Putting yourself first is not selfish. We all see this world in terms of ourselves. We all have interest & needs that need to be met first, that isn't selfi
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Putting yourself first is not selfish

We all see this world in terms of ourselves. We all have interest & needs that need to be met first, that isn't selfish. Selfish is when you don't allow others to do their own thing & expect them to conform to what you want. You don't want people restricting how you get to live your life, so don't do it to others.

Focusing on yourself is really one of the least selfish things you can do. It puts you in a position to be empathetic to other people who are also trying to focus on themselves. You can develop a 'I'mma do me, you do you' mindset which can create an environment to let people grow on their own terms (scary idea for control freaks).

Instead of trying to find that 'right' person for you, focus on yourself and becoming the 'right' person for you. The people you appreciate will generally be the people who appreciate you, so be around & work on being the type of folks you want around.

Putting yourself first is an act of survival as well. We can all easily drain ourselves trying to accommodate to the whims of others. We can spend our entire life trying to making other people happy, and realize we have no life left for ourselves.

It's not romantic to think about how really self-indulgent we all are, but that doesn't take away from the fact that we are all very self-indulgent. If you understand that people work according to their interests, it's even easier to work with & get a long. Everyone wants to know what's in it for them, respect this ideal, and everyone will benefit from the interactions.

Selfish isn't pursuing what you want in life, it's when you're not helping others in theirs. We all have things & people we're enthusiastic about, help them, and find joy in doing so. I'm a product of all your support & appreciate you all for it. I'm not in a position to help everyone, nor am I motivated to do so, so I focus on those I can, and want to help. Social Obligations & being around people you don't want to be is just a waste of life. It's OK to let people know that you're not excited to be around them, if anything, that'll keep you from having to be around them for much longer .

You only have so many hours in the day, and you can only make so many people happy, and no matter what you do, some folks will never be satisfied, because they depend on you for their happiness, that's selfish of them. They're toxic, and you'll be better off without them. Put yourself first, it's not selfish.

Expecting others to put you first, that is selfish.

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Submitted: 09/26/2013
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#1 - purestwater (09/26/2013) [-]
What I got from this:

It's selfish to keep your own cup full.
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