Ask Her Out!

I feel that more could be done with this as well.

Did you know hes asking a random person out for coffee?

wut

That moment when you asked this person if they wanted to get coffee an hour ago and they still haven't answered.

The coffees getting cold...

I see you like coffee I also like coffee.

I do not want coffee. It makes me throw up.

and then they fucked

This is how I speak!

Internet showed your true self to the world :D

I made this the last time content from this artist was posted.

Do it.
I double dare you.

slight breach in etiquette...

lets put it this way, im incredibly socially awkward, i barely speak to her, like ever, to shy basically, i dont think i could ever find the courage to ask her out, like really, im so socially awkward its crazy.

Stop giving a shit about rejection. Give it some time, stop caring about what other people think, and then go for it.

But you spoke to a stranger on the internet.
I can help you.

strangers on the internet at easy, hidden behind a wall of anonimity, real life is hard.

help would be much appreciated and rewarded with thumbs and virtual free cookies of the edible type

Not really sure if this will help but my first time asking out a girl i didnt think about, i just did it. Now im a really shy guy, i dont just do things but this time i just asked her, and you know what she said; she said no. Now of course it was kinda akward the first day but we were still friends and when she said no i was hurt yeah, but ya know what i was really glad that i had asked her. Why you may ask? well because i feel like something had been lifted off my chest and it was awesome. So the moral of the story here if even if you are shy/akward/weird if you just do it randomly you'll feel better. Now the second time i asked a girl out she said no again (different girl) but i still felt better when i did it. And ya know what we still were friends and eventually we ended up going out because if you just keep talking to her as a friend even after she turns you down you still have a chance. Just do it bro, no excuse no thinking no doubts no waiting. Just do it.

I am a girl, and you spoke to me.
It's honestly not as hard as you think.

Since you're a chick, give the guy some pointers on how to approach the situation? s;
Like what you would want the guy to do?

If he reads this then:

It's no good waiting around whilst fighting inner battles with courage. I met a guy who I liked who would always say things and say 'Just joking' straight after. In the end he turned out to be a bit of a dick with no backbone.

No backbone = bad.

Guys can be sensitive and sweet, they don't have to be the 'badboy' type, but a guy will eventually grow some balls and get there before he does, and he'll be upset that he missed the chance.

From what I've seen, he likes her. But he doesn't speak to her very often. The girl may be surprised at a sudden confession. She may be confused, as to her, he's just a guy she talks to.

She's free, she's single. Talk to her. Break out of the shell, leave all that worry behind and get a little confidence. But don't be clingy. Girls don't like guys that are constantly all like
Hey
Hey
Hey
That's like instant friend zone stuff.
Now I don't like the idea of 'the friend-zone' but the guys who find themselves in it have expectations too high, or they flatter the girl and act surprised when feelings aren't returned.
The best thing is to talk to her, initiate conversation, do a little stalking even on her favourite things. Facebook is the best for stalking, but not in the creeper way.

Be funny! And know when to leave a topic. I like guys that are funny. And as this website is Funnyjunk, I assume he has a sense of humour. Test the water, make a joke. See if she laughs. If she laughs but doesn't find it funny, move on. She'll have a chink in her armour, he just has to find it and nestle in. Moving a conversation on is good, find things to talk about, instead of clinging on to one thing.

I know it's cheesy but be yourself. The worst case scenario, she doesn't have those feelings that you have. Doesn't mean she won't ever have them! But that doesn't mean you should sit around and wait.

TL:DR: Initiate conversation, don't cling, don't be beta, be funny but know when to leave off. If he needs more help, add me.

Gentleman, it would appear that the biggest bro here is actually a girl

Don't think I've ever read advice this good in the comment section of any website!

I kinda know exactly how voltkills feels. Back in high school I sat next to a girl I had a crush on every Maths class for a half a year and didn't even say a word to her. That paralysing feeling of inadequacy can feel impossible to get over, even at my age of 20.

Well, I'm sure that will help him, it's actually helped me a bit too, thanks ^.^

If you need me, you can always add me too. I'm happy to help.

:D

And I'd be happy to take you up on your offer c:

Also just read this, you say real life is hard, so why not try talking to her through text or facebook etc.?

still just as hard tbh, cause i still have to see her in school. im so socially nervous that everything i do will be seen as creepy and wrong, so i often end up doing nothing at all...

But there's a chance a good thing may come out of it, talking on facebook will be a lot easier for you, plus, having a crush on someone isn't creepy at all, unless they're 6 year olds or something? But seriously, even if you do feel a little creepy, it's better than being depressed about not knowing what could have been..

I've been in your position and I really regret not doing anything about it :c

That's still good I guess, It's progress, right? Just keep building up your confidence, comment on a status which interests you maybe? You get the idea

Well start making the effort to speak to her, gain her as a friend, then ask her out.
If you can talk to random strangers on the internet, you can talk to some girl.

i dont think you understand just how bad i am at talking to people like, i have 2 mutal friends with her, and i dont hang out with them often, and if i do itl seem creepy as all hell. im not the kind of guy who can go and just speak to girls, like, really.

Quit making excuses. If you talk to her, just small talk or something, whenever you see her, you build up a relationship.
There are plenty websites/books out there that can sharpen your conversational skills too.

thats not creepy/ obvious that i have a crush on her?

No, it's not.
Talking and taking an interest in someone is often seen as friendly.
I'm talking to you. Does that mean I have a crush on you? Do all your friends have a crush on you because they talk to you?

no, but, idk, seems wrong just randomly talking to her, she would know something was up if i started speaking to her wayy more then i do now.

No, she wouldn't.
You're worried that she'd see you have a crush on her when you start talking to her more.
In actuality, she'll think "oh look, a nice enough guy is paying attention to me and seems to genuinely care. He's alright"

God it all feels so wrong, and with school being over for the holiday the only way to talk to her is fb, which is an entirely different thing to handle, god damn this is difficult stuff.

All of the things captaincabinet said are true, this isn't weird at all. That's how these things work. I know this chick is your crush but you have to stop idolizing her. You've making her out to be some unreachable goddess who you're not worthy of speaking to. Keep in mind that she's just another person. For now, don't focus on your feelings for her. Just treat her as you would treat any other person who you are just talking to. Don't rush things, become friends first considering that'll make it easier for you later to actually ask her out. Start slow and easy

Not really. Just go for it. It's better than doing nothing and forever wondering "what if".
The only real advice I can give you is not to rush in. If you break out the whole "I love you more than anything, you are absolutely divine" etc. type stuff too early, it's not a good look. Save that for when you're in a relationship with her

This sounds like what I used to be like, and I still am kind of ;c
I never said anything to my crush, thought it may ruin our friendship or some bullshit, just making excuses because I'm beta as fuck.. Now I regret not doing anything about it, we never speak anymore.. I blame me not doing anything for the end of our friendship..
Take this for whatever it's worth I guess..

Honestly, the only reason I managed to ask someone out was when I hit my lowest point and thought "you know what? fuck it. it cant get much worse than this" and so I did it. I also did a lot of stuff I've always wanted to do. I dressed how I wanted to dress (I modelled myself into some kinda 70's DrWho), and no one said anything mean. I started talking to people for no reason and made some good friends. I did what I wanted. And you know what? I've been invited out to two Christmas parties this year. Thats two more than every year previous to this.
But hey, I know its hard. Thats the whole 'irrational' part of irrational fears. But once you've taken a step outside your comfort zone and realised that it isnt going to go as horrificaly as you'd imagined, you will start to find the confidence to do things.

but just sitting here masturbating moping about isnt going to help you none.

and hey dude, best of luck. I believe in you.

This guy.... epic

It's always touching to see cool people on the internet being nice n' stuff.

thank man, im not that bad when it comes to making friends, its just, girls, i cant

Same here.

best advice ive read on this site ever

Yeah, but how do i girl?

I did it. She said yes. Turned out that she was somewhat of a bitch and had a hideous personality. You might've dodged a bullet.

i do know her, she is nice, we speak occasionally.

mfw today, trying to ask my crush out. But i, as you, am a fucking coward. So no i just sit here on FJ....

This whole thread is pretty awesome. So many nice people on the internet, who knew?
Listen to what the others have said, and go for it. Even if it starts as small talk.
I am pretty awful at talking to girls I like, but recently I went for it and asked this girl out for coffee and things are going pretty well. Will there be a happy ending? Will we date? Hell, who knows. But it's nice just getting to know her better.
You'd be surprised how willing people can be to talk to you if you simply approach them in a friendly manner and strike up a conversation.
Good luck, bro!

I know right, today i have been truly amazed by the kindness of the people on this site, thank you all.

Another tip. Don't think "Am I good enough for her?" Start thinking "Is she good enough for me?" I've met some girls that were 8.5/10 that dropped to 5/10 from one conversation.

I'll share my thoughts, I guess.


Okay, first thing, don't be clingy. I know a guy who wants to sit next to me every single day on the bus and walk with me to class every single day and talk to me whenever he can. I mean, I may sound like a bitch who's just trying to shoot this guy down, but people need some space. While you should talk to her more, if you suddenly act like her best friend she might find it creepy. Find a happy medium and build from there. If she acts uncomfortable, back off a bit.

Talk to her. Say hello if you see her in the hall. It'll evolve into talking more regularly and getting to know eachother better. Being funny is almost always a bonus, but don't use jokes as your only material for conversation.

Also, try to keep things light. Don't say anything potentially offensive until you have a pretty good idea of how she will react. Laughing isn't always a good sign, actually pay attention to her. If she doesn't think a joke is funny or doesn't like the conversation topic, she'll let you know. One of the worst things you could do is hold onto a joke or topic for too long. Just let it go sometimes, know when to back off.

Friendship before romance. This might just be me, but I'd rather get to know someone as a friend rather than immediately as a romantic interest (the infamous "friendzone" which isn't always a friendzone). Don't confess immediately, try and get to know her some first.

Cute can be cool too. I'm not into the tough bad boy type, and I'm not the only one. Be yourself, whatever that might be. Everybody's got something particularly attractive about them, so be yourself and she'll notice.

Having some confidence is also attractive. You can be nervous or embarassed or humiliated, but if you decide to do something, fucking do it. NEVER back down. That's a sure sign of a beta male, and it's just not cool to see someone give up before they get to the finish line. Almost as sad as seeing them not even try.


Good luck, comrade.

Okay, worst she could do is say no, right? If she does, it's only awkward for a few days or so. Once that passes, you can still be friends.

By the way, that's not how you do extra PS notes.

ps: You just add extra p's
pps: Like so.
ppps: If you go any further than ppp you look stupid.
pppps: Like so.

ok annon, sure thing bro.

dude we all know everything on FJ is reposted, but COME THE FUCK ON MAN

wut? i simply wanted to shop that guy in for teh lulz

wasn't there another picture in which a dick knocked that heart out and said call her too?