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#12572 - thehandofgod (07/12/2012) [-]
Hey guys, i'm here for some legitimate advice.

So, I've been talking to this girl, about 2 months, who's from my school. Her and i both write, like the same music, like the same movies, have the same humor, everything.

We stay up till 1:30 many nights, just shootin the shit and i help her with her writing. We're going to the movies next week and I think this is the second time I've think I've ever really been in `LOVE` (sorry, just wanted you to see that word vividly)

Anyway, there's something under her skin that i want to help her with. Everyone at school, all year called her emo and lesbian. I know she's not lesbian, but I think she may have troubles. She acts sometimes like she is sad about stuff, but not really, not good to use titles, but "emo".

I feel like if we were to ever have anything to happen between us, i need to be able to talk about the shit that really bothers her. Any suggestions on trying to get her to open up her real feelings so that, if she needs it, i can comfort her.

That's her

Face: 7/10
Body: 8.75/10
User avatar #12578 to #12572 - humpaba (07/12/2012) [-]
If you want her to open up to you, sometimes you gotta push for it. The best way to establish yourself as someone that they can trust simply saying so and the other things you do in order to get yourself to give her the thought that you are trustworthy.
User avatar #12581 to #12578 - thehandofgod (07/12/2012) [-]
LIke telling her something like a secret or something so she feel she can trust me because I trust her?
User avatar #12585 to #12581 - humpaba (07/12/2012) [-]
Not so much as just exchanging secrets or anything like that. What you're attempting to accomplish is essentially trying to figure out what makes her tick. The only way to do that is to get her to talk. To get her to talk, sometimes all it takes is, "If there's ever something bothering you, you can always come to me and I'll hear you out."
#12591 to #12585 - N. Korean citizen (07/12/2012) [-]
I'm glad I see you on another thread here, I'm the anon from the other thread, which has disappeared for some reason. It's just completely gone. I don't know what the deal is.
User avatar #12589 to #12585 - thehandofgod (07/12/2012) [-]
Sadly, I tried that but she seems pretty closed up. Also, the only thing is, is that her turn ons are things that I'd rather not do. I don't want to change myself so drastically just to be with her. i think she should like me for what I am.

Her turn on btw are toms and skinny jeans and thor. I'm kinda bigger, so i couldn't pull off skinny jeans and I'm not going to wear shoes made for women.
User avatar #12594 to #12589 - humpaba (07/12/2012) [-]
At this point, all it will take is time. Even though she may not be willing to open up to you yet, you've established yourself as someone who will listen to her if she ever does end up wanting to have someone to talk to.
User avatar #12576 to #12572 - sphighderman (07/12/2012) [-]
Step 1: Don't rank her appearance. That's almost a guarantee you don't truly respect her.

Frankly, if this person is so important to you you would go so far to say you /might/ be in love with her, you need to show her some damn respect. Start really respecting her, and she will open up to you because she will admire you. Behave like a man, not a boy.
User avatar #12579 to #12576 - thehandofgod (07/12/2012) [-]
First, the only reasons i rated was because I figured some retard would ask me about it.

And i completely follow you on all that, but what exactly do you mean by REALLY open up to her?

Also, why were you so rude?
User avatar #12586 to #12579 - sphighderman (07/12/2012) [-]
I'm a rude person.

Also, I'm not sure what I meant by "REALLY open up to her" either, because I never said that.

Yes, in regard to your response to the other guy, make her feel like she can trust you because you trust her. Mutual trust is an absolute requirement for a stable relationship. Without it the relationship is doomed.

Finally, wait for the retard to ask you, don't just do it. Makes you look like a tool.
User avatar #12593 to #12586 - thehandofgod (07/12/2012) [-]
Fine. Jeez. And the only reason that i emphasized the REALLY was because you said it and i wanted you to know that i already have tried opening up to her, but apparently not enough.
User avatar #12595 to #12593 - sphighderman (07/12/2012) [-]
Wow, and I was being relatively nicer than usual.

Another key step to getting her respect is not to be such a bitch when confronted with a tiny bit of bluntness. Seriously, don't over react to things, it makes you appear weak.
User avatar #12599 to #12595 - thehandofgod (07/12/2012) [-]
Hey, hey. This isn't regarded to the ask for help. And i don't act like this, i just find that you're being a dick. All i wanted was a little help on how to get to know this girl better, which you guys did.

but you don't even know me and you're judging me on a few, not-so-choice words that i said. I just wanted a little help. That's all.
User avatar #12600 to #12599 - sphighderman (07/12/2012) [-]
Well OP, I don't have much else to judge you by.

Speaking of poor choices of words, be careful with the words you choose because often times you will only get one chance to use them.

Also,

"This isn't regarded to the ask for help."

"I just wanted a little help. That's all."

Dafuq?
User avatar #12605 to #12600 - thehandofgod (07/12/2012) [-]
Actually, the first thing, about it not being regarded to the ask for help, that was commenting about how you said i looked like a tool. But yeah, just please don't be so quick to judge.

However, you turned out to be not that bad after all.
User avatar #12620 to #12605 - sphighderman (07/12/2012) [-]
Well, thank you for not thinking I'm 'that bad.'
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