You're going to be at this school for a few more years, tops. You could be with this girl for longer than that.
And if you're friends ditch you for liking someone, then they arent your friends.

But, if you dont actually like her, then its going to fail at some point.

My advice for everything: Flip a coin. When it is in the air, you know what side you want it to land on.

I wouldn't say you're a horrible person.

But dude, if you like her, go for her, maybe it could make her popular and make her actually feel good. But don't do it for those motives, do it because you like her and truly want to date her.

Who gives a shit, if your "friends" mock you.
They're not friends if they don't like you because of your relationship choices.

Go for her man.

No, it's not shallow at all.

If you declined her relationship offer because of her looks, it's completely fine.

shut up meg

She is rather attractive though

She looks decent to me.

Why do people hate her anyways?

someone started a rumor that she was gay and she argued back and everyone hated her for it, no one wanted to be her friend. that passed a long time ago but still people either ignore her or loath her for being veropen about her opinions on politics and such. A bunch of people were mad at her this year because she put a Ron Paul picture in her binder

Well, the right to free speech doesn't free you from the social repercussions of your actions.

I still think that's overly harsh.

Tell that lil'nigga that she has nice eyes though.

I take your school isn't very open minded at all. Your fellow peers are assholes man.

Well if you don't like her looks, at least be her friend.
Cause you know what can happen when people are neglected for years on end.

thanks man. I just wanted to be sure I wasn't being an asshole to her..

No problem, it's just instinct though. You don't want to get together with a mate you find unattractive.
Don't worry, it's not selfish or shallow.
Have a good night.

it is not often this site makes me feel worse about myself. congratulations.

im sorry brother, one day soon enough youll find someone

no hard feelings, bang her on behalf of all us

oh dont worry my friend, ill be glad to

Congrats, man! Hope you have many fun times with her!

I suggest goldbond powder.
If u liek M&M u shuld buy his CD den.

You're so obvious.

Dude...ur gf needs to grow the fuuuck up. how old yall nigz be? cause that was some shit my EX gf used to do back in highschool. My advice. Bring common sense to her brain of possible. otherwise slip her some meth. then thatll be the least of your worries.

Go over there, and spend quality time together, it's just 7 days.

your girlfriend is overly attatched and needs to grow a thicker vagina.

for comfort tell her youll send dick pics to her multiple times per day while you are gone

Give her the D.

nothing you can do, beside going over now or before you leave and such.

You'll get used to touching girls physically so you'll stop getting an erection.

Stop clenching your fists, Maybe put some gold bond on your palms before you leave, just make sure you can't see it unless you look really closely at it.
Maybe try anti-persiperant on your palms.

Well it's natural, so maybe just wear a sweater. :3

> she said "Sorry, I'll stop"
> I'm fucking scared and shit

Over reacting good sir. Girls don't lose their friends very easily. But the thing is, even if you don't lose her friendship, you're still in the friendzone, which is a very bad thing..

agreed. he just be over reacting. he needs to put is chillin pannys on and just think "its no big deal, shes my friend, im cool." and then not stupid things should come to mind. least thats what helps me.

I was flippin fat titties the other day cause I thought I pissed my uncle off, wich is whom im currently living with for fucking FREEEEE. but then I realized i was just trippin and realized the beergut doesnt really care that much.

I over-react because people have gotten easily mad at me before, and now I'm scared all the time when I fuck up even a tiny bit.

that sounds like an anxiety issue then my friend.

It probably is.

You have a bad boyfriend.

I'm starting to agree.
I went into our room and asked for a hug to help me feel like he's not mad, and he just says "What makes you think I'm not mad?"
I mean really. I express any kind of unhappiness in how he treats me - so he gets mad and treats me like shit. He literally told me the way I felt was dumb. I don't know what to do.

I can usually tell if a relationship is bad just by a picture. Can you show me a picture of both of you?

This is us in Hawaii...we were actually really happy together last summer. This whole thing is pretty recent.
A few months before this trip, I was actually leaning more toward another guy, but one of my good friends convinced me otherwise. My BEST friend wanted me to get with him, because she really doesn't like my boyfriend. They hate each other. I don't ever talk to her anymore because she constantly stirs things up between us to try to break us up. I'm just not sure who I should be around...
You see, my best friend slept with some nasty guy on my couch while my parents were home and then lied to me about it. It was a real breach in trust, and my boyfriend was just kinda like "Told ya." and I never really talked to her after that, but she was always a great friend other than that.
I don't know what to do.

Leave him.

Why does it feel so much more complicated? :(

I don't know because it really isn't..

It seems like it would be, but we've been through so much together. I feel like the past 3 years of my life have been a waste.

Just because you've been through a lot in the past does not mean that you should or shouldn't stay with him. It's great to have a reflection of your time together, but in the end, it all comes down to seeing yourself with him in the future and not about the great and difficult times you've had. If you feel that you cannot tolerate him with his current attitude (berating you and rudeness), the best thing to do would be to finish it. I can really see no upside to staying with him.

He just does dumb things. He, of course, texted me as asked if I was asleep.
No I'm not fucking asleep you dumb shit I can't sleep because you're a fucking asshole

When you say you've been through so much together, were any of these arguments that have started like this?

No, I had my ovary and a huge cyst removed when I was 15, and he also helped me get on when my dad was drinking a lot (he's an alcoholic)
Both of my parents are getting divorced from my step parents now, so that's a little difficult. We're doing a lot of moving around and now we live with my mom. he helps us pay for bills and helps when things break down or something. He's generally a useful person and has tremendous goals and is a very intelligent/loving person, he's just so stupid sometimes.
Yknow what I mean? Like he's a smart person, but he doesn't have much sense when it comes to understanding me. He'll tell me that I flat out shouldn't feel a certain way, and that it's stupid, and is constantly asking me to back up my feelings with substantial evidence. Sometimes I feel like I fighting a court case when I just want to tell him that I don't think he really understands me sometimes.
"When don't I understand you? How exactly is this happening? What situations appear where I am not understanding you?"
It's just not really something I can answer.

Hey, i'm 18 and never had a gf. A relationship isn't everthing in your life. Nothing has been wasted as long as you enjoyed the time you had with him.

Oh, maybe that's why you think it's simple :\
I used to think it was super simple too. Not to say that I don't appreciate your advice. I just think it's...different.

Listen here, I was with my ex for 2.5 years and I know we were in love. shit fell apart...but damn it was for the better. Quit being afraid to lose him and start thinking about what you can do without him. Think about both sides. If you guys are having issues, dont be weak and dont be a bitch, be mature, demanding, but not disrespectfull. I couldve kept my old relationship together and I know that, I chose not to because it wasent what I wanted.

You on the other hand seem to want this. If you didnt, youd already have broken up with him. Point out the things that he does that makes you feel the way you do. Do that while explaining to him that he should try to see things from your perspective. Also note before you do this, you should prolly think about how he feels and why.

He sorta feels like he has enough to worry about. He wants to be an anesthesiologist, and ofc one of the doctors he talked to was like, "Man I hope you don't plan on getting married!" which I am now starting to think was great fucking advice. I almost can't stand to be around him anymore. I don't think we ever talk about my day. I totally understand that he's working and going to school and that it's a huge pain in the ass and he just wants to get through this shitty time, I want him too, but I don't think I can support him through this. I feel like his mother.
I cook and clean for him(I'm talking dishes, laundry, keeping his area organized, ect.), I massage and scratch his back, I listen carefully to all of his problems and concerns and try to offer up solutions. I go to his mother's house every weekend and help her clean and take care of her new baby and try to help her. I just don't know if I can do it anymore with him acting like this to me. It's like my feelings don't count because I don't work and go to school at the same time.

aaaand have you brought any of this to his attention?

Yes. He gets mad if I'm unhappy with how he treats me.
Like, kind of it's a "It's your problem if you feel that way, there's nothing I can do about it." sort of thing, which it true to a certain point, but damn...

Sorry :/

go on youtube and look up simple pick up watch some of their videos really helped me out man just try it

Ask them about what they want to do in the future. If they say they dont know make up ask them if they have any ideas. Also about what kinda music they like. You can play off that shit real easy. I personally wouldnt be afraid to show my dislike in some of their tastes too but not be a dick about my disagreement.

Also bro...a neutral reaction is just that. neutral. You still have a chance to succeed and also a chance to fuck the fuck up.

I asked a girl if she wanted to help me on a school project. We already set up a date to answer this questions together www.wired.co.uk/news/archive/2011-11/08/how-to-find-love-in-45-mins?page=all

ask 'em about movies or music. find their preferred genre/artist and talk about them.

I know what she likes with music.

Already dried out the music conversation though. :c

I wanna go deeper into conversation and thoughts

if they're into that kind of stuff, ask em about the norks or iran. or ask them their opinion of religion.

Sorry, I meant, deeper in conversation like, about our lives. But I don't know how to bring that up, plus, we're both pretty young.

14 right? same age. girls personal lives are tricky, some sort of freeze up if you ask, which is why i stick to talking about music.

HOW DO YOU KNOW ME? WHO ARE YOU PEOPLE.JPG?
Thank anyways. :3

saw you post somewhere. no problem buddy, you'll get those wheels going soon.

you can't thumb old comments anymore, but i doubt that's the case because those comments are way too new.

you can't thumb older comments anymore. no idea how old they have to be for that to apply though

fuck we were simultanious

oh, ok. thanks.

Sorry I forgot to sign in.

Sounds like she needs some spaaaaace. id be straight foreward say some shit like" I know you care about me, but id like you to think about how you make me feel. I love you, but im having problems finding a way to talk to you about what I think are problems in the relationship" cept you know...more gangster cause I dont give a fuck about being too proper.

you need to work on more muscles than just your arms.
don't disregard stomach and legs. easy exercises for that are e.g. sit-ups and crunches

i've got a exercises schedule i made for myself once (for similar reasons), i could try and find it if you want

Fit board are the experts :P

I eat alot, I simply don't gain any weight I don't even know how. I literally eat anything at all times. Another concern was if doing pushups daily would be counterproductive, like would I need a day in between to rest or something for the muscles to recover/grow? because my muscles don't really hurt or feel tired the day after

Nah I don't eat much junk food or anything other than an ocasional pizza or ice cream now and then, I have a pretty balanced diet like fruits, vegetables, meat, fish, pasta etc etc...

What are you? My clone? Start with 50 pushups a day and 50 situps, it may seem tiresome but you can actually do a lot more if you block out the pain, Get into ROTC or another military program that's how i did it.

i've always enjoyed using my souls as payment for orphans. it's a fun little paradox i get to enjoy because as soon as i buy the orphan i suck its soul out to buy another orphan.

Level up your dexterity or vitality.

You should buy me 'Traktor" hardware.

He doesn't deserve you then. Enjoy yourself for a bit, be single, or meet another cute boy/girl to date. Don't be so down, mimidevlin, we got your back.

You have no idea how much that means to me, thank you.

No problem, how are you holding up?

keep going and looking forward
just because he left you doesn't mean that you won't be loved again, i mean, i know that it hurts, but there is nothing you can do about it but wait and keep fighting

I'm just so... so confused. I need some cheering up.

what would cheer you up?

Stuff like that.
I like jellyfish, so something jellyfish would be nice.

Let out all of your emotions now, don't bottle it up.

Just cry all you want.

I've been crying since last night. You see, before then, I hadn't seen him in three months. And when he finally visits, it's to break up with me. Now my eyes hurt. I don't want to cry anymore.

Don't let it get to you :\ just keep your hopes up high and your head down low... and smile :)

Keep your head up high too... show him that you're more than depending on him makes guys go mad that shit is annoying coming from a guy here

Thank you.

Thank you. The jellyfish are beautiful.

aww man, i was just about to post the same jellyfish gif :( anything else i can do to cheer you up?

More jellyfish please. I think they are beautiful.

well, i do have this..

....and this

OHMYGOD. Such beauties. Thank you, thank you so much.

you're welcome! :)

Nope, you're not going to get anywhere. You need good eyes to shoot. You have shit eyes.

Try exercising, or screaming into a pillow. Whatever you do, don't eat. Then you turn into a gremlin.