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anon (08/24/2015) [-]
about that...
I know that no one will probably read this. also writing as anon.
I've been with my current boyfriend for 3 years now. our relationship started out extremely sexual. did weird stuff and tried new things.
moved in together...
and about a year ago something happened. we didn't have any sex. at first I didn't mind much, since maybe we had different schedule? something "better" to do?
I tried to lure him into the bed a few times but nah. I got sex like once or twice a month at that time.
I started asking him whether or not it was my fault. did I become unsexy or something? no, no and no.
time passes and we get serious talks about it. I've bought a dildo since **** me. apparently he just haven't had the mood to **** . "it's too much work/time". I've insisted that I can do all the work, no problem but nah. he had gained some weight by this point but I didn't mind. I even tried to lure him to bed using his gun/military fetishes but nah. he always insists that he should make me cum in sex, even though I've said countless of times that women don't always cum, I'm extreme difficulty and I'm fine with just some ******* since it feels awesome and it's super nice and I like to be with the person I love and make him feel good, if I don't reach orgasm it's ok.
I'm kinda worried. we **** once in a month with a good luck now. his penis works, I've caught him masturbating or having an erection. he just doesn't want to **** me.
I feel really insecure. I'm medium weight, normal height and I think I look pretty alright... he has said time and time again that "it's not my fault" and that "he himself is the blame".
phew. I needed to get this off my chest.
I know that no one will probably read this. also writing as anon.
I've been with my current boyfriend for 3 years now. our relationship started out extremely sexual. did weird stuff and tried new things.
moved in together...
and about a year ago something happened. we didn't have any sex. at first I didn't mind much, since maybe we had different schedule? something "better" to do?
I tried to lure him into the bed a few times but nah. I got sex like once or twice a month at that time.
I started asking him whether or not it was my fault. did I become unsexy or something? no, no and no.
time passes and we get serious talks about it. I've bought a dildo since **** me. apparently he just haven't had the mood to **** . "it's too much work/time". I've insisted that I can do all the work, no problem but nah. he had gained some weight by this point but I didn't mind. I even tried to lure him to bed using his gun/military fetishes but nah. he always insists that he should make me cum in sex, even though I've said countless of times that women don't always cum, I'm extreme difficulty and I'm fine with just some ******* since it feels awesome and it's super nice and I like to be with the person I love and make him feel good, if I don't reach orgasm it's ok.
I'm kinda worried. we **** once in a month with a good luck now. his penis works, I've caught him masturbating or having an erection. he just doesn't want to **** me.
I feel really insecure. I'm medium weight, normal height and I think I look pretty alright... he has said time and time again that "it's not my fault" and that "he himself is the blame".
phew. I needed to get this off my chest.
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anon (08/24/2015) [-]
Here is what happened. He didn't find you attractive but he was lonely and attention is attention so he got with you anyway. He still felt like he had no prospects so he stayed in the relationship for a long time. By that point he had had all the sex he wanted out of you and still didn't find you attractive so he no longer has any incentive to have sex with you. The important things to keep in mind are that even if he doesn't find you attactive that doesn't mean you are unattractive. People can have individual opinions on objectively attractive people. You say "I think I looks alright" and people are hard on their own appearance so I'm going to say you are attractive, so no worries there. The other thing to bear in mind is he may have developed genuine feelings for you over the course of the relationship, irrelevant of anything sexual. So if you believe he really cares for you and loves you then stay with him, make peace with having a bad sex life and sort yourself out in that regard. My personal opinion is for you too leave him and look for someone else because you most likely deserve better than someone who stays in a relationship for bad reasons.
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anon (08/24/2015) [-]
oh... I hope that's not the case.
I thank you for your honesty and straightforwardness. I'll try my best to heal our sex life but if there is no improvement after a year, I'll have to think about leaving him maybe... sex is just so important to me. I sound like a perv, but I can't just live like some mother theresa the rest of my life.
I thank you for your honesty and straightforwardness. I'll try my best to heal our sex life but if there is no improvement after a year, I'll have to think about leaving him maybe... sex is just so important to me. I sound like a perv, but I can't just live like some mother theresa the rest of my life.
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anon (08/25/2015) [-]
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The Womanizer has been our most succesful buy yet. We also have cuffs that run under the mattress and can be used to tie her up - that come in handy more often than not.
I've a fetish of my own, so I can probably relate a bit on that side as well. If your bf is like me then trying to resist my fetish is more of a play (since we kinda know you just do this for us and don't want you to do stuff you don't like) before giving in. We reaally appreciate you doing stuff like this tho.
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The Womanizer has been our most succesful buy yet. We also have cuffs that run under the mattress and can be used to tie her up - that come in handy more often than not.
I've a fetish of my own, so I can probably relate a bit on that side as well. If your bf is like me then trying to resist my fetish is more of a play (since we kinda know you just do this for us and don't want you to do stuff you don't like) before giving in. We reaally appreciate you doing stuff like this tho.
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lostguy (08/24/2015) [-] 
I like JustintheWaysian's comment (idk about the first suggestion) and I think that would also help but have you tried reverse psychology? As in don't ask and make him come running for you. Also, if you have or not don't deny him when he does come running because that's just going to make him think you don't want him anymore. I'm coming up on my 4 year anniversary so I can understand who much this relationship must mean to you so even if things can be rough from time to time as long as he makes you laugh, is nice to you, treats you right, and doesn't do ****** up stuff to you like hit you or anything then I think that relationship is worth trying to keep so don't give up on him.
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anon (08/24/2015) [-]
I really feel for you. I was having a similar problem.
I finally got my guy to admit he's Bi; he likes to masturbate to shemales and even watches TS porn while we have sex sometimes that really makes you feel wanted after a week or two of no sex... .
He doesn't like looking at dudes, he likes the feminine body, boobs etc, he just likes both dicks and vaginas. So I bought him a prostate massager to use when we have sex. He doesn't even want to use it all the time now which is nice for me.
It's gotten a lot better for us since I 'accepted' him being turned on by 'guys with tits'. If I want sex now all I have to do is start playing with his bum and he's on me like we're just starting out again.
I hightly doubt it's you, although we always blame ourselves, but maybe he feels ashamed by being 'kinda attracted to men too'. If you make some gesture to prove that you would like to join him in his fantasies, maybe things will improve for you.
I hope some of this helped, good luck x
I finally got my guy to admit he's Bi; he likes to masturbate to shemales and even watches TS porn while we have sex sometimes that really makes you feel wanted after a week or two of no sex... .
He doesn't like looking at dudes, he likes the feminine body, boobs etc, he just likes both dicks and vaginas. So I bought him a prostate massager to use when we have sex. He doesn't even want to use it all the time now which is nice for me.
It's gotten a lot better for us since I 'accepted' him being turned on by 'guys with tits'. If I want sex now all I have to do is start playing with his bum and he's on me like we're just starting out again.
I hightly doubt it's you, although we always blame ourselves, but maybe he feels ashamed by being 'kinda attracted to men too'. If you make some gesture to prove that you would like to join him in his fantasies, maybe things will improve for you.
I hope some of this helped, good luck x
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JustintheWaysian ONLINE (08/24/2015) [-]
Telling a guy with a shemale kink that he is "turned on by guys with tits" is not smart.
Yes, I know the reality of it is that transexuals are genetic males with tits and feminine bodies and **** , but the fantasy is a woman with a dick.
Most of the time, it's the symbolism. Our society has constructed the penis as a sexual symbol of power and strength. Having a transexual kink is like having a kink for a sexually dominant woman; a woman with the same sex drive as a man. Where the woman is fully in the driver's seat.
That's really what a shemale kink is, at the root of it all, a total switch of dominance.
Telling your man that he "needs to admit to being turned on to men with tits" is a really big ego bruiser. "Oh, you just want a woman who is sexually dominant" would be a more appropriate/empathetic response.
Yes, I know the reality of it is that transexuals are genetic males with tits and feminine bodies and **** , but the fantasy is a woman with a dick.
Most of the time, it's the symbolism. Our society has constructed the penis as a sexual symbol of power and strength. Having a transexual kink is like having a kink for a sexually dominant woman; a woman with the same sex drive as a man. Where the woman is fully in the driver's seat.
That's really what a shemale kink is, at the root of it all, a total switch of dominance.
Telling your man that he "needs to admit to being turned on to men with tits" is a really big ego bruiser. "Oh, you just want a woman who is sexually dominant" would be a more appropriate/empathetic response.
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hideyowives (08/24/2015) [-] or maybe
just maybe, the guy likes dicks and vaginas, but doesnt find the male form attractive
thats like saying pegging turns you gay instantly, or bi instantly
really just think about what you just said, im not even going into how retarded that sounded
just stop
just maybe, the guy likes dicks and vaginas, but doesnt find the male form attractive
thats like saying pegging turns you gay instantly, or bi instantly
really just think about what you just said, im not even going into how retarded that sounded
just stop
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JustintheWaysian ONLINE (08/24/2015) [-]
You act like I'm speaking from the outside of this topic. I have a shemale kink and that is the core of the kink: a woman with a desire for dominance, and that dominance is represented through the genitals.
Though, it's not a kink in the sense of wanting to have intercourse with a shemale. I just like watching them **** women. It's a conceptual kink I guess.
Though, it's not a kink in the sense of wanting to have intercourse with a shemale. I just like watching them **** women. It's a conceptual kink I guess.
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hideyowives (08/24/2015) [-] maybe everyone isnt just like you?
ya think of that?
i never asked what you like to **** , but when someone says their experiance and you basically go "no lol"
you come off as a bleeding cunt
ya think of that?
i never asked what you like to **** , but when someone says their experiance and you basically go "no lol"
you come off as a bleeding cunt
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JustintheWaysian ONLINE (08/24/2015) [-]
Here's what I said:
"Telling a guy with a shemale kink that he is "turned on by guys with tits" is not smart. "
I didn't even invalidate her "experience" with her boyfriend. I was only addressing how she identified/labeled the kink. And considering that the overwhelming majority consumer demographic of shemale porn is straight men, assuming the overwhelming majority for her boyfriend is not out of the park.
The whole point of my comment was to address an idea that is probably considered hurtful to straight men with a shemale kink. And with you coming in here guns blazing as though I'm a cuntbag who is attacking someone else, when I'm really just offering some insight, makes you look like the bleeding cunt
"Telling a guy with a shemale kink that he is "turned on by guys with tits" is not smart. "
I didn't even invalidate her "experience" with her boyfriend. I was only addressing how she identified/labeled the kink. And considering that the overwhelming majority consumer demographic of shemale porn is straight men, assuming the overwhelming majority for her boyfriend is not out of the park.
The whole point of my comment was to address an idea that is probably considered hurtful to straight men with a shemale kink. And with you coming in here guns blazing as though I'm a cuntbag who is attacking someone else, when I'm really just offering some insight, makes you look like the bleeding cunt
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anon (08/24/2015) [-]
And as I already said, I've never actually said that to him. I've been very supportive.
I do, however, appreciate advice from a man with the same 'kink' as you call it. Tell me, do you believe he will be satisfied with only a woman for the rest of his life, or do you think he needs to be with a man/shemale too?
I do, however, appreciate advice from a man with the same 'kink' as you call it. Tell me, do you believe he will be satisfied with only a woman for the rest of his life, or do you think he needs to be with a man/shemale too?
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JustintheWaysian ONLINE (08/24/2015) [-]
Kink = sexual interest
Fetish = sexual requirement
Probably longer answer than what you're asking for:
TL;DR - Someone like me will be satisfied with only a woman; the kink stays fantasy/imaginary. There may be men who want a shemale only, but IMO they'll be unsatisfied in that case too because you just can't replace a real woman.
It really depends how he views the kink. Some men actually desire to have intercourse with transexuals, whereas for men like me, it's just a fantasy and it remains a fantasy. It's just a thrill that can stay in porn and doesn't need to manifest in real life. Maybe check with him on that. "Is it just something you like to masturbate to, or is it something you need to happen in real life?"
It also depends on what he is looking for in a mate/SO. I'm looking for a woman through and through, because you just can't replace what a woman is, no matter how genetically/biologically close you get. You may just have to ask him.
The way I've always put it, I'm attracted to the feminine body, I just don't care what genitals are there. And if he's sticking with you and he enjoys the relationship, there's definitely something he likes about you that goes beyond your genitals.
Fetish = sexual requirement
Probably longer answer than what you're asking for:
TL;DR - Someone like me will be satisfied with only a woman; the kink stays fantasy/imaginary. There may be men who want a shemale only, but IMO they'll be unsatisfied in that case too because you just can't replace a real woman.
It really depends how he views the kink. Some men actually desire to have intercourse with transexuals, whereas for men like me, it's just a fantasy and it remains a fantasy. It's just a thrill that can stay in porn and doesn't need to manifest in real life. Maybe check with him on that. "Is it just something you like to masturbate to, or is it something you need to happen in real life?"
It also depends on what he is looking for in a mate/SO. I'm looking for a woman through and through, because you just can't replace what a woman is, no matter how genetically/biologically close you get. You may just have to ask him.
The way I've always put it, I'm attracted to the feminine body, I just don't care what genitals are there. And if he's sticking with you and he enjoys the relationship, there's definitely something he likes about you that goes beyond your genitals.
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anon (08/24/2015) [-]
I never said I said these things to him.
The reason I used the phrase "guys with tits" was just an 'inb4' one of you comedy geniuses said it.
I feel I've been very diplomatic regarding how I've handled this situation. It's a big concession I'm making to remain happily with a guy I know I can never FULLY satisfy cos I don't have a penis and always wonder if he'll be happy with just me for the rest of his life.
The reason I used the phrase "guys with tits" was just an 'inb4' one of you comedy geniuses said it.
I feel I've been very diplomatic regarding how I've handled this situation. It's a big concession I'm making to remain happily with a guy I know I can never FULLY satisfy cos I don't have a penis and always wonder if he'll be happy with just me for the rest of his life.
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heilhotwheels (08/24/2015) [-] In all honesty, the way that I see it, is that you've got a face like a Jackson Pollock, or he's a fag
He could be a beta who thinks he can't get anyone prettier
Or he could be gay (and either not want to admit it to himself or the outside world)
Or he could have a libido problem
He could be a beta who thinks he can't get anyone prettier
Or he could be gay (and either not want to admit it to himself or the outside world)
Or he could have a libido problem
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anon (08/24/2015) [-]
I've had that thought in my mind too. he was unemployed a year and I had to take care of us. he went to the army only to be sent back immediately on the same day because he was not mentally stable.
he has improved a lot since then though, he works at his dream job and all that but I really want to force him to go see a therapist or something.
he has improved a lot since then though, he works at his dream job and all that but I really want to force him to go see a therapist or something.
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postingloudly 
(08/24/2015) [-] " he was not mentally stable. "
DONT CORNER HIM, BUT TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT
DONT CORNER HIM, BUT TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT
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rollmeanddie (08/24/2015) [-] Have you tried slaying eight warriors in his name and arranging their bodies in an altar to his name?
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anon (08/24/2015) [-]
oh... that's kinda sad.
what should I do? I actually think that sex is pretty essential things in a healthy relationship. I'm not gonna leave him because of lack of sex but it's still really frustrating and I have gotten angry at him a few times and I know it's not cool but I was pretty damn desperate and felt awful. still, no excuse to be a bitch and I apologized later on.
what should I do? I actually think that sex is pretty essential things in a healthy relationship. I'm not gonna leave him because of lack of sex but it's still really frustrating and I have gotten angry at him a few times and I know it's not cool but I was pretty damn desperate and felt awful. still, no excuse to be a bitch and I apologized later on.
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xerodeath ONLINE (08/25/2015) [-]
ill tell you everything i can about the subject but there can be a million reasons hes not doing if often but they mostly have to do with boredom
change how you look, if you have long hair try short, get a tattoo somewhere on your body if your alittle chubby lose some weight if your very skinny gain 10 pounds,
if its not your looks hes bored of than its sex all together, if hes in his early or mid 20's hes just dieing down on his sexuality and he might just not be some horny teen anymore try injecting some testosterone into his ass while he sleeps, or try going to the gym so hell go along with you to get the juices pumping
but if you dont want to lose him, dont force sex on him and dont make him feel bad about the fact that he doesnt want it all the time, in fact just touch him less, less hugs kisses, maybe he just needs space, try saying no once in a while. maybe hes just wants some sort of a challenge
change how you look, if you have long hair try short, get a tattoo somewhere on your body if your alittle chubby lose some weight if your very skinny gain 10 pounds,
if its not your looks hes bored of than its sex all together, if hes in his early or mid 20's hes just dieing down on his sexuality and he might just not be some horny teen anymore try injecting some testosterone into his ass while he sleeps, or try going to the gym so hell go along with you to get the juices pumping
but if you dont want to lose him, dont force sex on him and dont make him feel bad about the fact that he doesnt want it all the time, in fact just touch him less, less hugs kisses, maybe he just needs space, try saying no once in a while. maybe hes just wants some sort of a challenge
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anon (08/24/2015) [-]
I'm in the same boat, only with another girl. We used to bang all the time, but now it's about twice a month. She insists that I'm still very sexy and attractive, and she hasn't lost her feelings for me in any way. She says she just isn't ever in the mood, or has a low sex drive, but she used to be in the mood all the time. We've tried epimedium pills (supposed to raise your sex drive) an that helped a little, went up to about 3 our 4 times a month, she just kinda stopped taking them.
After a year, I try really hard to accept her low sex drive, but after two weeks of no intimacy, I crack and start crying asking her if she thinks I'm ugly etc etc. It's really hard sometimes, and it's caused my self esteem to plummet to the lowest it's ever been (which doesn't help cause she thinks confidence is super sexy).
I guess I've been wanting to get that off my chest too
After a year, I try really hard to accept her low sex drive, but after two weeks of no intimacy, I crack and start crying asking her if she thinks I'm ugly etc etc. It's really hard sometimes, and it's caused my self esteem to plummet to the lowest it's ever been (which doesn't help cause she thinks confidence is super sexy).
I guess I've been wanting to get that off my chest too
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thetrapkiller (08/25/2015) [-]
not trying to be a therapist, i'm trying to make you thera-pissed
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legendaryhero (08/24/2015) [-] The no baby pill girls take also lower sexdrive. Maybe that's it?
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anon (08/24/2015) [-]
Wow. I come hours later and so many replies. damn son(s) and a few bitches
yeah I feel you. I don't really know what to do, I've tried a lot of things. good thing I've received some helpful advices from people who replied to me. maybe those advices could apply to you too?
stay strong. you're pretty. and it's probably not your fault
yeah I feel you. I don't really know what to do, I've tried a lot of things. good thing I've received some helpful advices from people who replied to me. maybe those advices could apply to you too?
stay strong. you're pretty. and it's probably not your fault
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JustintheWaysian ONLINE (08/24/2015) [-]
This advice may be unwarranted, but here's my take on it.
It sounds like he's insecure about having sex with you now.
Putting on weight is probably making him feel like he's ugly to you, or that you aren't attracted to him. So then your offers may come across to him as "sympathy sex".
You not orgasming in sex is probably making him insecure as well, with the idea of "wow you can't make a woman cum man?"
If you'd like to remedy this, I'd suggest two things:
1.) Fake your orgasm. Give him a confidence boost. But please, be careful to do it right so that he doesn't realize it's fake, which will then really bruise his ego.
2.) Get him going to the gym. Go with him. Or find a common activity that is very exercise based. Boost his testerone with exercise, and give positive remarks on any body progress he makes. Don't fake that though, fake compliments hurt more than none at all.
It sounds like he's insecure about having sex with you now.
Putting on weight is probably making him feel like he's ugly to you, or that you aren't attracted to him. So then your offers may come across to him as "sympathy sex".
You not orgasming in sex is probably making him insecure as well, with the idea of "wow you can't make a woman cum man?"
If you'd like to remedy this, I'd suggest two things:
1.) Fake your orgasm. Give him a confidence boost. But please, be careful to do it right so that he doesn't realize it's fake, which will then really bruise his ego.
2.) Get him going to the gym. Go with him. Or find a common activity that is very exercise based. Boost his testerone with exercise, and give positive remarks on any body progress he makes. Don't fake that though, fake compliments hurt more than none at all.
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sherlockbatman (08/24/2015) [-] don't fake orgasms
lying is not a relationship solution
lying is not a relationship solution
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JustintheWaysian ONLINE (08/24/2015) [-]
If she fakes it while not enjoying it, then yes, it is oh so wrong.
But if she enjoys the sex even if she doesn't orgasm, then there really isn't too much wrong with that. She's enjoying it, he thinks she's enjoying it, there isn't a conflict. What exactly is wrong with that?
But if she enjoys the sex even if she doesn't orgasm, then there really isn't too much wrong with that. She's enjoying it, he thinks she's enjoying it, there isn't a conflict. What exactly is wrong with that?
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anon (08/24/2015) [-]
hurzg said exactly what I would have. Men get depressed either way, I had this same problem for a bit (2 years) with my man, We started getting more intimate and using toys and talking about what turns us on and after 7 years, things are hotter than ever. Get a toy and surprise him when he walks into the room.
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anon (08/24/2015) [-]
Send him off to the gym. Gets him back in shape and makes testosterone, sex drive up. Maybe I'm different but masturbating comes off sometimes as a force of habit that I do, separate to my sex drive,so him doing that may not be him having a sex drive in which he'd rather not take out with you. Diet is also important. If he's eating unhealthy and living in that lifestyle it does affect your energy and drive. Also if you spend everyday with the same person it gets boring, sure there's love and a that, but it doesn't change the fact. Maybe spend some more time apart and show him what he's missing.
Just my 2¢
Just my 2¢
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anon (08/24/2015) [-]
he hates working out or sports without a reason or fun. he doesn't find many athletic stuff fun.. there are a few things he likes like paintball, rugby or softball. I've gone along him to softball a few times and I think I'm gonna come along in the future too.
but yeah... running, lifting etc. he hates. I couldn't make him do it in million of years.
and he eats way too much kebab.
but yeah... running, lifting etc. he hates. I couldn't make him do it in million of years.
and he eats way too much kebab.
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anon (08/24/2015) [-]
We all gotta do things we hate. Try finding an activity in common and its not without reason to do any of those. The reason may in fact be to fix your relationship. Having a frigid relationship will affect both of you, as you are clearly doubting your capabilities and he might be as well when it comes to pleasing each other. Having this negative self image which your partner is passively creating for you will cause the relationship to break apart, nobody can live that way.
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anon (08/24/2015) [-] I think that for some men it's easier to lose the appeal of sex than others. He probably still loves you the same and cares just as much about you but maybe the only real appeal out of anything sexual he finds is jacking off. If anything I would suggest to maybe ask him if it's okay for him to lay down and just close his eyes while you make him feel good. If that doesn't work and sex is something big that you want, maybe it's time to end it...or cuff him down and rape him we wont judge.
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mexicandudeinsd (08/24/2015) [-] gun/military fetish
kek
bro detected
just look at this porn
kek
bro detected
just look at this porn
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hurzg ONLINE (08/24/2015) [-]
Buy a sex toy, the ones that vibrate. Therefore you'll be able to cum and ask him to use that on you. That way you'll know if he wants you to cum or not. Only times I didn't want to have sex were the times when I'm deppressed or when I'm in love (to someone else).
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anon (08/24/2015) [-] I've been together with my gf for nearly 5 years. And we don't have sex often, usually once every couple of months. It's not her, it's me.
Im still attracted to her, i love her very much. It's not like i want to **** other women, it's the whole concept of sex that has kind of lost it's appeal to me.
Im still attracted to her, i love her very much. It's not like i want to **** other women, it's the whole concept of sex that has kind of lost it's appeal to me.
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howboutyou (08/24/2015) [-] As a 25 y/o virgin who had little to no communication with females, I honestly cannot understand guys who have access to sex with their loved ones and choose NOT to. If I were struck with that kind of a miracle, I think I'd take up that offer every single time.
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toensix (08/24/2015) [-] I think it depends on the partner as well.
I wanted to have sex for a long time and was super excited about it when I finally had it with my girlfriend. It was fun but after a while I concluded: You know, it's fun and all but people really sell it much bigger then it actually is.
Eventually things didn't work out between us and we broke up. Then, after a while, I got another girlfriend. She was still a virgin at the time so we took things slow but when we finally did start to have sex: Oh my god it was amazing. I never felt something like that in my life. We're together for more then a year now but our sex life is still improving.
So yeah, I also had a time with my earlier girlfriend that sex just wasn't that special for me. Turned out it wasn't sex, turned out it was my girlfriend.
I wanted to have sex for a long time and was super excited about it when I finally had it with my girlfriend. It was fun but after a while I concluded: You know, it's fun and all but people really sell it much bigger then it actually is.
Eventually things didn't work out between us and we broke up. Then, after a while, I got another girlfriend. She was still a virgin at the time so we took things slow but when we finally did start to have sex: Oh my god it was amazing. I never felt something like that in my life. We're together for more then a year now but our sex life is still improving.
So yeah, I also had a time with my earlier girlfriend that sex just wasn't that special for me. Turned out it wasn't sex, turned out it was my girlfriend.
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legendaryhero (08/24/2015) [-] Once you had sex, it's not much of a big deal anymore.
Sex lost it's appeal to me when I was 16.
Sex lost it's appeal to me when I was 16.
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hideyowives (08/24/2015) [-] as a teen i just went to raves and ****** mad drunk people while i was drunk
you get to **** anything at those things
after doing that for a few years (honestly i dont have stds but i damn well should)
by the time i could drive i was already in disregard bitches mode
but i dont think it was worth it, kinda killed sex for me, for a while made it almost like a mechanical thing i did, and it ****** me up on my way to emotionally being there as an adult, also i guess i had sex with drunk people , which i guess is rape now, i meant they werent passed out or too far gone to know what was happening, and if i heard a no you could see the smoke cloud i left in the air , but anyway it just really was bad for me, and i hurt other people with my general douchbag behavior
sex isnt all that great, story time over, praise the sun
you get to **** anything at those things
after doing that for a few years (honestly i dont have stds but i damn well should)
by the time i could drive i was already in disregard bitches mode
but i dont think it was worth it, kinda killed sex for me, for a while made it almost like a mechanical thing i did, and it ****** me up on my way to emotionally being there as an adult, also i guess i had sex with drunk people , which i guess is rape now, i meant they werent passed out or too far gone to know what was happening, and if i heard a no you could see the smoke cloud i left in the air , but anyway it just really was bad for me, and i hurt other people with my general douchbag behavior
sex isnt all that great, story time over, praise the sun
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waterbottlemanboy (08/24/2015) [-] I'm eighteen, and after my first girlfriend, I barely had any sex drive, I've been with a few girls since, and they've been better, and even though I've done a lot of different, kinky things and such in bed, it's still barely there.
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JustintheWaysian ONLINE (08/24/2015) [-]
Sex really isn't all it's cracked up to be, and it's the tool that women will use against you. In the sexual economy, women have sex to give, and men have commitment to give. As you've probably seen a lot, women will sex a guy she wants to be with so that he will commit to her, and a man will bend over backwards in commitment to her so that she'll give him sex.
Thus, guys with access to sex will often turn it down at times because sometimes the woman is just way below their standards or is not a woman worth committing to. Things like that.
Please, someday when you have the chance to have sex with a gal, have the wisdom to know if she is figuratively trying to **** you over, or literally just wants to **** you.
Thus, guys with access to sex will often turn it down at times because sometimes the woman is just way below their standards or is not a woman worth committing to. Things like that.
Please, someday when you have the chance to have sex with a gal, have the wisdom to know if she is figuratively trying to **** you over, or literally just wants to **** you.
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infinitereaper (08/24/2015) [-] I couldn't help you if I wanted to. Just make sure he's not cheating. Beyond that, find is porn stash. Any guy who doesn't want to have sex is kind of a faggot. Or maybe it's something else. Something stressful that he's hiding.
For truth. I don't know.
Offer anal.
For truth. I don't know.
Offer anal.
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bloodrocutation ONLINE (08/24/2015) [-] "I know that no one will probably read this."
i thought you were gonna advertise your youtube channel for a second there
i thought you were gonna advertise your youtube channel for a second there
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drows (08/24/2015) [-]
I've you try to just think about him ? Handjob and BJ ?
And what is his reaction when you masturbate in front of him ?
I think a girl masturbating is a turn on for many guy.
Personnaly, when my wife is trying too hard, its a turn off, she doesnt know how to be sensual.
BTW, if you want an opinion on your look, there is always **** ;)
And what is his reaction when you masturbate in front of him ?
I think a girl masturbating is a turn on for many guy.
Personnaly, when my wife is trying too hard, its a turn off, she doesnt know how to be sensual.
BTW, if you want an opinion on your look, there is always **** ;)
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mcpimpin (08/25/2015) [-] Ask if he wants butt stuff. [spoiler] In all reality though i've been with my girl friend about 8 months now and ofcourse at first i was ready any time but as it became more of a normal thing intead of being spontanious it lost its pissas. Its not that i dont find her attractive or love her less, which i most sertantly do, its just that being with her normally feels great in and of itself. Sex cant be a very often occuring thing because if it was then it would lose its passion and sort of spur of the moment excitement. He loves you, if you want **** , and tell him explicatly, he will **** . Simple [spoiler]
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anon (08/24/2015) [-]
Manon here,
I think I'm going through roughly what your bf is going through. A bit pressed for time and in vincinity of miss manon and family I'll try to type this out good albeit quickly.
First things first, it's not at all your fault. Idk why, but sex is just.. tiresome at times. Like, you want to get off, but you don't want to disappoint or NOT make your gf come. We still do the do and I find myself initiating mostly the times when we just cuddle together and she wiggles in to sit near me. I do masturbate a decent amount by myself, just cause I kinda feel the need to relieve and porn/masturbation works out to that end. I do wish I was more sexually proactive, but Idk - it doesn't feel too tempting not to rock her world a lot of the time. We've gotten ourselves two helpers though, something called a WeVibe and a Womanizer. Helps me get her off and makes it so that I feel more like initiating, knowing that I can supply with that. GLh5.
I think I'm going through roughly what your bf is going through. A bit pressed for time and in vincinity of miss manon and family I'll try to type this out good albeit quickly.
First things first, it's not at all your fault. Idk why, but sex is just.. tiresome at times. Like, you want to get off, but you don't want to disappoint or NOT make your gf come. We still do the do and I find myself initiating mostly the times when we just cuddle together and she wiggles in to sit near me. I do masturbate a decent amount by myself, just cause I kinda feel the need to relieve and porn/masturbation works out to that end. I do wish I was more sexually proactive, but Idk - it doesn't feel too tempting not to rock her world a lot of the time. We've gotten ourselves two helpers though, something called a WeVibe and a Womanizer. Helps me get her off and makes it so that I feel more like initiating, knowing that I can supply with that. GLh5.
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anon (08/24/2015) [-]
Also, when I'm in the mood and she's not, I'll go the physical steps to get her going. Massage and playing with those weak spots.
For guys I think visual aid in the form of wearing "sexy"-/"fetish"-wear is probably the way to go. Just find some way of tricking us into a situation we're stuck with you in what we'd like to see. No matter the tiredness or aversion from initiation, we're hardly tough creatures to manipulate. Just the sight, thought and fantasy of it will have us all over you sooner or later. Again, best of luck. Eh. I'll try to find back to this post later to see if there's any reply or something.
For guys I think visual aid in the form of wearing "sexy"-/"fetish"-wear is probably the way to go. Just find some way of tricking us into a situation we're stuck with you in what we'd like to see. No matter the tiredness or aversion from initiation, we're hardly tough creatures to manipulate. Just the sight, thought and fantasy of it will have us all over you sooner or later. Again, best of luck. Eh. I'll try to find back to this post later to see if there's any reply or something.
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anon (08/24/2015) [-]
it's interesting to hear this from a man's point of view.
what's a wevibe or womanizer? are they some products?
a fantasy huh...? it's really hard to temp him since he doesn't seem to have the most normal likes out there. but I'll try. I have booked us a weekend at a decent hotel and an exciting day - hopefully I can ignite the spark a little.
it's just a shame that I like sex so much. I like how it's with the person you love, it's nice to please them and share such an intimate moment. I haven't really found my ultimate sex toy either and I've bought a lot of stuff already...
what's a wevibe or womanizer? are they some products?
a fantasy huh...? it's really hard to temp him since he doesn't seem to have the most normal likes out there. but I'll try. I have booked us a weekend at a decent hotel and an exciting day - hopefully I can ignite the spark a little.
it's just a shame that I like sex so much. I like how it's with the person you love, it's nice to please them and share such an intimate moment. I haven't really found my ultimate sex toy either and I've bought a lot of stuff already...
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anon (08/25/2015) [-]
www.womanizer.com.sg/product/
we-vibe.com/we-vibe-4-plus
The Womanizer has been our most succesful buy yet. We also have cuffs that run under the mattress and can be used to tie her up - that come in handy more often than not.
I've a fetish of my own, so I can probably relate a bit on that side as well. If your bf is like me then trying to resist my fetish is more of a play (since we kinda know you just do this for us and don't want you to do stuff you don't like) before giving in. We reaally appreciate you doing stuff like this tho.
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we-vibe.com/we-vibe-4-plus
The Womanizer has been our most succesful buy yet. We also have cuffs that run under the mattress and can be used to tie her up - that come in handy more often than not.
I've a fetish of my own, so I can probably relate a bit on that side as well. If your bf is like me then trying to resist my fetish is more of a play (since we kinda know you just do this for us and don't want you to do stuff you don't like) before giving in. We reaally appreciate you doing stuff like this tho.
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welcometoatl (08/24/2015) [-]
READ THIS
I'm practically in your boyfriend's situation. Trust what he says, it is the time. My girlfriend and I only have sex about once a week and that's because we're both horny at that point. When we first got together we were doing it like rabbits.
She's asked if it's her, she's wondered if I'm cheating, she also volunteered to do all the work.
The truth is, he's tired. not of you, not of sex, but he might just be tired.
I know when i'm tired and we've had sex, I wouldn't always make her orgasm and she would call me selfish and that would just start more fights.
How does he feel about morning sex?
Does he get the urge to have sex even a little bit?
He might be a bit depressed if he doesn't get the urge even a little bit.
Does he watch porn? I know when I was watching too much porn, my mind got pretty addicted. I've scaled it back on that.
I'm practically in your boyfriend's situation. Trust what he says, it is the time. My girlfriend and I only have sex about once a week and that's because we're both horny at that point. When we first got together we were doing it like rabbits.
She's asked if it's her, she's wondered if I'm cheating, she also volunteered to do all the work.
The truth is, he's tired. not of you, not of sex, but he might just be tired.
I know when i'm tired and we've had sex, I wouldn't always make her orgasm and she would call me selfish and that would just start more fights.
How does he feel about morning sex?
Does he get the urge to have sex even a little bit?
He might be a bit depressed if he doesn't get the urge even a little bit.
Does he watch porn? I know when I was watching too much porn, my mind got pretty addicted. I've scaled it back on that.
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anon (08/24/2015) [-]
oh I never blame him if he doesn't make me orgasm. it's not that important to me. I can make myself orgasm, but I can't imitate love and intimacy.
morning sex eh... we are both kinda bad to wake up in the morning but he often does have a morning wood. I haven't really tried to have sex in the morning nowadays... and when I've tried he says he needs to go pee and after that he either leaves for work or goes to his pc.
he has had a few times when he has admitted that he is horny, but those moments have been the worst ever. he had just hurt all of his muscles and even touching hurt him, or that we're in a hurry or some **** . now that I think about it, maybe I should've masturbated him when he was injured...
and that one loud fella said something about depression too. maybe I should make him go see a therapist...
he watches porn kinda normal amount I'd say. we don't have much privacy in our home and I notice him jacking off about once a week or two.
thank you for sharing something so intimate with me. I wish you the best of luck in your relationship.
morning sex eh... we are both kinda bad to wake up in the morning but he often does have a morning wood. I haven't really tried to have sex in the morning nowadays... and when I've tried he says he needs to go pee and after that he either leaves for work or goes to his pc.
he has had a few times when he has admitted that he is horny, but those moments have been the worst ever. he had just hurt all of his muscles and even touching hurt him, or that we're in a hurry or some **** . now that I think about it, maybe I should've masturbated him when he was injured...
and that one loud fella said something about depression too. maybe I should make him go see a therapist...
he watches porn kinda normal amount I'd say. we don't have much privacy in our home and I notice him jacking off about once a week or two.
thank you for sharing something so intimate with me. I wish you the best of luck in your relationship.
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welcometoatl (08/25/2015) [-]
No worries. I hope that what I've said has helped. Girls take it a bit hard when their boyfriends don't want to have sex as much as when they first got together. And it's your sex life too, you also have needs.
I wouldn't recommend seeing a therapist if I were you, just being there for him and talking to him about it should help.
Some people get defensive when asked if they're depressed.
I wouldn't recommend seeing a therapist if I were you, just being there for him and talking to him about it should help.
Some people get defensive when asked if they're depressed.
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screamspleaseme ONLINE (08/24/2015) [-] He's probably gay, try dressing up as a man and railing him from behind when he's not expecting it if he screams "No!" or "I don't like this!" that means you've hit the nail on the head. No need to thank me, I just try to do what I can when I can to help others. Have a nice day.
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anon (08/24/2015) [-]
yeah thanks. he is kinda attracted to men too, but he prefers vagina over butthole. also he a tiddy man. and I'm kinda masculine too. I often wear loose men's clothes and I like extreme sports and I'm competetive as hell. I broke my keyboard when I lost a game in rocket league. I know, pathetic.
I'm just concerned. maybe the lack of sex is somehow because of his weight? he has gained 15kg after all.
the worst thing is he acknowledges that I crave some ******* like tomoko but he doesn't **** me because he doesn't want to do it when he is not feeling it and he isn't gonna force himself.
I've never said no to sex but then again I'm almost always horny and I like ******* like a teenage boy when discovering pornhub for the first time.
or maybe I'm not sexy and have a loose vagina or some **** ...
I'm just concerned. maybe the lack of sex is somehow because of his weight? he has gained 15kg after all.
the worst thing is he acknowledges that I crave some ******* like tomoko but he doesn't **** me because he doesn't want to do it when he is not feeling it and he isn't gonna force himself.
I've never said no to sex but then again I'm almost always horny and I like ******* like a teenage boy when discovering pornhub for the first time.
or maybe I'm not sexy and have a loose vagina or some **** ...
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doktorandus (08/24/2015) [-] While Funnyjunk is arguably the absolute worst site to come for relationship/sex life advice, I suppose you must be desperate for some answers.
Does he have trouble communicating his feelings? Maybe there's something that's caught in the spokes of his thought pattern or something. While I'm far from a decent blueprint to your boyfriend, the times where I was least interested in sex was when my head was somewhere else entirely and not in a good way. And I can't really speak for him, but I imagine he likely doesn't feel as attractive as he used to. Maybe he feels inadequate.
I imagine a good talk could clarify a lot of things, as we're not gonna have any answers - I mean, come on, this is Funnyjunk - but you can always try doing other intimate stuff that doesn't involve sex. Massages, cuddling while playing the vidya, get some excercise together and try and encourage him. There's a ton of things that could eventually lead up to the sexy times if you play your cards right, and if not they can still be fun to do anyway. So it's win-win.
I understand that sex is important, but I feel there's likely more at work here than him not wanting you. Maybe he feels pressured because he wants to please you in a way that's sometimes impossible for him. Plus he likely can't get it up if he feels he has to jump over 20 hurdles and solve X for the cure to AIDS every time you guys do it.
Does he have trouble communicating his feelings? Maybe there's something that's caught in the spokes of his thought pattern or something. While I'm far from a decent blueprint to your boyfriend, the times where I was least interested in sex was when my head was somewhere else entirely and not in a good way. And I can't really speak for him, but I imagine he likely doesn't feel as attractive as he used to. Maybe he feels inadequate.
I imagine a good talk could clarify a lot of things, as we're not gonna have any answers - I mean, come on, this is Funnyjunk - but you can always try doing other intimate stuff that doesn't involve sex. Massages, cuddling while playing the vidya, get some excercise together and try and encourage him. There's a ton of things that could eventually lead up to the sexy times if you play your cards right, and if not they can still be fun to do anyway. So it's win-win.
I understand that sex is important, but I feel there's likely more at work here than him not wanting you. Maybe he feels pressured because he wants to please you in a way that's sometimes impossible for him. Plus he likely can't get it up if he feels he has to jump over 20 hurdles and solve X for the cure to AIDS every time you guys do it.
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anon (08/24/2015) [-]
you say that fj is not the best place to look relationship advices but I disagree.
I just got a plenty of great advices from you and other users have given their ideas to me too...
thank you.
I'll try to work with these clues and find out what's the problem. I feel more confident now.
I just got a plenty of great advices from you and other users have given their ideas to me too...
thank you.
I'll try to work with these clues and find out what's the problem. I feel more confident now.
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anon (08/24/2015) [-] You've already hit the nail on the head, if he isn't pleasing you in the most obvious way then it can lead to a lack of interest, self-loathing and a lower libido. There's not a lot you can do without finding him more attractive/getting off, but I'm going to be the white knight and utter the phrase
"It's not your fault"
"It's not your fault"
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justtocomment ONLINE (08/24/2015) [-]
I'd say he was cheating about 30 lbs ago. Now I'd just say he's depressed.
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derpthefifth (08/24/2015) [-] Alright, my advice to you is to just stop trying for a bit.
I don't know how long you can go without but i'd be willing to bet that the more pressured he feels the less he's going to want to have sex with you, you might not be directly pressuring him exactly, but in his mind sex means making you cum and the more you try to get him into bed the more he's going to feel stressed out about it. Let it go to the best of your ability and i predict you guys will have sex, it'll be awesome, and you'll both realize how much you missed it.
I don't know how long you can go without but i'd be willing to bet that the more pressured he feels the less he's going to want to have sex with you, you might not be directly pressuring him exactly, but in his mind sex means making you cum and the more you try to get him into bed the more he's going to feel stressed out about it. Let it go to the best of your ability and i predict you guys will have sex, it'll be awesome, and you'll both realize how much you missed it.
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doucheonmandic (08/24/2015) [-]
oh my god... how did i never see this before... his nose looks like half of a nipple!
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darthblam (08/24/2015) [-] Why the **** is this a thing?
How is this a thing?
I seriously do not understand how anyone finds diapers ******* sexually appealing. Do the sick ***** making the "porn" find infants in diapers sexually attractive?
Christ.
I get that anyone can have some kind of inexplicable fetish, but this **** is indescribably creepy.
How is this a thing?
I seriously do not understand how anyone finds diapers ******* sexually appealing. Do the sick ***** making the "porn" find infants in diapers sexually attractive?
Christ.
I get that anyone can have some kind of inexplicable fetish, but this **** is indescribably creepy.
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muffincannibal (08/24/2015) [-] Taking after fedoralover. Or its another one of his accounts.
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heartlessrobot (08/25/2015) [-] I've been told by many that I'm quite the looker, I'll have you know.
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heartlessrobot (08/25/2015) [-] Does sparkyoneonetwo and touchmybutt count? Also, a lot of gay board.
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theowerdawg ONLINE (08/24/2015) [-] i might be a stupid person, but can someone please explain the joke?
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muffincannibal (08/24/2015) [-] HOW COME HER NIPPLES POINT AWAY FROM THE COMIC VIEWERS DIRECTION AT EVERY ANGLE?
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rainbowblowjobs (08/24/2015) [-] **rainbowblowjobs used "*roll picture*"**
**rainbowblowjobs rolled image** Well I wouldn't want to look at you either.....
**rainbowblowjobs rolled image** Well I wouldn't want to look at you either.....
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comicexplain (08/24/2015) [-] Because it really is overly sexual, to the point of frustration!
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britexplain (08/25/2015) [-] His girlfriend laughs along with him as the concept of him not being really sexual is the complete opposite of the truth. She then becomes upset because she is frustrated at him because of this.
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insanelyodd (08/24/2015) [-] They are joking that he isn't sexual and then his wife comes to that realization and begins to cry.
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assdoreponyfucker (08/24/2015) [-] i only use you because jokesplain blocked me for whatever reason
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captainprincess (08/24/2015) [-] On the plus side
That leaves you up to satisfy her needs whenever
silver lining right
That leaves you up to satisfy her needs whenever
silver lining right
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ubercron (08/24/2015) [-]
It is normal. 4 years I was with my ex and we had sex every day for 6 months. Then it slowed down. To our last 6 months where we had sex 2 times... then we split.
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mrturferpop (08/24/2015) [-] I mean, at least you know what I mean.
The art looks kinda similar too.
On a side note, what the **** happen to Sanity not included?
The art looks kinda similar too.
On a side note, what the **** happen to Sanity not included?
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naomabobian (08/24/2015) [-] I have no idea. Dexter and Aleks are doing more lets play related things with the creatures rather than working with Machinima so I guess that's a big reason it's stopped. Really I doubt they're going to return to it. A shame, but the newer seasons seemed a bit dry in my opinion, so maybe it's for the best?
