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> hey anon, wanna give your opinion?
#174 - Tommovdv
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Why the **** would i need a guide to introverts. I not going to adjust my complete life style because someone doesn't talk. He can either reply normally or kindly **** off. Acknowledge their existence, jesus christ. If he wants to be acknowledged he should do something. If not, then don't blame me if I don't interact with him/her either.
User avatar #234 to #174 - durkadurka
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This concept is saying IF you want to talk to someone who is introverted, this is the best approach. It's not saying "you must treat every introvert this way".
User avatar #183 to #174 - revanmal
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You don't need to adjust your whole lifestyle, just your behavior around that particular person. You do it all the time, it's not a big deal. If you can't do that, then YOU kindly **** off. No one has to bend over backwards to accommodate you, asshole, you have plenty of other people you can hang out with.
#187 to #183 - Tommovdv
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So no one has to bend over backwards to accommodate me, but we need a complete guide as to how to bend over backward to get along with people that don't like to talk to others. Its basically forcing yourself into his life. If he doesn't want to talk then why should I go out of my way to get him to talk?
User avatar #189 to #187 - revanmal
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Did you even READ the thing?

Here's an analogy:

An extrovert is the sort of person who invites you into their home without you having to ask.

An introvert is someone whose door you knock on politely before being let inside.

No bending over backward, no immense effort on your part is needed. Leave an opening for them to interact with you and go about your day. If they do accept your offer, they'll appreciate your courtesy. If not, that's too bad, but most times you're free to invite them in another time since you didn't push them into anything.
#195 to #189 - Tommovdv
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Yes I did read the thing, and when I greet someone, and he or she does not respond, I will take that as a sign that he or she does not want to talk. So I will not be like "Oh maybe he'll respond at some point." Apart from the fact that not responding at all is rude, and if he does respond to my greeting, and I continue to ask him something or tell him something, and if instead of having a conversation he'll just sit there reading a book, i would feel insulted. If i have to acknowledge his presence, I'd like him to do the same at least. Not just ignoring me under the excuse that he is introvert
User avatar #200 to #195 - revanmal
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If someone does just ignore you, that's rude, yes. But not all introverts are like that. If you have a specific person in mind with all this, that person is not just an introvert, that person is also anti-social and doesn't enjoy talking to you. An introvert with social skills will humor your conversation but put as little into it as possible because they don't want to talk to you.

If that's rude to you as well, think of it another way. All you want to do is read your book or listen to music or play a game, but then there's this person next to you who just will NOT leave you alone! You give them as many signals as possible that they're not interesting you and you want to be left alone, but they wont shut up! You didn't invite them into a conversation, they started it, and are doing all they can to distract you from what you want to do. And it SUCKS!

That is what introverted people deal with all the time, because extroverted people can be oblivious to the fact that not everyone operates like they do.
#212 to #200 - Tommovdv
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Yeah but that is someone that is nagging, like i said, if after a greeting, or first question there is no answer or a very short one. I will give up on trying to talk to someone who's obviously not interested. But i cannot look at someone and see "oh that guy is introvert, i need to approach this in a different manner" Now don't get me wrong I will not strike up a conversation when someone I don't know walks into the room. But when he's sitting next to you, it would be rude from my side to not say anything either. But I stand by my point that a complete guide as to how to approach someone who doesn't like conversation to begin with is stupid. I can't tell if someone is an introvert, I can't tell if he's lonely, if I don't get any signals, how am I supposed to know whats going on. They act like introverts are some kind of fragile object that breaks as soon as you breath on it.. If he doesn't want to talk, we don't talk, if he wants to talk, we'll talk. Why do they need to make things overly complicated?
User avatar #218 to #212 - revanmal
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The guide talking about introverts like some sort of alien entity or fragile flower is part of the joke, though it's still making a point.

If it seems complicated, you are the one who's over-thinking. It's not a complex idea.

Leave an opening. Did they engage with you? If yes: Great, conversation time! No: Leave them alone. They're preoccupied.

You don't have to walk on egg shells, just be polite and go with the flow, even if that flow stops before it gets very far.