Of course, I never said that some tendencies are natural, - #80109356 added by squeemonster at I don't like boys!

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(01/09/2013)[-]

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Dear people freaking out over someone asking this question to a child,

This comes from a study that shows that our views on sexuality are actually learned by what our environment tells us, we are not born with the idea that girls should be with boys or that any other is deemed different that what is usual.

When they asked the question it was to get this exact type of answer, an adorable, innocent, pure and non preconceived answer that shows children are not BORN with views that "girls should like boys, etc.", since they don't even understand that level of human relationship yet. They like "stacey" and "emily" because they are nice, like barbie or whatever it is that little girls like in their bff's. For them most boys are probably still yucky little critters than like dinosaurs and play in the mud. And boys think girls are lame. If you asked a child "what if a girl only liked other girls and not boys", she wouldn't give one tiny adorable **** about it.

Intolerance may only come from the educating environment. It's the circle of life. So relax, they're not screwing up the kid for asking this.

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#124 to #100 - squeemonster

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(01/09/2013)[-]

I must have got it confused with a documentary I say that had basically the same thing, with a little girl and the answer was something along the same lines. "I like puppies" or something like that xD

And that's what I said, children are not born with views on sexuality because they do not even know what sexuality even is yet. It was more to show that kids aren't born already thinking about preconceived things, as many people defend that the reason to their prejudices is that it's something "in their nature"

#98 to #84 - TastyBurger

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(01/09/2013)[-]

Intolerance might be taught, but we are kinda born with the idea to go after the opposite sex. Its just not present until puberty. Its a biological need that all humans and animals have. Companionship is different. Humans and animals look for companionship in both sexes. Also, the idea of thinking "girls are icky" and the like can also be argued as being taught as well. When I was that girls age, I liked girls. But I said girls were gross to fit in the the crowd. I guess, not to seem weird, which is the way most animals learn. Imitation.

#128 to #98 - squeemonster

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(01/09/2013)[-]

Of course, I never said that some tendencies are natural, it's called basic instinct :) But some have a different message in what they call instinctive behavior. There is a line between "I know what I am/like" and "This is only the right way, the rest is wrong". You naturally grow to understand naturally what your attractions are, even is some are deemed to come more frequently than others. But what consists of your opinions on the attraction of others, that is usually learned, being it to accept or not those options. In an open and accepting environment, although not sharing in the same attraction, you'd easily not overthink it or even judge it.

But I do agree with you when you say I over generalized the "girls are icky" thing, it's also something that comes from learning from others around you and some might not even follow. In a social situation where that wouldn't happen, you wouldn't feel the need to change what you think in order to fit in.

TL;DR - you have some good points there, but I still stand on what I was trying to say

#117 to #98 - coolcalx

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(01/09/2013)[-]

"but we are kinda born with the idea to go after the opposite sex"
not everyone.

#118 to #117 - lillamy

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(01/09/2013)[-]

That's true. My sister has been a lesbian all her life. She have never, EVER, been interested in guys or felt that she should be together with one eventually.