I'm pretty sure anyone who's suffered loss has every right to honor the memory of their loved one with something as binding as a tattoo. It shouldn't be "reserved" for any one group.

And what is appropriate in your opinion?

A tattoo is physical. It's also on a more personal level. If someone dies, there is most-likely a memorial, like a funeral, held in their memory. People will then go on to mourn them in their own way on a personal level; a tattoo being one method.

You're right. I can't hear him or see his face. I can however see his footprint, and his name. I got the tattoo because either way, I'm going to think about the boy. With this, I respect his life and death by having his actual size footprint and name with me forever. I respect your opinion, but I still believe memorial tattoos are respectful.

Was that your son? That is a gorgeous tattoo. Very touching.

I lost my child (through a miscarriage, which I know is not the same as your situation) and got her feet on my wrist.


I am very sorry for you loss.

It was my nephew. My sister was 26 weeks when she had him, in which she never knew she was pregnant, but was only 4 months when he died. Was maybe 1 pound 14ounces at birth. Was up at the hospital constantly visiting him though.

Thanks too, and I'm sorry for yours.

Your poor sister. Is she doing okay? I know there can be a lot of trauma for a mother when they deliver their child so early and never even knew they were pregnant with the baby.

You are an amazing brother. She is so lucky to have such a loving brother, and Rylan a loving uncle.

She has her moments every once in a while (In which I don't blame her at all, as I did too) , but she is fine now. She missed all four months of work just living up in the hospital with him. Poor child was so small, you could fit him in your hand at birth.

It is very hard, but as time goes on it gets easier to accept the loss. I've attended support groups for women who lost a child, at any stage in pregnancy to adulthood, and they "veterans" all say it does become easier.

The important thing to remember is that it's okay to grieve and let yourself hurt. That the goal isn't to "get over it" but to learn how handle the grief.

It is very apparent she loved him very much and made sure he felt loved for the short time he was here. She is an amazing mother. I know some who just left their kids because they didn't want to handle death at all.

I really hope she does okay on Mother's Day. :/ That is a hard day. But I am sure you can help her though.

She has another child. a 2 year old girl named Aubrie, who we love inevitably. She is also walking miles for a march of dimes event tomorrow.

dont you have any feelings ?

Feels? Sure I have feels. I wasn't making fun of anyone's death, I was merely making a joke that I would have found funny in their position.

But FJ took it up the butt. Oh well.