Think about it

Yes, you can't change your mother’s death. What this is saying is that isn't within your control. And its right, if you continue to grieve over your mother’s death, it will just make you more miserable. Your mother would not have wanted that for you. This comic points out that you are in control of how you feel and what you perceive and what you manifest. You aren’t always control of what happens to you but you are in control of how it affects you, even if you don’t realize it and intentionally control it. Humans are unique in that we have a choice between what happens to us and how we react to it. Only conscious beings can choose between action and reaction.

If you want to grieve your loss more then you want to accept it, appreciate what time you did have and what joy that meant to you, and move on then, that is your choice. You manifest your unhappiness. But It is within your power to honor your mother’s life by not letting the grief of her loss ruin your life.

Yeah, the imagery is a bit cheesy now that you mention it.

Well,I appreciate your civility back, I really do. Many on the internet a can be bad-mannered.

And the thing is, I don’t necessarily disagree with you, and I certainly don’t think you ignorant or stupid, quite the opposite. It’s just different perspectives. It’s probably not really necessary to have complete control about everything, but those people who exercise choice of perspective and decide what and how things affect them, they do Far better than those who allow their indifference to rule how things affect them or even worse, those who allow themselves to be crippled by circumstance.

And you don’t have to be judgmental about whiners and complainers if you don’t want too, once again it’s a matter if you want those people to affect you or not. You get to choose how to feel and act. You can be unaffected if you decide. It does take some effort but it produces better results, so while it isn’t necessarily perfect to the human condition, it seems to be closer to the truth.

I think, if your mother passed away a month ago, it is healthy to grieve and be grieving. At some point, I think even while you grieve, though it is important to find ways to move on, to be stronger, and know that your mother left you and that is an impressive legacy to leave behind. But it’s also important to you to take that responsibility, decide how long you will let this effect you. You’re the only person who can decide.

And As far as the abusive parent thing, I really do believe that would be a hardship but it doesn’t have to hold you back if you don’t want to. You are a product of your genetics, your peer and parental associations, your society, and your choices. And although those other forces are powerful, your choices are the decider in what you become.

I am the master of my fate, I am the captin of my soul. - William Ernest Henley

Dr Tryhard M.D. over here.

And by that you mean sit on your ass and eat chips