I don't know if it'll help, but this is what I do.

I like to listen to a lot of classic rock, heavy metal, punk, ska, but I almost never listen to smooth jazz. While I do like smooth jazz during the winter season, it doesn't really stand out to me as much as the other genres.

So what I've been doing to concentrate on my chemistry assignments is play smooth jazz in the background, shut off all the devices that will distract me, and just type away. My first priority is always on the biggest assignment, unless I have multiple days to complete it.

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Want my advice? Forget it and move on.
I was with my ex for nearly 2 years (about 20 months to be specific). She was my first girlfriend and I thought that was how it was gonna stay.
Then around last June she started getting pissy about me speaking to an old mate from school she didn't like (mostly cause she was girl I did have feelings for at one point, but nothing ever came of it). There was nothing but arguments and her being a right shit bag about it constantly until I decided I'd had enough, broke up with her.
1 week later and she's moved in with some tosser who used to be on all sorts of drugs cause apparently going to her own home hurts her to much. 2 weeks after break up and she's with him, and living in his home, they're still together now.
At first I didn't give a shit, then I started to miss her. Seeing posts on facebook would annoy me or upset me and I wanted to be friends with her and she didn't want to know. At one point she told me she was going to Scotland on holiday for a week with him when they'd been together 2 months. Fuck knows why but at this point something snapped and I punched a wall full force, sunk a knuckle into my hand and split another one, blood everywhere, was cool as shit.

Then I got to the whole "fuck it all" stage and stopped caring full stop after she kicked off a massive argument over something a mate of mine said about her boyfriend but she decided to blame me over. Didn't speak to her for nearly a month, now we talk occasionally again though, much as she annoys fuck out of me at times.

Either way, point I'm getting at, shit isn't worth it. Try to avoid looking at any facebook posts of hers or anything and just don't worry about her. I've been great since I stopped bothering with her (aside from when she occasionally tries speaking to me, then I'm not bothered). I still get my shitty days though, on the odd time I do see something of hers on facebook I end up feeling shite, purely cause I could be there instead of her new bf.

Im pretty much the same. I couldnt give two shits about anything. But just the silliest shit would just make my brain explode and next thing I know im depressed. And IVe told myself that its nothing and its not worth it. But it happens again. Its something I cant help but I know I shouldnt be doing it. dig?

I know what you mean, I went through it from September till the start of December around about. Best thing to do is just try and ignore it though, eventually that's what helped me, haha.

Continued:

I know it's stupid to feel this way seeing as how we havent seen eachoter in years. But I can't fucking help it no matter how logical I am about it. Fat chance ill get to talk to her since were states away and I wont facebook message this shit. Im more of a face-to-face person. Idk. Anybody got any tips on how to just forget about it all? I go through life normally wihtout a hitch but any time I stop and have a memory of her or am reminded of her (which eveyrone who knew me would/still say how she was the female version of me and how pretty she was and asking what happened to her, etc.). Im usually the one giving information and helping out and not the one with problems....... but This shit needs to stop because it doesnt make sense and it just emotionally destroys me.

Well she's had a baby so you've missed your chance to get some intact pussay. Will be like a hotdog in a tunnel now, so you've got no other choice than to move on.

Of course I would never go to that. If anything im just asking if there is some way (besides mass amounts of liquor, ive tried it, doesnt work) to just forget a memory that brings you pain and sadness in spite of everything that has happened. GOd I wish lobotomies were still practiced.

Make new memories.

I have. Ill seriosuly be pissed if this ends up being my "girl who got away" story.........

No matter what I do. The whole fucked up situation wont get the fuck out of my head. No matter how much I rationalize about it or talk myself down about it..... the memory still stays and it still hurts. Fucking feelings....... how do they work?

In all honesty i can't see why you're so upsets, it sounds like you didn't even know the girl for long.

She was a friend of a friend for the longest time with back forth flirting. And like I said, like 362 days a year im just fine. But like 3 of those days are spread about randomly where I could just be not having a good day and then I see something that would just ruin my whole day. I don't even udnerstand it. That's the thing. I know it's not logical to get worked up about it.... but it still happens. My emotions and my mind are at odds ends I guess.

There's no such thing as the "girl who got away". If she was meant to be yours, it would have happened. 7billion people in the world, you're bound to find another.

Oh im well aware fo that. But this one.... this stupid FUCKING ONE is like a goddamned worm that just bore itself into my brain. Lets me go about my days like nothing. No cares. But every once in a while BOOM! Just sends a pang of everyhting through me like a hammer hitting a steel pole.

Thanks for the advice. Ill find a way to ebat it out of me eventually.

It doesn't help you still have contact with her you know. Constant reminders of things like that are the worst thing to have when you're trying to forget it

I'm dealing with the same thing man, but I feel like I'm doing better than you. I must be doing something you're not?

I dont even talk to her. ITs just one of those things. And I personally am not so crazy about this as to delete her from my friends list because its not like I cry every time I see her. It's just once in a blue mooon ill be just chilling and ill see her in the right light or read a post about her going through some stuff. Then A voice in the back of my mind instigates a flood of happier memories followed by the bullshit that happened. I don't know why my mind hates me so much...... but ill get over it once I get better things to do. Im in a transitional period as of late. So nothing to do but think.

Yeah there it is. My minds a cruel bastard you know? I've always been one to think of EVERYthing. Over thinking leads to negative thoughts. But I've kept my self as busy as possible, whether through school, work, or just socially. Just get out more you know, keep things simple. Enjoy the little things.

Yeah. The deadliest thing to a person is their own thoughts.

Thanks. It's a rather riveting tale.

Well, find one of these people and try a couple dates. If you've had sour experience, you've probably put up some barriers. Open yourself up a little. You can't rush it, lest you start faking your feelings, but try. Slowly.

You just need help to get started, and if they really do like you, just hint that you like them back and they make it easy for you to start to ACTUALLY like em back.

it's simple, you're transsexual.

shrek is love shrek is life

fellow brogre?

Yes, more of this.
More.

Can't go wrong with a perfect mixture of Django and Samuel L. Jackson.

make your move or regret it for the rest of your life.

Dnt worry about it.

anyone who says love at 17 is full of crap

I want to disagree, but I'm fifteen so I can't say shit.

I used to be in the boat where I thought it could be true...but youre right, i dated a girl from 7th grade through highschool, then we broke up, highschool love never works out. It does in rare cases but im with you on this. That highschool love shit is just dumb.

Some people do get together in high school and stay together, my parents would be an example.

Not necessarily. Normally I would agree with you, but mreah.. I love him.

puppy love. you can't love someone unless you been in the fire. if you love someone but all is well in life thats not love. when you guys gotta pay bills together and struggle without parents bailing you out thats love

I guess you're right that love is sticking with each other through the worst, but I'd love to be able to try all those things with him, and I wouldn't mind them as long as it was him I was struggling next to. I've had a few boyfriends and I've never really felt this way about anybody before. So, we'll see..

ok but you can't say its love because its possible to be in love in the future. like i said right now puppy love is different than real love.

but carry on. if he's not totally evil then he's cool

Do you have any idea how I can stop myself from worrying about the fact he doesn't like me? I don't even know why I feel this way! :c

The GAME

Agree/disagree

you ask each other questions and you can only answer agree/strongly agree/disagree/strongly disagree. ask each other some questions. find out how he feels about stuff

important that you both agree nothing revealed changes anything. it could help strengthen a relationship because if you never deep talk you can't move forward

Thank you so much :3

i know im pretty awesome with 10/10 skills

Yeah, a few times at first he was all like, don't be silly of course I love you. Now he gets offended, which I understand. I wouldn't like it if he kept telling me he didn't think I loved him.

I really don't want to break up with him. I think I actually love him (deal with it). It's just this one thing and it bugs me immensely that I just can't let it go. Chances are he's not going to cheat on me, and he doesn't love his ex. BUT GAHHHH.

Really? That would be a dick move. Don't be that guy. Either wait until the chick breaks up with him (or vice versa) and make a move then. Or, you know, just find someone else.

No. Dnt you fucking ruin a guy's, and possibly a girl's life just because you THINK someone likes you. That's fucking repulsive.

You shouldn't be trying to get someone fired. If she likes you in that way then just try to get fairly.

I was coming from an ethical point of view. If you don't give a shit about other people or what you do to them, get him fired, and sweep that bitch off her feet with your strong, employed forearms. Better?

No. You aren't.

I'm afraid I'm with penguin on this one. Taking a guy's girlfriend is always a bit of a dick move, but it wouldn't be so bad normally. However, getting him fired at the same time is just too much in my opinion - you're effectively messing with someone's life.

If the guy was a huge asshole to both the girl and his coworkers I'd be more understanding, but the way you've put it is that he's a pretty normal guy. Sorry man, go for it if you feel you must, but you'll be a pretty massive douchebag if you do.

I'd say no. Getting the girl by ruining another dude's life is not worth it. Youll know in the back of your mind every time you look into her eyes that you pulled an underhanded sickening move to get her. Get her the fair way. And unless the dude is an asshole in every way possible, he doesnt deserve to lose his job because he is dating somebody you like.

Stay the good guy. It's not always the easiest role to play, but it definitely has its rewards.

Skype me if you need any help with anything: Kenneth.E.Sills

Meanwhile cplusplus.com is a great site for C++. If you come across C++11, don't bother trying with it yet - it's a bit much until you get to the later stages.

thank you, my kind sir, and i will call on you when i will need help. :D

Try looking up thenewboston on youtube. He also has a website:

http://thenewboston.org/list.php?cat=16

thank you very much, my fellow funnyjunker. have a thumb :D

No problem, and good luck!

Not strictly coding, but www.hellboundhackers.org/ has a lot of guides and challenges that will help you understand code and how it works for programs/application/etc.
You need an account, which is free and worth it!

every bit of information about coding is well appreciated. have my thumb

gosh i had a link on my old computer but the computer just died. if i do find it ill let you know

for your trouble i will reward you with a thumb and a badass .gif. thank you!

depends on the job you looking for. Put skills or qualities that you think might be relevant. Like if you looking to do computers maybe organized is good military training is good for organization right? you can put that. Or if you were in the military and you had experience leading a unit then you can talk about your experience leading under pressure.

really depends on you. They aren't looking for anything specific. Just try to make yourself pop

Skills don't always have to come from education, they can come from things you do in your spare time. Transferable skills such as cleaning, caring for elders, children or disabled, using computers (being computer literate), things like that can look good on your CV. Add things you're passionate about too.

your life is useless
kill yourself

slowly do it
start going out more and more. and as you go out more and more make it so she develops outside interests. facebook is a good thing so she can feel in contact. in a way do it like you would a child. ease her out and maybe arrange a playdate with other people her age in the neighborhood who she might get along with :)

you will never leave your moms house
kill yourself

i dont think your having the impact you are hoping for

protein rich diet will help you build bigger muscles.
ive heard of things like whey supplements and stuff im not sure never used these
if you want bigger muscles you want to lift more weight less weight. if you want to be lean and ripped use less weight more reps. if you are looking to be a bodybuilder then maybe you wont need as much cardio. but if you looking for endurance you want cardio.

i think you pretty much got it. i dont think there's much more than just the exercise, diet, and equiptment if you need it for your workout. (diet is more important than the exercise in all honesty)

you are probably going to need to eat more times during the day. like 1 small meal 6 times a day..

Google extention "Stealthy"

you'll never be a haxor
kill yourself

your life sucks
kill yourself

sorry i don't beleive'n suicide so i'm gonna pass and say NO

show her why that's a bad idea
kill yourself

dude whats your problem, your advice should be for yourself, not anyone else. sorry but you're being rude.

OP here, I actually found it funny when I read it. But you are correct.

i mean it was funny yes, but this person said something like this on everyones question of advice. it was annoying.

try calling someone you both know that lives near her and let them know what's going on, so they can go make sure she's ok. When you're talking to her, make her focus on the good things in her life, make sure she knows that her friends (like you) and family are there for her. Above all stess that the good outweighs the bad. And one last thing, say her name alot when you're talking to her, it helps.

Let's say her name is sarah. Apparently, sarah's mom told sarah that she wished she hadn't brought sarah into this world and that sarah's more trouble than she's worth. Her mom apparently hits her. And when sarah threatened to kill herself, her mom simply yelled at her more. Sarah has attempted suicide before, says she doesn't serve a purpose, doesn't live up to family expectations, nobody in her family or school would miss her. So I doubt family would be a good point to start with. I only know her, I met her on vacation and talked to her, got her number, we've been texting on and off and now she's super upset. Has 'recurring' depression, as in it comes and goes... (Didn't know depression worked that way?)

Call child services?

do you know why she's contemplating it?

she says she's depressed.

well yeah I could piece that together, anything specifically causing this depression or do you not know? did she just tell you out of the blue or something?