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#29 - Is it difficult for you? It's difficult for many people in thi…  [+] (2 replies) 10/16/2015 on Judge 0
#31 - brainbug (10/16/2015) [-]
It isn't difficult for me, it comes naturally and effortlessly.

Saying "Summer in Australia is painfully hot" is subjective, because not everyone feels that the summer heat is painful. Other people might think Winter is painfully cold.

>how much effort it takes to be happy
It takes me more effort to be angry or sad or stressed or any other negative emotion. Happiness is the default, as everything else either requires energy or a catalyst.
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#32 - captainfuckitall (10/16/2015) [-]
Alright then, guess I was wrong.
#26 - That wasn't what the accusation was toward. I can see it prett…  [+] (4 replies) 10/16/2015 on Judge 0
#27 - brainbug (10/16/2015) [-]
What I'm saying is you have no way of knowing whether "it's difficult for everyone". It's just a claim you've made, but the only person you KNOW it's difficult for is yourself.
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#29 - captainfuckitall (10/16/2015) [-]
Is it difficult for you? It's difficult for many people in this thread as well, by their very own claim.

You have no way of knowing if every man looks better with a beard or not, because looks are subjective, and even your tastes may change from man to man. THAT is a blanket statement.

Saying "If someone falls and scratches themselves, it will hurt" is not, because barring medical anomalies, everyone, no matter the pain tolerance, feels pain upon a scrape.

Emotions are very sensitive things and, much like muscles, if strained they can be worn out and leave you feeling burned and exhausted at the end of the day. You can ask anyone you know how much effort it takes to be happy/sad/mad/what-have-you all the time, and they will confirm my statement. I will wait to hear your report.
#31 - brainbug (10/16/2015) [-]
It isn't difficult for me, it comes naturally and effortlessly.

Saying "Summer in Australia is painfully hot" is subjective, because not everyone feels that the summer heat is painful. Other people might think Winter is painfully cold.

>how much effort it takes to be happy
It takes me more effort to be angry or sad or stressed or any other negative emotion. Happiness is the default, as everything else either requires energy or a catalyst.
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#32 - captainfuckitall (10/16/2015) [-]
Alright then, guess I was wrong.
#23 - Oh? Considering it takes energy to push ANY type of overpoweri…  [+] (6 replies) 10/16/2015 on Judge +1
#25 - brainbug (10/16/2015) [-]
Is it really baseless to say you can't read minds?

It takes energy to do literally ANYTHING, what's your point?
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#26 - captainfuckitall (10/16/2015) [-]
That wasn't what the accusation was toward. I can see it pretty clearly right here that you were saying it was baseless of me to say they cannot maintain it, and now you are saying it takes energy to do anything. What are you trying to prove, old top? Sort yourself out before you want to debate.
#27 - brainbug (10/16/2015) [-]
What I'm saying is you have no way of knowing whether "it's difficult for everyone". It's just a claim you've made, but the only person you KNOW it's difficult for is yourself.
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#29 - captainfuckitall (10/16/2015) [-]
Is it difficult for you? It's difficult for many people in this thread as well, by their very own claim.

You have no way of knowing if every man looks better with a beard or not, because looks are subjective, and even your tastes may change from man to man. THAT is a blanket statement.

Saying "If someone falls and scratches themselves, it will hurt" is not, because barring medical anomalies, everyone, no matter the pain tolerance, feels pain upon a scrape.

Emotions are very sensitive things and, much like muscles, if strained they can be worn out and leave you feeling burned and exhausted at the end of the day. You can ask anyone you know how much effort it takes to be happy/sad/mad/what-have-you all the time, and they will confirm my statement. I will wait to hear your report.
#31 - brainbug (10/16/2015) [-]
It isn't difficult for me, it comes naturally and effortlessly.

Saying "Summer in Australia is painfully hot" is subjective, because not everyone feels that the summer heat is painful. Other people might think Winter is painfully cold.

>how much effort it takes to be happy
It takes me more effort to be angry or sad or stressed or any other negative emotion. Happiness is the default, as everything else either requires energy or a catalyst.
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#32 - captainfuckitall (10/16/2015) [-]
Alright then, guess I was wrong.
#5 - Easy, they can't maintain it either. It's not like th…  [+] (32 replies) 10/16/2015 on Judge +152
#63 - thetraezgoby (10/16/2015) [-]
you're a good person. keep it up
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#50 - commoncrunch (10/16/2015) [-]
I'm reading this wall of text, and all I'm getting out of this is:

"Rape and (mass) murder are very fun activities once you actually will yourself into initiating them."

The point is, I've heard this "Just do it" slop so many times. No one ever wants to get personal, they always just stay in this safe, broad zone of just telling some dude over the internet to just shut the fuck up, man up, and go to his local bar. It's useless, it's aggravating, it does nothing to convince me there's any point or reward for even faking confidence, much less actually having it.
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#57 - opticmonkey (10/16/2015) [-]
Are you saying that just because you don't agree with captainfuckitall? Or are you actually looking for more specific examples of the rewards of being more confident?
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#58 - commoncrunch (10/16/2015) [-]
A little of both, actually.
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#60 - opticmonkey (10/16/2015) [-]
Well the rewards for being more confident are pretty clear cut, I guarantee that if you are more confident you'll be more successful at basically everything you do, girls will find you more attractive, you'll do better in job interviews yadda yadda most of the benefits are pretty obvious ones.

As for building your confidence, the easiest way is to try to hold a conversation with every single person you meet, including people you just walk by on the street. Personally I started with my barber, every time I went to the barber I tried to see how long I could keep the conversation going, and every time I did it got easier, then gradually I started talking to cashiers and other people who basically have to be polite to me at least, and then as I started getting more and more positive responses I got the confidence to actually approach random people.

The most important part of the process is not to get discouraged if things dont go well. After all, it's just some random stranger that wont even remember you, and now you know not to do whatever it is you did wrong, and the next most important thing is to smile every time you approach someone, otherwise you will just come off as creepy, especially if you're not an attractive dude
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#61 - commoncrunch (10/16/2015) [-]
Smiling or not, a 5'7, 280+ lb dude is not someone you wanna deal with.
#62 - opticmonkey (10/16/2015) [-]
Well you're actually just outright wrong about that, 90% of people don't care if you're fat. Fat people may not make the best dating material, but personally I wouldn't shoot for that until you get good at talking to people.

If it's still a problem for you then go to the gym and lose some weight (which you should really do regardless), that does wonders for confidence too.

Another big thing that helped for me was getting off fj for a while. I love this site but it's got a pretty toxic community a lot of the time. Spend the time you would be on fj pursuing interests, join a pottery class or learn a martial art or something, it has a double bonus of providing an easy way to meet people and it makes you a more interesting person who's more likely to be able to find common ground with people you're talking to. Plus if you decide to do something physical then you'll lose some weight too.

Google nick notas and check out his site. It's technically a dating site but a lot of the articles are about building confidence.

Pic related is a well-liked fat guy who's got loads of confidence
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#56 - captainfuckitall (10/16/2015) [-]
I'm sure rape and murder IS fun if you make a point out of it, though. Seriously though, if you're getting that out of it right away, there's no point in reading it; not only are you not 'trying' to hear anything, but you ARE trying to see it in a negative light; of course you're never going to gain anything useful.

I'm not telling anyone to sit down and shut up, the exact opposite; I'm encouraging people to understand that they care about their own standing more than anyone else does, and nobody else does anywhere near as much as they think they do.

You already have it in your head that it's aggravating and pointless, so it's going to be every time; just the same as if you're convinced everyone is out to get you, you're going to take everything personally. You're digging yourself into a hole, and the only way to get out of it is to realize that you're the one digging it.
#42 - goatmum (10/16/2015) [-]
Capped and saved for future reference.

Good thoughts, mang
#18 - brainbug (10/16/2015) [-]
You can't read minds. "they can't maintain it either" is a completely baseless statement.
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#23 - captainfuckitall (10/16/2015) [-]
Oh? Considering it takes energy to push ANY type of overpowering mindset, yes, sad ones too, I don't think I'm that far off.

Besides, aren't you too making a baseless statement?
#25 - brainbug (10/16/2015) [-]
Is it really baseless to say you can't read minds?

It takes energy to do literally ANYTHING, what's your point?
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#26 - captainfuckitall (10/16/2015) [-]
That wasn't what the accusation was toward. I can see it pretty clearly right here that you were saying it was baseless of me to say they cannot maintain it, and now you are saying it takes energy to do anything. What are you trying to prove, old top? Sort yourself out before you want to debate.
#27 - brainbug (10/16/2015) [-]
What I'm saying is you have no way of knowing whether "it's difficult for everyone". It's just a claim you've made, but the only person you KNOW it's difficult for is yourself.
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#29 - captainfuckitall (10/16/2015) [-]
Is it difficult for you? It's difficult for many people in this thread as well, by their very own claim.

You have no way of knowing if every man looks better with a beard or not, because looks are subjective, and even your tastes may change from man to man. THAT is a blanket statement.

Saying "If someone falls and scratches themselves, it will hurt" is not, because barring medical anomalies, everyone, no matter the pain tolerance, feels pain upon a scrape.

Emotions are very sensitive things and, much like muscles, if strained they can be worn out and leave you feeling burned and exhausted at the end of the day. You can ask anyone you know how much effort it takes to be happy/sad/mad/what-have-you all the time, and they will confirm my statement. I will wait to hear your report.
#31 - brainbug (10/16/2015) [-]
It isn't difficult for me, it comes naturally and effortlessly.

Saying "Summer in Australia is painfully hot" is subjective, because not everyone feels that the summer heat is painful. Other people might think Winter is painfully cold.

>how much effort it takes to be happy
It takes me more effort to be angry or sad or stressed or any other negative emotion. Happiness is the default, as everything else either requires energy or a catalyst.
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#32 - captainfuckitall (10/16/2015) [-]
Alright then, guess I was wrong.
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#17 - mrpeepee (10/16/2015) [-]
This is exactly how I feel man, I know all about what you mean. I agree with you and admit that trying to become that type of person is physically and emotionally draining. Thats why I choose to stay in and be a fag on the internet and not going out and returning home tired as fuck
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#16 - mkchillin (10/16/2015) [-]
How do you get over people not giving you validation? I'm a pretty selfless, caring guy and I think highly of myself but I never get cocky, which in turn leads me to feeling like my contributions and gifts aren't recognized. I'm not a pushover, I know how to assert myself but sometimes it's taxing leading by example and seemingly getting nothing in return.
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#24 - captainfuckitall (10/16/2015) [-]
Lurkerfox has the right idea.

It's not a bad thing to want validation. No matter how selfless or compassionate you are, everybody wants their achievements and accomplishments to be recognized, especially by those they themselves admire.

But honestly, if the people you are acting for do not appreciate what you are doing, why do it at all? This goes toward acting more for yourself. It's not that you're being selfish, it's just that you're not giving energy to those who ARE.

If you really want it to be these people though and do not want to change, the only thing I can suggest is just getting smaller and smaller in terms of what you do for them. If they notice and ask about it, you can flatly tell them you never thought they DID notice. If they don't, you're in the clear.
#21 - lurkerfox (10/16/2015) [-]
Well theres always the chance that your contributions and gifts are in fact not very good and shouldnt be validated and youre mistaken that they are. This is a situational thing so really think to yourself if your way truly is the right way. Maybe it is, maybe it isnt.

But putting that aside, you can either discard people who arent giving you validation and find people that will, or find other means to give yourself validation. Maybe you dont get praise at work for doing a good job, but perhaps you can find a hobby to develop and then regardless of others people opinions you can feel good knowing you did your hobby better the second time around, then the third, then the fourth and so on. Measure your self and then get better numbers. At a fundamental level why else do you think high scores and achievements have become so popular? Its a means to give oneself a sense of validation for their effort, regardless of the "objective" value of that effort.

Basically, you think that you think highly of yourself, but either thats not true and hence you crave other people's validation to feel good, or youre having trouble with self-actualization and think others validation is the answer instead of finding a unique answer for yourself.
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#12 - yugiohkris (10/16/2015) [-]
easier said than done
#46 - goatmum (10/16/2015) [-]
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#38 - klina (10/16/2015) [-]
all of these faggots not understanding what you meant
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#39 - captainfuckitall (10/16/2015) [-]
What did he mean?
#19 - lurkerfox (10/16/2015) [-]
of course its easier said than done, he admits its hard, but you still have to just do it anyways if thats what you want.

Sometimes it comes down to matter of the real reason you dont do X, is because you actually want to not do X more, which is perfectly fine but dont pretend that doing X means more to you than it does. This goes for a lot of things hence using X as a filler, duh.
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#22 - yugiohkris (10/16/2015) [-]
ok give me an example
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#28 - captainfuckitall (10/16/2015) [-]
"Oh, of course I want to go to join the Art Club" when you only want to do it to please a certain person.

"Oh, of course I want to improve and be smarter" you say as you watch Jackass all day and never pick up a math book or what-have-you.

"Oh, of course we'll get a coffee and catch up" you say to the friend you haven't seen in years when really you just want to be left alone.

It's really not that hard to find examples. I mean, you yourself probably want more money, but do you take extra hours? Do you work holidays? Do you pull extra jobs? do you ask for raises? Do you try to excel in your field or just do the minimum work? This way, you can see how much someone actually wants something vs. how much they would rather do everything else.

As a general rule, you can tell a lot about a person by the degree of passion they put toward their pursuits, another good quote that's in the same vine is from King Baldwin from the movie "Kingdom Of Heaven" when he says "When you stand before God, you cannot say, "But I was told by others to do thus," or that virtue was not convenient at the time. This will not suffice."

By the way, of course it's easier said than done, can you name something that isn't? In fact, can you name anything worthwhile done that was accomplished with little effort?
#8 - anon (10/16/2015) [-]
Thank you.
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#30 - captainfuckitall (10/16/2015) [-]
Don't thank me. The effort is in yourself, I'm just pointing it out.
#7 - anon (10/16/2015) [-]
**anonymous used "*roll picture*"**
**anonymous rolled image** your comment gives a anon hope
#6 - yunch (10/16/2015) [-]
Someone give this guy a medal.
#31 - Hey, I have no problem logging in. Mind if I come and do it?  [+] (1 reply) 10/16/2015 on Friends +13
#50 - anon (10/16/2015) [-]
you dont have to ask mate she never does