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User avatar #185224 - jessieqwertyu (2 hours ago) [-]
Do you guys believe in PTSD? A Psych diagnosed me with it today. I dont mean like Muh Triggers PTSD
User avatar #185242 to #185224 - titsmccracken (1 hour ago) [-]
Yes. Both my grandfather's and dad have it from war and my grandmother had it from someone shooting up the bar she worked at. The situations were different but the behavior after the trauma was similar.
User avatar #185235 to #185224 - xXThatxOnexGuyXx (1 hour ago) [-]
It's possible, man.
Some people have it worse than others.

A (bad) example would be me and alcohol.
For the longest time, due to years of verbal and physical abuse from people under the influence, I would freak out and eventually break down over the thought of anyone I know or care about drinking.
It took me a while to recover from this. I wasn't diagnosed with anything though, but I'm assuming it's similar/ related.
User avatar #185233 to #185224 - sugoi (2 hours ago) [-]
It is a legitimate mental condition yes.
Has the feminists made you doubt it's existence because they claim everything causes them PTSD? Don't let them get to you.
#185221 - anonymous (2 hours ago) [-]
so i like my teacher a lot. out of all of girls that i met in college i have never thought about someone as much as i did with this woman. problem is , not only am i too shy to talk to her, i have no chance to be with her because shes at least 5 years older than me. it feels bad man . i feel like im stuck, im looking at someone that i like right in front of my eyes and don't have the balls to start a conversation.
User avatar #185234 to #185221 - sugoi (2 hours ago) [-]
Bruh you could cost them their job.
Just bugger off till you graduate.
User avatar #185220 - ThatFatMummy ONLINE (2 hours ago) [-]
Ever since I was a kid, I had sleepwalking problems. Although it's much less frequent now, I'll still do it anywhere from once every two months to twice-a-month. I'm 19 now, so I think I should well be grown out of it.

What I do in my dreams range from banging on doors, pissing on floors, or even going up to my mom to tell her how much I love her and giving her kisses. It's completely random.

It's a horrible fear of mine to wake up and find my dog lying on the floor dead, or god forbid, a family member. Of course it's never happened yet, but based on how random my acts are, I can't help but be afraid of what I might do.

Is this a rational fear? What kind of precautions could I take? Should I see a doctor?
User avatar #185243 to #185220 - titsmccracken (1 hour ago) [-]
Yes. I have nightmares but my brain sucks at keeping my body immobilized during sleep. After breaking my hand from punching a wall I finially went to a doctor. Now I sleep with muscle relaxers and sedatives. Its changed my life for the better. I highly recommend seeking professional help.
User avatar #185238 to #185220 - xXThatxOnexGuyXx (1 hour ago) [-]
If it's possible for you, I would suggest seeing a professional.

If it's not, for instance if you don't have insurance and no money... Then I'd suggest taking basic precautions such as child-proofing things in and around your house. Such as your bedroom door handle.
However, I honestly don't know much about dealing with sleep walking. I haven't known many people who have had it bad...
If anything, in the short run, it'd be worth looking more into it online on forums or reading about it from books.
#185217 - anonymous (2 hours ago) [-]
dreaming about my ex gf when she was younger, the fantasies are mind blowing and make me happy, i know shes on fb now and i want her but will be trouble if i do
User avatar #185226 to #185217 - makotoitou ONLINE (2 hours ago) [-]
fap, then reconsider
User avatar #185216 - crimsongungnir (3 hours ago) [-]
So I need advice:
Things ended with my ex because he didn't have a job, a car, and wasn't in college. We're both 19 and still living with our parents, but I have plans for the future while he doesn't.
I miss him a lot, I still really like him and wanna be with him, but I want him to grow up first, I want him to be my equal, have a job, a car, and college.
I wanna start talking to him again, maybe he's changed, but if he hasn't then I'm back in square one, and I don't want that.
What should I do?
User avatar #185241 to #185216 - xXThatxOnexGuyXx (1 hour ago) [-]
Don't be quick to fill that void...
This is something that he has to learn the hard way, and if you come swinging back to him it won't help at all...

And honestly you shouldn't try for someone who has their priorities straight until you have your own straight.
Sure being single isn't the best, but you shouldn't jump into the first available option. And your ex should never be an option.

Set clear goals for yourself, keep living life, and don't force anything or rush into anything. Take things slowly with the next guy you like. And I mean really slowly. Be sure to know him well before full on dating him. (Courting is fine, but don't instantly become boyfriend/ girlfriend after a week or two of Courting.)
User avatar #185218 to #185216 - sugoi (2 hours ago) [-]
Cyber stalk but don't approach.
Just check his fb profile once in a while and see if he's made any progress in life.
User avatar #185222 to #185218 - crimsongungnir (2 hours ago) [-]
Yeah, that's the approach I've been taking, but his tumblr and instagram rather than Facebook.
User avatar #185223 to #185222 - sugoi (2 hours ago) [-]
ugh what a dork
User avatar #185225 to #185223 - crimsongungnir (2 hours ago) [-]
Yeah...and I think if I met someone else, I'd be able to move on.
He's nice, cute, great in bed, we have common interests, the only real problem I have with him is that he doesn't have his act together, and I'm looking for an equal. I don't have unrealistic expectations.
User avatar #185227 to #185225 - sugoi (2 hours ago) [-]
Hmm, my thoughts are that you might have them nostalgia goggles on you know?
But still, it's not a rush, you can either go out with him again and nudge him to better himself or just get back with him whenever he's got his act together.

Personally would have gone with option A and just not break up with em and go with the constant nudging but that's just my opinion, it can be pretty damn irritating being with someone doing not much the entire time so I can understand.

So I guess to sum it up... wait and see? probably not the advice you're looking for but at the moment not much is changing.
User avatar #185237 to #185227 - crimsongungnir (1 hour ago) [-]
Honestly, I don't disagree that it's nostalgia goggles. But it sucks, because the alternative is being alone until I find someone new.
And I was kinda going with your option A, but the way we ended...I was drunk and indirectly calling him a loser cause I was calling him out on not doing anything with his life. I feel bad because of what I said, but because I said it, y'know?
User avatar #185240 to #185237 - sugoi (1 hour ago) [-]
Eh I think it's more important to be with someone you're happy with than to just be with somebody for the sake of not feeling lonely.

Yeah I get it, what you said wasn't wrong but it's like, it really sucks being the bad guy I guess.
#185213 - anonymous (4 hours ago) [-]
how do i get my gf to go to her exam she is so fucking idle
#185214 to #185213 - anonymous (4 hours ago) [-]
Let her fail. It will be her own lesson to learn.
#185215 to #185214 - anonymous (4 hours ago) [-]
if i wasntt here her dad would be and he makes her go but im not her dad
User avatar #185219 to #185215 - sugoi (2 hours ago) [-]
So why are you trying to be her dad gawd.
#185236 to #185219 - anonymous (1 hour ago) [-]
think he is saying he is not her dad, so it isnt like it is up to him,
User avatar #185239 to #185236 - sugoi (1 hour ago) [-]
So why is he acting like a dad though? nag nag nag.
#185210 - anonymous (4 hours ago) [-]
I need some outsider's point of view on my situation.

I'm going into my third year of living with my parents past high school. I know my parents are sick of me living there with them but they know I don't have money of my own and help me whenever they can. I want to move out as much as they want me to but I don't have any clue of what to do or how to get started on my own.

I've thought about it and there are two options I could take. One, I have a job working in a jewelry store, working for 9 bucks an hour. Though I don't plan on having this job for life, this would take me about a year to save up enough money to move out and start a life of my own somewhere else. Or two, join the navy and get out of my parents way now. A lot of people in my family join the military so I've always been thinking about it.

Should I stay with my parents and work in the jewelry store or get out of their way and join the navy?
User avatar #185211 to #185210 - lgninjaleetful (4 hours ago) [-]
Well it is truly up to you of course, but if you don't plan on getting a higher education anytime soon. Going into the navy would probably be a good decision, that is if you aren't going to really regret going.

Plus you probably get a lot of benefits and such from going into the navy so that's nice.
#185202 - anonymous (4 hours ago) [-]
I am 18 and going to college this august.

I keep to myself most of the time and overall just avoid talking to people, probably why I haven't been in a relationship yet. inb4 ur ugly ( I am your average joe in looks, not bad, but i'm nothing great.

And I was wondering what a quiet person like myself has to do to get more friends or even a relationship.

I haven't had much life experience really and not too many friends. ( Mainly just a few good friends )
#185212 to #185202 - anonymous (4 hours ago) [-]
I feel ya man. I'm as shy as they come but I made fast friends with the people in my dorm because we all were first year students. You will too, just find people you have things in common with. In college all you really have to do is talk to people in class, join a study group, or work on campus, and you should be making friends just fine.
User avatar #185193 - solareyes (5 hours ago) [-]
Is there an Australian that would like to PM me? I want to know what it's like living there and stuff like that because I'm thinking of moving out of country and it's one of my top places I'd like to check out.
User avatar #185194 to #185193 - sugoi (5 hours ago) [-]
Why would you not want things answered right here right now?
Are you going to be asking about australian prostitutes or something? Cause there is a lot of thai massage places you could go to for your happy endings.
User avatar #185195 to #185194 - solareyes (5 hours ago) [-]
I'm a girl and I'm making the out of country move with my boyfriend.

I also just don't want to create a super long thread talking about Australia, unless someone wanted to do that then cool.
User avatar #185196 to #185195 - sugoi (5 hours ago) [-]
Yes do that.
Everyone here deserves to learn the glory of Australia. And it's fine, the thai massage places cater to women as well.
User avatar #185197 to #185196 - solareyes (5 hours ago) [-]
Australia seems like a pretty cool place. I just want to live somewhere different than how I grew up. I want to live my life, not work to pay bills, which I feel like is the mindset Americans have. I don't want that.
User avatar #185198 to #185197 - sugoi (5 hours ago) [-]
Unfortunately a life like that is pretty much guaranteed wherever you live, Australia included.

Change countries only if you're after a change in setting, so like a cultural change, wanna meet new people, see new things, that kinda deal.

If you want that kind of life you're better off backpacking for a few months.
User avatar #185199 to #185198 - solareyes (5 hours ago) [-]
True. I do want a change in setting though. I want to see other cultures and stuff. I couldn't do backpacking though, it's just not something that holds my interest.
User avatar #185200 to #185199 - sugoi (5 hours ago) [-]
Australia is a very laid back country, in my personal opinion it's a nice place to live but not that great of a place to visit since there's not much going on. You got a lot of fancy stuff in Sydney, best city to live in at Melbourne, great beaches at Queensland and basically desert everywhere else.

People are friendlier that's for sure but I still think it's kinda like an American wannabe ya know?
User avatar #185201 to #185200 - solareyes (5 hours ago) [-]
Well considering the mess America is getting itself into, American wannabe is cool with me. I mean a wannabe as in the same original values America was founded on, not trying to become what it is now
User avatar #185203 to #185201 - sugoi (4 hours ago) [-]
Well we got our own rules n poop but wannabe as in culture n stuff.
Like we always wanna copy what's hippin and a hoppin in America and stuff. I assume the current mess in America is the whole racist type deals going on? Like with Baltimore n stuff?
User avatar #185204 to #185203 - solareyes (4 hours ago) [-]
Yeah true. Don't a lot of countries do that? I wouldn't know, I'm just wondering And yeah. The biggest problem right now is the whole race bullshit and the "cops are evil racist bastards" crap going on. But elections are coming up and don't get me started about politics because it's literally just rich people throwing around their money to run the country.
User avatar #185205 to #185204 - sugoi (4 hours ago) [-]
Hmm racism is a pretty small issue in Australia although there is one flaring up recently.
There's some animosity between the community and muslims. Muslims wanted to implement Shariah law or something and the community was very against it.

That's about it really, the only racism I've noticed in Australia has mainly been directed at Muslims and that's usually only after some major Muslim related incidents, everyone else regardless of race is pretty much treated nicely. And despite me saying the racism thing against muslims, you wouldn't see anyone have a problem with them in regular circumstances.

No real issues with cops either though everyone is kinda pissed with our current government, everyone thinks the Prime minister is a dumbass but I guess that's what every thinks of every leader so whatevs.
User avatar #185206 to #185205 - solareyes (4 hours ago) [-]
Racism is considerably huge in America. It's getting on my nerves cuz people ONLY look at racism of the white man against the black man. It's so stupid and ignorant.

What kind of government is Australia like? Why is there a Muslim problem? Is it just that they want their religious rules to be the law...? Or recent mass immigration?
User avatar #185208 to #185206 - sugoi (4 hours ago) [-]
Yeah we're not racism to that degree that anything anyone does will get someone screaming "RACISM!", unless they were obviously joking of course.

It's a democracy where peeps vote but we're still a part of the commonwealth so the person we elect is called a Prime Minister instead of President. Things are fine I suppose, like all politicians, they make promises, they break promises, c'est la vie.

Well a few years ago, the early 2000s, there was a quite a few "incidents" with the Muslims Quite a few, maybe 4 or 5? cases of white school girls being gang raped by Muslims which lead to an outrage and the Cronulla riots. Things calmed down a bit but with the recent ISIS incidents Including one where a Muslim man held a coffee shop hostage which lead to I think 3 deaths including the gunman and some Muslim people trying to implement Shariah Law in Australia It's like their biblical law or something, has some pretty bad stuff in there like genital mutilation n stuff. people are just getting more and more fed up with em.

That being said I wouldn't call em racist since they don't hate them just because they're muslim, after all, my uni is chock full of muslims and there's been no issues whatsoever, it's probably just anger towards a specific group of them for doing this kinda stuff.
User avatar #185182 - joshualegitsky ONLINE (6 hours ago) [-]
Does anybody know how I can get my anime idea set up.
User avatar #185183 to #185182 - joshualegitsky ONLINE (6 hours ago) [-]
There's probably a better board for this nevermind
User avatar #185180 - Kadzait (6 hours ago) [-]
Fuck! Fuck! Fuckidy fuck! I'm in a fucked up sitch and need some fucking advice.

I been texting this chickadee whom I like like fuck, and she bangin' and all, and we going out Monday. All good so far.
However, this other biddy whom I used to be hella crushing on (because she bangin') broke up with her boy ( a bro of mine) a couple weeks back and started texting me.

The fuck I do boiz?
User avatar #185185 to #185180 - sugoi (5 hours ago) [-]
Hell naw you stick with the one you got for atleast another month boi.
You start hitting on that side hoe already and you gunna alienate yo self from both your current gal and your bro, that pussy aint worth that much.
User avatar #185228 to #185185 - makotoitou ONLINE (2 hours ago) [-]
fam, what's the word of god on hitting yo bro's ex? can you do it or is it deadzone?
User avatar #185229 to #185228 - sugoi (2 hours ago) [-]
bruh we got that timer on that shit ya dig?
gotta let that egg cook for a month before she free range or else yo bro aint gunna be yo bro no more.
User avatar #185231 to #185229 - makotoitou ONLINE (2 hours ago) [-]
thank mr thug
#185232 to #185231 - sugoi (2 hours ago) [-]
aint no thang bruv
aint no thang bruv
User avatar #185186 to #185185 - Kadzait (5 hours ago) [-]
She ain't quite my chick yet.
I've still yet to go on that first date even.
User avatar #185187 to #185186 - sugoi (5 hours ago) [-]
Yeah but you slammin dat pussy aincha?
User avatar #185189 to #185187 - Kadzait (5 hours ago) [-]
lol i wish.
User avatar #185190 to #185189 - sugoi (5 hours ago) [-]
Well fuck, still hang out wit that chick though.
Don't ignore chickabee and stick with chickaeyy, don't wanna count yo chicks before they hatch you dig? Plus bros are for life, chickadees be short lived, ask yo bro why they broke up, maybe he gunna save you from her wratch cause she was a naggasaur or something.
#185176 - anonymous (7 hours ago) [-]
is 1,600 hentai doujins over the course of 7 years a bad sign?
i have a healthy sex life but i also enjoy porn
i havent read most of them i just glance over them and download them for later
User avatar #185230 to #185176 - makotoitou ONLINE (2 hours ago) [-]
There are ~2555 days in 7 years. Assuming you fap once everyday to a new doujin, 62% of your faps are from said doujins.

You're fine as long as you didn't break your dick.
#185244 to #185230 - anonymous (23 minutes ago) [-]
i go through several a sesion 3-5 on avera
#185188 to #185176 - sugoi (5 hours ago) [-]
>2015   
>Downloading porn   
   
Do you want a police raid? Because that's how you get a police raid.
>2015
>Downloading porn

Do you want a police raid? Because that's how you get a police raid.
#185191 to #185188 - anonymous (5 hours ago) [-]
sometimes stuff gets taken down though
User avatar #185192 to #185191 - sugoi (5 hours ago) [-]
>>#185188,
You place too much value on hentai you "havent read" and "just glance over".
#185207 to #185192 - anonymous (4 hours ago) [-]
well... yes... but i might want to read it someday you know?
User avatar #185209 to #185207 - sugoi (4 hours ago) [-]
Maybe you can read them after the police raid in pedoprison.
#185177 to #185176 - anonymous (7 hours ago) [-]
im also just kind of a collectionist
i have around 1300 albums in my music collection and 200 videogames
#185171 - anonymous (9 hours ago) [-]
i met this girl on our first day in college (it has been 2 weeks since then) and i think im starting to like her but I'm not sure if she likes me.
we always eat together at lunch and text almost everyday. Also she is always the one who starts the conversation, I've only texted her first like 2 times.
yesterday we went out to eat something but I'm still not sure how are her feelings for me
halp, what to do
User avatar #185175 to #185171 - titsmccracken (7 hours ago) [-]
Just ask her
#185178 to #185175 - anonymous (6 hours ago) [-]
i don't know man
i mean, it has only been 2 weeks and we only see each other mondays and wednesdays
wouldn't be a bit rushed?
User avatar #185179 to #185178 - titsmccracken (6 hours ago) [-]
Then wait a few more weeks and ask.
#185181 to #185179 - anonymous (6 hours ago) [-]
but im afraid that in that time she will see me as a friend
probably I should ask her out again next week and finish this bs
User avatar #185174 to #185171 - makotoitou ONLINE (7 hours ago) [-]
yolo it, you wouldn't know until you try
#185168 - anonymous (10 hours ago) [-]
do most dollar general stores have wired mice? the mouse I have right now is pure garbage atm, and I want to replace it until I get a better one
User avatar #185159 - youregaylol (13 hours ago) [-]
you will never get a qt gf if you still live at home with mom and dad when you're at working age

:^)
#185153 - thtguyfromwork (15 hours ago) [-]
20 years old and can't grow a beard. Any ideas?

Thought about using Rogaine
User avatar #185166 to #185153 - ieatbengay (11 hours ago) [-]
beards are for faggots
#185172 to #185166 - thtguyfromwork (8 hours ago) [-]
Said the beardless man
User avatar #185173 to #185172 - ieatbengay (8 hours ago) [-]
Beardless by choice
User avatar #185161 to #185153 - xXThatxOnexGuyXx (11 hours ago) [-]
Man, I'm 20 and still can barely grow a beard.
It'll happen eventually. Up until this year, I only had to shave barely once a week...
#185162 to #185161 - thtguyfromwork (11 hours ago) [-]
A baby's ass has more hair than my face doooeeee
User avatar #185156 to #185153 - shaunata (14 hours ago) [-]
Do NOT use rogaine on you face, believe me, it will cause you to break out in serious acne before making you grow facial hair. Im afraid to say facial hair is mostly genetic also, or you still have yet to have lots of testosterone kick in your body.
#185157 to #185156 - thtguyfromwork (13 hours ago) [-]
Speaking from experience? And there must be a way though!!!
User avatar #185158 to #185157 - shaunata (13 hours ago) [-]
ha... yea it is from experiance unfortunately, problem is I can grow a killer chin strap/ neck beard combo but im still waiting for the facial hair in my cheeks to come in properly. Its still up to debate wether or not shaving stimulates hair growth so even if the hairs are pencil thin you could still try shaving that.
Also make sure you have your dietary B vitamins in check. So start eating more bananas. Im afraid thats the only advice I can give. If you dont see a beard by the age of 25 at most, im afraid its just genetics being a bastard.
#185160 to #185158 - thtguyfromwork (13 hours ago) [-]
I'm sorry to hear that. My dad started growing facial hair in his late 20s, and my mom's beard game is weak af, so I'll have to wait it out. But thanks for the tips man
#185152 - anonymous (15 hours ago) [-]
how to ask girls out pls
User avatar #185169 to #185152 - hirollin (9 hours ago) [-]
hey you wanna go out?
User avatar #185170 to #185169 - tostito (9 hours ago) [-]
no
friendzoned again.jpg
User avatar #185137 - dingdongsingsong ONLINE (20 hours ago) [-]
You guys have any good debating tips or training videos/sites i could go to ?
big competition coming up and my teammates are new
User avatar #185141 to #185137 - sugoi (19 hours ago) [-]
Use their own arguments against them.
Make sure to take notes of what they say and if possible, incorporate that into your own speech. Like if they talk about blah blah blah, bring that up and explain why they're wrong.
User avatar #185143 to #185141 - dingdongsingsong ONLINE (19 hours ago) [-]
do that/ done that
I just need a fixed set of rules or formal language or anything that i can give to my teammates to train them
User avatar #185139 to #185137 - womanexplain (20 hours ago) [-]
What's your topic?
User avatar #185140 to #185139 - dingdongsingsong ONLINE (19 hours ago) [-]
topic given 15 minutes before, just want general skills and training
User avatar #185138 to #185137 - alexanderburns (20 hours ago) [-]
the loudest person who says the most insults wins
#185128 - friendofaf (05/23/2015) [-]
Hello. I can open my throat to down drinks in a second or two. Is this unhealthy? (not the fact its booze the very opening of your throat itself is that bad?
User avatar #185142 to #185128 - sugoi (19 hours ago) [-]
Is it unhealthy to be able to do the splits?
No, and neither is this.
User avatar #185131 to #185128 - machiavellianhumor ONLINE (23 hours ago) [-]
not normal but not unhealthy. it's just something you can do
User avatar #185129 to #185128 - cackrel (23 hours ago) [-]
You have no gag reflex.
You'll make a great homosexual.
User avatar #185123 - skoldpaddacommala (05/23/2015) [-]
I may have gone full retard here, but how do I upload a new profile pic and profile background?
User avatar #185130 to #185123 - machiavellianhumor ONLINE (23 hours ago) [-]
go to your profile. click edit profile. click the spot for profile picture
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