I've been that once, but as a man... And voluntarily. But either way you shouldn't take it too hard, think of it like this, why would you ever want to be with him anyway if he's willing to do something like that to you? Does human trash like that really deserve you kicking yourself for this?

One thing I can say is that you shouldn't have contacted the girlfriend, that was not a good idea, for multiple reasons.

Good luck, I hope you can get over it, whatever you do don't try to get back with him after this, you know a person that is capable of doing it will do it again.

Why shouldn't I have contacted the girlfriend? I couldn't leave her not knowing her boyfriend had cheated on her. Apparently this isn't the first time.

And I would never get back with him. If I never have to see him again, it will be too soon.

I don't think anything anyone will say here will make you feel better, but that guy is a jerk for doing that. I know I felt awful when I was cheated on.

I hate feeling like I'm partially to blame for basically ruining someone's life.

It was his choice, not yours. I'm sure you aren't the type of person that would purposefully get with a guy that is dating somebody else.

I literally messaged his girlfriend within 10 minutes of finding out to tell her everything. I've spent almost 24 hours being told what a terrible human being I am.

Wait, the girlfriend is calling you out? Or the ex-boyfriend?

The girlfriend.

Either she doesn't believe you (she thought that you were trying to steal him away from her or something), or she's retarded.

I showed her all the texts. She's in denial and there's nothing I can do about it and I hate it.

If she continues to fumble in the dark after you've shown her the light, that's her own problem. You should move on.

I guess.... I know it isn't my fault because I didn't know, but also, I am part of the cause of her pain, and I hate that

Is she your friend? I don't understand why you care so much about this woman. Try this (assuming the girl will still listen to you.), get her to come with you and confront the boy about it.

I've never met her in my life. But I'm overly caring about literally everyone. It's a blessing and a curse.

Yes, you can't help and please everyone though. You have to accept that. I still care about people, but I've come to accept that. I'm not a superhero. I can't save everyone. That's the reality of things you need to face as well. At this moment, people are dying, getting raped, beaten, kidnapped, etc. We can't save them all. If there is a God, I don't understand why it would allow this to continue.

I know. Her best friend got involved as a neutral party and she's really nice so she's actually been checking in that I'm ok. But apparently the girlfriend is considering staying with him and that terrifies me.

Except that this isn't the first time, apparently.

That's sad.

Well you aren't. You need to believe you did the right thing by telling her.

I know I did the right thing. I know I'm not t fault here. It's just such a shitty situation in general.

Dump his or her ass and move on, find someone that wil treat you the way you want to be treated and then treat them how they want to be treated.

Or just naturally be a good person and it should all work out, if not who cares, you're not losing anything you started out with.

Part of the problem is that I'm too good of person and people walk right over me.

Mmm, that was my mother's mistake for the longest time and still to this day, God I just hate people who take advantage of others. I use to do it but I definitely changed and turned into a better person I think. I mean, it's good that you're a good person but it's just gonna give you some heartbreak/troubles in the future, there needs to be a point where you stop being a good person and show people the word "no" and stand up for yourself. I guess it's kind of hard because you don't know if the person deserves it or not. Some people I just want to be good to all the time and sometimes not at all. Usually the people I respect I want to impress and not be a burden to them.

Wish I had an answer to the whole, people walk over me, because I would use it on my family as well.

I appreciate that. The problem is that I want to be there and be kind to the people who deserve it. I feel good when I'm able to see other people happy. Which makes this whole situation worse, because I know I'm part of what's caused this girl massive heartbreak.

Posted this anon because in the past I've had cruel jokes on the advice board. Thanks for being nice when it actually counts, guys.

Also, joshlol commented on this? Whatttt?

joshlol isn't some famous guy.

hello

Does this mean I'm FJ famous now?

**joshlol shrugs**

Time to leave and find someone that will make you his one and only.

I've been searching for that person for a long time.

Then it's time to adopt a dog.

I would if I could. :/

Then it's time for a tamagotchi.

My tamagotchi died when I was but a child.

Then it's time to eat ice cream on the couch while watching F.R.I.E.N.D.S.

This I can do.

that.....sucks....

>tfw I'm just the weirdo from theinternet