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WELL...
I recently texted with her a bit, and we agreed to at least not to be enemies anymore. I doubt that things will change much except for that, so it's not a huge relief (because I'm still really sad about the relationship thing)... at least it's something, though.
I recently texted with her a bit, and we agreed to at least not to be enemies anymore. I doubt that things will change much except for that, so it's not a huge relief (because I'm still really sad about the relationship thing)... at least it's something, though.
To be honest, it doesn't feel that much better in the end anyway...
Not that I don't appreciate that me and her aren't enemies now, but after all that happened, I'm pretty sure I'll never even have a chance of a relationship with her anymore... and that still makes me really sad.
Not that I don't appreciate that me and her aren't enemies now, but after all that happened, I'm pretty sure I'll never even have a chance of a relationship with her anymore... and that still makes me really sad.
At this point I just don't know.
The way I see it right now, I guess you could say I might be in the friendzone with her...
I guess that's better than being enemies, but I still don't know the reasons for everything that happened. For instance, she DID act a lot like she truly liked me too on several occasions. And by that, I mean more than just saying "I love you", and actually using my feelings for her to make me give her my real name. She said something like "if you really love me, then please give me your real name!". It's one of these things that still confuses me right now. Sam said that she (kind of) pretended to like me to not be harsh, but if that was the case, why did she go as far as getting my real name? There are more examples like this, and it just confuses me. Sam (and also she) said that she never INTENDED to mislead me into thinking she loved me, but if you look at that example, it just doesn't make sense.
I promised her not to bother her unless she talks to me first, but I really want to at least ask her to shed some light on this.
The way I see it right now, I guess you could say I might be in the friendzone with her...
I guess that's better than being enemies, but I still don't know the reasons for everything that happened. For instance, she DID act a lot like she truly liked me too on several occasions. And by that, I mean more than just saying "I love you", and actually using my feelings for her to make me give her my real name. She said something like "if you really love me, then please give me your real name!". It's one of these things that still confuses me right now. Sam said that she (kind of) pretended to like me to not be harsh, but if that was the case, why did she go as far as getting my real name? There are more examples like this, and it just confuses me. Sam (and also she) said that she never INTENDED to mislead me into thinking she loved me, but if you look at that example, it just doesn't make sense.
I promised her not to bother her unless she talks to me first, but I really want to at least ask her to shed some light on this.
I really can't say anything about this, I can't read therealrainbowdash's mind, but I believe you, when you say that she said more to you than occassionally "I love you", so you'd think that she really wants something from you and even give out your IRL information.
She really did a crappy job at drawing the line and instead of avoiding to be rude she crushed your heart and I don't see a mistake on your behalf. You need to stop thinking about what she was thinking, probably she didn't think much about it (though I can't really tell because I didn't read your conversations). I recommend you to check her of as a thing of the past.
She really did a crappy job at drawing the line and instead of avoiding to be rude she crushed your heart and I don't see a mistake on your behalf. You need to stop thinking about what she was thinking, probably she didn't think much about it (though I can't really tell because I didn't read your conversations). I recommend you to check her of as a thing of the past.
PPS:
I'm trying to understand and help her with any possible issues she might be having... Even thought I didn't really do anything wrong on my part when being mislead + asking her out, this whole situation caused a lot of pressure to be put on her, and I want to fix that.
I'm trying to understand and help her with any possible issues she might be having... Even thought I didn't really do anything wrong on my part when being mislead + asking her out, this whole situation caused a lot of pressure to be put on her, and I want to fix that.
PS: I don't EXPECT her to ever be willing to even try a relationship with me (especially after this), but I still care for her, and the least I can do is help her with any issues she might have (especially issues that came from this situation).
Welp.. I got a bit caught up talking to Sam + having visitors right now.
Anyways, it is really hard to know how she thinks, and her weird/mysterious ways were one of the things that I was attracted to (everyone likes to be weird in their own ways...), except that I didn't think it was this serious back then. I've talked a bit to Sam and Kaboosen, and I suspect she might be dealing with some issues herself. I don't know anything for sure, but Sam is worried about her too, because she might have been suicidal on New Year's eve + being under a lot of pressure after this situation. I assume she doesn't want to be pushed by this, so obviously I'm going to leave her alone unless she talks to me (and it's probably best if not that many people know about this, except her friends). For now I'm talking to Sam and Kaboosen about this, and maybe I can at least somehow get her to know that she can trust me and talk to me about anything. Seeing as she might be having worries from this situation, I think it could be good if she talked to me about it. Again, I'm not going to bother her or push her at all.
Anyways, it is really hard to know how she thinks, and her weird/mysterious ways were one of the things that I was attracted to (everyone likes to be weird in their own ways...), except that I didn't think it was this serious back then. I've talked a bit to Sam and Kaboosen, and I suspect she might be dealing with some issues herself. I don't know anything for sure, but Sam is worried about her too, because she might have been suicidal on New Year's eve + being under a lot of pressure after this situation. I assume she doesn't want to be pushed by this, so obviously I'm going to leave her alone unless she talks to me (and it's probably best if not that many people know about this, except her friends). For now I'm talking to Sam and Kaboosen about this, and maybe I can at least somehow get her to know that she can trust me and talk to me about anything. Seeing as she might be having worries from this situation, I think it could be good if she talked to me about it. Again, I'm not going to bother her or push her at all.
You shouldn't worry too much about her. insert smart quote here: or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as solving algebra equation's as chewing bubble gum
She'll be fine, I think she has enough friends who'll help her out. But maybe she's worrying about you, too? I mean she would probably feel really guilty if you did something to yourself. You should tell her that you are (more or less) fine, if you haven't done this already. And don't wait for her message, but rather hope she won't be texting you again. It's better that way.
She'll be fine, I think she has enough friends who'll help her out. But maybe she's worrying about you, too? I mean she would probably feel really guilty if you did something to yourself. You should tell her that you are (more or less) fine, if you haven't done this already. And don't wait for her message, but rather hope she won't be texting you again. It's better that way.
Even if her friends can help her out, I feel like I maybe should too, seeing as I'm the one who started this whole thing. And if she's worrying about me too, it might be a good idea if me and her talked and helped each other out. I won't bother her or push her, but if she's okay with talking to me, I want to, because I still care about her, and I'm worried too.
You're worrying too much about her. I think she only feels bad because of this specific story so it would be best not to make things worse (she probably still thinks you're trying to be together with her). And if she has other problems, I don't think she wants to talk with you about it. She said that she doesn't want to be enemies with you anymore, but she didn't say she wants to be friends with you already. You have to treat her just like any other person, now.
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sniffythebird (01/12/2012) [-]
I know she doesn't want a relationship with me. I'm not expecting her to ever want it either.
I only want to fix things for the better, and if she has issues she doesn't want to talk to me about, that's fine. I just... worry about her.
I only want to fix things for the better, and if she has issues she doesn't want to talk to me about, that's fine. I just... worry about her.
I know what you mean, but don't worry... I'm not going to talk to her first, unless she talks to me. If she feels sorry for me or just feels bad about this situation, I'll see if she wants to talk about it. And 95% of my worries right now are about her...
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sniffythebird (01/12/2012) [-]
I'm not going to ignore her if she does talk to me.
In my opinion it's never a good idea to simply ignore someone, and it's better to at least hear what they have to say.
In my opinion it's never a good idea to simply ignore someone, and it's better to at least hear what they have to say.
Well.. the only thing I can possibly think of that ignoring her would lead to, is either that she will give up on talking to me (and in turn ignoring me), or become "desperate" to get my attention and then feel sorry for me. Either way, it just seems weird and I'm not going to play psychological warfare or whatever you can call it. I'll simply leave her alone, but talk back to her if she talks to me.
Ok. It's just that she is doing this to you right now. And by ignoring someone it's easier to forget this someone, which I really recommend you to do. I wasn't thinking about what she is going to do if you ignore her, but rather that it would be for yourself to just ignore her and try to get away from her, so you can concentrate on your own life again.
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sniffythebird (01/12/2012) [-]
I've never NOT wanted to talk to her... regardless of anything. And if I tell her I don't want to talk to her, I don't think that will do any good. For now I'll do nothing, and if she decides to talk to me, I'll respond. But I'm not waiting with any hopes or expectations.