sometimes the time goes negative if you imagine it before you see a girl

That's not true. Last time I saw my mom I came in a whole two seconds!

But that's not my problem. I'll happily talk to people and interact, but I think my problem lies in the idea that my brain simply cannot process the concept of promiscuity. I can imagine myself being that way, but I cannot accept it from someone else. If someone who wanted to be in a relationship with me told me so, the mere thought just makes my brain overclock and I simply get confused. It's strange, because I herald myself as someone intellectual in many senses of the word, but I simply cannot accept it. It's not because I'm not OK with it but it's more because my brain won't work with the idea. I don't know why, and it's fucking with my head so much that I almost fear relationships.

Pfft, I wouldn't know, mate. Never been with a girl. I was the guy who wasn't involved sexually with all of the freshers at Uni. I drink with the Scot liver my dad gave me, but I never played about under the sheets. It's been long running in my family to reserve it for relationships and someone who is close to you mentally and is like a best friend and a lover, and I've never had that kind of person. I do have insecurities though, and couldn't do what you've done. The thought of promiscuity like that just ticks me off for some reason. I don't know why, but it irritates me but I can't figure out why it does.

That's definitely not a bad thing. I've had my fair share of both promiscuity and serious relationships. I mean I would kind of have to if I want to uphold this account. I need to be able to give advice on any relationship/situation.

In all honesty it's really not hard to find a person you want something serious with. It's the maintenance of the relationship and compromises you have to make that people have trouble with. That's why you always see people 'falling in love' so quickly and why break-ups tend to be so long and difficult.

Just don't be a hermit and you'll meet someone, man. No one will come knocking at your door, you have to let people know you exist.

But that's not my problem. I'll happily talk to people and interact, but I think my problem lies in the idea that my brain simply cannot process the concept of promiscuity. I can imagine myself being that way, but I cannot accept it from someone else. If someone who wanted to be in a relationship with me told me so, the mere thought just makes my brain overclock and I simply get confused. It's strange, because I herald myself as someone intellectual in many senses of the word, but I simply cannot accept it. It's not because I'm not OK with it but it's more because my brain won't work with the idea. I don't know why, and it's fucking with my head so much that I almost fear relationships.

No I know why you would have a safe word, but you must be doing some hardcore shit for the girl to actually have to use it.

Well then, if she was OK with it and understood you just got carried away, then I apologise for my language having been so offensive. Just be careful, dude. As fun as that shit is for you (I wouldn't know, never even got laid gonna get my wizard on soon ) there's a point where you could end up taking it too far. Not everyone would have been OK with something like that. Technically, even if it is the whole BDSM plaything, if you continued after they said to stop, even if it was playful, that could pass off as withdrawal of consent. The law isn't on your side, so pick who you screw carefully and tape the safe word to the ceiling in comic sans so they can't forget.

It's all good. And, trust me, these kinds of situations should all be involved with parties who know who each other are and know what they're getting into. No one (and I've never done this) try to get someone to start doing crazy shit in the bedroom when you first meet them.

The girl I was talking about in this situation is a very close friend to me and we've always had a complete understanding of each other in the bedroom, which is how it should be with everyone.

Every girl is different and this one just happened to enjoy this kind of sex life. I would never (and no one ever should) force this kind of sex life on someone who didn't want to do it (that's basically rape and if a girl isn't into the sex then seriously what's the point).

Pfft, I wouldn't know, mate. Never been with a girl. I was the guy who wasn't involved sexually with all of the freshers at Uni. I drink with the Scot liver my dad gave me, but I never played about under the sheets. It's been long running in my family to reserve it for relationships and someone who is close to you mentally and is like a best friend and a lover, and I've never had that kind of person. I do have insecurities though, and couldn't do what you've done. The thought of promiscuity like that just ticks me off for some reason. I don't know why, but it irritates me but I can't figure out why it does.

That's definitely not a bad thing. I've had my fair share of both promiscuity and serious relationships. I mean I would kind of have to if I want to uphold this account. I need to be able to give advice on any relationship/situation.

In all honesty it's really not hard to find a person you want something serious with. It's the maintenance of the relationship and compromises you have to make that people have trouble with. That's why you always see people 'falling in love' so quickly and why break-ups tend to be so long and difficult.

Just don't be a hermit and you'll meet someone, man. No one will come knocking at your door, you have to let people know you exist.

But that's not my problem. I'll happily talk to people and interact, but I think my problem lies in the idea that my brain simply cannot process the concept of promiscuity. I can imagine myself being that way, but I cannot accept it from someone else. If someone who wanted to be in a relationship with me told me so, the mere thought just makes my brain overclock and I simply get confused. It's strange, because I herald myself as someone intellectual in many senses of the word, but I simply cannot accept it. It's not because I'm not OK with it but it's more because my brain won't work with the idea. I don't know why, and it's fucking with my head so much that I almost fear relationships.

Like fuck would I trust you for relationship advice if you basically raped a girl whilst drunk. You're a fucking psychopath, seriously.

...I didn't rape anyone.

We laughed about it the next day (after she called me a dick).

Just because a safe word is involved it doesn't mean we are having life threatening situations. Most, if not all, of the time it just gets so intense with her (use of vibrators/sex toys) that she calls the safe word. And I'll do the same thing on my part if I feel that way.

Well then, if she was OK with it and understood you just got carried away, then I apologise for my language having been so offensive. Just be careful, dude. As fun as that shit is for you (I wouldn't know, never even got laid gonna get my wizard on soon ) there's a point where you could end up taking it too far. Not everyone would have been OK with something like that. Technically, even if it is the whole BDSM plaything, if you continued after they said to stop, even if it was playful, that could pass off as withdrawal of consent. The law isn't on your side, so pick who you screw carefully and tape the safe word to the ceiling in comic sans so they can't forget.

It's all good. And, trust me, these kinds of situations should all be involved with parties who know who each other are and know what they're getting into. No one (and I've never done this) try to get someone to start doing crazy shit in the bedroom when you first meet them.

The girl I was talking about in this situation is a very close friend to me and we've always had a complete understanding of each other in the bedroom, which is how it should be with everyone.

Every girl is different and this one just happened to enjoy this kind of sex life. I would never (and no one ever should) force this kind of sex life on someone who didn't want to do it (that's basically rape and if a girl isn't into the sex then seriously what's the point).

Pfft, I wouldn't know, mate. Never been with a girl. I was the guy who wasn't involved sexually with all of the freshers at Uni. I drink with the Scot liver my dad gave me, but I never played about under the sheets. It's been long running in my family to reserve it for relationships and someone who is close to you mentally and is like a best friend and a lover, and I've never had that kind of person. I do have insecurities though, and couldn't do what you've done. The thought of promiscuity like that just ticks me off for some reason. I don't know why, but it irritates me but I can't figure out why it does.

That's definitely not a bad thing. I've had my fair share of both promiscuity and serious relationships. I mean I would kind of have to if I want to uphold this account. I need to be able to give advice on any relationship/situation.

In all honesty it's really not hard to find a person you want something serious with. It's the maintenance of the relationship and compromises you have to make that people have trouble with. That's why you always see people 'falling in love' so quickly and why break-ups tend to be so long and difficult.

Just don't be a hermit and you'll meet someone, man. No one will come knocking at your door, you have to let people know you exist.

But that's not my problem. I'll happily talk to people and interact, but I think my problem lies in the idea that my brain simply cannot process the concept of promiscuity. I can imagine myself being that way, but I cannot accept it from someone else. If someone who wanted to be in a relationship with me told me so, the mere thought just makes my brain overclock and I simply get confused. It's strange, because I herald myself as someone intellectual in many senses of the word, but I simply cannot accept it. It's not because I'm not OK with it but it's more because my brain won't work with the idea. I don't know why, and it's fucking with my head so much that I almost fear relationships.

What the fuck were you doing that she would actually need to use the safe word?

You really can't think of any situation where a safe word is used?

When I'm partaking in this kind of sex where a safe word is developed with both of us then I have usually used the safe word when I'm being scratched across my back to the point where my back is raw and it starts to hurt too much.

Usually safe words are used with the girl (in my experience) when things get too intense (vibrators being used/multiple orgasms) and it's too much for her to have so much happening at one time.
But, it's also used when I'm the dom and I tell her what to do and if I cross the line then she'll call the safe word.

I never FORCE anyone to do anything, but when we do things like that where we tell each other what to do and someone's uncomfortable with it then it's good to have a safe word.

No I know why you would have a safe word, but you must be doing some hardcore shit for the girl to actually have to use it.

I was wasted and it wasn't a brutal scenario. We all laughed about it the next day

Are you fucking retarded?