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swaggerwagon ONLINE (12/17/2015) [-] i was hard friend zoned about 5 or 6 years ago until 2 years ago when she got a boyfriend and i just thought you know what, **** this girl. we stopped talking and low and behold about 6 months later or so she came crawling back to me but i wasn't gunna fall for that again. i kept my distance and now i've been in a relationship for nearly a year and a half with someone i had always known but never bothered with. this video is 100% true.
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swaggerwagon ONLINE (12/17/2015) [-] i never said it wasn't? I was just saying this video is right, forget the girl and go find someone else, she is not "the one"
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anon (12/17/2015) [-]
No like, you bailed every day for years. If she got a boyrfriend after what, 3 years, that was a major 3 year slot you let "the friend zone" dictate your patience.
There's no "friend zone", that's one of the most preventable wastes of time there is. Understanding that simple fact changes everything, and even changes other perspectives one has that prolongs relationships once you're in them. It goes down for generations.
There's no "friend zone", that's one of the most preventable wastes of time there is. Understanding that simple fact changes everything, and even changes other perspectives one has that prolongs relationships once you're in them. It goes down for generations.
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swaggerwagon ONLINE (12/17/2015) [-] she had several boyfriends throughout those years, its not like she was single the whole time, plus i didnt ask her out several times. she knew how i felt the entire time and I always made myself available for her. it wasn't that I was a beta fag if that's what you're implying it was simply that she wasn't interested in a relationship. I was too hung up on her to just say okay though, that was my problem, I was trying even though it would never happen.
I entirely disagree with your last statement though, There is a friendzone, it is almost never the girls fault though like most guys would imply. 99.9% of the time its just that the guy is too infatuated with the girl and isn't willing to look for anyone else.
I entirely disagree with your last statement though, There is a friendzone, it is almost never the girls fault though like most guys would imply. 99.9% of the time its just that the guy is too infatuated with the girl and isn't willing to look for anyone else.
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kegget (12/17/2015) [-] "friendzone" is ******* stupid
If the only reason you're around a girl is because she's pretty and you're waiting for your opening, then just leave her alone. Leading her on and making her think that you're a genuine friend and not some horny faggot is such a dick thing to do.
If the only reason you're around a girl is because she's pretty and you're waiting for your opening, then just leave her alone. Leading her on and making her think that you're a genuine friend and not some horny faggot is such a dick thing to do.
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djpharaoh (12/16/2015) [-] This happens to most guys, definitely happened to me. The fact that this video was created shows just how common and troubling this situation can be for a man.
When you meet a girl for the first time, it's actually very simple to calibrate where things are going to go. If you're attracted to her, then make it clear by being flirtatious. Make a move as soon as possible. The fact is, like guys, most girls already know if theyre down or not from the first minute of conversation, just by checking you out and seeing how you carry yourself infront of her and speak. If you're in, you're in. Otherwise, get the **** out of there and move on to the next.
This video is wrong because it makes a concrete guarantee that you'll never get that girl and thats completely false. There are DEFinitely guys who end up being with the girl they were just friends with. Those actually evolve into the best relationships. Problem is, that is a very rare case and most of the time, when a girl friend zones you, it means she already got a first impression of you that made her decide you're not a worthy mate, but certainly good enough to be a friend. My advice, along with this video's advice, is to STOP thinking about her, STOP giving her the time of day, STOP hanging with her and go improve yourself and talk to plenty of other girls. Don't be a dick, remain amicable friends, but stop being her gay best friend immediately and be a ******* man. In that sense the video couldnt be more right.
The point this video is trying to make is that 99% of the time, when you're friendzoned, you're not going to get her, ever, so spending any time trying to impress her or make her like you is a massive waste and some girls know that and they take advantage of that fact. The reason you're in the friend zone is because you're looking for romance, sexuality, possibly love and you've selected a mate who seems far better than the rest you've come into contact with. Unfortunately though, life doesnt give a ******* **** who you like and she could very well not think the same of you. So the trick is to stop working on an impossible project and instead go and find the one who finds you to be far better than the rest. Maybe she won't blow your mind the way the other girl did at first, but you will literally hate yourself after you get that first special moment with the right woman and realize you were chasing someone who didn't deserve a minute of your thoughts let alone time. Don't waste anymore valuable time.
Let me also point out, there are some guys who are in the friend zone, but only because the girl has him as her "dick in the box." Won't **** him but likes him enough that she wants him to keep chasing. So the best thing THAT guy can do is ******* MOVE ON. She'll suddenly show interest. Sex Drive the movie actually shows this scenario and it's not a bad comedy.
When you meet a girl for the first time, it's actually very simple to calibrate where things are going to go. If you're attracted to her, then make it clear by being flirtatious. Make a move as soon as possible. The fact is, like guys, most girls already know if theyre down or not from the first minute of conversation, just by checking you out and seeing how you carry yourself infront of her and speak. If you're in, you're in. Otherwise, get the **** out of there and move on to the next.
This video is wrong because it makes a concrete guarantee that you'll never get that girl and thats completely false. There are DEFinitely guys who end up being with the girl they were just friends with. Those actually evolve into the best relationships. Problem is, that is a very rare case and most of the time, when a girl friend zones you, it means she already got a first impression of you that made her decide you're not a worthy mate, but certainly good enough to be a friend. My advice, along with this video's advice, is to STOP thinking about her, STOP giving her the time of day, STOP hanging with her and go improve yourself and talk to plenty of other girls. Don't be a dick, remain amicable friends, but stop being her gay best friend immediately and be a ******* man. In that sense the video couldnt be more right.
The point this video is trying to make is that 99% of the time, when you're friendzoned, you're not going to get her, ever, so spending any time trying to impress her or make her like you is a massive waste and some girls know that and they take advantage of that fact. The reason you're in the friend zone is because you're looking for romance, sexuality, possibly love and you've selected a mate who seems far better than the rest you've come into contact with. Unfortunately though, life doesnt give a ******* **** who you like and she could very well not think the same of you. So the trick is to stop working on an impossible project and instead go and find the one who finds you to be far better than the rest. Maybe she won't blow your mind the way the other girl did at first, but you will literally hate yourself after you get that first special moment with the right woman and realize you were chasing someone who didn't deserve a minute of your thoughts let alone time. Don't waste anymore valuable time.
Let me also point out, there are some guys who are in the friend zone, but only because the girl has him as her "dick in the box." Won't **** him but likes him enough that she wants him to keep chasing. So the best thing THAT guy can do is ******* MOVE ON. She'll suddenly show interest. Sex Drive the movie actually shows this scenario and it's not a bad comedy.
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danniegurl [OP]ONLINE (12/17/2015) [-] They actually have videos saying exactly one of the things you said, to be flirty as soon as possible. Make your feelings clear.
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goobyman (12/16/2015) [-] H..H-ello
e... eat egg?
pls no leave..... no. uhm... uuuuhh... please...
e... eat egg?
pls no leave..... no. uhm... uuuuhh... please...
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CosplayNinja ONLINE (12/16/2015) [-]
This goes for chicks too. I went through a really bad breakup where I basically changed who I was to make the guy happy. Surprise, surprise, when I changed, he didn't like me anymore because I wasn't the interesting, independent woman he first met. So, really hard breakup that left me a total wreck for about 6 months in which I basically laid on the couch, cried, and didn't eat unless I absolutely had to. I lost a lot of weight and my friends and family got really worried. Then I got to the 'work on yourself' phase. I started Hapkido (korean martial arts), worked out like crazy, and ate super healthy. I got scuba certified, a motorcycle license and a new job. I became a much more interesting person. And then, while working at my new job, a guy that I had crushed on for years in college found me and asked me on a date! 4 years later, we're happily married and expecting our first child.
*TL;DR - the working on yourself thing really works. It's always my favorite piece of advice - you can't give anything to a relationship if your not at 100% yourself.
*TL;DR - the working on yourself thing really works. It's always my favorite piece of advice - you can't give anything to a relationship if your not at 100% yourself.
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anon (12/16/2015) [-]
And there's the problem. In that last sentence. "unless you're 100% yourself". No one cares what so ever if you're 100% yourself. I look at this video in disgust. "society wants you to get with someone", "You do this, you do that. You must change for her to fit with you". And yet we all know money>everything else a guy can offer. Might aswell make the video : Start becomming a millionaire. Instant chicks.
But yeah. Guy has to do everything yet again. I'd rather die alone.
But yeah. Guy has to do everything yet again. I'd rather die alone.
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motherfuckingkenji (12/16/2015) [-] From everything I've heard, changing yourself for somebody is never good for a relationship.
Not that I would know from experience, but still...
Not that I would know from experience, but still...
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CosplayNinja ONLINE (12/16/2015) [-]
Started out small so I never realized I was doing it until the end. You're right, though.
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danniegurl [OP]ONLINE (12/16/2015) [-] Aww, babies!
Also, yeah. I had several experiences as a girl like this. I would start to like friends and then be too afraid to say anything until I eventually got over it.
One guy I'm happy I didn't say anything because i thought he'd never like me, and i was right because he ended up being gay.
I was pretty much in love with a guy for a year or two and he was my best friend. I never said anything, and I basically just waited until I started to get over it. What I'm glad about is that I started to get over it in the first place, because I'm with the love of my life right now, and I met him when I was still a bit hung up on this other guy. If I'd met him sooner, I might not have gone for it because I was too in love with the other guy.
Also, yeah. I had several experiences as a girl like this. I would start to like friends and then be too afraid to say anything until I eventually got over it.
One guy I'm happy I didn't say anything because i thought he'd never like me, and i was right because he ended up being gay.
I was pretty much in love with a guy for a year or two and he was my best friend. I never said anything, and I basically just waited until I started to get over it. What I'm glad about is that I started to get over it in the first place, because I'm with the love of my life right now, and I met him when I was still a bit hung up on this other guy. If I'd met him sooner, I might not have gone for it because I was too in love with the other guy.
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idontevenfap (12/17/2015) [-] I was crazy for my friend a couple of years ago. Like, head over heels in love. But she wasn't into me, yet she teased me with this ******* "maybe one day" **** that I should've seen right through.
I spent the following year working my ass off at the gym, getting more in shape for her.
My improved appearance made me more confident. That confidence made me more comfortable around women, something I was always bad with before.
My buddy told me that women really find men more attractive when they've had more experience with other girls. I took that advice as "yo bro she'll smash if you hit up more girls!" So immediately I began flirting with other girls, and to my surprise it was a success. I did it all for this ******* girl. I had 3 hookups and 2 short term relationships. The reason they were short term was because I was still obsessed with this girl, and as a result, I wasn't necessarily committed to my relationships. I was just using them, is the not-sugarcoated truth, really.
The girl I was crazy for moved across the country and got engaged three months ago. I broke up with two girls that, looking back, I could've truly been happy with. In the end I'm left with nothing, and I should have just moved on.
Pls don't make my mistakes.
I spent the following year working my ass off at the gym, getting more in shape for her.
My improved appearance made me more confident. That confidence made me more comfortable around women, something I was always bad with before.
My buddy told me that women really find men more attractive when they've had more experience with other girls. I took that advice as "yo bro she'll smash if you hit up more girls!" So immediately I began flirting with other girls, and to my surprise it was a success. I did it all for this ******* girl. I had 3 hookups and 2 short term relationships. The reason they were short term was because I was still obsessed with this girl, and as a result, I wasn't necessarily committed to my relationships. I was just using them, is the not-sugarcoated truth, really.
The girl I was crazy for moved across the country and got engaged three months ago. I broke up with two girls that, looking back, I could've truly been happy with. In the end I'm left with nothing, and I should have just moved on.
Pls don't make my mistakes.
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xiontheshadows (12/17/2015) [-] **xiontheshadows used "*roll picture*"**
**xiontheshadows rolled image**that was a really bad story bro. You got screwed over both figuratively and literally, the girl you had your eyes on, she just kinda blew you off despite knowing what sorcery you went through for her. Sounds like to me you put forth a lot of effort and what you got back was a pile of squat-bent hell-raise. A moment of silence for our fellow FJ'er.
**xiontheshadows rolled image**that was a really bad story bro. You got screwed over both figuratively and literally, the girl you had your eyes on, she just kinda blew you off despite knowing what sorcery you went through for her. Sounds like to me you put forth a lot of effort and what you got back was a pile of squat-bent hell-raise. A moment of silence for our fellow FJ'er.
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idontevenfap (12/17/2015) [-]
I learned from my lesson and moved on. Y'know, I kinda was realizing what was unfurling before it all crashed down, so I saved myself in the long run, but that's a long story.
I got involved in a lot of things that helped me get my mind off her (not drugs unfortunately, but rather the Army and a change of scenery), and now it's just a stupid memory I can laugh at with all my friends when we're drunk, or grab them by the shoulders and yell at them when they're about to **** up.
Thank you kind sir. I liked the picture you put in your old comment better
I got involved in a lot of things that helped me get my mind off her (not drugs unfortunately, but rather the Army and a change of scenery), and now it's just a stupid memory I can laugh at with all my friends when we're drunk, or grab them by the shoulders and yell at them when they're about to **** up.
Thank you kind sir. I liked the picture you put in your old comment better
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crutos (12/17/2015) [-] Or you could also realize that you're in a position where you will always be the "you're not my type"-guy and just forget and give up on girls. In my family we once had a conversation about relationships and stuff, and as a mother do, she asked if I wasn't going to find a girl soon. and I said "nah isn't really interested in that" and my brother just said "is that even a choice" and I knew he was right. It hurt. but he was right.
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Daemmerung (12/17/2015) [-] Nah, man. Your bro's a dick for saying that, but trust me on this. Nobody is a permanent "not my type" guy. It just means that you haven't found a good match yet. Look at me, for instance. I'm fat, socially awkward, tell lame jokes, and honestly don't have the best self-esteem. I have been rejected more times than I can count. I'm not a LOT of people's type. I'm probably a 7.5/10 at best, imo, I'm boring, etc.. Yet, despite all my strikeouts, I've also had a rather large amount of dates(lost count)/"official" relationships(10-ish by now?), and that's not counting girls that just decided to send me nudes/proposition me out of the blue (at least 6, including a professional model ffs [she didn't send nudes, just asked if I wanted to hook up back at her place. In retrospect, I really should have gone for it, but again, I'm socially awkward af and seem to cockblock myself as a hobby]). No, I'm not everyone's type, but I'm some people's type. I'm absolutely positive that you're in the same position. You just have to force yourself to be more outgoing/social. It's tough, I'm well aware, but if you do, it makes a world of difference. If I can manage, I guarantee you can, too, so hang in there man.
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mathafaka (12/17/2015) [-]
everyone gets over these girls after some time, but at the end when you are confident guy and get a girlfriend you still remember the first girl that you loved, the girl that never kissed you the girl that is always in your heart (not telling this to your actual gf)
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sorcha (12/16/2015) [-] How many friendzoned guys does it take to screw on a lightbulb
none all they do is complaint the lightbulb and then bitch and moan when it refuses to screw
none all they do is complaint the lightbulb and then bitch and moan when it refuses to screw
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anon (12/16/2015) [-]
This is solid advice I wish I had in high school. Had "oneitis" for this one girl, and although I worked on myself at the time, it was always for her. Eventually ended up being forced to move on when she found someone else. Fast forward, I am happily married and in many ways better off than her. Not judging, but she dun goofed and that as awful as it sounds, it feels pretty good.
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blblblblblbl (12/16/2015) [-] This video is absolutely ******* right.
I committed some of these mistakes back in the day. Now I know what this video says, I've never "obsessed" with any other girl again. Hell even the other day I noticed a girl on the train that wouldn't stop looking at me so I initiated conversation and even gave her my number but she had a boyfriend. Still, it's a big ass progress for someone like me.
I committed some of these mistakes back in the day. Now I know what this video says, I've never "obsessed" with any other girl again. Hell even the other day I noticed a girl on the train that wouldn't stop looking at me so I initiated conversation and even gave her my number but she had a boyfriend. Still, it's a big ass progress for someone like me.
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anon (12/16/2015) [-]
this hit me like stepping on a lego.
was in this situation.
she probably liked me but she knew i liked her but i was too big of a pussy foot to ask her out.
she was disabled.. well sorta. she was in a wheelchair, but she could walk for 4 hours. she loved the things i like alot. met some other girls and like the first one, rinse and repeat. I've learned some things about love. its not about likes or dislikes or getting the pussy. i met friends who had sex multiple times and blah blah blah. i literally got bored of porn and masturbating. i felt very unhealthy. and right now im at that work on yo self before you wreck yourself part. dating is difficult if you dont know what your doing.
was in this situation.
she probably liked me but she knew i liked her but i was too big of a pussy foot to ask her out.
she was disabled.. well sorta. she was in a wheelchair, but she could walk for 4 hours. she loved the things i like alot. met some other girls and like the first one, rinse and repeat. I've learned some things about love. its not about likes or dislikes or getting the pussy. i met friends who had sex multiple times and blah blah blah. i literally got bored of porn and masturbating. i felt very unhealthy. and right now im at that work on yo self before you wreck yourself part. dating is difficult if you dont know what your doing.
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Smushy ONLINE (12/16/2015) [-] Honestly, i went in wanting to hate this with every fiber of my being, and it ended up being alright.
