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#185840 - anonymous (1 hour ago) [-]
TFW 17 and never had a gf
I talk to girls and all but like not very many interest me that much because they all seem so generic
#185845 to #185840 - softdoritocat ONLINE (46 minutes ago) [-]
...and your problem is?
User avatar #185839 - nigalthornberry (1 hour ago) [-]
I got sick a while ago and now my voice doesn't feel right it feels like alot more cracky and forced like I'm still sick which I kind of am. Is there anyway to fix this?
#185846 to #185839 - softdoritocat ONLINE (44 minutes ago) [-]
Drink camomile tea with honey. it works, confirmed.
User avatar #185841 to #185839 - nigalthornberry (1 hour ago) [-]
Makes me feel like I sound nervous
#185838 - dehumanizer (1 hour ago) [-]
#185842 to #185838 - softdoritocat ONLINE (1 hour ago) [-]
Sterilize your cat, please.
#185843 to #185842 - dehumanizer (59 minutes ago) [-]
thats inhumane
#185844 to #185843 - softdoritocat ONLINE (57 minutes ago) [-]
Excuse me, what? What's inhumane are thousands of cats and dogs dying daily because of irresponsible breeding.
User avatar #185828 - jacoban (6 hours ago) [-]
has anyone saved a 4chan bomb making comp? been diggin through my favs but no luck
User avatar #185837 to #185828 - welliguessitsaname (3 hours ago) [-]
The FBI says hi
#185818 - anonymous (8 hours ago) [-]
I've been with my gf for almost 8 years now. This week I've found out that she cheated on me 6 years ago. She never told me, because apparently it was a one-time mistake. She doesn't have any contact with that guy. She did it because she thought about breaking up with me - two weeks before she cheated, I made out with her friend while drunk. So it was a form of "revenge".

I'm completely clueless right now. Our relationship was amazing in the past few years. I don't know if I should forgive her or not. First off, we were in early 20s when it happened and I mean, fuck, people are still quite dumb at this age. Second, the relationship we have is great, I love her and she loves me, I don't know if I will meet someone with whom I'd have such a great connection. But then again - she cheated on me and I don't know if I can get past this. Wut do?
User avatar #185831 to #185818 - vortix (5 hours ago) [-]
forgive her, i mean cmon, its was 6 years ago AND you have been happy with her for 8 years.
User avatar #185829 to #185818 - yourinvisiblegf (5 hours ago) [-]
i would be more mad about the "revenge" part
you made a mistake while drunk (how much drunk?)
and instead of confronting you, she cuckolded you
which is more than you did with her friend (uknow, an eye for an eye,...)

in your situation, i would be very concerned about what she could do for her "revenge" next time something displeasure her, and what is enough for her to justify a "revenge"

but then again, it's been 6 years
you've build a strong bound with her
chances are she regret it deeply, as you regret your mistake too

have a good talk, don't get mad
no one want to lose the other
everyone want to be in a stable and reassuring relationship
so no one's gonna do this silly mistake again

have a good life man
User avatar #185825 to #185818 - hoponthefeelstrain (7 hours ago) [-]
it's been 6 years bruh, and being fair you did make out with her friend. But honestly if you've been dating her 8 years and still don't know if you want to marry her or not then you probably shouldn't marry her.
#185826 to #185825 - anonymous (7 hours ago) [-]
We actually don't want to get married like, ever. Not because we don't love each other, we just don't "believe" in marriage, seems pretty pointless to us both. I'm not bashing people who want to get married tho, I have nothing against that and respect that people have different views and needs when it comes to that; me and my gf just happen to find marriage unnecessary.
User avatar #185824 to #185818 - notred ONLINE (7 hours ago) [-]
People make mistakes and she made one just like you did. It was 6 years ago.
#185827 to #185824 - anonymous (7 hours ago) [-]
Well, I didn't fuck anyone. But yeah, I see what you mean. tbh, I'm not even too angry about it at this point, I'm more angry that she didn't tell me earlier than she actually did it. But like you said, it's been 6 years and we've been together for 8, it feels stupid to throw this all away over something that happened so long ago.
#185821 to #185818 - unitedabominations (8 hours ago) [-]
It's been 6 years.

Don't dwell on the past, faggot. Move forward if she makes you happy.
User avatar #185817 - sphincterface ONLINE (8 hours ago) [-]
New work schedule has come in a while back, and I don't have classes anymore. But still, somehow I feel exhausted all the time even though I am getting a good amount of sleep in every day. What the hell is going on?
User avatar #185820 to #185817 - incoming (8 hours ago) [-]
Probably because something changed in your schedule. Other possibilities: too much sleep, bored, stressed, or too much junk food maybe.

Best bet is just giving it time and seeing if you begin to feel more normal after a while imo.
#185819 to #185817 - softdoritocat ONLINE (8 hours ago) [-]
Bad diet and no exercising.
#185801 - anonymous (10 hours ago) [-]
There's a guy that I know, and can't stop thinking about. The problem is that I'm a guy too. I don't know what his orientation is. I have a suspicion that he might be gay, but it's possible that I only think that because I want him to be.
I've been out for a while now, but I've never had the experience of accidentally asking out a straight guy. What would happen in that situation?
Also, straight people, would you find it offensive or weird to be asked if you are gay?
#185849 to #185801 - anonymous (20 minutes ago) [-]
Just ask him if he's in a relationship. If he don't know you're gay or bi , it'll just look like you're bring up conversation.
User avatar #185832 to #185801 - ieatbengay (4 hours ago) [-]
'so them girls huh?'
User avatar #185822 to #185801 - incoming (7 hours ago) [-]
Just ask I guess. If I were in his shoes I'd probably find it a little odd assuming he isn't gay but as long as it was dropped after that was clear I don't think I'd be too bent out of shape about it. Just watch how you phrase the question so it doesn't come off sounding insulting assuming he's straight. Maybe a compliment leading into the question so you can imply you're interested if he is gay but it doesn't come off as overly weird? Like "I like blank about you and I was sort of wondering..." personally I'd probably respond saying something like "I'm flattered man but guys just aren't my thing"

Imo better to ask and know where you stand than to leave it unanswered and wonder what if.
#185811 to #185801 - notred ONLINE (9 hours ago) [-]
First guy I asked out was straight.   
Honestly, I was embarrassed. Never really got over it. Stopped talking to him too.   
Mostly my fault though since he tried talking to me and I was awkward about it.
First guy I asked out was straight.

Honestly, I was embarrassed. Never really got over it. Stopped talking to him too.

Mostly my fault though since he tried talking to me and I was awkward about it.
User avatar #185806 to #185801 - supertanto (9 hours ago) [-]
Funny tanto says suck his dick

Serious tanto says I'd be flattered that someone finds me attractive but a little insulted that someone thinks I'm gay
User avatar #185802 to #185801 - makotoitou (9 hours ago) [-]
I'd ask this on the gay board, they probably know more.
#185812 to #185802 - anonymous (9 hours ago) [-]
But you can't anon there.
#185793 - anonymous (11 hours ago) [-]
Is there any good way to get minor dents out of a car or would I have to go to an autobody dealership
User avatar #185805 to #185793 - supertanto (9 hours ago) [-]
try turning it on and off again
#185787 - anonymous (11 hours ago) [-]
I dated this guy for a few months until I learned he had HIV. I didn't learn that from him, I learned that from his friends, who were surprised I didn't know because people with HIV are required to report it to their sexual partners. I went straight to the health clinic and got tested. That had to be the most tense couple of hours I've ever been through. Thankfully and mercurially, I didn't contract it and I broke up with him immediately. He didn't even try to defend himself or lie about not having it.
Not even a week later, my best friend says she hooked up with him while we were dating which apart from the fact my best friend slept with my boyfriend, he's 23 and she's 16 with a boyfriend of her own and he didn't tell her he had HIV either. Even after learning about that, she doesn't seem to care and even went so far as to cut off all ties with me in order to be more comfortable with him. I tried going to her parents to tell them about this but she got to them first, telling them how I've been lying and spreading rumors about her.
All I'm doing is trying to help her get away from this guy who almost ruined both our lives. I don't understand how my best friend of 7 years could do this and why.
User avatar #185833 to #185787 - ieatbengay (4 hours ago) [-]
you win at this point, enjoy it, it's not like your going to be friends again
#185813 to #185787 - anonymous (8 hours ago) [-]
Forget the hoe.

She your best friend of seven years, but trust me, just forget her and it will be easier.

Last time I saw my older brother I got in a fight with him and sent him out of the house screaming for the police.
By all means, I should be fucking depressed, instead I shrugged it off and moved on.

Just move on, fuck that bitch
User avatar #185807 to #185787 - supertanto (9 hours ago) [-]
nigga wut
User avatar #185794 to #185787 - mondominiman ONLINE (11 hours ago) [-]
She threw aside your friendship when she hooked up with your buttbuddy, hope she contracts something worse than aids like herpagonasyphilaids
User avatar #185790 to #185787 - womanexplain (11 hours ago) [-]
Survival of the fittest, forget that whore
User avatar #185786 - drakenumen (12 hours ago) [-]
My gf has a fucked up palate that causes her jaw to be slightly crooked and her teeth pretty fucked up among other things. Her jaw is really only very slightly crooked and doesn't take away from her appearance at all but she is extremely self conscious about it and I don't know how to tell her it doesn't make her look bad without sounding like i'm just being nice for her sake.
User avatar #185816 to #185786 - sphincterface ONLINE (8 hours ago) [-]
I know the issue isn't whether you love her or whether you find her attractive still. I am sure you still love her and all but you should know that after a while, she will realize you still love and care for her even with any flaws she may have, and that will be all that matters to her at that point, that you stuck by with her.
User avatar #185835 to #185808 - drakenumen (4 hours ago) [-]
I PMed you some decent examples
User avatar #185791 to #185786 - womanexplain (11 hours ago) [-]
Just tell her even if she thinks it's a problem, to you she's the most beautiful girl in the world or something.
#185796 to #185791 - anonymous (11 hours ago) [-]
Ha, no that's gay. Say even though you have a fucked up mouth, you don't care as long as she gives good head. At least she'll know you're not lying.
User avatar #185798 to #185796 - womanexplain (11 hours ago) [-]
You're cute
#185788 to #185786 - anonymous (11 hours ago) [-]
Find a celebrity with the same condition she has. Most people feel better about themselves when they see a successful person going through the same things they're going through.
#185789 to #185788 - anonymous (11 hours ago) [-]
Like I found Joaquin Phoenix, Jessica Simpson, Tina Fey although I don't think its a cleft palate, I think she just has a bad scar on her mouth and jaw .
User avatar #185773 - mondominiman ONLINE (12 hours ago) [-]
Any way to fix bad breath aside from brushing teeth daily cuz I have some mighty funky breath.
User avatar #185823 to #185773 - incoming (7 hours ago) [-]
Maybe buy a tongue scraper and follow up with something like mints, gum, or mouth wash be sure to gargle . Most of the stuff that causes bad breath tends to gather on the tongue. Also, drink plenty of water because dry mouth can add to bad breath.
User avatar #185783 to #185773 - thebestpieever (12 hours ago) [-]
Sometimes bad breath comes from the stomach, not the mouth. Go see a doctor if it's really pervasive.
User avatar #185784 to #185783 - mondominiman ONLINE (12 hours ago) [-]
Apperently coffee causes bad breath. Can't start my day without my daily 3 cup o' joe.
#185814 to #185784 - anonymous (8 hours ago) [-]
I drink coffee alot, and my breath ain't that bad if I brush daily and drink alot of water.
#185775 to #185773 - mikimowse (12 hours ago) [-]
Mints, mouthwash, gum, mouth sprays... That's what I would use. Or maybe a better smelling toothpaste?
I don't know much yo.
User avatar #185777 to #185775 - mondominiman ONLINE (12 hours ago) [-]
aren't gum and sprays just temporary fresheners? I don't want my breath to smell like ass 24/7
#185779 to #185777 - mikimowse (12 hours ago) [-]
Yeah I guess they are... Sorry I'm not very helpful am I?
#185772 - mikimowse (12 hours ago) [-]
Does anyone by chance know how I can get Photoshop for free? I used to have it on my old computer; I had to download a patch, but I can't find it again. Also old computer's HDD was totally fried I don't know how to torrent
User avatar #185809 to #185772 - supertanto (9 hours ago) [-] this should give you a hint
User avatar #185795 to #185772 - mondominiman ONLINE (11 hours ago) [-]
Learn how to torrent, use and deluge or utorrent. The latter is easier to understand
#185755 - anonymous (14 hours ago) [-]
my fiance and I had a fight about money last week, but resolved it since. However our sex life has stopped stone dead.

We haven''t had sex in a week, whenever i try to its a non starter. have been doing foreplay and trying to use toys but it seems nothing is getting her going, or at least for very long, and I try to have sex but it is like she isnt wanting it.

Not even kissing really anymore, I dont know . and apparently my massages suck.

It is like , everything is amazing one week, everything is great, our love life was getting better and better but now everything is in the complete shitter and she wont even talk to me about it. She is making me feel like a useless sack of crap and she doesn't realise or even care it seems.

I am no russell brand lethario but there was no issues beforehand, could get her to climax fairly consistently, and there was no issues with penatrive sex before.
User avatar #185830 to #185755 - yourinvisiblegf (5 hours ago) [-]
she still mad
push her
force her to talk and express her f feelings
#185834 to #185830 - anonymous (4 hours ago) [-]
Think its different. Thing is before she classified herself as asexual, we had a good sexlife rho, but after last week events she got a major depressive spell for a couple of days and felt that reset everything in her brain ,like she has all the same issues she had before . we would get going , she start feel good but then poof everything stops. I tried diddling her last night she even said was great wanted the whole shebang but then screeching to a halt and nothing. I can't take it anymore.
#185785 to #185755 - anonymous (12 hours ago) [-]
Talk to her and see if this money thing is still bothering her.
User avatar #185782 to #185755 - makotoitou (12 hours ago) [-]
become spiderman
User avatar #185762 to #185755 - supertanto (14 hours ago) [-]
shit nigga that might gg no marry
#185751 - anonymous (16 hours ago) [-]
So I met a psychopath today and the more I look back on meeting him, the more I can see how much traits he showed.
The problem is, I got his phone number cause he does some training for stuff and he also gave me something so I can help myself learn.
So now I'm kinda obligated to see him again and the problem is, I don't want to.
Basically, he seemed like a very nice person and he might be, I can't say if he isn't or not.
But I had a bad gut feeling about him so I did some research into it and a lot of people said that your gut feeling is typically right in situations like that. Cause they can easily manipulate you, but your intuition stays intact.
Now, I'm not saying he's a bad person and I don't want to judge him, but I certainly don't want to be around a possible bad person if he is actually a bad person.

So what can I do to cut him off? What can I do to not have to talk to him more.
Again, he seemed like a nice guy and I don't want to judge him, I just want to trust my gut feeling on this one.
#185752 to #185751 - anonymous (16 hours ago) [-]
Also, he was a very straight forward person. He even said to me that if someone came up and killed me, he wouldn't care.
And that didn't seem odd to me because I know how that shit works, but is that something I shouldn't have necessarily blown off as "Well, he's just a sociopath"
I mean, I know how that shit works, so it didn't throw up any red flags. But should it have?
#185753 to #185752 - anonymous (15 hours ago) [-]
Also, would a sociopath openly admit he's a sociopath?
And, does a sociopath ALWAYS have an ulterior motive?
#185754 to #185753 - anonymous (15 hours ago) [-]
I got the two mixed up and I meant psychopath.
I always get the two names mixed because I never truly understood either ones differences fully.
But he was a psychopath, not sociopath.
User avatar #185771 to #185754 - sugoi (13 hours ago) [-]
Block his calls or change mobile numbers.
This aint that hard bro, as long as he dunno where you live you're golden.
#185800 to #185771 - anonymous (10 hours ago) [-]
True, I don't think he has any interest in talking to me cause I didn't really react to his behavior as odd.
So I guess I did the right thing, because psychopaths/socio's only want power through intimidation.
So it's probably best that I treated him that way, cause he hasn't responded to my text where I thanked him for what he gave me and he read it a minute later.

I don't think he's a bad person, I just don't want to be friends with someone like that.
You cannot give without emotion unless you have an ulterior motive.
User avatar #185815 to #185800 - sugoi (8 hours ago) [-]
I don't think it's a good thing to believe that psychopaths ONLY want power through intimidation and that people cannot unconditionally help others without some ulterior motives.

To have such a rigid criteria really narrows down your interpretation of situations.
#185848 to #185815 - anonymous (36 minutes ago) [-]
I know, but that's why I said I don't think he's a bad guy. But psychopaths are not capable of experiencing emotions.
Have you ever been face to face with a psychopath? Cause you can never truly know how they are until you've been in a 1 on 1 conversation with them.
Until meeting him, I didn't know how charming they could be or how they're incapable of feeling theirs or your emotions.
And that's something that's hard to grasp until you've talked to one directly.
#185746 - anonymous (16 hours ago) [-]
Alright guys, here's what's up. I'm the shyest piece of shit out there. People believe I'm "school shooter" potential and haven't ever had a gf. Growing up, i thought "man, when i start drinking, I'm gonna turn it around". I wanted to be a fun drunk. You know, the guy that's the life of the party. I thought "you know, I could lose my inhibitions for a bit and speak out and often, tell jokes, the works. Hell, i could even get laid, and even though i won't remember, I'll have the satisfaction". Well, the legal drinking age rolls around Yes, I waited to be legal. No, I'm not an American, so its not that bad to wait for a bit. , and i go to the party i plan getting drunk on. Things look good, lots of alcohol to go around for the curious, i had started drinking prior, to practice keeping it down, so this wasn't my first time drinking , and I thought "this is it". Now here's the kicker: I found out I'm a horrible drunk. Not only do i remember every single bit of the night, I give myself parental advice in my head. I'm not weird enough to say it out loud like "alright, try walking straight" "remember where you are at all times" and other bullshit. Now as for the "lack of inhibition", I ended up going into a full blown existential crisis, which, in case anyone needs this for future reference, is like a chick repellent. There was no crying, but on the car ride back, the phrase "we're all going to die" was muttered over and over again by yours truly. The morning after, i attributed it to having had a bad week, and looked forward to going to a new party with my mood up and my hopes even higher. The end of the school year is upon me, and I'm invited to a party. I find this to be my perfect chance, being high spirited and all. Well guess what? It fucking happened again. There have been other parties since then, and at each one that i tried my luck by going over, the same shit happens: I bring down the mood with bullshit that i'm too drunk to control. I can't stay sober at a party either, because then I talk to very few people if at all, and i end up, even though a bit less humiliated, a bit more sad because of my inability to talk to people whom I care about. So my question is simple: What do i do? I want to talk to people, but I'm too shy to do it while sober and too somber to do it while drunk.
User avatar #185792 to #185746 - durkadurka ONLINE (11 hours ago) [-]
You're relying on getting drunk to turn your life around?

That's all kinds of fucked up. Never gonna work.

You need to own up to your suckiness and improve yourself because you're sick of sucking.
User avatar #185774 to #185761 - mondominiman ONLINE (12 hours ago) [-]
What if yourself is a nerdy loser?
User avatar #185776 to #185774 - supertanto (12 hours ago) [-]
then hang out with nerdy losers
User avatar #185778 to #185776 - mondominiman ONLINE (12 hours ago) [-]
But what if they're to much of a nerdy loser to go up to a group of nerdy losers who weren't that much of a nerdy loser to meet the other nerdy loser. I don't know what the fuck I'm saying now
User avatar #185780 to #185778 - supertanto (12 hours ago) [-]
nigga wut
I think that means you're a whiny bitch and need to grow a pair
User avatar #185781 to #185780 - mondominiman ONLINE (12 hours ago) [-]
I was just fucking around
User avatar #185750 to #185746 - alexanderburns (16 hours ago) [-]
Stop getting drunk and double stop being a bitch when sober.
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#185741 - anonymous (18 hours ago) [-]
i'm planning on going to a desert camp out to celebrate a close friend's 21st birthday. problem is that he's invited a former friend of my long distance boyfriend. i say former because this guy had been friends with my boyfriend for several years until the guy expressed an interest in me. my boyfriend felt betrayed and cut ties with him. my question is how should i go about being friendly without giving the wrong impression? he's a pretty cool guy and i had wanted to be his friend but he kind of wrecked that when he made it clear he was interested in more.
User avatar #185760 to #185741 - supertanto (14 hours ago) [-]
I can't tell if you're a chick or a gay dude
#185799 to #185760 - anonymous (11 hours ago) [-]
I am of the female varietitty
User avatar #185804 to #185799 - supertanto (9 hours ago) [-]
Easy. Flash him. If he gets a boner, slap him. If that turns him on even more, castrate him. Done.
User avatar #185739 - creepydudewatching ONLINE (19 hours ago) [-]
I'm getting a motorbike in a week and I must say that I seriously don't know how I passed my test -- the instructor was nice to me, but I was speeding constantly, didn't slow down on corners, failed to indicate and even pulled out in front of a speeding BMW; we were both doing about 50, but I was the one in the wrong...
I'm scared man. I don't want to have to ride a motorcycle, but I need to for work and I couldn't afford a car... I'm just terrified of the road as is, let alone not being on it in a steel cage to protect me...
#185797 to #185739 - anonymous (11 hours ago) [-]
You need to learn most of it is just in your head. Practice some calming techniques(dont know what to offer here) like counting to ten or something. Nervous driving is the worst, it grasps all your attention and just makes bad driving worse. Take it slow, pay attention, let people know where you are. And watch. AND ALWAYS A HELMET.
User avatar #185759 to #185739 - supertanto (14 hours ago) [-]
you should've thought of that before hand you autismo
User avatar #185730 - friedflounder (20 hours ago) [-]
anyone know any good apartment sites? i live in pennsylvania, lehigh valley to be exact. I went on craigslist and found some but they were in the shitty part of a close by city. Also some were just locatorsonline scam things and i cant find good information on others without sending an email requesting info.
please and thank you
User avatar #185758 to #185730 - supertanto (14 hours ago) [-]
just knock door to door in nice neighborhoods and ask if they plan on dying soon
#185725 - anonymous (20 hours ago) [-]
So I might've fucked up bad. My gf and I are a long distance and she came down with her family to see me and it was a complete surprise for me. As such it being a surprise I was completely unprepared, so when things got hot and heavy I didn't have a condom. Now I didn't cum inside or anything like that, but there is now a chance she is pregnant and her period is getting late. It's a few days late from when it was last month and has been irregular before, but she also has shown one other sign of pregnancy. Neither of us are ready for a child, and her family is kinda batshit about intimacy and I'm more worried about what'd they do to her than me if she turns out to be pregnant. So guys how fucked am I?
User avatar #185757 to #185725 - supertanto (14 hours ago) [-]
you're not fucked but she is
User avatar #185740 to #185725 - bobvonbobby (18 hours ago) [-]
Don't be a fool, cover your tool
User avatar #185738 to #185725 - confusedasian (19 hours ago) [-]
Punch her stomach.
User avatar #185736 to #185725 - makotoitou (19 hours ago) [-]
coathanger that little unborn shit
User avatar #185731 to #185725 - womanexplain (20 hours ago) [-]
Go to planned parenthood and get the plan b pill.
#185732 to #185731 - anonymous (20 hours ago) [-]
It's already been past 72 hours since this has happened. Not to mention she has already gone back to where she lives
User avatar #185735 to #185732 - womanexplain (20 hours ago) [-]
Sorry I wasn't thinking when I put that
why didn't you get the plan B pill if you were worried?
Get her to go to the doctor, if she is pregnant you're probably looking at an abortion.
Planned parenthood is the place to go.
#185745 to #185735 - anonymous (16 hours ago) [-]
Update. Got a pregnancy test .She's negative and we'll check again in a week.
User avatar #185748 to #185745 - womanexplain (16 hours ago) [-]
Good luck
User avatar #185734 to #185732 - womanexplain (20 hours ago) [-]
ask her to get the plan b pill
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