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#174 - Tommovdv (07/12/2013) [-]
Why the **** would i need a guide to introverts. I not going to adjust my complete life style because someone doesn't talk. He can either reply normally or kindly **** off. Acknowledge their existence, jesus christ. If he wants to be acknowledged he should do something. If not, then don't blame me if I don't interact with him/her either.
User avatar #234 to #174 - durkadurka ONLINE (07/12/2013) [-]
This concept is saying IF you want to talk to someone who is introverted, this is the best approach. It's not saying "you must treat every introvert this way".
User avatar #183 to #174 - revanmal (07/12/2013) [-]
You don't need to adjust your whole lifestyle, just your behavior around that particular person. You do it all the time, it's not a big deal. If you can't do that, then YOU kindly **** off. No one has to bend over backwards to accommodate you, asshole, you have plenty of other people you can hang out with.
#187 to #183 - Tommovdv (07/12/2013) [-]
So no one has to bend over backwards to accommodate me, but we need a complete guide as to how to bend over backward to get along with people that don't like to talk to others. Its basically forcing yourself into his life. If he doesn't want to talk then why should I go out of my way to get him to talk?
User avatar #189 to #187 - revanmal (07/12/2013) [-]
Did you even READ the thing?

Here's an analogy:

An extrovert is the sort of person who invites you into their home without you having to ask.

An introvert is someone whose door you knock on politely before being let inside.

No bending over backward, no immense effort on your part is needed. Leave an opening for them to interact with you and go about your day. If they do accept your offer, they'll appreciate your courtesy. If not, that's too bad, but most times you're free to invite them in another time since you didn't push them into anything.
#195 to #189 - Tommovdv (07/12/2013) [-]
Yes I did read the thing, and when I greet someone, and he or she does not respond, I will take that as a sign that he or she does not want to talk. So I will not be like "Oh maybe he'll respond at some point." Apart from the fact that not responding at all is rude, and if he does respond to my greeting, and I continue to ask him something or tell him something, and if instead of having a conversation he'll just sit there reading a book, i would feel insulted. If i have to acknowledge his presence, I'd like him to do the same at least. Not just ignoring me under the excuse that he is introvert
User avatar #200 to #195 - revanmal (07/12/2013) [-]
If someone does just ignore you, that's rude, yes. But not all introverts are like that. If you have a specific person in mind with all this, that person is not just an introvert, that person is also anti-social and doesn't enjoy talking to you. An introvert with social skills will humor your conversation but put as little into it as possible because they don't want to talk to you.

If that's rude to you as well, think of it another way. All you want to do is read your book or listen to music or play a game, but then there's this person next to you who just will NOT leave you alone! You give them as many signals as possible that they're not interesting you and you want to be left alone, but they wont shut up! You didn't invite them into a conversation, they started it, and are doing all they can to distract you from what you want to do. And it SUCKS!

That is what introverted people deal with all the time, because extroverted people can be oblivious to the fact that not everyone operates like they do.
#212 to #200 - Tommovdv (07/12/2013) [-]
Yeah but that is someone that is nagging, like i said, if after a greeting, or first question there is no answer or a very short one. I will give up on trying to talk to someone who's obviously not interested. But i cannot look at someone and see "oh that guy is introvert, i need to approach this in a different manner" Now don't get me wrong I will not strike up a conversation when someone I don't know walks into the room. But when he's sitting next to you, it would be rude from my side to not say anything either. But I stand by my point that a complete guide as to how to approach someone who doesn't like conversation to begin with is stupid. I can't tell if someone is an introvert, I can't tell if he's lonely, if I don't get any signals, how am I supposed to know whats going on. They act like introverts are some kind of fragile object that breaks as soon as you breath on it.. If he doesn't want to talk, we don't talk, if he wants to talk, we'll talk. Why do they need to make things overly complicated?
User avatar #218 to #212 - revanmal (07/12/2013) [-]
The guide talking about introverts like some sort of alien entity or fragile flower is part of the joke, though it's still making a point.

If it seems complicated, you are the one who's over-thinking. It's not a complex idea.

Leave an opening. Did they engage with you? If yes: Great, conversation time! No: Leave them alone. They're preoccupied.

You don't have to walk on egg shells, just be polite and go with the flow, even if that flow stops before it gets very far.
User avatar #167 - asmodeusmx (07/12/2013) [-]
being introverted is really frustrating you want to express your opinions, talk to people but is always something pulling you back
User avatar #163 - bothemastaofall (07/12/2013) [-]
If I'm ever surrounded by people, like at a dance or something, I just tell myself to emulate liking the music playing or the environment. I pretend to have fun.
User avatar #204 to #163 - demandred ONLINE (07/12/2013) [-]
Me too! And when i'm at a party or school or something, if i don't have anyone to hang with, i walk around pretending i'm going somewhere and that i have something to do just to not seem like a loner
User avatar #323 to #204 - bothemastaofall (07/13/2013) [-]
yeah. it shows though
User avatar #371 to #323 - demandred ONLINE (07/13/2013) [-]
it does? crap.
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User avatar #173 to #154 - mankey (07/12/2013) [-]
I like to think of it more acting like extroverts are ignorant of people not like them and that they "aren't normal." So this helps educate without calling them idiots.
#172 to #154 - sanguinemeows (07/12/2013) [-]
Or magic energy -giving wizards....
Or magic energy -giving wizards....
User avatar #153 - aerosmithabc (07/12/2013) [-]
I am going to Case Western this fall and we have to read a book about introverts and extroverts. It called Quiet by Susan Cain. I haven't read much of it yet but it seems pretty informative and interesting so far.
#151 - anonymous (07/12/2013) [-]
I want a giant sized hamster ball
User avatar #149 - knowitallfourtytwo (07/12/2013) [-]
So since we're on a relevant topic, what is everyone's MBTI type? I assume their will be a crap ton of INTPs
#381 to #149 - alexanderh (08/22/2013) [-]
A mix of INTP and ISTP here, depends on the specific problem/conversation/situation. I have traits of both, but I am mainly INTP.
#324 to #149 - josephtheneptune (07/13/2013) [-]
INTP, Hello
User avatar #310 to #149 - zeazet (07/13/2013) [-]
i am an ISTP. it was a really close guess
User avatar #308 to #149 - mayormilkman (07/13/2013) [-]
User avatar #279 to #149 - heartlessrobot (07/13/2013) [-]
I was pretty damn close to INTP though.
User avatar #207 to #149 - psychosamm (07/12/2013) [-]
I took it a little while ago and im an INTJ.
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User avatar #188 to #149 - knowitallfourtytwo (07/12/2013) [-]
Also, does anyone have a good understanding of the cognitive functions and is willing to help me find out my type?
#325 to #188 - josephtheneptune (07/13/2013) [-]
Yes, I can help you. Send me a message
User avatar #228 to #193 - knowitallfourtytwo (07/12/2013) [-]
That test is pretty inaccurate though, only gives dichotomies, not functions such as Ni, Ne, Fi, Fe, etc.

Functions can only be accurately recognized through communication with someone with knowledge of them.
#327 to #228 - josephtheneptune (07/13/2013) [-]
You should also take Socionics
User avatar #355 to #327 - knowitallfourtytwo (07/13/2013) [-]
Yeah, in socionics, I identify with INTp and ENFj intuitive subtypes

In MBTI, other people have usually typed me as INTJ, INFP, INFJ, INTP and ENTP, I don't know which is correct
#377 to #355 - josephtheneptune (07/14/2013) [-]
These are sources confirming the complexity of your type, or as I call it, the "complexity of your layers."

I don't own this information.

You need to login to view this link [Myers-Briggs Personality Assessment © Vision Software - Please Understand Me Taken from David Keirsey and Marilyn Bates' "Please Understand Me"]

"This type has great depth of personality; they are themselves complicated, and can understand and deal with complex issues and people," and, " Not that INFJs are inconsistent; they are very consistent and value integrity. But they have convoluted, complex personalities which sometimes puzzle even them." This consistency of the INTP is also shown in the INFJ, as conferred, they are complex individuals. You probably had mistaken yourself as: INTP and ENTP in this consistency.

www.personalitypage.com/INFJ.html [Portrait of an INFJ - Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Judging (Introverted Intuition with Extraverted Feeling)]

"INFJs are gentle, caring, complex and highly intuitive individuals. Artistic and creative, they live in a world of hidden meanings and possibilities. Only one percent of the population has an INFJ Personality Type, making it the most rare of all the types," and, "They are deep, complex individuals, who are quite private and typically difficult to understand. INFJs hold back part of themselves, and can be secretive." Based on this too you seemed secretive, I could tell from your lack of reply, the amount of time it took for you to reply, and your rejection of my requests shows your "secretiveness."

You need to login to view this link [INFJ DATING BIBLE OR: HOW TO DATE AN INFJ]

"INFJs have an extremely complex internal value system. An INFJ will see if you ‘fit’ into their world, and they’ll bend their own rules if they really like you. INFJs tend to have very high standards, but are also very accepting once they trust you."
#376 to #355 - josephtheneptune (07/14/2013) [-]
You will need to send me a private message because that is a huge selection to choose from. An INTp like myself, will have to see if you have conflicting factors against your type. This being: sensitivity, anxiety, emotional stability, apathy, neuroticism.

Also, from what I see, I first guessed INTp in Socionics with a preoccupation with Fe (based on your MBTI selections). Which shows emotional maturity and personal growth based on this preoccupation, and also based on the variety of types you have gotten, this tells me the evidence. I have a theory based on MBTI, and that is when you see an individual struggling with their type, or when they have a variety of types from testing, it means that they are self-improving in the sense of self-exploration. This meaning that you probably have many layers to yourself (which you may have assumed), and that you have focused mainly on your own personal development in the investigation of all your functions. Which I could guess, based on this "self-improvement," and the "complexity of your layers," you are either maturing, or, you are either introverted.

I believe you are a "T" type, which indicates a "Thinker," but, it could indicate a oscillation between either T or F (which probably means you aren't either T, or F dom). This is because you do have a variety of "T" types which you have chosen, but, you have a preoccupation with Fe. So based on this, you aren't an F or a T dom because you should be certain. In this sense, you are not INTp, ENFj, or ENTP. But, based on your MBTI selections you are not INFP(Fi) or INTP(Ti), but, rather, anything that isn't a thinking and feeling dom.

So, you are probably either an INTJ, and a INFJ, but, considering that INTJ's are usually Self-confident with their type, and you seem to be second guessing yourself with a preoccupation with Fe (being an INFJ's second function), this concludes you might be INFJ from your message.

Based on your complexity of layers, this confirms my bias.
#181 to #149 - ButtonFly ONLINE (07/12/2013) [-]
I'm actually an ENTP.
I'm actually an ENTP.
#177 to #149 - thefifthgiraki (07/12/2013) [-]
Surprised nobody else has replied to this.
User avatar #257 to #177 - pulluspardus (07/13/2013) [-]
Same here, but this test is not exactly personal , its pretty shallow.
#144 - frankbeeflinks (07/12/2013) [-]
I like this a lot. It explains me with out even knowing I am one. I guess you learn things everyday.
#141 - infinitereaper (07/12/2013) [-]
I've always found this labeling thing kind of stupid. I think most poeple are a mixture of both (introversion and extroversion) to different amounts.    
This whole energy thing is kind of iffy, I mean, I'm sure there are introverts that get energy from certain people and extroverts who can't stand being around people for extended periods of time.   
We're always trying to classify everything into black and white, buy human beings aren't that simple.   
Maybe I'm just an oddball, but I'll let people get as close as they want to me, I don't mind physical contact or even the occasional being fondled (that's more of a gift really)  and I'm pretty social, but I spend most of my time alone.   
The point is I don't get this kind of stuff. People are people.
I've always found this labeling thing kind of stupid. I think most poeple are a mixture of both (introversion and extroversion) to different amounts.

This whole energy thing is kind of iffy, I mean, I'm sure there are introverts that get energy from certain people and extroverts who can't stand being around people for extended periods of time.

We're always trying to classify everything into black and white, buy human beings aren't that simple.

Maybe I'm just an oddball, but I'll let people get as close as they want to me, I don't mind physical contact or even the occasional being fondled (that's more of a gift really) and I'm pretty social, but I spend most of my time alone.

The point is I don't get this kind of stuff. People are people.
#164 to #141 - anonymous (07/12/2013) [-]
The point isn't to divide people up into neat little groups that need to stay in their own places, that mentality should have died with segregation. It's simply to describe a certain state of mind and to easily reference this to others, even it's a flawed label.
User avatar #139 - daniboyi (07/12/2013) [-]
I am clearly introvert. I go to parties and hang out with my friends, but I often leave before others as I get easily tired in large groups of people, while when I am alone and doing what I like to do alone, I can be up forever.
User avatar #121 - buttinspecter (07/12/2013) [-]
You've just told extroverts how to interact with introverts. You forgot to tell introverts how to interact with extroverts.
User avatar #205 to #121 - demandred ONLINE (07/12/2013) [-]
what about how introverts interact with other introverts? Two people sitting on a bench waiting for the other to start the conversation, that's my version of hell!
#137 to #121 - palindromia (07/12/2013) [-]

there. done.
User avatar #140 to #137 - buttinspecter (07/12/2013) [-]
...Oh good god. You're right.
#143 to #140 - palindromia (07/12/2013) [-]
extroverts do all the work. from my experience, it seems any kind of interaction is satisfactory. (except of course unwanted advances etc.)
#116 - BlackBadger (07/12/2013) [-]
I'm pretty extroverted and I always feel that people that claim to be introverted think all extroverts are stupid, arrogant, attention whores. I like to be alone and read books, or listen to music, but I also like to go to parties. I consider myself to be of decent intelligence, and I'm going to college, so I swear I'm not too foolish. I haveintrovert friends as well, I just wish that all these videos and pictures about introverts would put extroverts in a decent light, it's just kind of saddening. *End rant*
#123 to #116 - anonymous (07/12/2013) [-]
I honestly think a lot of people just say they're introverted because they don't know how to act socially. There's a difference between not knowing how and not wanting to.

Either way, it's a ****** excuse to not live your life, or ditch a party.
User avatar #126 to #123 - BlackBadger (07/12/2013) [-]
I kind of agree. I think that actual introverts exist, but I think 3 times as many are just people who to be something that they might not be.
User avatar #115 - useroftheLOLZ (07/12/2013) [-]
Ambivert master race.
User avatar #112 - nexcell (07/12/2013) [-]
i.. i think this explains me
#111 - IronWill (07/12/2013) [-]
So, if introvert is low on energy and they feel lonely, how ****** they are?
#105 - loodee (07/12/2013) [-]
Trying to get the last pringles
User avatar #197 to #105 - thejokermf (07/12/2013) [-]
I know. I hate it when my Pringles hiss at me too.
#103 - issoku (07/12/2013) [-]
Many people think that I am an introvert, but the fact is: I just can't stand stupid people.

I am so lonely..
#104 to #103 - maskedguy (07/12/2013) [-]
Maybe you shouldn't judge people before you get to know them.

I hope I don't sound like an ass in this comment. I'm just saying that you may be lonely because because you reject people before you get to know them.
User avatar #101 - Shiny (07/12/2013) [-]
I don't mind being asked to be social and active and will gladly accept if it isn't fun, but my main idea of fun is sitting quietly in a comfortable spot and working on my computer (as in doing **** , not just dicking around online), and while I don't expect people to understand things I prefer to keep to myself, when someone tells me that they feel sorry for me and volunteer to "help" me when they see me alone I want to throttle their ******* neck.
User avatar #102 to #101 - Shiny (07/12/2013) [-]
If it is fun*
#98 - peanutmonkey (07/12/2013) [-]
< my face when trying to get my cat
#97 - skysailor (07/12/2013) [-]
I think I'm kind of half and half. There are times when I like being extroverted, other times, I like being introverted. There may be a word for that but... mfw.
#117 to #97 - lordcaboose (07/12/2013) [-]
No one is a pure introvert or extrovert. In fact someone (I think Freud) said that a pure introvert or extrovert would be an insane person.
#124 to #117 - liquidz (07/12/2013) [-]
The insane asylum can't even handle me right now!
The insane asylum can't even handle me right now!
User avatar #118 to #117 - skysailor (07/12/2013) [-]
I could see that.
Alfred Kinsey said the same sort of thing about sexuality. No one is purely heterosexual or homosexual.
User avatar #145 to #118 - youngneil ONLINE (07/12/2013) [-]
Would a good example of that be someone that would never have sex with a guy but still likes to shove things up his ass?
I'm trying pretty hard to think of how you can be heterosexual but still kinda gay, without saying bisexual.
User avatar #148 to #145 - skysailor (07/12/2013) [-]
I'd say the attraction is sort of a subconscious sort of thing. Maybe it can be seen though. For example, I'm straight. I wouldn't have sex with a guy, but I can look at a picture of Christian Bale and be like, **** he's hot.
User avatar #150 to #148 - youngneil ONLINE (07/12/2013) [-]
Oh, that makes sense. Thanks.
User avatar #100 to #97 - IrishAssassin (07/12/2013) [-]
You are not alone, I'm the same way
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