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#241 - EllieMuffin
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(11/13/2012) [-]
This past summer this one guy asked me out even though he had been told many times I was asexual (My friends had informed him, he didn't want to believe them. It was kind of entertaining.). Since I could tell he was completely infatuated, I decided to say just just to be nice. It ended up being an awful idea, him being a huge complainer and kind of obnoxious with innocent opinions about the internet (Such as getting embarrassed/uncomfortable at the slightest mention of anything sexual or socially unacceptable). I pretty much just told him one day that I was asexual and didn't actually feel anything special for him at all, and he got somewhat sad/angry about it as I proceeded to break up with him. He even said "I don't want there to be any awkwardness after this." but almost every day at lunch he gives me these creepy judging looks. My friends have also told me that he's said to them "Ugh, the two months I dated Ellie were a waste of my life" and so on. It's somewhat hilarious, because he's extremely two faced when around me and not.

That's all, I just felt like sharing. I'm bored in the morning, so I don't have much else to do.
#303 to #241 - Lintutu
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(11/18/2012) [-]
>asexual

shut the **** up
#304 to #303 - EllieMuffin
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(11/18/2012) [-]
What's that supposed to mean?

And why are you replying to this 4 days after I posted it?
#305 to #304 - anon
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(01/26/2013) [-]
YOU LITTLE BALLS RIPPER!
#306 to #305 - EllieMuffin
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(01/26/2013) [-]
Why are you sifting through my comments this far back?
#307 to #306 - anon
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(01/29/2013) [-]
lol I dunno. But I'm thumbing them up every week
#268 to #241 - dengekisushi
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(11/13/2012) [-]
I too dated a guy that I didn't really have any feelings for, but he felt the same way too; he was pretty much dating me so he'd have a date for prom, and I dated him because I thought "Hey, a boyfriend" (I'm socially retarded, and he was only my second boyfriend (and my last one up to date)).

He was bummed when I finally broke up with him after six weeks, but all he was complaining about was that he didn't have a date for prom. Him and I are still buddies, and it's not awkward since none of us have [had] any romantic feelings for each other.

I'm sure I would have grown attached to him eventually, but he complained a lot. He didn't like it when my one good friend would hang out with us, yet all of his friends would always be with us. And he was a little bit controlling, but a nice guy overall.

So I kinda know how you feel, just without the whole asexual thing.
#290 to #268 - EllieMuffin
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(11/13/2012) [-]
That sounds quite a bit like the guy I'm talking about. Hooray, similarities.    
   
I'm still friends with the guy aforementioned, it's just that they make it awkward a lot of the time.   
   
Whew, I got a lot of red thumbs.
That sounds quite a bit like the guy I'm talking about. Hooray, similarities.

I'm still friends with the guy aforementioned, it's just that they make it awkward a lot of the time.

Whew, I got a lot of red thumbs.
#291 to #290 - dengekisushi
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(11/13/2012) [-]
Yeah, the guy I mentioned is dating a girl I'm friends with that I also grew up with, so all is good; they've been together for almost a year now, so good luck to them.

And when it comes to comments about dating on FJ, most people take it way out of proportion and think you're the bad person. Pretty sad, really; I understood what you meant the first time I read your comment.
#292 to #291 - EllieMuffin
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(11/13/2012) [-]
Yea... People on the front page have an incredible talent for misinterpreting tons of things that are posted.
#293 to #292 - dengekisushi
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(11/13/2012) [-]






Especially when girls say it.
#294 to #293 - EllieMuffin
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(11/14/2012) [-]
Exactly.
Exactly.
#251 to #241 - dafuckisthishit
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(11/13/2012) [-]
i guy likes me... i dont like him... i still date him,  tell him i feel nothing towards him... how dare he get mad and upset?   
**** woman logic
i guy likes me... i dont like him... i still date him, tell him i feel nothing towards him... how dare he get mad and upset?
**** woman logic

#255 to #251 - EllieMuffin
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(11/13/2012) [-]
Since when did I say "how dare he get mad and upset?" If that's what I came across as, I didn't mean it that way at all. I was just stating how he felt about, since I felt that it was part of explaining this whole thing. I don't even know what the point of this whole thing I typed up was, as I said, I'm just sitting here in the morning with nothing to do. So I typed up a story.
#257 to #255 - dafuckisthishit
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(11/13/2012) [-]
it just seems that way, you seem to lead a guy on, break his heart and them victimize yourself somehow.... it seems that you never said at the start of the relationship that you were "asexual"
#259 to #257 - EllieMuffin
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(11/13/2012) [-]
I actually did though. I'm 85% sure he knew when he asked me. And I had no intention to victimize myself at all. I'm not even sure what I'd be a victim of. And plus, the reason I broke up with him was because he wanted something super romantic as a relationship, and I can't really provide that. I didn't intend to break his heart, just to end that relationship so he could get on with one that would actually be productive for his interests.
I actually did though. I'm 85% sure he knew when he asked me. And I had no intention to victimize myself at all. I'm not even sure what I'd be a victim of. And plus, the reason I broke up with him was because he wanted something super romantic as a relationship, and I can't really provide that. I didn't intend to break his heart, just to end that relationship so he could get on with one that would actually be productive for his interests.
#264 to #259 - dafuckisthishit
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(11/13/2012) [-]
i hope you are a troll because you really rustled my jimmies...

its just that you dated a guy you diddnt even care about, and them you seem like you give zero ***** for his feelings. Of ******* course he would say dating you was a waste of time. thats like me saying to a girlfriend after 2 months, oh btw im gay, i thought you knew...
And then saying, she gives me strange looks now and talks about me behind my back. im glad you are "asexual" because i hope you never breed
#289 to #264 - EllieMuffin
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(11/13/2012) [-]
It's incredible how good everyone on the front page is at misinterpreting things dealing with relationships.

Yes, I did date a guy I didn't care about in the way he believed. I went into the relationship, though, intending to hopefully care about him after awhile. After two months, I realized ti wasn't going to happen.

I'm not complaining that he said it was a waste of time, that makes total sense seeing as it really was when it comes to their wishes/intentions of a romantic relationship.

Eh, not quite the same. I had the intention of maybe them being the kind of person to convince me through a relationship to not be asexual. Just trying it out, didn't work out, oh well.

I'm not complaining about the strange looks and talking about me behind my back. I expected it, honestly. As I said before, I was just typing a little story meant for nothing but the means of potentially cleansing me of my boredom in the morning.

I hope I don't either, I'm not a fan of tiny children. When they get to middle school age, if raised properly, they're bearable. Late middle school. Anything younger I pretty much despise.

Well, now that practically all of the front page got together and thumbed me down to the depths of the sea and back, I'm going to go play Dota 2. Have a nice day!
#295 to #289 - dafuckisthishit
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(11/14/2012) [-]
thumbed you down for the utter ******** you have came up with you mean?
its just the callus way you treated this poor guy. if your not complying about the way he treated you after, dont try and make it look his fault and act the ******* victim.
#298 to #295 - EllieMuffin
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(11/14/2012) [-]
I didn't do anything of the sort. I never depicted myself as a victim, nor that it was his fault. You're having issues actually interpreting what I'm saying.

It seems like all you're seeing is that I'm a girl talking about some relationship that I terminated.
Then you apply stereotypes of a normal girl, which usually entails being absolutely retarded as well as not on the internet.

Nothing about what I said was invalid. If you actually bother to read it and not get angry and warp my words, I don't say anything with the intention to victimize myself or anything even slightly related to that kind of thing.

You and everyone else who thumbed me down this much have blown this way out of proportion. I intended this whole thing to be nothing more than a little story to share.
#296 to #295 - dafuckisthishit
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(11/14/2012) [-]
*complaining
#260 to #259 - thexxtalonxx
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(11/13/2012) [-]
Are you sure you aren't a lesbian? Or completely desensitized by the internet?
One of those things you can fix... you know.
#262 to #260 - EllieMuffin
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(11/13/2012) [-]
Pretty sure I'm not a lesbian. And yes, I'm completely desensitized by the internet, but I was asexual before this occurrence.
#245 to #241 - fizzor
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(11/13/2012) [-]
Wow. Agreed to date the guy even if you didn't feel anything for him. You didn't think what would happen eventually, did you?
#248 to #245 - EllieMuffin
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(11/13/2012) [-]
What would happen? Me feeling anything for him? I figured not, but I'd give it a try. He seemed like a nice person. Which he is, just other bits of him aren't quite my favorite kind.

And suddenly red thumbs. Alright.
#250 to #248 - fizzor
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(11/13/2012) [-]
If you already know you're asexual, you should've figured it's not gonna work.
#252 to #250 - EllieMuffin
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(11/13/2012) [-]
Probably. Oh well, it's over with now.
#243 to #241 - soronbe
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(11/13/2012) [-]
What you mean .. asexual?
#249 to #243 - EllieMuffin
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(11/13/2012) [-]
Just as Fizzor down there said, I don't feel anything romantically or sexually for either gender.   
   
It's not the biology definition, I don't randomly split off into another body, making a clone of myself. That would definitely be something.
Just as Fizzor down there said, I don't feel anything romantically or sexually for either gender.

It's not the biology definition, I don't randomly split off into another body, making a clone of myself. That would definitely be something.
#247 to #243 - oodlesandoodles
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(11/13/2012) [-]
Your grammar...it burns
#246 to #243 - fizzor
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(11/13/2012) [-]
Doesn't feel anything for either guys or girls.