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> hey anon, wanna give your opinion?
#10 - lolollo
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"Life isn't fair"

Funny, but the only times I've ever hear this used is when someone doesn't want someone else to retaliate from being ****** over.

"I work twice as many hours and never recieve any complaints, why didn't I get the promotion?"
"Life isn't fair."
User avatar #127 to #10 - TwistedBamboozler
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When you get older you'll understand
User avatar #136 to #127 - lolollo
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That's just as bad. All that says is "I don't feel like explaining myself, but here's something to exert how right I think I am in a way you can't possibly defend against."

That doesn't give me some hope for the future, it makes me want to think you're an asshole with no communication skills.
User avatar #125 to #10 - TwistedBamboozler
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that sounds just about spot on to me. You may have deserved it, but guess what? "life isn't fair"
#43 to #10 - teenytinyspider
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Problem is, **** still happens. That's why life isn't fair.

You're late to work, stuck behind someone going 45 in a 65 and can't get around them. That was nothing you had done. That's just life ******** on you.
User avatar #50 to #43 - lolollo
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Yes, but as the person who's stuck in the traffic, what you can do is call ahead the second you think you're going to be late to say "This asshole's going 45, I might be 10 minutes late." and as the said person's boss, you can have the empathy to realize that, while it sucks your employee is going to be late, you realize that raffic is something he can't control, and that he at least had the forethought to call ahead.

The employee does his part, and the employer does his. Or the employer can give into the historian fallacy and yell at his employer anyway because he "Should have known to leave earlier!" thus planting the seed of resentment that eventually grows into your employer ******** in your gastank because he hates you...all because it was absolutely unfathomable that he was late by 5-10 minutes.
User avatar #11 to #10 - zerokiller
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I hate the saying "Life isn't fair." Life is fair because life is equally unfair to all, making it fair.
#120 to #11 - anon id: 7d189357
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I think you are all missing a point. What I dislike is people who take a very strong piece as a whole and nitpick at 1 or 2 details they disagree with. Truthfully speaking, I would like to hear one of you tell me that life has truly been fair to you.
However, you are disregarding the 2nd half where he says get used to it! Life not bieng fair is not a negative remark but rather a harsh reality.. he then goes to explicate that first lesson through the other ones.
He is telling people to look at things positively, not negatively. Always look at the good side of things. Respect your parents and ppl (nerds). Set your priorities, put in time, and reach out and grab what is not bieng given to you.

This piece as a whole is much more than just "life isnt fair" and you ruin it for others by saying so
User avatar #135 to #120 - lolollo
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No, the harsh reality is that life is only typically not fair for one of two reasons, either the person telling you that life isn't fair has just screwed you over, and you most certainly shouldn't get used to that. You should defend yourself from that at all costs. Or the person telling you that doesn't have the communication skills to effectively tell you why you shouldn't have this perception that life isn't fair. It's not that life isn't fair, it's that you don't have enough interpersonal skills to be able to explain why you made a difficult decision. I've made plenty of difficult decisions that pically resulted in someone being thrown under the bus, but I've always explained myself to them, even if it's as simple as "I could only take one of you, and it was effectively trivial which one of you it was." But then I always try and provide some help to where I'm not just leaving the person to their own devices, to for, homicidal thoughts about the universe.

But that's just it...it requires communication, which is something most people don't have.
#12 to #11 - lolollo
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I've also been told that life is as fair as you can make it for yourself, but still, most of the literature is from people near the top of the totem pole. Only people who are put in a position where a part of their future depends on someone else really understand the specifics behind life being fair.

The truth isn't that life is only as fair as you can make it for yourself, it's as fair as you can make it for other people. That means working with subordinates, not just over them, and having basic human empathy with perspective.

Like right now I'm still scrounging for my first job in a market obsessed with prior work experience. Any time I try and appeal to the fact that me working for whoever I'm talking to will become the work experience everyone's looking for, I'm met with jack ****. It's left me unmarketable even though the sole reason I'm unmarketable is the nature of the market itself. Is that fair? Oh wait, life isn't fair...right...I should just accept it.