Dude, if you do end up raising the kid, i have no doubt you will be an awesome dad, who knows. You may just end up getting lucky. Congrats on the sex tho

:/ give her tummy a nice swift kick?

Dude, if you do end up raising the kid, i have no doubt you will be an awesome dad, who knows. You may just end up getting lucky. Congrats on the sex tho

Consider yourself blessed that your family is full of pastors.

Trust me, nobody is a saint, and if they are anything like what a pastor should be, they will be well aware of the pressure you face as a teenage guy, and much more forgiving and helpful than many parents would be. (At least, after the initial shock...)

How long have you known her?

Hm. If you don't mind my asking, are you both Christians as well?

Haha. Oh, no debates here I'm just wondering because I'm a Christian also. My wife and I (we're 22, almost 23, now) had some similar scares when we were dating in our teenage years. (Never actually had sex, but we got a little too close for comfort at times, and she was a couple days late several times.)

Anyway, I just want to encourage you to not freak out about this. Even if it comes to pregnancy, it sounds like you have a pretty great support system in place. And even though you two have only known each other for a year, I want to reassure you that there is no relationship difference that can't be overcome if you two are both believers. Sharing the same basic, fundamental perspective on life (and especially if that perspective is Christian), means so, so much for a relationship.

Also, I saw from another comment that you wanted to join the Air Force. If anything, that is a dream that you probably wouldn't have to give up on if you have a kid. The military does a heck of a lot for supporting its members. I know of plenty of young guys straight out of high school who are in the military, and some of whom have kids.

Well, that's always good. Moments like this are always good reminders of how important our faith is. I know the teenage years are rough on a lot of people's faith, but I think a lot of the time that is because people associate their faith with not only childhood, but childishness. The fact is that there's a lot more to it than what we learn in Sunday School.

I'd hate to just sound like another parental voice to you, since I'm sure you get this a lot, but never underestimate how important it is to trust God, even if, if you do eventually have a kid, you feel like He failed to answer your prayer. If you are going to have a kid, do it with the right perspective from the very beginning. Sure, it's a little scary for you at the moment, but the fact is that you and your girl are making a human being. Someone who's going to reflect both of you, and share all sorts of awesome moments with you.

Life is what we make of it. Bringing joy to others' lives, especially that of your own girlfriend or child, will make you happier at the end of the day than pretty much anything else. And it doesn't take much financially (or whatever else-ly) to do that.

Anyway, sorry to rant... But just hang in there, man. I'd love to talk to you about stuff or just listen if you need someone to do that.

I'm glad it helps... I remember that sinking feeling in your stomach. It's horrifying. Makes you think about doing some things that you never would have considered otherwise.

Seriously, don't hesitate to send me a message if you're freaking out about it, and please keep me/us updated regardless!

Oh fuck.. im sorry man.. i hope everything works out for ya. Keep up posted and just say its not yours. (he he)

:/ give her tummy a nice swift kick?

Dude, if you do end up raising the kid, i have no doubt you will be an awesome dad, who knows. You may just end up getting lucky. Congrats on the sex tho

Wha.... How have you never jerked it?

Consider yourself blessed that your family is full of pastors.

Trust me, nobody is a saint, and if they are anything like what a pastor should be, they will be well aware of the pressure you face as a teenage guy, and much more forgiving and helpful than many parents would be. (At least, after the initial shock...)

How long have you known her?

Hm. If you don't mind my asking, are you both Christians as well?

Haha. Oh, no debates here I'm just wondering because I'm a Christian also. My wife and I (we're 22, almost 23, now) had some similar scares when we were dating in our teenage years. (Never actually had sex, but we got a little too close for comfort at times, and she was a couple days late several times.)

Anyway, I just want to encourage you to not freak out about this. Even if it comes to pregnancy, it sounds like you have a pretty great support system in place. And even though you two have only known each other for a year, I want to reassure you that there is no relationship difference that can't be overcome if you two are both believers. Sharing the same basic, fundamental perspective on life (and especially if that perspective is Christian), means so, so much for a relationship.

Also, I saw from another comment that you wanted to join the Air Force. If anything, that is a dream that you probably wouldn't have to give up on if you have a kid. The military does a heck of a lot for supporting its members. I know of plenty of young guys straight out of high school who are in the military, and some of whom have kids.

Well, that's always good. Moments like this are always good reminders of how important our faith is. I know the teenage years are rough on a lot of people's faith, but I think a lot of the time that is because people associate their faith with not only childhood, but childishness. The fact is that there's a lot more to it than what we learn in Sunday School.

I'd hate to just sound like another parental voice to you, since I'm sure you get this a lot, but never underestimate how important it is to trust God, even if, if you do eventually have a kid, you feel like He failed to answer your prayer. If you are going to have a kid, do it with the right perspective from the very beginning. Sure, it's a little scary for you at the moment, but the fact is that you and your girl are making a human being. Someone who's going to reflect both of you, and share all sorts of awesome moments with you.

Life is what we make of it. Bringing joy to others' lives, especially that of your own girlfriend or child, will make you happier at the end of the day than pretty much anything else. And it doesn't take much financially (or whatever else-ly) to do that.

Anyway, sorry to rant... But just hang in there, man. I'd love to talk to you about stuff or just listen if you need someone to do that.

I'm glad it helps... I remember that sinking feeling in your stomach. It's horrifying. Makes you think about doing some things that you never would have considered otherwise.

Seriously, don't hesitate to send me a message if you're freaking out about it, and please keep me/us updated regardless!

Oh fuck.. im sorry man.. i hope everything works out for ya. Keep up posted and just say its not yours. (he he)

:/ give her tummy a nice swift kick?

Dude, if you do end up raising the kid, i have no doubt you will be an awesome dad, who knows. You may just end up getting lucky. Congrats on the sex tho