Here are some "signals" of a girl that likely likes you...
-A smile. As long as it's a genuine smile, which means it's not forced and her eyes have "crows feet".
-Hair grooming/twirling. Girls often play with their hair when they are around/talking to a guy they like.
-When she asks you for unnecessary help. Such as a very simple math problem, picking up a pencil she could reach better than you can, asking you to lift a chair. She's trying to find an excuse to interact with you.
-Touching. If she touches your arm or playfully punches you (not very hard, of course), she's trying to feel you. Even if it's not in a sexual way, which is rare unto itself.
-She's being unnecessarily close to you.
-She laughs a lot. A girl will often "over" laugh at your jokes, even if they aren't funny. When a girl likes a guy, she is very fascinated with just about anything he says.
-If she does not like revealing private information with you right off the bat. She doesn't want any "baggage" to cause you to lose attraction to her.

Thank you psychology courses/life experience.

oh my fucking god if this is true then throughout middle and high school there have been about 15-20 girls, not exaggerating that number, who 'like me', according to these points.

And I never asked out a single one.

Son of a mother duck.

Same here man, but I am even better at detecting signs of girls that are not interested. That's what keeps me from asking them out lol. Mixed signals god damn it.

And here are some signs a girl is not interested.
-Never smiles at you.
-Flirts with other guys (especially if she doesn't know or thinks you aren't around.)
-Doesn't ever start conversation with you.
-If she's overly nice but doesn't talk a lot.
-Her friends never tease the two of you when you're around/ don't even acknowlege you.
-She looks to the side, and not straight down. If you look over and catch her look at you (not for extended periods of time), she will of course look away, usually when a girl likes a guy, they will tilt their head straight down. But when a girl doesn't like you, she'll turn her head to the side.
-When she looks at you, her pupils will stay the same size and not dilate (or even get smaller, ouch). This doesn't apply in darkness.
-Look her in the eye when talking with her, if she avoids eye contact, she probably doesn't like you.

Just remember not to assume that she doesn't like you, because it can result in unnecessary heart ache,

>dont assume she doesn't like you

Thats pretty much what ive been doing my entire life

Same here man, it's a problem we both have and need to get past.

my friend and I were just talking about hooking up with girls, not full relationships. Now I've only done this once; went from complete strangers with a girl to receiving a blowjob in two days. But at his college, he says there's a guy who looks like your typical douchebag, except he's really cool and nice. And yea, he does 'use' girls and gets laid nearly every night. What he told me friend is that you have to be assertive and know what you want, instead of having the girl guess. He also said that girls want sex as much, if not more, than guys; theyre just shy.
And I thought about what the 'douchebag' said, and realized that he's right; you have to be assertive. Because I thought back to the time i hooked up with this girl, and literally, I asked her for a blowjob. And she said yes. Biggest shock of my life.
But, I don't do this because I feel sort of ashamed; asking girls to do stuff like that. It just feels wrong.....but so good.

Dude nice. I'll probably never ask a girl for a blowjob. I don't have a big enough ego. I'm not trying to insult you or anything, it's just that my ego is too small. It's not like you are an egotystical nigger or anything lol. My superego is waayy too strong.

Id: Your basic needs in life.

Ego: What your conscious believes you are allowed to do.

SuperEgo: The part of your conscious that guards your ego and keeps it from getting in trouble.

I took AP psych my senior year of high school; I remember those three terms.

Yea that was probably the only time im ever gonna ask for one. Unless Im in a relationship with a girl.

Speaking of which, I asked one out yesterday. She said yes.

Forgot to look at her pupils though, and all those biological signs. This really hot polish girl in my calc class, Ive never spoken to her before except for just a few words and 'hello' wen passing each other. But yesterday I saw her walking alone while I was on my way to the library, so I walked up and asked where she's headed, she said library to study chem and I said 'no shit me too', so we went together so that we could 'study chem' together. But instead we ended up talking for about 45 minutes. And then at the end when we were both going to seperate classes I was just like "so tell me Alex (her name's Alexandra), what're you doing Saturday night?" And she said 'studying, actually (she has too tests next week)." "At this point I thought it was a rejection because I thought this was an 'excuse', but she said "But next Saturday I should be free, so we'll see then."

Was surprisingly easy. I dont know why I didnt feel nervous about asking out a girl this time, when my entire life I thought I would be. Like wen we were both leaving, I knew that this was the end and it was now or never. So I just said it, and felt no nervousness of anything. weird.

Yeah I took 2 years of psychology in highschool and 2 in college, then I left college because it was my plan since early childhood to join the army. (So here I am right now). I think I learned wayy too much about the biologic signs. lol.

i just write an essay about asking a girl out for the first time expecting a reaction to that, and you talk to me about psychology? Son, I am disappoint.

Wait, what do you mean?

exactly what I said. I just told you bout how I asked a girl out yesterday, and you seemed to ignore all of that and just told me bout psych. Since we were on the topic of girls and stuff like that, I was expecting some sort of reaction

Shit lol. I didn't realize that I completely ignored your big paragraph in the middle. About that...

You see, once in a while I'll see a girl who gives a slight bit of those "biological signs" and then I'll get an overload of "rejection" signs, such as: Turning away, not saying a word to me, etc... I've never actually seen a girl with dilated eyes looking at me. Lol. When I was in highschool, this girl that had the hots for me (10/10) didn't even have dilated pupils when she looked at me. But I didn't have the stomach to ask her out. It's funny how I'm willing to go into a combat zone and possibly die a slow painful death, but brave enough to ask a girl out. Man I need cognitive therapy.

Maybe you're just good looking lol.

Has a woman ever approached YOU before?

There's 3 things that girls subconsciously pick up on (maybe you know about it, maybe you don't) in scent. Girls can smell how much testosterone you've got (and the more, the mroe attractive you are), How good your immune system is (the stronger, the better), and your genes (the more different then hers, the better). But maybe you already know this stuff.

I think maybe you focus on biological signals too much. Maybe theyre not 100% foolproof. For example, with this girl alexandra I was going based off my gut feeling if she liked me or not. She was laughing at my 'jokes' (which weren't really funny, but then again we were talking about chemistry so I didn't have an opportunity to showcase my humor), and when i teased her a bit about something she just smiled/laughed and said 'shut up' playfully.

So. Idk, i asked her out cuz I like her as a person, and cuz she's fucking hot. Both of my 'heads' made the decision to ask her out, if u know wat i mean.

the last 3 things you said; I only sort of knew them; like I can understand them perfectly from an evolutionary stand point. I just never really thought about it that specifically (About the testosterone and the immune system).

As for your question has a woman ever approached me before...like I said in one of my first posts, I dont really know, because Im terrible at reading signs from girls and stuff like that. Has a woman ever asked me out? No. But I'm pretty sure girls have approached me in an effort to get to know me better; I just dont know if it's because they want to be friends or they want a relationship.

And I was like you, I thought I'd be deathly afraid of asking out a girl. But It wasn't bad at all like I described. I think it's because I only knew the girl like an hour, so I dont really give a shit what she thinks of me yet, and her rejecting me has no impact on me emotionally. I understand it becomes much much harder if you know a girl a long time, or if youre in her 'friend zone' for example.

Although I am in this one girl's friend zone whom I've known for 2 years and am absolutely in love with. And wen I confessed to her that I love her about 10 months ago, I didn't feel any nervousness. But then again when I asked her to go to prom with me 6 months ago, i was deathly afraid of her reaction. I have no idea why I was scared for one and not the other. Maybe I have random bouts of courage.

There's actually another reason why I am affraid to ask out girls. I only get a month of "leave" a year, so I wouldn't get to see a girlfriend very often. I think the other reason is because she could easily make me look like a scumbat idiot in front of everyone.

Oh and your second paragraph, I relate to it 100%.

well military life is hard....dont know what to say to you exactly mate.

I didn't expect you to know. I just typed it out anyways lol.

I understand. Well im goin to bed now. Peace

Cya man good talk.

*she has two tests next week. idk why i wrote too.


I was still worried that it sounded like a rejection, so I asked my friend who looks like a typical Jersey Shore douchebag and gets with lots of girls (but in reality he's really nice and smart and just cool) and he said that it's not a rejection, cuz if she was looking for an excuse then she wouldn't have given me an alternate date

If they fumble over their words or seem to not want to let go after a hug then they may want to date you.

oh god tell me about it.
>go to concert with girl
>seem to have good time, make out entire night
>never hear from her again

i know that feel bro

that's different though; that's like bangin drunk sluts at parties. You moved too quickly.
Im talkin bout girls you know from class, who seem to like you, and want hugs, and you walk them to your next class and they laugh at all your jokes..

But then they say no when u ask them out. It's like.....da fuq, bro?

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Delete the triangles. This should help you with body language.

The best way is really their pupils. When you talk to a girl and make eye contact, if her pupils are dilated, she likes you. It might sound weird, but it hasn't failed me yet.

It depends on what you're doing and what you're talking about. If you're in a dark area, don't rely on that, but it is the only biological sign they like you. If her eyes always seem to be dilated around you, she probably likes you.

it was a prearranged date and neither of us were drunk :P

so then wat is this i dont even.....

maybe she just thought you were hot but not dating material, so she just wanted to make out? idk.....