes, they are awesome to me See you around FJ.
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dookaargetman (05/21/2015) [-] I'm just going to post my peace on what I just read.
You could walk. Just walk. If you have the capability of portable music/ **** to do while walking, use it while walking.
Walk for 10-15 minutes a day.
Every week or two, walk 5 minutes longer.
I was 255 or so when I started to lose weight, and I'm down to around 240 now. I do 40 minutes of cardio that doesn't work the breath out of you, and then 20 minutes of stuff that does.Not in that order, 20 mins of light, 10 heavy, repeat.
Even I don't like working out. The fact that I have Wii fit helps. There's high scores, and I like to get high scores, and so that, and wanting to weight 180-190 helps me a lot.
All I've done is eat less of what I normally eat, don't eat past 7, eat a very small breakfast, and either do my exercise or go to work.
So far, I can run a bit faster and longer without being out of breath. It caught me a bus, recently, where months before, I would've said " **** it" if I was a 30 second run away from the bus. I'm ******* 19, I don't want to be like this until I'm like 50.
You could walk. Just walk. If you have the capability of portable music/ **** to do while walking, use it while walking.
Walk for 10-15 minutes a day.
Every week or two, walk 5 minutes longer.
I was 255 or so when I started to lose weight, and I'm down to around 240 now. I do 40 minutes of cardio that doesn't work the breath out of you, and then 20 minutes of stuff that does.Not in that order, 20 mins of light, 10 heavy, repeat.
Even I don't like working out. The fact that I have Wii fit helps. There's high scores, and I like to get high scores, and so that, and wanting to weight 180-190 helps me a lot.
All I've done is eat less of what I normally eat, don't eat past 7, eat a very small breakfast, and either do my exercise or go to work.
So far, I can run a bit faster and longer without being out of breath. It caught me a bus, recently, where months before, I would've said " **** it" if I was a 30 second run away from the bus. I'm ******* 19, I don't want to be like this until I'm like 50.
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saltyfries (05/21/2015) [-] It also doesn't help i live on a sidewalkless road where it's like the indy 500, my mom recently went for a walk and she told me that she nearly got run over the entire time, none of the drivers would move over, they would go near her instead.
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saltyfries (05/21/2015) [-] I used to walk, I would take my older dog with, but now that we have a beagle, it's impossible, and you can't leave the house when those 2 are at home or else they freak the **** out, and my mom's a work at home so no barking, makes it very hard to do anything. You can't just take one either, the other will go nuts.
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dookaargetman (05/21/2015) [-] I see the dilemma. Anyway to just walk around a lot inside? **** , this is a hard one.
Eat the least you can, and try doing indoor excersize, even like walking around the house or all around the house if possible.
Eat the least you can, and try doing indoor excersize, even like walking around the house or all around the house if possible.
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ChalupaManz (05/21/2015) [-] Okay, I don't want to sound like I'm telling you what to do. Please don't take it like that or that I'm talking down about your lifestyle. I understand. I really do. My best friend was 300 something in highschol and grew up in a household where his family shamed any attempt he made to eat healthy. They'd insult him or throw away food he bought so that he couldn't get skinnier.
Now, he's 260 and still not entirely happy, but he's getting there. He's going to school to become a motorcycle mechanic and lives near an amusement park. He's conflicted. The people in his class called him Jelly Donut for weeks and at the park he can't ride in a lot of rides because exceeds the size of the seats. However, he's become more confident since he's dropped about 50 pounds and is getting smaller. He had to go out and buy smaller pants recently and nearly cried because he was overjoyed to see that he was improving. He doesn't get as winded going up stairs anymore either.
He's happier, (is what he says). But, it shows to us too.
Do you wanna know how he got started?
Eating less.
That's it.
He started going by still eating pizzas and junk, but by eating just enough to where he wasn't hungry anymore. Throughout the day he tried to make sure he wasn't eating as much as he used to. He started taking stairs, walking around his house, and then around the block once he didn't get winded going around the house.
It's not so much as what you eat in the beginning, but how much. Fat is a huge energy store and for the first bit, you won't really need to eat really healthy. If you want, I can send you a list of things that you can do inside the house whenever you have a few minutes alone. Little things.
Eventually you'll be able to see the difference. FEEL the difference and then that confidence can start coming out. It's not that you aren't confidant. Everyone I have ever met is confident. Just sometimes that feeling is suppressed. But when you love yourself and can be proud of the effort you've put in, that confidence that is in you can come out and start showing to all those around you.
It'll take 3 weeks for you to notice the difference, 9 for your family and friends, and 18 for everybody else.
If you need support, come to us at FJ. We're always here to help.
TL;DR FJ loves you for who you are, but change is always welcome and we can help.
Now, he's 260 and still not entirely happy, but he's getting there. He's going to school to become a motorcycle mechanic and lives near an amusement park. He's conflicted. The people in his class called him Jelly Donut for weeks and at the park he can't ride in a lot of rides because exceeds the size of the seats. However, he's become more confident since he's dropped about 50 pounds and is getting smaller. He had to go out and buy smaller pants recently and nearly cried because he was overjoyed to see that he was improving. He doesn't get as winded going up stairs anymore either.
He's happier, (is what he says). But, it shows to us too.
Do you wanna know how he got started?
Eating less.
That's it.
He started going by still eating pizzas and junk, but by eating just enough to where he wasn't hungry anymore. Throughout the day he tried to make sure he wasn't eating as much as he used to. He started taking stairs, walking around his house, and then around the block once he didn't get winded going around the house.
It's not so much as what you eat in the beginning, but how much. Fat is a huge energy store and for the first bit, you won't really need to eat really healthy. If you want, I can send you a list of things that you can do inside the house whenever you have a few minutes alone. Little things.
Eventually you'll be able to see the difference. FEEL the difference and then that confidence can start coming out. It's not that you aren't confidant. Everyone I have ever met is confident. Just sometimes that feeling is suppressed. But when you love yourself and can be proud of the effort you've put in, that confidence that is in you can come out and start showing to all those around you.
It'll take 3 weeks for you to notice the difference, 9 for your family and friends, and 18 for everybody else.
If you need support, come to us at FJ. We're always here to help.
TL;DR FJ loves you for who you are, but change is always welcome and we can help.
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saltyfries (05/21/2015) [-] I could never eat less, if I do, I just stay hungry, i'll just be torturing myself like my mom is doing, she's trying to lose weight but I think she's doing it wrong, she's hardly exercising but she starves herself, it's utterly torturing her.
I am lucky for one thing, I was never really bullied for my weight only by my father of all people... he's an asshole so I don't even care anymore
Btw, i'm jelly of your friend, he gets to live next to an amusement park...
I am lucky for one thing, I was never really bullied for my weight only by my father of all people... he's an asshole so I don't even care anymore
Btw, i'm jelly of your friend, he gets to live next to an amusement park...
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feelythefeel (05/21/2015) [-] But still, you gotta eat some healthy stuff too. I'm talking about eating some beef and pork and **** , not so much on the junk food.
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feelythefeel (05/21/2015) [-] Realistically speaking, you can overeat a bit if you're really dedicated to being active (Lots of running, and some gym as well). At least until you start getting older.
At least, that's how I understand it.
At least, that's how I understand it.
