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User avatar #145335 - balliwog (07/18/2014) [-]
Hey guys, short and sweet here, my friend has sort of taken a dark turn recently and essentially is telling me he wants to kill himself. I have no idea what to do or say so some assistance would be top notch. Is it better to forward him to someone more qualified?
User avatar #145336 to #145335 - fistfireace (07/18/2014) [-]
It would be better for him to talk to someone who is more qualified; however, it's always nice to talk to friends/family about what's troubling you (not you, but people in general). I think you should talk to him about it, first.

Things you can talk about with him: what's troubling you?, why do you feel this way, etc. Then you can carry it out from there. If you try to talk to him, it could make him feel better and thus he won't feel like he should commit suicide. There's really nothing you can do, if talking doesn't help. If he still feels the same way, he'll have to go to someone qualified for this kinds of stuff.

Or, possibly, he can tough it out on his own (for whatever reason he's suicidal for), but that would be hard and will take a lot of time. Also, you can try talking to his parent(s) about it. Yes, he'll most likely be embarrassed and whatnot, but you'll be doing him a favor because they can get the help that he needs.
User avatar #145337 to #145336 - fistfireace (07/18/2014) [-]
I feel like I could have stated this better since it looks kind of out of order, but I stayed up all night, so whatever I guess.
User avatar #145338 to #145337 - balliwog (07/18/2014) [-]
Nah man thats absolutely spot on, cheers for the reply
User avatar #145339 to #145338 - fistfireace (07/18/2014) [-]
Glad I could help then. Good luck with your friend.
User avatar #145323 - youngneil ONLINE (07/18/2014) [-]
Can I get the joshlol crying cat thing? Thx.
User avatar #145334 to #145333 - youngneil ONLINE (07/18/2014) [-]
I needed this for reasons.
User avatar #145322 - repugnantpug (07/18/2014) [-]
>Having a nice lazy day
>A wild plane appears
>Get to post
>Blow that mother fucker up like a christmas cracker
>Just shot down an enemy over our base
>Get rekt kiddo
>Phone HQ and report good news
>Long as fuck pause for reply
>Turns out it wasn't enemy
>Some commercial airliner
>End of the line for me now
>HQ is gonna fuck my asshole

What do FJ?
User avatar #145472 to #145344 - repugnantpug (07/19/2014) [-]
Well, now i just feel bad...
User avatar #145324 to #145322 - keltainenlumi (07/18/2014) [-]
get rekt I guess
#145306 - anonymous (07/18/2014) [-]
>Get dumped
>Feel sad
>Go on internet
>First captcha I see
User avatar #145288 - nigalthornberry (07/18/2014) [-]
So I attempted talking to her mom through FB and it didn't work , no reply. Any other ideas before I blindly run into Iowa?
#145331 to #145288 - dehumanizer (07/18/2014) [-]
Dude you are even worse than me.
User avatar #145320 to #145288 - lolshadowjewtwo (07/18/2014) [-]
No idea what's going on here, but Iowafag here, you can stay at my place
User avatar #145308 to #145288 - marinepenguin (07/18/2014) [-]
Question, why are you so dedicated to this girl who you've dated for like, 2 months unless its gone on much longer then I know about
User avatar #145351 to #145308 - nigalthornberry (07/18/2014) [-]
There's some stuff you don't know but i don't really know i just get a good feeling about her...
#145279 - anonymous (07/18/2014) [-]
I just started driving and I get really anxious. I've been driving on a permit for about 10 months now, and I often get to weird intersections and get confused and panic. I don't know what it is, but for some reason I always get really nervous and freaked out. What do I do?
User avatar #145291 to #145279 - moarpotatos (07/18/2014) [-]
Just drive like no one else is around and flip them off when they honk
User avatar #145289 to #145279 - alecbaldwinning (07/18/2014) [-]
Like anything else, just practice. Start in an empty lot, drive around in the less populated parts of town, work your way up.
User avatar #145284 to #145279 - makotoitou ONLINE (07/18/2014) [-]
go really fast
User avatar #145283 to #145279 - nigalthornberry (07/18/2014) [-]
There's nothing to worry about if its your turn to go then go
#145259 - anonymous (07/18/2014) [-]
Posting as anon because I know people on this site.

So a brief history before my issue. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years now. For the longest time our relationship has been pretty healthy and over all happy. Of course we've had arguments and disagreements but every relationship does. Our sex life is, at least I think it is, healthy. I mean we don't get intimate EVERY day, but on average at least once a week. We've talked about marriage and what not. (We're both 21 btw.) I always thought our relationship was perfect.

Continued because I want to stay anon....
User avatar #145297 to #145259 - confusedasian (07/18/2014) [-]
I replied down below in case you missed it.
User avatar #145272 to #145259 - alecbaldwinning (07/18/2014) [-]
rub some dirt on it
#145263 to #145259 - anonymous (07/18/2014) [-]
a few other quick notes.

I moved 3000+ miles away from all of my friends and family. I live with him and his family.
#145260 to #145259 - anonymous (07/18/2014) [-]
My issue is last night while I was sleeping he molested me. Now, hold on before you call me a feminist, I consider it molestation because I was not consenting in anyway. He took advantage of my body while I was unconscious. When I woke up I didn't immediately scold him, I wanted to make sure he was awake. I've heard that some men can do something of the sort when they're asleep. So I tested him, when I moved like I was waking up he'd stop. As soon as he thought I was asleep again he'd continue. I "woke up" and yelled at him. I was devastated that he would do that to me. I cried and told him that what he did was so fucked up. I asked him why he would do something like that. His response was "I'm sorry, That wasn't my smoothest move." and "That wasn't the response I was expecting." I kicked him out of the room.
#145261 to #145260 - anonymous (07/18/2014) [-]
Today he gave me the cold shoulder and treated me like I was a bad person. I text him after he left for class and asked him why he was treating me that way. He told me that it seemed like I wanted nothing to do with him so he made sure I had nothing to do with him. When I told him how it made me feel like all I meant to him was an easy fuck and how I was hurt by his actions his only response was "You are as far from an "easy fuck" as they come. " and continued on about my lack of interest in sex then said that he doesn't think we should be intimate anymore "at least for a while".

What should I do?
User avatar #145321 to #145261 - norkas (07/18/2014) [-]
Dump him. He doesn't sound like he's worth your time and effort at all and only seems in it for the sex.
User avatar #145332 to #145321 - thatnigger (07/18/2014) [-]
Dunno, if he was in it for the sex, why would he have been with her for so long if it was only once a week.
Not saying he's not in the wrong, because even the guy knows what he did was wrong, but I wouldn't say he doesn't care.
User avatar #145312 to #145261 - thatnigger (07/18/2014) [-]
You've not talked enough with him. If you felt like you had a health sex relationship but he thought it was unhealthy or lacking, then he obviously feels like he can't talk about these things with you unless it becomes a problem. I'm not saying you're the bad guy, he should have come up to you and talked to you about it if he wanted more sex and all, but honestly how would you have reacted if he asked for more? If you're saying you would have considered it or tried to make him feel better about it, then you could have told him that and there would have never been a problem in the first place. If you both communicated more, then problems would only happen less, as you would have known how he felt when he was doing that and he would have known that if he did that, it might hurt you.
Honestly, the solution is talk it out. Sure, he hurt you and made you feel insecure, and he's in the wrong, but if you're in a loving relationship that talks all these things out, none of this would have even happened. You both need to get to the point where you both could say anything to each other without worries, like he could ask for more sex without maybe hurting you making you think he's only in it for the sex, or you could ask him to do something for you now, because you feel hurt and want to trust him again. Relationships are a struggle, don't expect this to be easily fixed as well, but I'm telling you, talking it all out is so much easier. If you're both open minded and easy to talk to, it'll work out so nicely. If you're both not even listening and so hard to talk to, then what are you doing? Do you really love someone if you don't want to listen to anything they say and have nothing to do with them, ya know?
User avatar #145309 to #145261 - marinepenguin (07/18/2014) [-]
I think I'm having the same reaction your boyfriend is while putting myself in the situation. If I were him, I would think you were overreacting. You've been together 5 years, you've been intimate for a long time, so I would assume it was fine to do something like that. I know I wouldn't mind if it was done to me. I've done those things to my girlfriend and we've been together for about a year and a half, and she's totally okay with it. Now, if I were you, I would just tell him that it wasn't okay with you to take have him do that while you were sleeping. If he does it again, well then, you'll just have to go from there.
User avatar #145313 to #145309 - hoponthefeelstrain ONLINE (07/18/2014) [-]
I think it was a bit of an overreaction too but I think my biggest problem is he knew it was wrong, that's why he stopped whenever he thought she was waking up. If he had a fetish like that he could have told her or something and got her consent. I think they need more communication in their relationship
User avatar #145316 to #145313 - thatnigger (07/18/2014) [-]
Yea, communication is key.
User avatar #145270 to #145261 - jokekill (07/18/2014) [-]
How do you know he molested you if you were asleep?

My boyfriend did that to me once while i was like half asleep, aaaaandddd that's how i discovered my fetish.
#145271 to #145270 - anonymous (07/18/2014) [-]
Because when I woke up he was touching me and not just through clothes. He was literally inside of me.

User avatar #145277 to #145271 - jokekill (07/18/2014) [-]
I've been in relationship for 6 years, so i'm not gonna give you the "omg break up wit him" crap. Here's my advice, but keep in mind that 6 years of being with him has turned me into a manipulative bitch to get him to care about stuff.

If he doesn't respect your belief then act all serious about it. Don't just bitch at him, act distant and make excuses for not seeing him, when he finally cracks and asks what's wrong (obviously after a few times of saying "nothing's wrong/i don't want to talk about it) then bring it up, don't get mad because men cannot sympathize with mad. Act genuinely hurt, if he's anything remotely close to an average man then he'll feel really guilty. Innitially he will express his guilt through anger and will try to turn it around on you, but take no notice, carry on acting distant and dis-heartened. Eventually he'll go and have a long hard think, he'll feel like a fucking monster and try and make it up to you. This will only work if you act really distant, don't initiate conversation with him.

Probably terrible advice but it's worked for me time and time again.
User avatar #145278 to #145277 - jokekill (07/18/2014) [-]
That is, obviously advice to get him to care and realize what he's done. The rest you will have to talk out with him.
User avatar #145264 to #145261 - nigalthornberry (07/18/2014) [-]
He was probably in the mood for some fucking and since you've been together for so long he assumed it was okay.

Stay away from sex for a while and get back to just loving each other
#145266 to #145264 - anonymous (07/18/2014) [-]
Before I fell asleep he tried to turn me on but I told him that I had too much on my mind and wasn't in the mood.

Now before all of this I went on a vacation to see my family for about a week and a few days. I've been back for 8 days and we've had sex/been intimate at least 5 times since I've come home.
User avatar #145268 to #145266 - nigalthornberry (07/18/2014) [-]
I'd say give him one more chance because of how long you've been together but be cautious and leave sex out of it
#145275 to #145268 - anonymous (07/18/2014) [-]
I guess my real question is how do I find out if he really loves me for me or for my body?

Especially with how he responded to how upset I was. It seemed like my devastation didn't mean anything to him, he was more upset about the fact that I didn't like him touching me. He got mad about the sex aspect. Shouldn't he be more concerned because he destroyed my trust and severely upset me? If a man says he wants to marry you and says that you're his best friend... doesn't that mean he should care about your feelings and want to make you happy?
User avatar #145314 to #145275 - hoponthefeelstrain ONLINE (07/18/2014) [-]
he probably doesn't understand why you're so upset. His ego and pride is probably hurt because you acted repulsed when you woke up.
User avatar #145295 to #145275 - confusedasian (07/18/2014) [-]
Ask him about yourself. Test if knows anything about you. Favorite color, movies, how you like your coffee, just things like that. You said you've been together for 5 years? He should know about you. Not your body, but your personality and stuff. It's a good way to test if he actually pays attention for you, or if he's paying attention just for your body.

User avatar #145254 - jokekill (07/18/2014) [-]
I need help with what to do for my boyfriends' birthday.
He's a science nerd, he likes games, he's always desired to own an english lowbow but i can't afford one, he likes little cool gadgets and stuff.
It's next month any i don't know what to get him. I love him lots and want to make it special.
Also his birthday is over a festival so i was maybe thinking of surprising him with something, like gathering all the prettiest girls i can find to sing happy birthday to him with a cake.
User avatar #145281 to #145254 - xXThatxOnexGuyXx (07/18/2014) [-]
Etsy has some really nice custom work on there.
I highly recommend it.
User avatar #145265 to #145254 - nigalthornberry (07/18/2014) [-]
Thinkgeek has some nice stuff
User avatar #145267 to #145265 - jokekill (07/18/2014) [-]
He's also a metalhead so the only merchandise he'll accept is band related
User avatar #145269 to #145267 - nigalthornberry (07/18/2014) [-]
They should have a few things band related
User avatar #145273 to #145269 - jokekill (07/18/2014) [-]
Found some sweet gadgets on there, thanks!
User avatar #145256 to #145254 - georgesmoustache (07/18/2014) [-]
Price range?
User avatar #145236 - ugottanked (07/18/2014) [-]
i could use a little bit of advice regarding my netgear router and my wireless connection
User avatar #145239 to #145236 - aesis (07/18/2014) [-]
I'm not too great with this stuff but I've some knowledge, I'll see if I can help out.
User avatar #145262 to #145239 - ugottanked (07/18/2014) [-]
fixed it, turnso ut i was using the wrong security key
User avatar #145241 to #145239 - ugottanked (07/18/2014) [-]

the thing is, my router got fucked a little while ago, ive repaired the internet connection, but the guy said wed have to re-configure our wireless, even though it was working fine

fast forward to today, wireless just stops working

also my SSID (i think thats what it is) is just simply named Netgear, if that means anything

and i am completely clueless on this kind of thing.
User avatar #145245 to #145241 - aesis (07/18/2014) [-]
What do you mean when you say your router got fucked up exactly?
User avatar #145246 to #145245 - ugottanked (07/18/2014) [-]
was having a problem with connecting to the internet period, for two weeks

so i called a guy who helped me fix it, but im clueless about how to re-configure my wireless stuff, i mean im on the netgear router thing where i CAN reconfigure it, and im trying tochange the settings but i dont know if im doing it right
User avatar #145247 to #145246 - aesis (07/18/2014) [-]
I don't have any experience with Netgear but what I would suggest would be completely restarting the whole thing. I'm not sure what way your provider would handle it, I know with some routers in order to restart it completely new you can do it from home but with some providers you may have to call them up and ask about it.

Basically you should try and set it back to factory settings, input a new ID and password for your network and try it out then. There are so many reasons why your connection might not be working and it's definitely not easy to pinpoint them by vaguely describing what's happening. Atleast with a full restart you can cut most of them out.
User avatar #145248 to #145247 - ugottanked (07/18/2014) [-]
Alright, ill do that
User avatar #145249 to #145248 - aesis (07/18/2014) [-]
Hope it helps. Sorry I'm not too good with this stuff. Usually the easiest option is the best one though, you could be wasting hours trying find the exact cause of your problems or you could just wipe it all and clear everything to a clean slab.
User avatar #145253 to #145249 - ugottanked (07/18/2014) [-]

thanks for trying at least
User avatar #145223 - severepwner (07/17/2014) [-]
Can I get a fairly simple exercise routine focused on beefing up a little? I don't need to go crazy and turn my life around.

I just think I'm pretty skinny and would like a place to start.
User avatar #145311 to #145223 - marinepenguin (07/18/2014) [-]
Barbell training. Bench, squat, deadlift, overhead press. Best way to build mass.
User avatar #145292 to #145223 - teoberry (07/18/2014) [-]
gym access or nah?
User avatar #145310 to #145282 - marinepenguin (07/18/2014) [-]
Those won't beef him up very much at all. Bodyweight exercises aren't great.
User avatar #145495 to #145310 - xXThatxOnexGuyXx (07/19/2014) [-]
And that is why I don't normally try to give advice in the fitness area.
User avatar #145285 to #145282 - severepwner (07/18/2014) [-]
Ok that actually helps, but 3 times in a single morning routine?

I'll pepsi.
User avatar #145286 to #145285 - xXThatxOnexGuyXx (07/18/2014) [-]
Start off with one rep.
Then when it's easy, do two.
Then do three.
User avatar #145287 to #145286 - severepwner (07/18/2014) [-]
Alright thanks for the help.
User avatar #145258 to #145223 - alecbaldwinning (07/18/2014) [-]
pick things up and put them down
User avatar #145240 to #145223 - iridium (07/18/2014) [-]
If you're looking for fairly simple, have you tried just googling it?
User avatar #145250 to #145240 - severepwner (07/18/2014) [-]
Just getting opinions. Not to mention a good chunk are designed for landwhales trying to turn their lives around.
User avatar #145251 to #145250 - iridium (07/18/2014) [-]
Ah, I see.
User avatar #145222 - cloooud (07/17/2014) [-]
My house has been invaded 3 times by thieves just these past 3 months. I am tired of this, and have legal possession of a gun. The next time I visually see a burglar jumping the wall of my house I will open fire.
Is this the right choice?
In Brazil (I don't know about other countries), there is an law that, for example, if you supposedly kill someone with a gun, and the person you kill (even if he's inside your house threatening you) has a weapon that is weaker than yours, knife, etc. you can still get arrested.
User avatar #145293 to #145222 - teoberry (07/18/2014) [-]
So they're jumping the wall? Have you thought of barbed wire? Preferably rusty lol so if they get cut they're in for a treat. It might not be the best but it's a good deterrent, they'll likely see it and leave because it's too much work. Or you could try and place some/anything spiky under it so when they jump they fuck themselves over, can't get back up, and are basically at your will.
#145276 to #145222 - ipostcp (07/18/2014) [-]
What calibur do you have?

Also, if you shoot them in non vital areas such as knees or limbs in general, then they will drop. (you can shoot them in the gut too, but they need immediat medical care).
User avatar #145242 to #145222 - aesis (07/18/2014) [-]
What I would suggest if you really need it, keep cable ties, a gun and something like a baton in your bedroom. If you're being invaded then spook them with the gun, hit them with the baton and tie them down. I'd use the gun as intimidation for the most part.
User avatar #145238 to #145222 - nigalthornberry (07/18/2014) [-]
Get a second gun and plant it on him
User avatar #145224 to #145222 - severepwner (07/17/2014) [-]
I'm not really positive on what to say. The best situation to be in, is to have them in your house as a threat and to shoot them then. Even if their state is weaker, I'd like to say you'd be guaranteed to win in court, but it sounds like Brazil isn't too forgiving.
User avatar #145244 to #145224 - cloooud (07/18/2014) [-]
yes, that's what I thought, use the gun as intimidation.
My biggest fear is that he is also with a gun, and we're both pointing it at each other.
User avatar #145252 to #145244 - severepwner (07/18/2014) [-]
If you're both holding a gun, fire immediately, I don't need to explain why.

Only use the gun for intimidation if they are in fact weaker, if they don't freeze when you demand it, I'd recommend you fire.
User avatar #145218 - georgesmoustache (07/17/2014) [-]
Anyone else had a friend who left you for a girlfriend? Pretty shit really
User avatar #145220 to #145218 - ilikethisusername (07/17/2014) [-]
yeah....i had a friend leave me for his girlfriend. feels shit but hey, if he/she is happy then who cares right? he/she will talk to you occasionally, its not like you lost him/her forever.
User avatar #145228 to #145220 - georgesmoustache (07/18/2014) [-]
This was 2 and a half years ago he got with her and never bothered with me, it's his birthday today and it brought back memories and shit no homo
User avatar #145229 to #145228 - ilikethisusername (07/18/2014) [-]
maybe talk to him a little bit? i don't know much about his girlfriend here but i doubt she would stop him talking to you. message him and ask him whats up and so on.
User avatar #145230 to #145229 - georgesmoustache (07/18/2014) [-]
Good advice if she didn't dislike me, when we used to hang out when the relationship was fresh she used to have arguments with because I was there
User avatar #145232 to #145230 - ilikethisusername (07/18/2014) [-]
wait, wait. I'm sorry I'm just trying to understand this better so i can help you better. you said she used to have arguments about you with your best friend or did she have argument when you were around?
User avatar #145233 to #145232 - georgesmoustache (07/18/2014) [-]
She used to have arguements with him about me
User avatar #145234 to #145233 - ilikethisusername (07/18/2014) [-]
oh man. yeah, i can see that clearer now. does your friend stay loyal to his girlfriend? what i'm trying to say is that if you messaged him right now, is he loyal enough or faithful enough to his girlfriend that he will tell her? maybe that's not my best advice but i'm trying my best.

have you ever talked to his girlfriend? any idea about what she argues about with him? why does she hate you and so on?
User avatar #145235 to #145234 - georgesmoustache (07/18/2014) [-]
He would probably tell her, I have talked to his girlfriend and we used to get along, it seems like anything she doesn't want him to do and she hates me because when I am with him she doesn't have his full attention
User avatar #145237 to #145235 - ilikethisusername (07/18/2014) [-]
oh man......i actually know how you feel. feels like shit. same thing happened to me but thing is i didn't have that much interest in my best friend because i barely give a shit about people who leave me.

but my best advice is don't come between them. let him enjoy his moment with his girlfriend....i can't believe some girlfriends/boyfriends actually still do this.

do you know any other people he probably hangs out with other than his girlfriend? does he have any more friends? his girlfriend probably doesn't keep him a prisoner, does she?
User avatar #145255 to #145237 - georgesmoustache (07/18/2014) [-]
I get you, just happens man
User avatar #145216 - colfer (07/17/2014) [-]
Before you call me a faggot and thumb me down, don't you think we could use like... a cheer-up channel? Not like advice, you just go there and say what's wrong and hopefully people would cheer you up? I see so many comments where all you need is a pat on the back... But the trolls would probably ruin it
User avatar #145243 to #145216 - iridium (07/18/2014) [-]
That's kind of what this board does. Nobody here is a professional (with some occasional exceptions), most of the people who come here just need a little bit of encouragement. A lot of people come here on down days asking for something to cheer them up as well.
User avatar #145221 to #145216 - aesis (07/17/2014) [-]
Advise is kind of my cheer up board. I come here when I feel shitty to hopefully try make others feel better which makes me feel a little bit better in the process.
#145217 to #145216 - anonymous (07/17/2014) [-]
they would, they'd see "cheer up board" and just post "lol kill urself fag" all the time.
User avatar #145219 to #145217 - colfer (07/17/2014) [-]
Yeah I guess, It's bad enough here as it is
User avatar #145208 - nigalthornberry (07/17/2014) [-]
What's the point of colored text if half of them are restricted?
#145207 - anonymous (07/17/2014) [-]
there's something wrong going with my electric socket, yesterday I unplugged a cable and it started to make weird sounds like buzzing and sizzling for about 2 minutes. Now when something pushes to it, it does those sounds again. What is it? Is my house going to explode??
User avatar #145317 to #145207 - xXThatxOnexGuyXx (07/18/2014) [-]
Connections are bad.
Go to the circuit breaker, shut off power to the socket, double-check that there's no power going to, unscrew off the face-plate, and see where your problem is at.
User avatar #145209 to #145207 - nigalthornberry (07/17/2014) [-]
Probably just a bad socket
#145206 - anonymous (07/17/2014) [-]
mum and dad are literally having sex in the next room right now, it is nighttime and I got my tv on with sound, feels fucking weird
User avatar #145225 to #145206 - severepwner (07/17/2014) [-]
Just ignore it. It was two hours ago so it's probably over by now, but if there's a next time, using headphones at a drown out volume would be the best way to go.
#145205 - anonymous (07/17/2014) [-]
I just want to know what other people think of this but I sometime think about joining the army but when I do or I'm asked about the army, I always say "I would only join the army if England itself was under threat from another country" is this a stupid thing to think or is it a fair thing to think?
User avatar #145315 to #145205 - solareyes (07/18/2014) [-]
I'm thinking somewhat the opposite of severepwner here, in terms of the situation of your country. I live in the USA and I've been completely torn about joining the military in general. I'm now at the conclusion that I'll go through college and become an officer if I get a contract. If not, oh well; I refuse to enlist. So I'd be a situational joiner.

So personally I do not think it's a stupid thing to think of. You're willing to help your country when it truly needs you and not during a time of peace. I think it's smart thinking imo and kind of brave considering once your country faces true danger you'd definitely be putting your life at risk; most people try to flee from drafts and other stuff like that.

Everyone has their own reasons for joining the military. You have your reason and if anybody tries to fuck with you for it, what's it matter? Cuz you're doing what you think is right and what is helping your country in the best kind of way.
User avatar #145226 to #145205 - severepwner (07/17/2014) [-]
If you really want to go into the military, do it because you desire to be a soldier defending your home. If you don't desire it, then don't. The current situation of the country shouldn't matter that much. Those people that say that they'd only join if the country was under attack, are probably content with their normal jobs. If you want the military to be your normal job, then by all means go for it.
User avatar #145210 to #145205 - colfer (07/17/2014) [-]
I get your point, if your country was facing a real threat then it would be a different thing, like truly defending it and its people. If it's not under an imediate threat, I would feel uncomfortable with being shipped off to some random country to fight for a cause I don't understand or really care about.
#145215 to #145210 - anonymous (07/17/2014) [-]
one thing I remember about the British army.

it's tiny compared to most of the other world powers armies. so If I did join, i'd be part of a losing side. eh but whatever, I'll go out in a blaze of glory.
User avatar #145191 - lskovfoged ONLINE (07/17/2014) [-]
So, guys, been a while since I've been on this board, however let's get to the point.

Recently one of my friends died in an accident, and I'm having a real hard time to cope with it, and figuring out what to do about it. It's not the first time I've lost someone close to me, but this time it just feels so much worse, since this guy was a childhood friend.

If anyone here have experienced something similar, is there a good way to cope with the situation, or do I just have to let time do it's wonders?
User avatar #145203 to #145191 - nigalthornberry (07/17/2014) [-]
Well i watched my dad die, I don't know how similar this is to yours but i found stuff in life that made me happy and focused on that
#145170 - atrocitustheking (07/17/2014) [-]
Alright, no idea why I'm asking you guys, but here goes.
How do you tell if a girl is actually sweet on you? As opposed to just harmless flirting or joking. Does she want to be friends or more?
Are there any blatant indicators, flashing lights that scream: SHE LIKES YOU, DUMMY.
In my experience, these kinds of things are comepletely obvious to people outside the situation.
User avatar #145294 to #145170 - teoberry (07/18/2014) [-]
Judging on what she's saying, I'd say make a move.
User avatar #145299 to #145294 - atrocitustheking (07/18/2014) [-]
Well, it's only been 2 weeks of long distance texting (though we'll be moving closer soon). But... I don't know, do you even care about the details?
User avatar #145300 to #145299 - teoberry (07/18/2014) [-]
My situation was kind of the same (what with long distance and shit). I was at a party when a chick sent a snapchat of me and some buddies taking shots. One of her friends thought I was hot as fuck and got my number, and now we're prettttttty fucking close.
User avatar #145301 to #145300 - atrocitustheking (07/18/2014) [-]
Yeah. College buddy's sister. First met me in church, asked her brother "who that hot guy was he came with". She seems cool. Works with special needs kids so she's not a bitch or anything. She is not bad either, by any stretch. She's like Anne Hathaway with glasses.
Fast forward three years later, and she gave her phone number to me out of the blue.
My problems with previous relationships sprang from me moving too fast and jumping the gun. Now I want to take it slow and not rush things. My current plan (and I've been advised to continue) is to just to keep cool and let her make the first move.
Of course, now I'm worried I'll miss something painfully obvious. Like I said, are there general signs that would point towards one way or the other?
P.S. Thanks for responding. It's not a life-or-death crisis, but I appreciate the friendly advice nonetheless.
User avatar #145302 to #145301 - teoberry (07/18/2014) [-]
I'd say she's kind of already given you the signs. TBH this is the closest/"farthest" I've gotten with a girl since I used to go to a shitty private school and I was a bitch first semester of high school.
User avatar #145303 to #145302 - atrocitustheking (07/18/2014) [-]
See, I figured this kind of thing would happen. My friends get in romantic situations and I get the urge to bop 'em on the head, because the answer is so obvious to me it's painful. Yet when I'm the one in the situation? Suddenly my obliviousness meter is set to over 9000.
So, I keep taking it slow, let her make the first move?
User avatar #145304 to #145303 - teoberry (07/18/2014) [-]
I'd say give her a bit to make the move, if you two are still really close but past friendship, she might just be nervous. If that happens then make it.
User avatar #145305 to #145304 - atrocitustheking (07/18/2014) [-]
I see. And what move should I make? I'm a little trigger shy because of some really stupid shit as a high-schooler. Not quite "hey we should fuck" but something close to that. That was years ago and I'm nowhere near that dumb now, but I want to avoid that at any cost.
User avatar #145212 to #145170 - dingdongsingsong (07/17/2014) [-]
As a woman who has a huge ego/pride i usually don't let guys know i like them inb4 im a dick, i just prefer the guy making the first move without me having to acknowledge them
Anywhooo signs that could help
>She messages you first occasionally
>She is sorta mean to you/ like bullies you a little
>shares personal things , family problems, emotional problems if she shares things like her period or poop stories she's friend zoned you
Any more questions ask away

User avatar #145274 to #145212 - atrocitustheking (07/18/2014) [-]
That... seems the opposite of what I'd suspect. You sure you are just projecting?
User avatar #145328 to #145274 - dingdongsingsong (07/18/2014) [-]
Yeah, teasing is like grade school bullying, they tease you not to look like they like you even when they do.
and the trusting thing, it takes a lot for a girl to tell you something personal because we're always in the fear of being judged,
Go for it, you should be like " I really like talking to you, i really like you, would you like going out sometime ? or be straight forward saying you want her to be your girlfriend , depends on the girl . DO NOT DO THAT IF SHES THE SHY TYPE
User avatar #145318 to #145274 - solareyes (07/18/2014) [-]
Nahhh she's not projecting. It's what I do too.
>1st message means she's trying to give you a sign without being creepy or overbearing
>Mean/bullying is more like teasing and sarcasm
>Personal problems n shit, hell yeah. It means she trusts you enough to see what you'd do with that info. It's a kind of a test. What, I don't know. Hell I don't even know why I do that to guys.
So if your girl is doing any of that, GO FOR IT. Hell, if not, what's it hurt for you to just ask? Rather than confessing you like her, which may scare her away, ask her how she feels about you and then go from there. I'm a proud supporter of the guy making a first move unfortunately and there's a chance she's waiting.
#145329 to #145318 - dingdongsingsong (07/18/2014) [-]
Amen to that sister
Amen to that sister
#145171 to #145170 - dehumanizer (07/17/2014) [-]
Lol nope its all in your head, dont make a move she doesent really like you.
Lol nope its all in your head, dont make a move she doesent really like you.
#145195 to #145171 - anonymous (07/17/2014) [-]
you are the worst.

this isn't even funny, nothing you post here is in anyway amusing.

you give this bullshit advice to people in need of actual help, that's worse than anything any troll on this site has done. the more you post the more it proves how much of a cunt you are.

I hate you so much.
#145198 to #145195 - dehumanizer (07/17/2014) [-]
then make me stop preferably by getting me a qt 3.14 gf
User avatar #145227 to #145198 - severepwner (07/17/2014) [-]
Let me just get on Amazon and gift you a girlfriend. If you want a girl, you'll get one once you earn them, not because it's a right you deserve.

Stop giving up and focus on improving yourself into a man that women can desire.
#145326 to #145227 - dehumanizer (07/18/2014) [-]
but theer are worse guys out there that have qt gfs
User avatar #145526 to #145326 - severepwner (07/19/2014) [-]
I'm not going to pretend like the world was designed perfect.

Women are attracted by confident alpha males. Not moping, depressed betas.

I'm not going to pretend it's simple, but unless you start turning yourself into a confident man, you're not going to get any closer to girls. Trust me, when you stride towards becoming an alpha male, you will fell a trillion times happier.
#145199 to #145198 - anonymous (07/17/2014) [-]
people here have helped, we have told you what to do.

why have you not done it?

note: If you do not answer this question, I will not reply to you any more and you are on you own. it will all be your fault.
#145200 to #145199 - dehumanizer (07/17/2014) [-]
i have tried but i most of the times it either doesent straight up work or i just cant (like dont be sad, lol easier said then done)
#145202 to #145200 - anonymous (07/17/2014) [-]
what have you tried?
#145327 to #145202 - dehumanizer (07/18/2014) [-]
mostly the serge's advice on trying to imporve myself
#145197 to #145195 - atrocitustheking (07/17/2014) [-]
I feel stupid for falling for it. His name should have given it away.
User avatar #145298 to #145197 - teoberry (07/18/2014) [-]
You fell for nothing man. That's what he's like.
#145173 to #145171 - atrocitustheking (07/17/2014) [-]
Somehow I get the sense that wasn't a serious answer. Seeing your name doesn't help my skepticism.
#145174 to #145173 - dehumanizer (07/17/2014) [-]
Its what happened to me bruh, got hard heavy feels for a girl but turns out she was just beeing cheerful, nice and friendly, something thats alien to me since im depressed, mean and anti-social. Also she was very attractive and i couldnt help it. Dont give yourself false hope man, its cancer.
User avatar #145175 to #145174 - atrocitustheking (07/17/2014) [-]
She specifically called me "that hot guy" and gave me her number out of the fucking blue.
#145177 to #145175 - dehumanizer (07/17/2014) [-]
Well i got no fucking idea really, this seems event seems too surreal for my life so i cant apply thought unburdened by sorrow. You're on your own, good luck.
#145178 to #145177 - atrocitustheking (07/17/2014) [-]
Well you're just mister fucking sunshine, aren't you?
#145196 to #145178 - anonymous (07/17/2014) [-]
ignore everything he says.

for your sake.
#145179 to #145178 - dehumanizer (07/17/2014) [-]
Well i try to help since maybe then someone will help me....
User avatar #145296 to #145179 - teoberry (07/18/2014) [-]
We've all tried to help you, man. Have you taken Sarge's advice? You can get a girl. 7 months ago I was a massive bitch. I'd talk to girls but it'd be simple shit. All it took was one girl to change me. You got this man. I do believe in you.
#145330 to #145296 - dehumanizer (07/18/2014) [-]
i try but still nothing, guess its too early to give up
User avatar #145414 to #145330 - teoberry (07/18/2014) [-]
Wayyyyyyyy too early man.
#145415 to #145414 - dehumanizer (07/18/2014) [-]
see my euphoric post >#145356
User avatar #145417 to #145415 - teoberry (07/18/2014) [-]
Don't focus on "the one" because she's not the one if she doesn't like you back.
User avatar #145416 to #145415 - teoberry (07/18/2014) [-]
Good for you. Sometimes you gotta lick your wounds and move on. Linkin Park - Crawling (2015 Trap Remix)
#145180 to #145179 - atrocitustheking (07/17/2014) [-]
Dude, all I can say is this: I've got depression too. It might not be clinical for you, but here's the thing, even with meds, it's a neverending battle. You've got to wake up everyday and decide to make the best of the morning, noon, and night.  It's not easy, Hell, I struggle sometimes, but just know it can be beaten. You're stronger than you think you are.   
Also, exercise, even if it's just a nice long walk, will do wonders. Sittin' around all day or lying in bed for hours just makes it much worse.
Dude, all I can say is this: I've got depression too. It might not be clinical for you, but here's the thing, even with meds, it's a neverending battle. You've got to wake up everyday and decide to make the best of the morning, noon, and night. It's not easy, Hell, I struggle sometimes, but just know it can be beaten. You're stronger than you think you are.
Also, exercise, even if it's just a nice long walk, will do wonders. Sittin' around all day or lying in bed for hours just makes it much worse.
#145181 to #145180 - dehumanizer (07/17/2014) [-]
tierd of telling myself everytihng is going to be alright ,as much as i try it doesent work out and at the end of the day im just lying to myself

excersise, well i can say i've been doing it alot and it kinda makes me feel worse sometimes
User avatar #145182 to #145181 - atrocitustheking (07/17/2014) [-]
You have MAKE it alright. Bitch slap your own depression until the battle is that much easier. It won't go away, but it will turn into something you can live with.

Exercise and get that fucking blood pumping. If nothing else, working out will help your body image, which will give you some confidence and self esteem. It's a cliche, but it works, dammit. Few better feelings than standing on that scale and seein you've lost a few pounds. Let that be your motivation.

Find a hobby, something that you enjoy, that you lose yourself in. For me, drawing is incredibly therapeutic. All my cares melt away when I'm working on a sketch or Photoshop. You've got to find your catharsis. Your calm amid the storm.

In the end, I can dole out all the platitudes and experience I want, but IT'S ALL UP TO YOU.
#145183 to #145182 - dehumanizer (07/17/2014) [-]
>normie advice 101

I work out alot yeah but i the feelings i have are that of hate and vendication towards the women that hurt me and the men they chose over me. Listen i dont want to be another Elliot but its just the way I feel.

Have hobies, they kinda help from time to time but I they burn out really quickly.

Welp so i guess im gonna be a sadfrog for life.
User avatar #145184 to #145183 - atrocitustheking (07/17/2014) [-]
Don't hold on to the past. There is a reason this is a big part of Buddhism and many forms of Hinduism. Let shit go, because if you just let the regret pile up it will get so heavy you can't move forward.

That's all I can offer man. As I said, it's up to you. You've got to take that first step because no one can take it for you. It's a long hard road ahead, but it's worth traversing.
#145186 to #145184 - dehumanizer (07/17/2014) [-]
I try to but everything keeps repeating, theres no bloody end to this nightmare! Well there is one solution...
#145187 to #145186 - atrocitustheking (07/17/2014) [-]
As for the repeats, this ain't the Yuga Cycle. Break the circle, smash the ring. Take the ourobous and tear that tail out of the snake's mouth.
#145188 to #145187 - dehumanizer (07/17/2014) [-]
Somehow i feel this is the only way to leave it.
User avatar #145189 to #145188 - atrocitustheking (07/17/2014) [-]
You are wrong. There is always another way. If you feel this bad then call the Suicide Help Line, I want to help you, but I'm not trained for this shit. I'm terrified I'd fuck it up and lose you.
If it helps, I can pray for you... or something. But I'm no professional. No matter how much I want to help, no matter how much I care, I'm out of my element.
And I do care, Anon. I do care.
#145190 to #145189 - dehumanizer (07/17/2014) [-]
Not really suicidal just very sad and frustrated really, up to a point where it turns to hate and i just wanna do something before it turns to violence.

Bloody hell where did it all go so wrong?
User avatar #145192 to #145190 - atrocitustheking (07/17/2014) [-]
Dunno man, but it gets better. I... fuck man. Talk to some of your IRL friends, or your parents. I can only do so much over the web.
#145193 to #145192 - dehumanizer (07/17/2014) [-]
They've been telling me the same thing for a whole year (since its about then when this whole megadepression started) and in reality not really diffrent at all, nothings changed except i dont drink as much.

Frirends and parents only make feel even worse about my self, begged my crush to help but she refused and its not really that much y-you know, just a bit of love and care would get me a long way. Shit just imagining me walking with her and us holding hands makes me happy but also makes me sad and angry because its an illusion thats never happening. Its easier for me to imagine going to the moon then maybe her kissing me on the cheek, let alone doing other things...
User avatar #145211 to #145193 - colfer (07/17/2014) [-]
Man, really, I know what you're doing. Assuming you're not trolling as you always fucking do You're feeling depressed and you just want some comfort, but you're too proud or to shy to really ask for it. So what do you do? You make people hate you. It's so much easier, right? And through that, you make yourself believe in all those hurtful reactions you get since you already thought that about yourself. But hey, at least the hate is something, right? A sincere emotion, directed only to you? Well it doesn't have to be like that. We don't hate you by default, no one does. We don't want to hate. So stop making us do it
User avatar #145194 to #145193 - atrocitustheking (07/17/2014) [-]
I can only help you so far, man. I know I'm not a chick, but for what it's worth, I care about you and hope shit gets better.
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