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#40991 - Missdomayuset
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(12/04/2012) [-]
I hate that I'm 22 and I still can't handle touching a guy. Yes I'm straight, at least I'm sure I am. I don't like girls. No I've never been raped or molested. No, I'm not religious or anything. No I am not fat or self-conscious of my appearance. I have clear skin, and a rather petite body. And yes, I do share a lot of intrests a lot of other guys may have, like Batman, D&D, Yugioh, various video games, books, ect. It's not hard for me to get a guys attention. But I panic on a date, because I hate getting treated, or getting gifts- I feel insanely guilty. For this reason I hate my birthday and other holidays just to avoid the awkward. I hate when the guy tries to cuddle me, or hold my hand, and I don't know why. I'm worried this is something I will never get over, and eventually, I'll die alone.

Just to be clear, I'm not looking for a date on funnyjunk, I just want advice or... something. I don't know. Stupid problem.
#41145 to #40991 - klaes
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(12/04/2012) [-]
Late response is late, but I hope you get this:

When people give you gifts or a someone you're on a date with cuddles you, its because they are interested in you and they WANT to do what they're doing. Don't feel guilty about receiving gifts as giving a gift is exactly what the person wants to do. Also, as far as dates go, just go with the flow. Loosen up a little, cuddles are a form of affection.

I doubt that you've had your first kiss yet, due to your condition. Try for this, and remember:

-When someone cuddles you they're showing affection

-Don't panic, it's normal to be nervous so don't panic if you are

-As long as they don't try anything too absurd, let the guy take the lead with stuff if you're nervous about anything.

-Break down a few walls. That guy who "stalked" you for a year had very good reason to be pissed, although he overreacted. Think about it, you dumped him for showing affection.

-The fact that you're decent looking and realtively smart(or at least you seem to be) but only had your first date in senior year speaks for itself: you push people away. Don't. For once in your life, just embrace the feeling of warmth you get from when poeople care.

#41101 to #40991 - caelinnis
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(12/04/2012) [-]
You might have a mental illness, I'd suggest talking to a councelor or your doctor and if they just say you're just strange, well I've got some bad news for you.

the only way you're gonna fix it is if you actually go out and do it. Go small first, obviously. Best of luck
#41039 to #40991 - denooo
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(12/04/2012) [-]
What you need to do is duel me on DN
#41037 to #40991 - JustForTheLulz
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(12/04/2012) [-]
Sounds like you need to let your guard down a little. There's nothing wrong with accepting a gift from someone that cares about you every once in a while, as long as you're not just using them. Just try to relax and be open to the idea of holding hands and cuddling. What is it exactly that you hate about it?
#40992 to #40991 - thisisspartah
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(12/04/2012) [-]
did you have many relationships when you were younger?
because you might not be used to it, thats all
#40993 to #40992 - Missdomayuset
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(12/04/2012) [-]
No, not really. I didn't have my first date until senior year for prom- that ended rather badly, because after I broke it off (due to above issues) the guy was really upset and he started stalking me for about a year... not that it was traumatizing. As far as stalkers go, he was pretty respectful. It was mostly just 'you were my one true love' and 'Get back with me or I'll die' (which ironically just pushed me further away). Eventually he got over it and we all moved on.

I went out with another guy- really nice guy. But I only did it because I knew he was moving the next week.

But those where my only two experiences.
#40994 to #40993 - thisisspartah
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(12/04/2012) [-]
yeah lack of experience would be why, maybe it will grow on you