She was viewed as the good guy because I broke - #73983684 added by kenada at Advice

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(11/18/2012)[-]

So I need some advice quick.
My ex-gf had cheated on me after 1 1/2 years. I then broke up with her.
I was dubbed a heartless bastard and continuously told to kill myself or that I was a waste of life.

So I finally just left, and stopped talking to her completely.
Now apparently, she is depressed, and the main person who made death threats is trying to talk to me like I'm a friend.

What do I do?

#37758 to #37699 - chubbylittlemonkey

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(11/18/2012)[-]

Give the person who gave you death threats a chance to be your friend. People change.

#37759 to #37758 - kenada

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(11/18/2012)[-]

I did, they blocked me.

But when blocked, they can still send me messages.

#37763 to #37759 - chubbylittlemonkey

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(11/18/2012)[-]

This is confusing, if the death threat person wants to be your friend, wouldn't you be unblocked?

#37767 to #37763 - kenada

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(11/18/2012)[-]

They didn't want to be friends.
But now they act like they do

And I just don't know now.

#37771 to #37767 - chubbylittlemonkey

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(11/18/2012)[-]

Block them. Easy. Unless they harass you in real life.

#37776 to #37771 - kenada

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(11/18/2012)[-]

Its a one way block, can't access their account to block them
But they can still access my account and such.

#37781 to #37776 - chubbylittlemonkey

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(11/18/2012)[-]

Change your password.

#37733 to #37699 - brutalliltt

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(11/18/2012)[-]

THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS I HAVE HAD NEARLY THE EXACT. I MEAN EXACT THING HAPPEN TO ME!

step away. do not allow those people to even get the slightest foot in the door of your life. delete their numbers ignore their texts stay away from them

please trust me

#37734 to #37733 - kenada

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(11/18/2012)[-]

People can be cruel

#37700 to #37699 - gulijens

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(11/18/2012)[-]

cut both of them out of your life and meet new people... she will get over it... bitches always do...
you don't deserve bad treatment, just because you don't like your girlfriend to cheat...

#37701 to #37700 - kenada

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(11/18/2012)[-]

She was viewed as the good guy because I broke up with her.
Even though she cheated.

Her reasoning was that I never said she couldn't cheat.
And everyone else agreed.

#37705 to #37701 - gulijens

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(11/18/2012)[-]

well, isn't a relationship supposed to be full of faithfulness and stuff ??
that's my opinion, and i'm very sure most of the world sees it that way.. if you're allowed to cheat it isn't a real relationship... it's either an open relationship or just.... something...

#37708 to #37705 - kenada

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(11/18/2012)[-]

Yeah, she wanted an open, which I argued that we shouldn't.
That was the point where I should have broken up with her.
Would have saved me a lot of troubles of her cheating on me.

#37711 to #37708 - gulijens

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(11/18/2012)[-]

yea... if you can't agree on that part, then it shouldn't be...
cheating is not okay... if you can't keep your legs shut/dick in your pants, then don't get into a relationship :)
guess that's why i don't get into anything ^.^

#37715 to #37711 - kenada

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(11/18/2012)[-]

I used to stay away from relationships, but I thought this one would come together.
We had minimal problems and arguments for the year and half.
And then she does this.

There's always going to be that one person who makes it hard for someone to trust anyone.
And I found her.

#37718 to #37715 - gulijens

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(11/18/2012)[-]

yes, it's difficult to find trustworthy people...
i always tell the guys not to expect me to stick around for long, cause i get easily tired of being tied down, and i think it makes it easier for them to bear... it's of course always hard, but at least i'm being honest...

#37719 to #37718 - kenada

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(11/18/2012)[-]

The truth can hurt, but lies will wound.

I wish my ex would have just left me instead of cheating.
Everyone knew, but nobody told me :/

#37720 to #37719 - gulijens

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(11/18/2012)[-]

yea... she really should have... stupid cheaters !

#37703 to #37701 - JustForTheLulz

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(11/18/2012)[-]

Was "everyone" her friends?

#37704 to #37703 - kenada

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(11/18/2012)[-]

Some, some people on here took her side too.
When I posted the beginning of all of this a few months ago.

Yeah, this has been going on for ~2 months now

#37706 to #37704 - JustForTheLulz

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(11/18/2012)[-]

Her friends will have her back no matter what. Don't listen to them. Also, anyone on here who told you cheating is okay was probably bullshitting. You're the victim here. I don't really see why you'd want to associate with her or the people that took her side.

#37702 to #37701 - lmaopwnt

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(11/18/2012)[-]

Yea... just forget her, if anyone tries to convince you otherwise just give them a broad "fuck no".

#37707 to #37702 - lmaopwnt

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(11/18/2012)[-]

Put simply, anyone who tries to justify cheating doesn't deserve a second chance, especially with such a bullshit reason, no matter how many people agree with her. Now if she took responsibility then that would be a good reason to consider forgiving her, otherwise, no, she doesn't deserve the chance, and you don't deserve someone like her.

#37709 to #37707 - kenada

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(11/18/2012)[-]

She never lived up to the consequences of what she did.
She always hid behind her friends or came up with excuses.

And then she tries to go and say that she still cares about me.
Complete bullshit.

#37712 to #37709 - lmaopwnt

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(11/18/2012)[-]

If this has been going on for 2 months then she's probably telling the truth, no one in the right mind would go through with this for that long without a good reason.
Tell you what, don't forgive her just yet, but talk to her. Tell her to stop asking you for forgiveness, tell her to ask her friends to stop harassing you, and above all tell her what you think about her trying to pin the blame on you. If she actually takes responsibility, then give her another one more chance.
In short, just try to "start over".

#37716 to #37712 - kenada

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(11/18/2012)[-]

I've done all of that. I've tried giving her a second chance, but she wasn't willing to give me one.
I even got more harassed after asking for it to stop.
Her friends have me blocked, and she tells them anything wrong that I do.
No matter what it is or how small, and then they message me and I can't do anything about it.

Everything they say is just bullshit now..

#37714 to #37712 - lmaopwnt

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(11/18/2012)[-]

Or you could just use the "if you really care about me" trap...

#37717 to #37714 - kenada

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(11/18/2012)[-]

She took that and went defense with "He's guilt tripping me, wah, give me pity"

#37721 to #37717 - lmaopwnt

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(11/18/2012)[-]

She seems incredibly selfish, just do what I said before, forget her, and tell anyone on her side to fuck off, and whatever you do, don't give in, or you'll just end up being her little bitch.
(By the way, harassment like that is liable to be classified as cyber-bullying, I.E. illegal, if it keeps up then let someone know, school officials, police, whoever has the most power over her and won' take her side.)

#37722 to #37721 - kenada

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(11/18/2012)[-]

If one person deletes the message, it gets deleted from both people.
So there's no hard evidence of any message.

And I'm not going to cave.
A month ago I was the one wanting her back. But now I say fuck it.
If shes going to be a cowardly hypocrite..

#37724 to #37722 - lmaopwnt

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(11/18/2012)[-]

Take a picture of the message as soon as you receive it, or give your phone to the police and let them see the messages first hand, either way, getting them involved could get you out of this, since everyone else is obviously logically impaired.

#37725 to #37724 - kenada

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(11/18/2012)[-]

Well now that they are trying to make me stay or whatever they're doing
Don't think I'll get any of those types of message again.

#37726 to #37725 - lmaopwnt

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(11/18/2012)[-]

Tell them your side then, people who are angry are typically impossible to work with, if they're getting less and less angry then you might get the to at least see your side, although taking it is questionable. But that could at least give some leeway, and if you're real lucky things might turn if your favor.
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Things to emphasize when telling them your side:
Her trying to pin the blame on you and you alone.
Her claiming to care about you and then not listening to you.
Her always hiding behind excuses.
How you wanted her back at one point but her doing the above ended that.

#37727 to #37726 - kenada

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(11/18/2012)[-]

They still stay to her side.

I've told my story, and they said it was my fault for her cheating.

None of what I went though has been worth my time, and its sad because I still stay.

#37728 to #37727 - lmaopwnt

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(11/18/2012)[-]

Welp, I'm out of suggestions, the trouble's not worth it, just forget her and all her friends.

#37730 to #37728 - kenada

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(11/18/2012)[-]

I ran out of things to do a month ago, hah.

Thanks for the help though. Feels good to actually talk things out.

#37729 to #37728 - lmaopwnt

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(11/18/2012)[-]

At this point all I can say is to tell her friends that you're not going to be her little bitch. If they keep pestering you after that, block them.