I think the "don't be surprised" is alright, but not the "you deserve it" for just about anything. We have developed a great trait in society, which is to focus on how we can prevent bad shit from going down. The negative side is that we automatically assume that bad shit went down because someobdy didn't do enough to prevent it, and further that by not taking that step of prevention that they somehow "deserve" it as if it is not only their fault but it was some sort of moral righteousness that the act was done unto them.
THere are a number of problems with that. Iif locking your doors prevents 99% of break ins, 1% of people with locked doors will still get their house broken into, so assuming they didn't take a step to prevent is wrong. Even then, it is not their "fault" for the break in if they didn't lock their doors; while they are responsible for prevention methods and should have been wiser, the only people responsible for the crime are the perpetrators of a crime because whether or not those doors were locked, they only had to be locked because of someone else having malicious intent. The "morally righteous" part is the most disturbing, when people judge you for being the victim to something you had little control over; you can take methods of prevention, but they're by no means guarantees and they honestly just shouldn't be a necessity, I mean most people would agree, the ideal wouldn't be that everyone locked their doors but that no one had to, so someone taking that freedom shouldn't be judged as immoral just because they were a victim, judge them as immoral if you disagree with an act or don't because there's a plank in your eye bud but don't blame their misfortune on their immorality because bad shit happens to all people including good people.

tl;dr we can prevent shit, and we can expect higher likelihoods of events taking place if we don't prevent things, but the fault lies solely with the person who does the bad shit and not the person who had the bad shit done to them (although, blatant and intentional provocation can very reasonably weaken your case in a court of law)

Huh, that's pretty cool.

GG, thanks for explaining.