Its all about balance, you'll get sick of either side if you have too much of it. **** post everyday, its boring and you miss actual interactions with people, Party everyday it gets overwhelming and eventually you'll be begging for some alone time. Remember balance is key
this is true but hard to do because you encounter some fun people but they have terrible balance. this kind of turns into a rant, my bad. just venting i guess. skip if you want
i love being social and hanging out but i also want some down time - be it bingeing on movies, tv, books, fj, or sleep. some people i enjoy being around don't seem to understand this and constantly try to contact me over the weekend. then i explain it to them, it happens again, i dont reply, they think i'm mad and our friendship is in trouble, start trying to get together every day and have this weird look pf expectation on their face when they talk.. clingyness makes my skin crawl so i either ask them to give me space or stop responding. both yield the same result: no more fun times. find new friends, rinse, lather, repeat. though this doesnt happen with everyone. when it does, i remember friends are fleeting, family (that i choose) is forever, and i am living life in a way that makes me happy
tl;dr aspire to be balanced and enjoy life. no matter which end you lean toward, you will find people who don't understand and it will make you feel lonely. don't let it discourage you
>Be me a year ago
> Uni student 80% Normie, social but also math geek
> University is great. Met new people every day, having a blast.
The social exposure helped my mental health immensely. At 16 years old, I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia: the medical nickname for "Your muscles are in constant pain, no clue why, but you should probably try to never be sad or stressed ever, that'll make it worse faster".
Gets worse every day, still no answers
> Now at 19 years old, now at crippling levels of pain.
> Grades plummet, energy nonexistent, perma-tired
> Lost a lot of friends due to my on and off pain levels, constantly having to cancel plans or head home early
> Replace that with more video games and movies
And basically, I'm perfectly satisfied, you guys should be too! Here's why:
-Lost a lot of friends, but the good few stuck around
-Like family to me now, they make sure I'm eating enough and help walk me to class
-More video games!
Even as an extroverted person who's body can't handle the lifestyle, I find that the smaller your life is, the more you really appreciate the little things. Hell yeah I miss going to parties and all that, but with everything so slow and quiet, I get to choose what I do and when. I don't even care that I don't have a gf, cause I'm too busy helping my single mom (she the real mvp) make dinner, and listening my sassy little sister tell me about the basic bitches at her school.
TLR;
Do yourself a favor, be happy with yourself, no matter what your lifestyle is right now. Whether you're browsing Dank Straight Up Caught Comps, or jacking it to your ****** dick-girls, actually enjoy it. You're not filling a void, you're not missing out, because if you actually wanted to be a fukboi getting sloshed at parties on the weekly, you'd be there. But you're here, in the environment you created, doing what you've chosen to do. You're in control. You don't like it? Change it! You're already exactly where you wanna be, you just have to change your attitude and start living in the moment!
TLR x2 "19 year old with muscle-itis says secret to happiness is memes"
I've actually experienced normie life and didn't like it, too many people in a room and I get claustrophobic. **** , went to a christmas party with just a few friends and there was only like 8 people there, and I was starting to feel the walls close in a bit.
> be me
>old freinds invites me out to her freinds cottage
>her freind 11/10, litterally my dream girl
>everyone gets wasted new years ball is dropping
>goddess grabs me and pulls me into corner
>count down hits zero, we make out for hours
>eventually she pulls my virgin ass up stairs
> starts getting intimate, tells me shes a virgin
> **** like rabbits with no condom
>3 days of constants parting and fun go by
> leave cottage
>never see her again, no texts, no calls
yeah iv had the good life, i try not to think about it..
>Needing alcohol to have a good life
I knew robots were losers, but really... with all that time alone they should at least manage to come to the conclusion that there is no worse waste of free time than drinking
Ah, so the feeling of dislike is mutual among all your friends.
Real friends do not need to be wasted to enjoy each others presence, and good people do not need to be wasted to enjoy life. The fact that you need to drink at all signifies only one thing: that your life is as pathetic as your future is.
similar happened to me
fj beta life
i dont want to be a neet so i sit in the school library all day
english teacher asks me why i dont go to his classes
decide i will go to his class
he invited me to a "gay pizza trampoline party"
i dont want to
i go anyway
best time i had
keep going to gay parties
become the homo
get kicked out of home
get own apartment
holding a strong job now
living a pretty popular and good life
feels good maing
you know whats unsatisfying? Spending everday waking up to do THE SAME EXACT THING EVER ******* DAY.
wake up watch youtube/funnyjunk do homework, go to class, come home watch more youtube/funnyjunk, then porn to finish the day. Everyday
people make life exciting, but not people you pretend to know on the internet.
Yeah, I know that feel. I like having a braai with friends Not sure what it's called in other countries. Like a barbeque, but with an open wood fire, not coals, basically but I ******* hate clubs and house parties.
**kwanzalord used "*roll picture*"** **kwanzalord rolled image**most people think I'm a normie...
thank god they have no idea what I do on the internet
Honestly it's what you get out of life that matters.
I hate just about every type of alcohol there is (hell I don't even like Tea or Coffee), and partying and getting chicks and whatnot just doesn't sound like that much fun to me. I just like sitting down and having a one on one conversation with someone where we just shoot the **** without all that noise and distraction.
I have one day a week where I regular go out and hang out with friends and we grab food and play a bunch of board games ranging from the complex to the dumb party games, and that's practically therapeutic and it's good enough for me.
>implying doing both isn't possible.
I work and go to college. I don't have much time for doing other stuff and parties are generally just so exhausting that id rather not do it that much. I very rarely go to parties.
I honestly hate this normie concept because it leaves the impression to others that they are not normal or something is wrong with them.
I generally have specific people I hang out with throughout the week. I find having close relationships with specific people are more important than being known by a bunch of different people who really don't care that much about you.