Friend-zoned

In OP's defense, I have tried talking to a girl multiple times recently and all she does is barely acknowledge my existence, and this is the part where you say if she isn't interested then get over it, well it is never that easy, because girls that I like are really hard to come by, ones that talk to me and not just use me for answers on the homework/test, or come and complain about being hurt by their BFs, and then there's the girl that used to talk to me all the time and then for some reason just completely stopped, and since I have no idea how girls minds work, I am trying to accept the fact that she isn't interested, but you can't get over a girl that you have liked for 3 years at the drop of a hat.

It's alot easier if you stop talking to her all together. Trust me.

Have you ever met one of those girls that you can't not talk to (double negative) yeah shes one of those

i feel your pain. i've been liking this girl since the 6th grade and now i'm graduating high school with the same feelings for her. even though i haven't talked to her since 8th grade graduation, i still find it hard to get over her. :(

This image is so fucking stupid, the friend zone is not just when a girl won't have sex with you, you can be friends with a girl, the friend zone is when a guy is attracted to a girl but she just uses him like a play thing. For example, I used to have long hair and it would happen to me a lot, the girls weren't hanging out with me or being friendly, they we're just using me like a toy, as soon as they saw me they'd run up to me and pet my hair like "OMG ITS SO SOFT!", and giving me a nickname, pulling me around by the hood of my jacket like "HEY GUISE LOOK AT MY NEW PET! LOLOLOL!" and they would immediately flirt with every other guy they saw and have a new boyfriend every week.

Now I've learned to stop giving fucks and that doesn't happen anymore.

Guy i have no idea who taught you that but that is not the friend zone. That is just being a bitch. Shit i used to have long hair too but whenever girls came up to me to touch it or whatever i would use it to my advantage and start talking to them. Your situation is that these girls don't even like you, they just like your hair. In all honesty your hair is getting friend zoned not you. You don't even talk to these girls so you have no right to say you got friend zoned. The friend zone is when you like a girl and 1 of 2 things happens.

The first is that you tell her you like her and she tells you that she doesn't feel that way about you but she wants to be friends (The original friend zone, not this bullshit these children say today).

The second which is what most kids think today, is when you like a girl and you become friends with her and you do all these nice things for her, and omg im so nice to her she should love me, blah blah blah, but yet you don't have the balls to tell her how you feel. So one day you're hanging out with this girl and either she says omg you're such a good friend, or she starts flirting with other guys. The gist of the second one is that the people who are getting "friend zoned" don't even tell the girls how they feel or try to make a move, its their own damn fault for getting friend zoned. Most girls DO like a guy who is nice to them and shit but they are not going to make the first move.

Thats being friend zoned, you are just getting used my friend.

MFW I talked to them
MFW I made it clear I like them
MFW I told them multiple times to stop fucking with my hair
MFW I asked them out, all of them saying now because they saw me as a toy
Even if I didn't have long hair then, they still would have just used me like a play thing, THATS the true friendzone, not getting told she doesn't want to go out with you.

1. Play hard to get. When you say "I like you" she says "Oh cool, so do a million other guys." IMPLY that you like her but keep her guessing. Push/pull.

2. Have boundaries. It's ok to get (a little) angry. "Don't fucking touch my hair I'm serious." She'll respect you so much for not taking her bullshit.

3. If a bitch calls you a toy you say "Fuck you, that's so disrespectful I can't even believe you said that to me. Don't you have some random douche of the week you should be sucking off."

Why are you even interested in these girls. Don't say it's anything beyond physical attraction because according to you
1. They're sluts
2. They're annoying and stupid
3. They're disrespectful.

There are plenty of beautiful (fucking sexy as hell gorgeous) girls in the world. Don't settle for one with a shitty personality. Have standards. You'll feel SO good turning down women (when they deserve it.)

I did 1
Did 2
They didn't actually call me a toy, its just how they treated me


I said many times this was a long time ago, making suggestions now won't change it, haven't talked to them in years

1. You probably didn't do 1 correctly.

2. If they still messed with you after you made it clear not to then you stop hanging out with them. (Which you said you did so there's one thing you did right.)

1. You never said any of that so i had to assume you were one of the kids who complains about being put in the "Friend Zone" when they didn't have the balls to say anythign
2. Stop letting them see you as a toy, grow some fucking balls and one day just grab the one you like the most and either kiss her passionately in front of everyone (girls like that shit for some reason) or tell her your not a fucking toy.
3. You are the one letting them use you and see you like a play thing, like everyone else you are the one who puts yourself in that situation.

To 1. Your basically agreeing with me here
To 2. Like I said, this was a long time ago. And seriously?Just randomly kiss her? That would just totally fuck anyone's life up since I was 13 at the time, she'd tell her parents, they'd talk to my parents, ect.
To 3. I tried talking to them, asking them out, everything. Nothing changed their opinion that I was just a game.

You probably came off as really needy. If you're 13 then yea don't go for the kiss. Girls are immature and stupid at that age. At 17-infinite the random kiss is awesome. Even if she turns away and rejects you it's better than not trying and never knowing. How fucking old are you now anyways?

Well the only thing i can say is you were 13, shit like that never works out when you are 13. Plus the girls were probably 13 too so they more than likely did see you as a toy. I had a girlfriend when i was 13 looking back on it now it was the stupidest thing i ever did. Sure i still talk to the girl and she is one of my closest friends but i was 13 and i had no idea what a relationship really was. When your 13 having a girlfriend is just a title no one knows what it really means until they hit their mid 20's when they actually get really serious. All i can say is you made the smart choice by not giving a fuck, relationships don't work out in most cases and aren't serious until you get older. Good luck to you man

I wanna thumb you so hard.

But maybe most guys are NOT concerned with sex, but merely want a relationship? (Probably not the case for OP due to the context of his post, but you know what I mean)

I don't really agree with this, saying that girls aren't machines doesn't disprove friend-zoning. It's irrelevant to say that.
Meh.

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Trick is to not be so forward, give yourself some space from her.
Don't text her all of the time and don't always be "cute." Gotta be playful, but serious.
Distance yourself some and I guarantee you'll find results.

that is very true but nothing about wanting to date someone or being really attracted to someone HAS to be about sex! it can be and it really is occasionally but its not always the reason someone is nice to a girl he is attracted to. the sadness from being friendzoned can be from the idea that you know you will never be able to call that girl yours, in a completely normal, platonic, non-sexual way.

What if friend zoning was only a thing used by companies to sell merchandise?

100% true

you can't always be sure. I have a friend who almost got friend zoned by a girl.When he realized that he was like ok if you don't want to go out with me i'll find someone else and so he started flirting with a friend of hers. When she found out she asked him out.

So yeah it might work like that sometimes

STORYTIME MOTHERFUCKERS

so this girl I'm taking to my prom is going to her prom with a different guy and she can't decide who she likes, she says she likes both of us so she's making us both her really good guy friends. Explain that

Since I'm assuming you were both being whining bitches about her picking one of you, she said fuck it and turned down both of you, eliminating the problem. She let you down easy by saying you could both be her friends.

lolnope, thanks for the opinion though. I told her that I liked spending time and it was completely up to her and she told me that she didnt know if she liked me or not. I talked to her about it once, i'm not a whiny kind of person.

I don't really agree with these, basically, both your comment and the above say that women can't be appealed to, that you have no chance, and that the woman has the only choice in the matter.

I'm not saying that. I'm saying complaining about being in the friendzone is like being a whiny 5 year old. And in the end doesn't the woman have the choice? And you can do all you want to appeal to her. And sometimes it works out and that is awesome. But when it doesn't, there is nothing you can do.

By God. Someone screencap this

.... i've asked an ex of mine if she was okay, and she actually went and said that whole speech there, almost word for word... I mean i can respect her honesty, but ouch....

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And that is how it is done

Full of losers. Probably about 1% of the people who talk about friendzones on this site actually got friendzoned. The rest are just losers who stare at a girl, try nothing to approach them and then whine like a bitch when someone else goes out with the girl.

You're going to get red thumbs, but, you're fucking right.

And now it's at +5. I guess you and the other guy who commented really saved my ass, thanks bro.

I'm not sure, last time i posted something like this it got +20, but then again right now it has -2, so i guess funnyjunk can be weird with thumbs.

it's all a thing about self-esteem and standards... most kids who complaining about that don't realise that the girl who friend-zoned them is way out of their league. if you ask someone who is more around your "level" you'll get a better response 9 times out of 10

all in all they just can't have the supermodel they want so they bitch and whine

Personally I think the whole league thing is bull shit. Generally speaking if someone lacks in one area (lets say social skills) then they tend to balance it out in some other department (intelligence for example.) Now of course society has made damn sure that you can only date people who fall in to the same category as you (in this example, intelligent socially awkward people,) if people were to look past these petty clique like trends then it would be fairly easy for a guy who has been categorized as a 5 or 6 by these people to go out with a "9". In practice of course this will never work unless the social media changes, which won't happen.

That being said, it is very easy for even the nerdiest of guys to get some, they just need to look at the right people. People are more likely to score with someone who is similar to them, but there are more reachers than there are settlers out there, that's what makes dating difficult.

so... in other words, exactly what i just said?

Yes and no, the first half of my comment said that leagues shouldn't/don't exist, the second half said that since they do exist in this society that we should shoot for someone similar.

yeah. the leagues thing is a thing created by society. it won't change, that's like trying to make a rock into a lollipop. it's just not gonna happen. i say deal with it and find someone whom you stand a chance of going out with

From personal experience I know that you're absolutely right.

it's kind of a "know your own game" thing. a little trial and error and you'll eventually find out who you stand a chance with.

Exactly. After I got my head out of the clouds, I started talking to this girl in my English class, she wasn't hot but she was really cute, probably a 7.5, and now we've been going out for 6 1/2 months.

The problem for me is, I'm really good looking but I don't think I'm direct enough or not alpha enough.

I've actually never had a girlfriend in my life even though I'm a pretty decent looking guy, most people think I've had plenty of girlfriends, but sadly it's not true ):

When you start a sentence with "the problem for me is, I'm really good looking" It's hard to take anything else you say seriously. But really, if you are good looking and you're wasting it because your to scared to make a move with any girls, just stop and man the fuck up. Their are plenty of guys who would kill to be in your shoes.

Amazing analogy, something that actually makes sense to people like me

shit no red thumbs here bro. you want to score an awesome girl you gotta work on yourself. dress nice, work out/get in shape, educate yourself. out of HS, get a job be successful. you want a winner be a winner, want to marry a winner, get your life together. and fuck it if your in love with a girl do what ever it takes to ask her out otherwise your always gonna think about it. I was "friendZoned" for a year, finally got the balls to tell her i thought she amazing and wanted to be with her, said she never knew i had feeling for her and yelled at me for not asking her out sooner. best relationship i ever had. Half of my beta evolved to Alpha lol

Well thought out analogy (and I thumbed it up) but I do see one partial flaw...

In a true "friend-zone" situation (actually being close friends with the girl, not just hanging around her pathetically) you already are giving her something of value (humor, a shoulder to cry on, fun activities, etc.)

It's like if you offer the baker something, he takes it, and still insists on giving the pie to someone else instead.

You guys are approaching it the wrong way. If you go in with the mindset "how do I get this girl" you put yourself at a lower value then her. You have to go in thinking "I'm the prize, let's see if she can win me over." and fucking BELIEVE THAT.

You are not a common consumer or the bakers friend. You are a reputable food critic of whom the baker wants badly to love them.

You keep it exciting and IMPLY that you do but keep her guessing and it's a fun challenge for her. You just say "I like this" and she says "Oh, so do a lot of my customers."

Ah but do bakers not also require friends? And in order to have any friends should it be obligatory for the baker to hand out pie to those who wish to befriend him? Friends are a great thing to have, and perhaps the baker would be wise to give pie to those who prove to be good friends. However, perhaps there are items/qualities x,y, and z which the baker also desires. The baker is faced with the following decision: if only so many pies can be given out, who should be given the pies? Well if we examine the problem more closely, we see that those who offer x,y, and z will likely not offer x,y, and z if they do not receive pie. On the other hand, those who offer friendship are likely to continue offering friendship whether pie is received or not. One might even go as far as to say that the offering of friendship is not seen as intent to solicit pie acquisition. The choice is still up to the baker, but when one offering is not dependent on pie, and may be more of a circumstance than an offering at all, and the other offering is clearly dependent only on pie, it is easy to see what some bakers would choose.

ps I think your'e very intelligent and aside from the perspective shift I suggest above this is an excellent analogy.

see comment above

I read and actually enjoyed. thumb
You know my post was supposed to be a joke right? I talk about people fingering the pie.
mfw when everyone hates on me for making a friendzone pic

This guy ^

What if I did ask for the pie, and got to the point of almost getting a taste of the pie, and then was told i couldn't have any?

Because that is exactly what happened to me.

Then you sadly consider that perhaps it wasn't meant to be, call the pie a slut and move on to some delicious lime jello, eat so much that you can no longer function, grow up and understand that if you carry on being so fixated on the sugar-y shit you'll eventually become obese and die horrifically.

I had to read that a few times to understand what you were saying because i was laughing to hard.

But, what if that pie is the only thing available to me?

It's not. Are you forever to be trapped inside a box with your head protruding from a giant hole beside which there is a pie sitting deliciously before you?

Eventually, after enough looking, you'll find a lovely fucking pancake and you'll gobble it down like a disgusting creature and the pancake will love every second of it because both of you know it tastes like heaven.

Are we still talking about girls here?

I'm not entirely sure we are. But god dammit, i just ate, and it's already making me hungry again.

I WISH YOU ALL THE LUCK IN THE WORLD IN YOUR ENDEAVOUR TO FIND THY GLORIOUS PANCAKE.

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