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Hey guys. This is going to be a very long text post. Not going to promise it would be worth the read, but I would appreciate it if at least a few of you guys did and let me know, somehow, things will work out alright. Because I have one hell of a story to tell you. Funnyjunk has always been kind of my second family, and I can't tell my real family this story, for reasons that will soon be obvious. I swear, by whatever Deity you want me to, that everything you read here is accurate and correct to the best of my knowledge. I just am in something of a bad spot in this situation, and I really need to talk to someone about it. I feel like here is the best place.
So I am an average 19 year old college male. This story is not about me, it is about my 20 year old girlfriend. We started dating June of last year. She is amazing, smart and funny and kind and talented and beautiful. But she has a past from hell. I'm not going to sugarcoat this **** , so if you don't want to probably get depressed you should stop reading right about here.
**NOTE: SOME OF THE FOLLOWING INFORMATION, WHILE NOT EXACTLY GRAPHIC, IS NOT FOR CHILDREN TO READ. PLEASE BE AWARE OF THIS, AND CONTINUE AT YOUR OWN DISCRETION.
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When she was about 7, her father started to sexually abuse her. As she told me, he forced her to watch a pornographic video of a blowjob when she was 7, and she gave her first one when she was 8. This continued for years until she was about 12. Then he basically told her he had changed, and she forgave him and moved on. For the most part. She began cutting when she was 13 to deal with feeling like she was worthless. That horrible habit has continued into the present, although she has been clean for about 5 months now. She also has a ridiculously low self esteem, and regularly has flashbacks that cause her to break down in tears. I legitimately have to watch what I say around her or I will "trigger" her. I
She is the oldest of 10 siblings. 3 by blood, and 6 adopted. One of her two by blood brothers and her by blood sister have this rare genetic disorder. It's kind of like an extreme case of Down's syndrome from what I understand. It has some super long name that I can't remember or pronounce. It starts with T and ends with 18, though. Among her adopted siblings she has two brothers and four sisters. All but one of the adoptive sisters and all her adoptive brothers are African American.
Turns out, her father hadn't quit like he promised her. He had moved on to her younger siblings. All of her adoptive sisters except maybe the youngest (which is her only Caucasian adopted sibling) and I can't even vouch totally for that got sexually abused in some way. One of them was "only" verbally sexually abused, which I wasn't even entirely aware was a real thing.
Anyways, toward the beginning of last year she texted me and told me she needed someone to talk to. Everything about her father came out and he had been arrested. (I wouldn't learn exactly why he had been arrested for several months). She then had more or less the year from hell. She had to give a deposition and has appeared in court multiple times against her own father. He is now in prison for something like 45 years. He is already in his early 50s and has a history of heart conditions, so he will probably die in there. I have no sympathy for the man.
Now, if that was where the story ended, it wouldn't be the worst thing in the world. A tragedy, sure, but something that unfortunately women in this age have to deal with. It's something like 1 in 10 from the research that I have done that would be in THAT scenario. But that is absolutely not where it ends. Buckle in kids, you're in for a ride.
Remember those adoptive brothers I mentioned earlier? One of them was literally stalking the sister that has the mental disorder. When he learned that she was going to take a shower, he would go in the bathroom and hide so he could watch her undress. The kid was like 14 at the time and I currently hate this rat bastard like no one else I have ever even heard of. Now, my girlfriend is possibly the most self-sacrificing person you would ever meet. I personally think it's because of what she has been through, she kind of considers herself as less of a person so she will allow herself to suffer rather than let anyone else.
Her sister went to her about this, because she thought it was weird behavior but didn't know what to do with it, because, again, she has a mental disability. This is the point that my girlfriend made probably the worst decision in her life. She has explained the reasons to me, and I will say them after I tell you what she did. After she learned that her adoptive brother was acting like this, she approached him. And she offered her body to him as long as he didn't touch her sister.
Now her reasons for this were basically like this: she was used to being sexually abused, so it was kind of whatever for her. She already had such a low image of herself that she didn't care what people did to her. She didn't want to let it continue out of fear for her sister. But she didn't want to tell her parents because she didn't want him getting in trouble, because his well being, EVEN THOUGH HE SEXUALLY HARASSED HER SISTER, still meant more to her than she did herself.
The brother accepted, and essentially used her whenever he had a "need" for about 4 years. In case I didn't mention, he was about 13 when this started, and she was 16. This relationship/deal continued until last year. It was on her birthday when she finally was able to tell him that if he continued she would go to the cops.
He tried again in late september, which was about two months after her father was found guilty, but about a month before his actual sentencing. She told me, although she hadn't told me who the person was, she referred to him as "That Guy" or something similar. She had told me about "That Guy" before, along with her father, and I still dated her because I am sincerely in love with this girl. I didn't learn who "That Guy" was for a week or two after, but I am getting there. She, true to her word, and with some urging from me (again, I didn't know who it was, but I was basically like "if someone is treating you like that you need to tell someone") told her mother about how she was being treated by her brother. The next day, when she got home from school, there were cops outside her house. She texted me and told me something was going on, so I had a friend (I don't have a car) drive me an hour to her house so that I could be with her. It was then that I learned exactly who "That Guy" was. I sincerely wanted to murder him. She was being kicked out of her house, though, because during the investigation her siblings would be asked questions so she couldn't be in the home or she might influence them.
She lived with her grandparents for a few months, and was allowed back to her house in December. Almost exactly three months after this incident occurred. While an investigation was being conducted to see if she was, essentially, a child molester, because she was over the age of consent and he was under for most of the relationship. Now this kid was a football linebacker. He had about a foot on her in height and probably close to a hundred pounds on her weight-wise. Yet somehow they thought my girlfriend, who seriously weighs about 120 pounds and can't beat me in an arm wrestling competition, was forcing herself on him. Even though multiple other girls came forward and claimed they had been blackmailed into sex with him as well.
SIDE NOTE: SHE HAS TOLD ME, WHEN I ASKED, THAT SEX NEVER ACTUALLY HAPPENED BETWEEN THEM, BUT PRETTY MUCH EVERYTHING SEXUAL THAT WASN'T SEX HAS.
The main reason, from what I gathered, was simply her father was one, and genetics TOTALLY work that way. So she is now going to trial in a month to deem if she needs to be registered as a sex offender. The absolute kicker here is she wants to be a elementary educator when she graduates. She has been studying to be one for the past three years, and that is the only thing she has ever really wanted to do. If she is found guilty she will never be allowed to work with or around children again.
I firmly believe that there is no way it could go anyway BUT her way, DCS seems out to get her. I mean, I really think they are a necessary service, and I kind of get where they are coming from, but the case just doesn't make any sense if you know her as a person and what she has been through. But they seem determined to nail her. She has told me if things don't go her way she will definitely break up with me to make sure I don't get any bad press, essentially. I have a full ride and am studying to be an engineer, and she doesn't want to ruin my future if hers goes down the drain. She has also told me she will almost definitely commit suicide, because she wont have a future to live for anymore. The real kicker here is, the deal didn't even work. He would later go on to abuse her mentally disabled sisters and one of her younger adoptive sister, who is also his half sister. Neither of them can testify though, because the disorder partially impairs the memory of the older one. The younger one can't because she is so young she has mixed details between the father and her brother, to the point where she is considered an unreliable witness.
I really can't deal with all of this. If you actually made it this far I sincerely thank you for reading through this hellhole of a story. It has been a terrible, emotional ride for me. But I am so in love with her that it has made it all worth it. I really don't think I could deal with losing her. So, again, thank you for reading, if you are down here, and please please give me some kind words to work with. I really need them right now.
God Bless,
Mastaalucard
So I am an average 19 year old college male. This story is not about me, it is about my 20 year old girlfriend. We started dating June of last year. She is amazing, smart and funny and kind and talented and beautiful. But she has a past from hell. I'm not going to sugarcoat this **** , so if you don't want to probably get depressed you should stop reading right about here.
**NOTE: SOME OF THE FOLLOWING INFORMATION, WHILE NOT EXACTLY GRAPHIC, IS NOT FOR CHILDREN TO READ. PLEASE BE AWARE OF THIS, AND CONTINUE AT YOUR OWN DISCRETION.
**
When she was about 7, her father started to sexually abuse her. As she told me, he forced her to watch a pornographic video of a blowjob when she was 7, and she gave her first one when she was 8. This continued for years until she was about 12. Then he basically told her he had changed, and she forgave him and moved on. For the most part. She began cutting when she was 13 to deal with feeling like she was worthless. That horrible habit has continued into the present, although she has been clean for about 5 months now. She also has a ridiculously low self esteem, and regularly has flashbacks that cause her to break down in tears. I legitimately have to watch what I say around her or I will "trigger" her. I
She is the oldest of 10 siblings. 3 by blood, and 6 adopted. One of her two by blood brothers and her by blood sister have this rare genetic disorder. It's kind of like an extreme case of Down's syndrome from what I understand. It has some super long name that I can't remember or pronounce. It starts with T and ends with 18, though. Among her adopted siblings she has two brothers and four sisters. All but one of the adoptive sisters and all her adoptive brothers are African American.
Turns out, her father hadn't quit like he promised her. He had moved on to her younger siblings. All of her adoptive sisters except maybe the youngest (which is her only Caucasian adopted sibling) and I can't even vouch totally for that got sexually abused in some way. One of them was "only" verbally sexually abused, which I wasn't even entirely aware was a real thing.
Anyways, toward the beginning of last year she texted me and told me she needed someone to talk to. Everything about her father came out and he had been arrested. (I wouldn't learn exactly why he had been arrested for several months). She then had more or less the year from hell. She had to give a deposition and has appeared in court multiple times against her own father. He is now in prison for something like 45 years. He is already in his early 50s and has a history of heart conditions, so he will probably die in there. I have no sympathy for the man.
Now, if that was where the story ended, it wouldn't be the worst thing in the world. A tragedy, sure, but something that unfortunately women in this age have to deal with. It's something like 1 in 10 from the research that I have done that would be in THAT scenario. But that is absolutely not where it ends. Buckle in kids, you're in for a ride.
Remember those adoptive brothers I mentioned earlier? One of them was literally stalking the sister that has the mental disorder. When he learned that she was going to take a shower, he would go in the bathroom and hide so he could watch her undress. The kid was like 14 at the time and I currently hate this rat bastard like no one else I have ever even heard of. Now, my girlfriend is possibly the most self-sacrificing person you would ever meet. I personally think it's because of what she has been through, she kind of considers herself as less of a person so she will allow herself to suffer rather than let anyone else.
Her sister went to her about this, because she thought it was weird behavior but didn't know what to do with it, because, again, she has a mental disability. This is the point that my girlfriend made probably the worst decision in her life. She has explained the reasons to me, and I will say them after I tell you what she did. After she learned that her adoptive brother was acting like this, she approached him. And she offered her body to him as long as he didn't touch her sister.
Now her reasons for this were basically like this: she was used to being sexually abused, so it was kind of whatever for her. She already had such a low image of herself that she didn't care what people did to her. She didn't want to let it continue out of fear for her sister. But she didn't want to tell her parents because she didn't want him getting in trouble, because his well being, EVEN THOUGH HE SEXUALLY HARASSED HER SISTER, still meant more to her than she did herself.
The brother accepted, and essentially used her whenever he had a "need" for about 4 years. In case I didn't mention, he was about 13 when this started, and she was 16. This relationship/deal continued until last year. It was on her birthday when she finally was able to tell him that if he continued she would go to the cops.
He tried again in late september, which was about two months after her father was found guilty, but about a month before his actual sentencing. She told me, although she hadn't told me who the person was, she referred to him as "That Guy" or something similar. She had told me about "That Guy" before, along with her father, and I still dated her because I am sincerely in love with this girl. I didn't learn who "That Guy" was for a week or two after, but I am getting there. She, true to her word, and with some urging from me (again, I didn't know who it was, but I was basically like "if someone is treating you like that you need to tell someone") told her mother about how she was being treated by her brother. The next day, when she got home from school, there were cops outside her house. She texted me and told me something was going on, so I had a friend (I don't have a car) drive me an hour to her house so that I could be with her. It was then that I learned exactly who "That Guy" was. I sincerely wanted to murder him. She was being kicked out of her house, though, because during the investigation her siblings would be asked questions so she couldn't be in the home or she might influence them.
She lived with her grandparents for a few months, and was allowed back to her house in December. Almost exactly three months after this incident occurred. While an investigation was being conducted to see if she was, essentially, a child molester, because she was over the age of consent and he was under for most of the relationship. Now this kid was a football linebacker. He had about a foot on her in height and probably close to a hundred pounds on her weight-wise. Yet somehow they thought my girlfriend, who seriously weighs about 120 pounds and can't beat me in an arm wrestling competition, was forcing herself on him. Even though multiple other girls came forward and claimed they had been blackmailed into sex with him as well.
SIDE NOTE: SHE HAS TOLD ME, WHEN I ASKED, THAT SEX NEVER ACTUALLY HAPPENED BETWEEN THEM, BUT PRETTY MUCH EVERYTHING SEXUAL THAT WASN'T SEX HAS.
The main reason, from what I gathered, was simply her father was one, and genetics TOTALLY work that way. So she is now going to trial in a month to deem if she needs to be registered as a sex offender. The absolute kicker here is she wants to be a elementary educator when she graduates. She has been studying to be one for the past three years, and that is the only thing she has ever really wanted to do. If she is found guilty she will never be allowed to work with or around children again.
I firmly believe that there is no way it could go anyway BUT her way, DCS seems out to get her. I mean, I really think they are a necessary service, and I kind of get where they are coming from, but the case just doesn't make any sense if you know her as a person and what she has been through. But they seem determined to nail her. She has told me if things don't go her way she will definitely break up with me to make sure I don't get any bad press, essentially. I have a full ride and am studying to be an engineer, and she doesn't want to ruin my future if hers goes down the drain. She has also told me she will almost definitely commit suicide, because she wont have a future to live for anymore. The real kicker here is, the deal didn't even work. He would later go on to abuse her mentally disabled sisters and one of her younger adoptive sister, who is also his half sister. Neither of them can testify though, because the disorder partially impairs the memory of the older one. The younger one can't because she is so young she has mixed details between the father and her brother, to the point where she is considered an unreliable witness.
I really can't deal with all of this. If you actually made it this far I sincerely thank you for reading through this hellhole of a story. It has been a terrible, emotional ride for me. But I am so in love with her that it has made it all worth it. I really don't think I could deal with losing her. So, again, thank you for reading, if you are down here, and please please give me some kind words to work with. I really need them right now.
God Bless,
Mastaalucard
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