That's a good thing too. You shouldn't be able to - #75902545 added by JustForTheLulz at Advice

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(12/04/2012)[-]

So a girl likes me I just found out, and she is a really nice person and even shares some of my interests, but something seems wrong, I don't know what but I just have a feeling that something is wrong, she may not be pretty but I'm trying not to be such a shallow douchefuck, but yet something still feels wrong, and I am not even sure if I like her in the same way

#41155 to #41150 - techketzer

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(12/05/2012)[-]

Then what are you angsting about?
Nothing will improve by putting yourself under pressure.

#41161 to #41155 - yomommabinshoppin

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(12/05/2012)[-]

Well, I feel like I'm being all those girls who have rejected me and if I do the same, I couldn't live with myself

#41162 to #41161 - JustForTheLulz

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(12/05/2012)[-]

Like it or not, physical attraction is always a factor. If you don't find this girl to be physically attractive, and her personality doesn't exactly blow you away, it's pretty natural not to have feelings for her. Anyone that frequents this board knows that I'm hopeless when it comes to relationships, but I still recently said no to dating a girl because I just didn't find myself attracted to her, mentally even more so than physically.

If you think you could look past how she is on the outside and develop feelings for her based on her personality, try it. If not, tell her you don't feel the same way. If girls don't have to date guys just because they're nice, guys don't have to do it either.

#41165 to #41162 - yomommabinshoppin

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(12/05/2012)[-]

but we must be the better people, to rise above those who do not show kindness.

#41167 to #41165 - JustForTheLulz

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(12/05/2012)[-]

So it's better to date a girl that you're not attracted to just to have a girlfriend, when you know it's very likely that as she becomes more attached, you'll be getting more and more bored of the relationship, and inevitably break up with her and potentially break her heart?

That's not very nice.

I'm not saying that's what's going to happen in this situation, but if you really have no feelings for this girl, then it's a possibility.

#41168 to #41167 - yomommabinshoppin

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(12/05/2012)[-]

Yeah, I know, I still feel bad.

#41170 to #41168 - JustForTheLulz

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(12/05/2012)[-]

That's a good thing too. You shouldn't be able to knowingly disappoint someone who's nice without feeling a little bad about it, but at the same time, you're not protecting her feelings by dating her when you know you wouldn't really be into the relationship 100%.