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#320 - imonaboatman
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(10/02/2013) [-]
Speaking of self-esteem issues, I need advice guys. So I somehow got up the balls to ask a girl out last week, and she said yes. Then today, one of my friends tells me that she's with someone already and shows me a picture from the girl's instagram where some guy had asked her to homecoming and she said yes (I'm a senior atm). I already feel like she's way out of my league and was kinda surprised when she said yes, and now she could already have a boyfriend. I don't know why she would say yes to me then though. I really don't know how to approach this.
Speaking of self-esteem issues, I need advice guys. So I somehow got up the balls to ask a girl out last week, and she said yes. Then today, one of my friends tells me that she's with someone already and shows me a picture from the girl's instagram where some guy had asked her to homecoming and she said yes (I'm a senior atm). I already feel like she's way out of my league and was kinda surprised when she said yes, and now she could already have a boyfriend. I don't know why she would say yes to me then though. I really don't know how to approach this.
#323 to #320 - dreamcast
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(10/02/2013) [-]
Well at the moment this other guy is just a date. So I say go out with her on your date, impress with a good time and hope for the best.
#325 to #323 - imonaboatman
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Thing is, we haven't even set a time. I don't know how I'm gonna set one now that I know this. And I can't tell if she's actually interested in me or she just didn't want to hurt my feelings and never really planned on/wanted to go out with me.
#328 to #325 - dreamcast
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Well it's simple. Contact her and suggest a time. Ignore this feeling. It is a natural for people to date multiple people at the same time. I know that since you are in highschool you view things alittle more one tracked. However if you show this girl you can be fun and more mature she may want to be with you over this other lad. Remember if you freeze up and just don't contact her you will sit there and wonder what could have been. If you go through with it at least you will have your answer and you wont be stuck on this.
#329 to #320 - thirdjess
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(10/02/2013) [-]
It seems like that whole she got a better offer deal. You know in teen movies, how a dude gets asked out to whatever that reverse roles dance is called, says yes, and then gets asked out by a super hot chick the next day?

But it could be that perhaps she feels bad for the other dude, or they're friends.. something like that. So what I'm saying is, talk to her, it might not be what you see.
#354 to #320 - zapperbaconz
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(10/02/2013) [-]
Sorry man the best way to approach that is by talking to her. Not many things you can really do in that situation
#361 to #320 - Nameloc
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(10/02/2013) [-]
Play it out, see how it goes; Don't attach yourself too much to her if there's any possibility that she'll straight up leave you. (For instance, don't start growing stronger and stronger feelings while she's growing oddly more distant.)

I will never understand females. Ever.
All I got out from multiple attempts at a long-term-relationship was disappointment and depression.
At your age, most people are still getting into relationships for attention.
Even if they come off as more mature than "I only want this relationship for attention," you still have to be quite weary of certain things they do.
I had a girlfriend once, and once she thought that I wasn't flirting with her enough (and possibly once she got the hint that I didn't want to have sex), she started flirting with other guys. When I confronted her about this, she started to become more and more distant, and waited until after prom/ my birthday to break up with me.
The sex/ extreme flirting thing was shocking to me; She used to be that of a "Super Christian," in my eyes. Although at my age and for a few more years, everyone is eventually going to want sex just because everyone else is doing it; I'd rather not join the growing numbers in out-of-marriage pregnancies.

Turns out, for ten ******* years, she had a major crush on me; Not for who I was, but for my looks.
Once she got to know my personality, she didn't necessarily like me anymore, and waited a few months until after my birthday and prom to break up with me.

If you're super serious about dating, just wait and the right girl will come along.
In your case, you can continue on trying to date her, although just don't grow too attached to her. Be prepared for her to stop talking to you - It sucks, but at least if things end badly, you won't be as hurt as you would've been.

It doesn't sound right at all for her to accept another guy's proposal for a date.
Anyhow, best of luck, mate.
#388 to #320 - blacklightsun ONLINE
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(10/02/2013) [-]
Hey man, I wish you the best outcome
As Nameloc said, don't get attached to this girls yet, keep certain emotional distance, so if at the end she doesn't start a relationship with you, you won't get much hurt, and just a little.
Date her and give her the time of her life. Just remember, be yourself, don't go way out of character. If she is gonna like you, better she likes the real you and vice versa, don't idealize her, see her just as she is. If you both like each other (the real each other) then great!
Don't give up just yet.
I dated a girl who had a long line of men behind her, and I wasn't the tallest (I'm actually short, and she's tall) or t he more handsome, and I really felt bad because I thought i hadn't anything to offer her.
It turns out that, at the end, she prefers me over the other guys, and we are on our way to star a relationship.


Don't give up and give the best of you.
I hope you succeed, and as said before, wish you the best of luck for the best outcome
#463 - Kairyuka
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(10/02/2013) [-]
I KNOW my personality is rotten as ****, but I also know my body is beastly. Sure I might not be muscle-toned or fit the stereotypical ideal, but if I were a girl, I'd dig my body. That's all that matters.
Now if only anyone else though I was awesome too.
#462 - anon
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(10/02/2013) [-]
no, I am pretty cute, my mother said so
#337 - mcrut
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(10/02/2013) [-]
Getting some action with a smooth skin!
#333 - dtanobo
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(10/02/2013) [-]
i dated someone way more attractive than me. It also didn't help that she, at times, was very bitchy and cocky so she would let me know. Her friends would also remind her of how much better she could do. We dated for like 11 months and the last 3 were hell. My new rule is to date someone equal level than me. It is like a self-esteem murderer.
#336 to #333 - xsoulchaser
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(10/02/2013) [-]
What a bitch... I'm sorry. I throw a virtual hug your way, bro ;~;
#338 to #336 - dtanobo
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(10/02/2013) [-]
It's all good bro. It's actually a lot more chilled out without her. Some girls can be good looking and be really nice though. I just got the bitch. But why thank you
#339 to #338 - xsoulchaser
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(10/02/2013) [-]
No problem
Glad you're doing better. Hope you find someone you deserve, mate.
#331 - Blackula
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(10/02/2013) [-]
Oh how relate able this is. Why the feels.
Oh how relate able this is. Why the feels.
#326 - mattdoggy
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(10/02/2013) [-]
i'm fine with how i look even though i'm not the biggest and buffest or most handsome guy. I'm ok with my self in that aspect. But the things this body has done, should not have been done. Even though my sins have been forgiven they way deep on me, cutting deeper than any knife.
#352 to #326 - Nameloc
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That's deep, bro.
That's deeper than any knife could cut.

But seriously, I'm sad to hear that; Sorry, man. Sometimes life sucks. Other times it gets better.
#307 - anon
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(10/02/2013) [-]
the **** y'all going on about.
im ******* gorgeoous
#300 - successfully
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(10/02/2013) [-]
I think I look good.
#293 - thelastelephant
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(10/02/2013) [-]
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#289 - anon
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(10/02/2013) [-]
To the guys, just wondering, do any of yall have dots on the underside of your shaft?
#295 to #289 - thebritishguy
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(10/02/2013) [-]
what do you mean by dots? I have kind of dimples
#296 to #289 - lolwtfme
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(10/02/2013) [-]
well yes, should i worry? i tought it was normal
#298 to #289 - inoland
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(10/02/2013) [-]
like little bumps near the head? From what ive looked up its a fairly common thing and not something to be worried about. I dont remember the name of it though, sorry
#309 to #289 - faroeseguy
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(10/02/2013) [-]
I'm guessing it's either fordyce or pearly pustules, but they are both harmless and very comon.

But since we are on the "insecurity about weird body things", my nipples most of the time are puffed up, but if I rub them, even just a little bit, they "shrivel" and become sort of pointy (like normal nipples). Does anybody know about this?. I've read that it could be hormone disturbance of some sort.
#313 to #289 - iowndemostest
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(10/02/2013) [-]
Yes
#165 - ridivey
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(10/01/2013) [-]
made me think of this
#135 - mudkipftw
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(10/01/2013) [-]
Its so true....

Damnit, hold it together
#133 - bamsebjornen
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(10/01/2013) [-]
wtf man i didnt need to think about this before going to sleep
#131 - Ulmer
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(10/01/2013) [-]
god damn it.
#117 - cheeseboyofdoom
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(10/01/2013) [-]
Yesterday the front page was funny as hell. Today it makes me feel sad.
Yesterday the front page was funny as hell. Today it makes me feel sad.
#115 - KungFuZerO
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(10/01/2013) [-]
One time i accidentally looked in a mirror while making out with a girl
Never again
#96 - phsycokiller
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(10/01/2013) [-]
M-maybe...
#89 - buzzin like a bee
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(10/01/2013) [-]
Everyone has massive insecurities and things about themselves they hate

men don't tend to whine about it because we try not to show weakness due to evolution and society act confident, even if you aren't brethren
#34 - megawatt ONLINE
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(10/01/2013) [-]
first men rape, now self esteem issues... what is going on in FJ today?