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#215409 - thumbfortrump
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(1 hour ago) [-]
I think it's strange that psychological issues are considered mental illnesses, many refer to them as something you are, rather than something you have.

For instance saying "she is schizophrenic", "she is depressed" and so on. When referring to physical illness the phrasing is often "she has a fever", "he has cancer" etc.
Perhaps more would be outspoken about mental issues, if did not feel it was something they are, but something they have.
#215410 to #215409 - platinumaltaria ONLINE
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(1 hour ago) [-]
You are your personality, right? When that gets damaged you get damaged. Cancer is just inside your body, depression is inside you.
#215411 to #215410 - thumbfortrump
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(1 hour ago) [-]
But it's not who you really are, it's something you get, often because of predisposition or environmental factors. My cousin had depression, and he wasn't who he was when he was healthy. I think if you view more as something you have, than something you are, it is also possible to imagine yourself being healthy again.
#215412 to #215411 - platinumaltaria ONLINE
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(1 hour ago) [-]
It's better than what we were doing 100 years ago; sticking electrodes into their brains to make them stop.
#215413 to #215412 - thumbfortrump
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(1 hour ago) [-]
I agree. But I just think that referring to the illness as something you have instead of something you are, will give the person suffering from it much more hope. At least that was the case for my cousin. It helped a lot when he saw a psychologist who told him his condition was not permanent, as he of course feared it was.
#215414 to #215413 - platinumaltaria ONLINE
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(1 hour ago) [-]
Speaking for those with more permanent conditions I don't think semantics matter.
#215392 - anon
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(13 hours ago) [-]
A kid I went to high school with recently killed himself because he was "depressed". This kid had tons of friends and had no trouble getting girls and he was always around people that liked him and accepted him.

It may sound dickish but it's honestly pathetic. For me my girlfriend of 3 years cheated on me and dumped a couple months ago and I lost all my friends because of her and it seems like no one cares/ likes me. I honestly have nothing. The last 3-4 months all I've done was go to work, gym and then home. I haven't had anyone text me in 2 weeks but I still know I have to keep pushing since maybe things will get better.
#215406 to #215392 - whitechino
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(6 hours ago) [-]
If you're thinking about how you deserve suicide note than him, then relax, cause someone is always going to have it worse than you.
#215399 to #215392 - burpy
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(11 hours ago) [-]
On the next episode of people who don't know how depression works.
#215398 to #215392 - muffintime
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(13 hours ago) [-]
I understand where you're coming from and that it's annoying to see someone who seemed to have had a better life then you take the "easy" way out. You never know what was going on in there head, even though suicide is the cowards way out. Just focus on yourself and find hobbies/ new friends
#215396 to #215392 - platinumaltaria ONLINE
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(13 hours ago) [-]
Depression is not caused by what happens in your life, it is a mental illness. You could be bill gates and have depression, you could be on the streets and have depression.
#215395 to #215392 - ferrettamer ONLINE
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(13 hours ago) [-]
it's almost like depression is a mental illness that isn't always correlated to events and position in life
#215387 - valourinfj
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(16 hours ago) [-]
Got a interview at Ikes sandwich and love shop in phoenix next tuesday but it's a group interview and I already know i'm not going to get the job. I put alot of work into learning what they do in their interview process just to end up in a group one that I can't focus all that information into. Fucking great.
#215385 - helterskeleton
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(17 hours ago) [-]
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So, I've been in a relationship with a girl for 2 years now. I'm not religious, and she.. varies. for the first year she was lightly christian, then until a month ago she was an atheist, and now she's more christian than ever. Last night she said to me with tears in her eyes that God was telling her that she needs to be with a Christian, because I'm "not helping her enrich her faith", and she broke up with me. I asked if there was anything I could do, anything I ever did wrong, and she says, "no. you were the perfect boyfriend and you don't deserve this but sometimes the world just works out this way." Now, I'm not an ugly guy I don't think (me enclosed), I could maybe find another girl, I just.. after 2 years, I don't know if I want to.


Now, she texts me saying "I hate this, I want our break up to not have been real" and I said "But you were the one that said God told you he didn't want us together" and she says, "I'll pray about it, and maybe he'll say it's okay." I said "why, what does it say in the bible?" And she says "No not in the bible, he'll tell me directly."

Now, you gotta understand, that from my perspective, my relationship with my 4.0 university girlfriend is being decided by her imaginary friend. Are there any christians who can tell me what she's going through, what she's thinking, what's going to happen to us? Any atheists who can tell me what they would do?
#215397 to #215385 - platinumaltaria ONLINE
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(13 hours ago) [-]
Christians, and theists in general, often believe that what are in fact their own subconscious thoughts are the voice of god. She may feel guilt about her lack of faith; especially if she was raised into it. I'd say talking would be a start, outside the bounds of faith ask her what she wants out of you and see if you're willing to do it.
#215400 to #215397 - helterskeleton
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(10 hours ago) [-]
I'm nearly positive that she'll react with another "No there's nothing you can do but convert and I know you can't do that", but if this works, I'm naming my first child platinumaltaria. Thank you!
#215390 to #215385 - anon
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(14 hours ago) [-]
She's having doubts about everything it seems, including her religion. This doesn't have anything to do with you, she needs to figure this out for herself. I say take a step back.
#215391 to #215390 - helterskeleton
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(14 hours ago) [-]
Noted. Thank you
#215381 - thumbfortrump
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(19 hours ago) [-]
Are bunny ear cacti poisonous? I managed to fall on a bunch of them, and basically got my whole arm covered with them. Now I got a full-blown rash that's itchy as hell. Also taking the advice of seeing a doctor about those tic bites. This has not been one of my glory weeks.
#215407 to #215381 - alstorp
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(5 hours ago) [-]
Technically yes, but it won't ever cause anything else but irritation, so you're good.
#215393 to #215381 - sineztro
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(13 hours ago) [-]
Nah they just have lots of needles, most people call them prickly pear or paddle cacti, but I like bunny ear better nowu
#215379 - muchname
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(19 hours ago) [-]
im about to have a mental breakdown, help
I can't add songs onto my phone in itunes
I try to and it comes up with "can't read X song"
help
pls
pls
#215377 - anon
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(19 hours ago) [-]
Posting as anon.
I've got this one huge issue with my life, it's the only thing that i would consider bad in my existence; and that is being left out.

I've always been on the sidelines and in the background, from a young age i would tag along to parties and wedge myself into the side of a picture. As i've gotten older this lack of attention has really started to get on my nerves.

Over the last few years i've tried to assert myself more, i've tried to fit in with relevant topics and discussions by keeping all my tech and social life up-to-date. So far i've achieved very little. I still have the same small group of 3 friends who i hang out with only at school and rarely outside of it. I initiate ALL of my message conversations and i've been ill and had no contact for weeks before. The only time people approach me in school is to get help with questions etc. and it infuriates me to no end.

I've asked people individually to go see movies and stuff, and they would keep pushing it back, and back, and back until they say they can't come; those hurt the most.
At my best I would make a clever comment during a conversation that would make everyone laugh, and I would ride that high for days.
At my worst i've had to cancel a birthday party because no-one showed, It killed me inside and brought me down to serious depression.

I've somehow managed to keep my hopes up this long, that maybe someday this issue will be resolved; i'm perfectly healthy, i've got good grades in my subjects and i've got plenty of pasttimes outside of the house, but what am I doing wrong?
#215394 to #215377 - muffintime
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(13 hours ago) [-]
for some people it just seems like they can fit in with people and people can tolerate them being around but they're not quite friends with. I have the same problem, I can fit in with people at school/work and they enjoy talking to me there but outside of those settings they could give to fucks about me.
#215384 to #215377 - platinumaltaria ONLINE
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(19 hours ago) [-]
I can't claim to know what your problem is m80, but I can make a few educated guesses: maybe people think you're boring you may only talk about a few subjects that don't interest anyone ; you may just be unlucky with your "friends" choose new ones, FJ has you covered in that regard . I'd recommend making new friends and ditching the old ones, they evidently don't give a shit about you if they're acting like that, and are not worth your time. If you indeed have many interests try meeting people through those, there are always things for young people to do with their time.
#215376 - bludead
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(19 hours ago) [-]
How do you search for a specific channel....

Cause there's the 'popular' channels at the top of the website, but idk how to find like a list of all of them , or a way to search through them
#215378 to #215376 - xsirwafflezx ONLINE
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(19 hours ago) [-]
If you scroll down the page, at the bottom of the sidebar there are a couple links packed quite closely together, you want the 'channels' one (obviously)
#215380 to #215378 - bludead
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(19 hours ago) [-]
Thanks!
#215369 - vozel
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(21 hours ago) [-]
I had a dream where i was fingering a girl

What the hell does this mean
#215388 to #215369 - anon
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(15 hours ago) [-]
it means you like being able to control women
#215374 to #215369 - alstorp
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(20 hours ago) [-]
It means you were horny
#215371 to #215369 - platinumaltaria ONLINE
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(20 hours ago) [-]
Give her the D.
#215364 - kyleassante
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#215366 to #215364 - anon
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(22 hours ago) [-]
It sounds like you don't really want to kill yourself, you just want an exciting way out from your stressful life.

My advice, don't go anywhere and use the money to start your life back up. The rest of the world will still be there when you're mental sound enough to enjoy it.
#215365 to #215364 - braveblue
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(22 hours ago) [-]
I think you should just keep going, I don't really think you should off yourself but that's really your choice, maybe you should reconsider things, I mean if you wanted to off yourself that badly you would have just done it already so life isn't really all that bad if you haven't done it yet. Why the fuck are you disappointed that you can't an hero now. I don't see why you want to off yourself, seems like you want the attention and to worry your parents if they don't ever see you again, they'll think you disappeared and they will be searching for you and they'll be wasting money on you as well. I'm sure your parents love you and everything so why do you want to off yourself, no good parent wants to see their kid hanging off a ceiling fan or their brains splattered on the ground or anything really. Even if they can't find you, they are gonna feel like shit for the rest of their lives and figure that you're dead anyways or you didn't care in the first place to visit during the holidays.

You're plan is really good besides the off yourself thing, seeing the world and getting into shape because of it? Sounds like you bettered yourself because you had a goal in mind. Why the hell would you bother offing yourself after all the trouble of saving up and seeing the world, getting into shape? If you really hated living then you would have just offed yourself at the first shot you got.

Man get your shit together.
#215368 to #215365 - kyleassante
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