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flugeljester (05/12/2015) [-] this just brings up more questions....has op said anything?
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naafi (05/11/2015) [-] Do **** you find fun. Hang out with some mates. Focus on other things. It's gonna be hard. Sorry you feel like this, man
What ever you do don't do the whole "pls respond" thing you see on cringe comps all the time.
Oh and don't be a massive faggot and try to guilt her into coming back or anything like that. I've heard of people faking injuries or going so far as to injure themselves just to get a girl back. That's a ****** plan.
Just keep a level head and try not to contact her all the time. Pretty much what #7 said.
What ever you do don't do the whole "pls respond" thing you see on cringe comps all the time.
Oh and don't be a massive faggot and try to guilt her into coming back or anything like that. I've heard of people faking injuries or going so far as to injure themselves just to get a girl back. That's a ****** plan.
Just keep a level head and try not to contact her all the time. Pretty much what #7 said.
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camarokidd [OP](05/11/2015) [-] thanks, and man it is hard, the thing is, she says she still loves me but shes just afraid that she'll never love me as much as I love her and that hurts especially after three years of hearing her say that she loves me unconditionally
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anon (05/11/2015) [-]
Be happy you didn't waste anymore time and money on her. Use the remaining love you have for a new gal and impress her with your glorious love.
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iloveburzum (05/12/2015) [-] Carry on with life, do as much cool **** as you can.
Message her minimally. If she knows you love her, and want her back, thats enough.
Never seek out contact with her. If she asks how you've been, tell her some of the cool **** you've been doing, but don't say anything beyond that. Never beg.
Sounds like you've basically gotten to comfortable in your relationship, and ceasing being attractive to her, that **** happens.
I went through similar **** just last year. Life goes on son. I care about you though.
Message her minimally. If she knows you love her, and want her back, thats enough.
Never seek out contact with her. If she asks how you've been, tell her some of the cool **** you've been doing, but don't say anything beyond that. Never beg.
Sounds like you've basically gotten to comfortable in your relationship, and ceasing being attractive to her, that **** happens.
I went through similar **** just last year. Life goes on son. I care about you though.
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iloveburzum (05/12/2015) [-] You can do.
I got really lazy in my last relationship, stopped working out, stop showing interest in anything. Basically became a boyfriend blob.
Its totally possible this guy did that too.
I reckon its important to maintain your own identity in a relationship, have your own interests and stuff.
I got really lazy in my last relationship, stopped working out, stop showing interest in anything. Basically became a boyfriend blob.
Its totally possible this guy did that too.
I reckon its important to maintain your own identity in a relationship, have your own interests and stuff.
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anon (05/12/2015) [-]
Ah yeah, I get ya'.
Lazy is not the same as comfortable though, comfortable is getting back from the gym and leaving your gym bag on the floor until later while you collapse on the sofa. Or when she walks in and has a **** while you're brushing your teeth, or vice versa.
But yeah, very important to have time apart and just do things that interest you. Yay hobbies!
Lazy is not the same as comfortable though, comfortable is getting back from the gym and leaving your gym bag on the floor until later while you collapse on the sofa. Or when she walks in and has a **** while you're brushing your teeth, or vice versa.
But yeah, very important to have time apart and just do things that interest you. Yay hobbies!
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pawnman (05/11/2015) [-] A girl saying you smother her is an excuse to say she doesn't love you as much and you love her. If they truly loved you they would want you to be around all the time.
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MuahahaOfLore (05/11/2015) [-] text her some basic information
"I love you, Im sorry, I will give you seome space."
THATS IT!!! Text her very little
if she does not respond to your texts, DO NOT keep texting. It should be back and forth or its too needy
Don't call, thats too needy
Give her space. you may call in three days,
"I love you, Im sorry, I will give you seome space."
THATS IT!!! Text her very little
if she does not respond to your texts, DO NOT keep texting. It should be back and forth or its too needy
Don't call, thats too needy
Give her space. you may call in three days,
#22 to #7
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anon (05/12/2015) [-]
Nope, that whole plan is desperation incarnate.
It's hard but OP needs to talk to her like an adult, what is it exactly that she doesn't like?
If she wants a 'break' don't text her at all, don't call her, go completely no contact. She'll probably come crawling back when she's hopped around bed with a few blokes and figures she can't 'trade up' or gets bored.
It's hard but OP needs to talk to her like an adult, what is it exactly that she doesn't like?
If she wants a 'break' don't text her at all, don't call her, go completely no contact. She'll probably come crawling back when she's hopped around bed with a few blokes and figures she can't 'trade up' or gets bored.
#24 to #22
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MuahahaOfLore (05/12/2015) [-] I thought it would be more immature to have a quick text then not to contact her at all
She needs to want to chase you, I lost a girl by giving her the space she wanted
She came back after ******* around
I ended up with a better girl while that was happening though
She needs to want to chase you, I lost a girl by giving her the space she wanted
She came back after ******* around
I ended up with a better girl while that was happening though
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mysogynisticdroid (05/11/2015) [-] Join the confederacy, shoot bitches instead of dealing with 'em.
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leojxxitenah (05/11/2015) [-] Tell her that you were gonna propose, wait for her reaction and then tell her that because she broke up with you, you can now buy a PS4 (or a Xbone or both).
#25
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anon (05/12/2015) [-]
Well OP, looks like your relationship is at an end. Welcome to the world of ice cream and self pity.
This could be either way. Are you actually clingy? I've had an ex before that was the definition of clingy and controlling.
''I'm only jealous because I care!!''
''I only accuse you of sleeping with everyone, even the checkout operators and your own mother because I care!''
If that sounds even remotely like you, the issue is with you.
If she thinks you're clingy because you ask her what she's up to and she gets all defensive and/or over-reacts, the issue is with her and I would be highly suspicious.
Or this could be a case of her guilt if she's cheated and she wants to get away. She might just want a 'break' to experiment with other dudes. If she actually loved you, there would be no need for a break.
A break is a prelude to the end, on-off couples never last because the relationship has a major flaw somewhere that someone is not willing to compromise on.
It's not a case of being too comfortable with each other, that's when the relationship is at it's best, it's a lack of communication. Sit her down and ask her exactly what the matter is.
If it's the first scenario, you need to check yourself OP. To me it sounds like she wants out and isn't quite sure how to do it, but I could be wrong.
3 years is long enough to know if someone has any ****** habits that annoy you but not long enough to know someone really well. She might have a whole 'nother side to her that you've never seen.
You may have dodged a bullet OP and it will be hard, but it will only be harder if you keep in contact and let her run rings around you with this whole ''break up/get together'' thing.
Have a cry, lots of ice cream, another cry and pick yourself up again. Whenever you see her on the street, keep your head up and look forward.
This could be either way. Are you actually clingy? I've had an ex before that was the definition of clingy and controlling.
''I'm only jealous because I care!!''
''I only accuse you of sleeping with everyone, even the checkout operators and your own mother because I care!''
If that sounds even remotely like you, the issue is with you.
If she thinks you're clingy because you ask her what she's up to and she gets all defensive and/or over-reacts, the issue is with her and I would be highly suspicious.
Or this could be a case of her guilt if she's cheated and she wants to get away. She might just want a 'break' to experiment with other dudes. If she actually loved you, there would be no need for a break.
A break is a prelude to the end, on-off couples never last because the relationship has a major flaw somewhere that someone is not willing to compromise on.
It's not a case of being too comfortable with each other, that's when the relationship is at it's best, it's a lack of communication. Sit her down and ask her exactly what the matter is.
If it's the first scenario, you need to check yourself OP. To me it sounds like she wants out and isn't quite sure how to do it, but I could be wrong.
3 years is long enough to know if someone has any ****** habits that annoy you but not long enough to know someone really well. She might have a whole 'nother side to her that you've never seen.
You may have dodged a bullet OP and it will be hard, but it will only be harder if you keep in contact and let her run rings around you with this whole ''break up/get together'' thing.
Have a cry, lots of ice cream, another cry and pick yourself up again. Whenever you see her on the street, keep your head up and look forward.
#16
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killjoyus (05/11/2015) [-] i wish you the best...but if not there is always the alternative solution that works for every problem and usually is the out come of depression.
become an angry drunk on the internet like me
become an angry drunk on the internet like me
#15
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blaaaaanky (05/11/2015) [-] I don't have any good advice, or at least I don't want to try give you advice because i don't know anything about the situation. But i hope the best for you in the future!
