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Because over half the time dating is never about love. Just casual sex and companionship. Love comes after if you're lucky.
I used to be in a polyamorous relationship (meaning we could have more than one partner (sexual or romantic)). It's harder for me to understand people who break up because of cheating. I mean, I still think it's bad to do, I've never done it in any of my monogamous relationships: it's deception and the breaking of a promise. I basically think it's the same as telling a lie.
People act like if your girlfriend slept with someone else they didn't love you, or people imagine they could never love more than one person at a time. I just think that if you plan on marrying someone, worse **** is going to happen to your marriage than your wife being attracted to someone else. When people break up over it I feel like they're not trying very hard.
I know this is not a popular concept.
People act like if your girlfriend slept with someone else they didn't love you, or people imagine they could never love more than one person at a time. I just think that if you plan on marrying someone, worse **** is going to happen to your marriage than your wife being attracted to someone else. When people break up over it I feel like they're not trying very hard.
I know this is not a popular concept.
there are some relationships where the partner doesn't really love the other person. they could just be doing to for personal gain or even sexual interest. another thing might be that cheating is a dangerous thing to do and it excites them.
People cheat for so many reasons. I never would because I think it's the biggest sign of disrespect you can show someone, but many don't feel the same.
It is because the mere act of your self-copulation changes the universe's usually nice and lovely structure to the point where unfortunate things happen to unfortunate people. In this act of self-copulation you- and only you- are the source of all bad things in the world, from dead dinosaurs, to dying Africans. From cancer and autism, to cheating men and women. Should you not self-copulate, we would see a great and brighter world in which we would raise our children, while your whiny, homosexual buttocks shines as a beacon or heroism.
TL;DR because you touch yourself at night you ******* faggot.
TL;DR because you touch yourself at night you ******* faggot.
This has been asked on AskReddit a few times, it's interesting to read;
www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/2y8mnp/serious_cheaters_of_reddit_why_are_you_currently/
www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/2y8mnp/serious_cheaters_of_reddit_why_are_you_currently/
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affix (01/05/2016) [-]
Because people aren't satisfied with one person.
The dishonorable have multiple people because maybe one person is bad at this, or does this annoying thing. Instead of living with it, they just have more relationships so they get the best of everything.
Its bad but its why it happens.
Instead of one outfit for all the occasions.
Multiple outfits for the specific occasion.
i actually think they're lazy and squishy. If you want change in your life, ask it of your partner and be assertive rather than just finding another one.
The dishonorable have multiple people because maybe one person is bad at this, or does this annoying thing. Instead of living with it, they just have more relationships so they get the best of everything.
Its bad but its why it happens.
Instead of one outfit for all the occasions.
Multiple outfits for the specific occasion.
i actually think they're lazy and squishy. If you want change in your life, ask it of your partner and be assertive rather than just finding another one.
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ricobendimez ONLINE (01/05/2016) [-]
Hate to break it to you, FJ. Frequently, sex becomes routine and neither party is really feeling it anymore. I think it sucks, it really does, but sometimes a relationship cqn be salveged after it. I know I would never cheat on anyone, but after being with someone for a long time, you begin to understand why someone does it. Having been cheated on twice, I can understand the pain. The first person I took back because I figured love will conquer all, the second person I threw out like trash.
Cheating is unfair for the person being cheated on, but don't be so quick to judge the person that cheated. No one really know all the circumstances of why it happened. I think that if you feel like your on the verge of chesting, you should talk with your partner or simply break up with them. Even my dad had cheated on my mom when they were younger, and now they are together for roughly 25 years. When I asked my mom why she stayed with him, she said "We broke up twice as we were trying to come to terms with it. I also don't get jealous, I get even."
Cheating is all too common as you grow older, unfortunately, so don't be surprised if it happens to you.
Cheating is unfair for the person being cheated on, but don't be so quick to judge the person that cheated. No one really know all the circumstances of why it happened. I think that if you feel like your on the verge of chesting, you should talk with your partner or simply break up with them. Even my dad had cheated on my mom when they were younger, and now they are together for roughly 25 years. When I asked my mom why she stayed with him, she said "We broke up twice as we were trying to come to terms with it. I also don't get jealous, I get even."
Cheating is all too common as you grow older, unfortunately, so don't be surprised if it happens to you.
Probably not really love at that point. Or maybe the love has grown stale. People are weak, or bored, or maybe they are just waiting for something better to come along, and are testing the waters before diving in.
Point is, if someone is cheating, its past time to end the relationship. Maybe you guys just need some time apart, and will find each other again later.
Point is, if someone is cheating, its past time to end the relationship. Maybe you guys just need some time apart, and will find each other again later.
I don't know, man.
It hurts to be dumped, but it hurts even more to sometime find out your "significant" other is cheating.
I'd say, instead of being a whore-boy/girl, tell them about your feelings instead of cheating on them behind their back.
It hurts to be dumped, but it hurts even more to sometime find out your "significant" other is cheating.
I'd say, instead of being a whore-boy/girl, tell them about your feelings instead of cheating on them behind their back.
Cause people get boring.
Eventually youll develop a taste for something else.
Nobody plays one video game for the rest of their life. Nobody eats one type of food for the rest of their life.
Sooner or later you will crave variety. The question will just be whether or not you act on your urges.
Im not a cheater, just been cheated on.
My best advice would be to keep your relationships casual. Dont invest yourself past the point of having fun.
Eventually youll develop a taste for something else.
Nobody plays one video game for the rest of their life. Nobody eats one type of food for the rest of their life.
Sooner or later you will crave variety. The question will just be whether or not you act on your urges.
Im not a cheater, just been cheated on.
My best advice would be to keep your relationships casual. Dont invest yourself past the point of having fun.
That or, you know, actually invest yourself into that one relationship that's worth it.
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catzor ONLINE (01/05/2016) [-]
Sometimes it cant be explained.
Done it twice, still wondering why. once drunk and once sober
Gf at that time found out eventually ofc, and we worked it out.
Broke up about a year later.
But yeah, I've been there and I have no excuses and I cant give you any reasons.
It literally just happened if you can believe me.
Ofcourse I regret it. I hate it. I dont want to be that person. But yeah, **** happened
Done it twice, still wondering why. once drunk and once sober
Gf at that time found out eventually ofc, and we worked it out.
Broke up about a year later.
But yeah, I've been there and I have no excuses and I cant give you any reasons.
It literally just happened if you can believe me.
Ofcourse I regret it. I hate it. I dont want to be that person. But yeah, **** happened
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itskennyandjosh ONLINE (01/05/2016) [-]
I once dated this guy for 6 months, it was going good till he told me he came super close to cheating on me and that he has "thoughts" about other guys and even said his fantasy about another guy, he was a ****** dick. wanna know the stupidest thing about it? after a week of being broken up he said he still jerks it to the pictures i sent him and that's hella creepy and weird he was a ****** mess god damn
So he didn't cheat on you. He shared his feelings. And after you were no longer interested in him, you then found him creepy. Right... definitely wasn't your fault. Well actually I take that back, I'm not saying it was exactly your fault, I'm just saying you sound like a piece of **** .
Be broke up with me cause he had a feeling he was gonna end up cheating on me btw.
But how would you feel if your ex broke up with you, then in a horny mood say he jerks off to your pictures?
But how would you feel if your ex broke up with you, then in a horny mood say he jerks off to your pictures?
He broke up with you because he wasn't interested enough in you to commit so of course he needs to find someone that he would feel was worth not being able to look at other people. And he didn't actually cheat on you so you can stop bringing that up like you're one of the people that were cheated on, he handled it the way it's supposed to be handled.
That depends, "I'm getting horny by looking at your pictures" very clearly means "i'm in the mood to bang but I don't want any strings attached." So if I'm in the mood to bang just for the sake of getting one in, then I'll say yes. If I'm still into her or if she hurt me enough then I'll say no.
That depends, "I'm getting horny by looking at your pictures" very clearly means "i'm in the mood to bang but I don't want any strings attached." So if I'm in the mood to bang just for the sake of getting one in, then I'll say yes. If I'm still into her or if she hurt me enough then I'll say no.
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thrifty (01/05/2016) [-]
Personally I'm in the 'delete private pictures' group, I've sent some filth and so have some of my exes, I've deleted that **** though in case of lost phone etc.
There's no need to be weird about pictures of exes, I mean **** man there's porn of everything, or at the least they could keep it to themselves...
There's no need to be weird about pictures of exes, I mean **** man there's porn of everything, or at the least they could keep it to themselves...
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concetrationcamp (01/05/2016) [-]
**concetrationcamp used "*roll picture*"**
**concetrationcamp rolled image** Because the partner gets boring after a while. Specially if the sexual life gets monotonous and boring. That's why you have to spice it up sometimes in a longer relationship. If you do it only at home in missionary position with lights off then there is no surprise that some day you get cheated.
**concetrationcamp rolled image** Because the partner gets boring after a while. Specially if the sexual life gets monotonous and boring. That's why you have to spice it up sometimes in a longer relationship. If you do it only at home in missionary position with lights off then there is no surprise that some day you get cheated.
Then end the relationship, don't go hurting your 'partner'. **** sake, some people..
I didn't hurt anyone. What is your ******* Problem? If You disagree just move along. Nothing to see here.
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randomuploads (01/05/2016) [-]
Come on don't be naive. 85% of relationships are not about Love. They are about status, security and convenience.
people are immoral, selfish sacks of **** .
all one can do is not be one themself, and search for someone else that isn't.
all one can do is not be one themself, and search for someone else that isn't.
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animesource ONLINE (01/05/2016) [-]
Never been in a relationship so idk but my guess is that there never was love in the first place. They just had sex, liked it, and called it dating while continuing ******* anything that moves.
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animesource ONLINE (01/05/2016) [-]
Well, at very least I can suggest to wear knee guards.
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gloriousthighs (01/05/2016) [-]
It is a scary thought that there are scenarios that could make even the most devout people cheat, just got to hope that doesn't happen. I'm someone that likes to take things slow and will only get physical with a person that I would consider a long term relationship with. If I find someone like minded at least the chances of being cheated on are lower.
Also, a tip. It is important to understand that love does fade, it's been proven to fade rather drastically. This can frighten people into thinking they don't love the person they are with or that they aren't suited but that's not true. Love just fades. We either need to accept that and ditch monogamy or find a person who understands that a long term relationship does take work and isn't always in the honeymoon phase.
Also, a tip. It is important to understand that love does fade, it's been proven to fade rather drastically. This can frighten people into thinking they don't love the person they are with or that they aren't suited but that's not true. Love just fades. We either need to accept that and ditch monogamy or find a person who understands that a long term relationship does take work and isn't always in the honeymoon phase.
Don't listen to this second part. Absolute ******** . If your "love" fades, it wasn't actually love. Love is something that will never fade.
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gloriousthighs (01/06/2016) [-]
It is scientifically proven to 'fade' drastically in most relationships. The first year of marriage is especially common for this. Love is not some mystical force. It is simply a strong attraction of body and mind. Passionate love is typically only at the beginning of a relationship and maybe sparked a few times later on. Compassionate love is the typical feeling people associate with the word love and it does fade, no matter who you are. If you can't accept that then you're in for a shock when it happens to you.
Wow... love can't be measured. Only the chemical reactions. Do you seriously believe love is nothing but a chemical reaction? If that were the case, nature would take over and we would all be hetero and divorced in months.
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gloriousthighs (01/07/2016) [-]
I wish you were right though. If love was special and there was that little bit of magic in the world everything would seem much brighter.
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gloriousthighs (01/07/2016) [-]
Everything we feel is a chemical reaction. Love is not special, same as how humans are not more special than an ant. Love is like the opposite of depression, they both take control and blind a person into believing certain things. Love is just the good to depressions bad. Do you honestly not believe that depression isn't proven to be a chemical imbalance?
I guess we'll have to agree to disagree. As someone who's been in a successful and happy marriage for over 8 years, I still feel that spark.
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gloriousthighs (01/08/2016) [-]
It's not something to disagree or agree with, it's just proven that love fades in the majority of relationships, same as how a great number of marriages end in divorce. I just have to hope that both of those are due to dumb people not finding the right match. If more people could be like you then the world would be better.
And as someone who has felt that spark for far longer than most people date and has seen it in couples who have been married for 50+ years, I don't believe it's just chemical. So yes, we'll have to agree to disagree
I don't know if fade is the right word for it, more like it becomes common place and gets taken for granted.
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anon (01/05/2016) [-]
The only real explaination I've seen that covers mostly everything. People make it a complex, dramatic heart wrenching story anytime cheating comes up on funnyjunk. Reality is basic human psychology and instinctual drives and the inability to curb temptation. Physical attraction leading to lust combined with an environment (secluded, alcohol, or whatever) doesnt take a rocket scientist to figure out why some people cheat and some don't.
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capnkrunch (01/05/2016) [-]
That doesn't mean it isn't a ****** thing to do and have happen to you
#1 reason is insecurity. The cheater feels unattractive or just has ****** self esteem and cheating makes them feel more desirable. It's weak minded and pathetic.
Sperit
Sperit
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anon (01/05/2016) [-]
what if you got stuck with the wrong girl, and had to stay with them, simply due to getting them pregnant, and the relationship between you and the girl, is mainly, (only) there due to the fact the condom broke.
What if you meet your dream girl, can never touch them, spend time with them, or ever be with them because your stuck?
Before I could never understand why men cheat. Now, I understand. Women of my dreams is my age, we share so much, and i cant stop thinking about her. Cant do anything as I knocked up someone else, who needs love and support herself.
Girl Im with, lied to me. Told me she was 23 when i met her(3 years older then me, but she looked 16), shocked when i found out she was 12 years older, and only found out once she had had the baby.
Cant leave her. But by staying I have ruined 2 families. The one I should have had with my real soulmate, and the one SHE should have had with her soulmate.
The girl of my dreams makes my heart flutter just when i hear her voice. She broke her leg, and all i wanted to do was carry her up the stairs, and hold her hand and watch a movie.
I dream of just holding her hand, even if its just for a split second. Alas, I havent, but truth be told, im cheating by staying with my current partner.
TL/DR. Found my soulmate after stuck with someone else, who is 12 years older. Never would have dated her had she not lied about her age.
What if you meet your dream girl, can never touch them, spend time with them, or ever be with them because your stuck?
Before I could never understand why men cheat. Now, I understand. Women of my dreams is my age, we share so much, and i cant stop thinking about her. Cant do anything as I knocked up someone else, who needs love and support herself.
Girl Im with, lied to me. Told me she was 23 when i met her(3 years older then me, but she looked 16), shocked when i found out she was 12 years older, and only found out once she had had the baby.
Cant leave her. But by staying I have ruined 2 families. The one I should have had with my real soulmate, and the one SHE should have had with her soulmate.
The girl of my dreams makes my heart flutter just when i hear her voice. She broke her leg, and all i wanted to do was carry her up the stairs, and hold her hand and watch a movie.
I dream of just holding her hand, even if its just for a split second. Alas, I havent, but truth be told, im cheating by staying with my current partner.
TL/DR. Found my soulmate after stuck with someone else, who is 12 years older. Never would have dated her had she not lied about her age.
Here's a ******* tip: DON'T DATE SOMEONE YOU DON'T ACTUALLY LIKE
You think we do?
Here's how relationships usually go:
First few weeks, maybe a month - the girl pretends to be all sweet and nice. You like that and automatically start spending more time with her. After some more time she notices that you're loyal and that you wont leave them easily. THEN they show you their true colours: manipulative, pissy little detached cunts who get upset over the smallest things, think that they are ultimately right about everything, even how the grass is red and the clouds are blue. And the trouble is, you can't leave her because you still care about her, but you don't like her. Caring for a person isn't the same as loving them. That's why people, even if they're with someone they don't actually like, don't leave their partners. Because they'll still feel bad about leaving someone even though that someone treated them like the scum of the earth.
Here's how relationships usually go:
First few weeks, maybe a month - the girl pretends to be all sweet and nice. You like that and automatically start spending more time with her. After some more time she notices that you're loyal and that you wont leave them easily. THEN they show you their true colours: manipulative, pissy little detached cunts who get upset over the smallest things, think that they are ultimately right about everything, even how the grass is red and the clouds are blue. And the trouble is, you can't leave her because you still care about her, but you don't like her. Caring for a person isn't the same as loving them. That's why people, even if they're with someone they don't actually like, don't leave their partners. Because they'll still feel bad about leaving someone even though that someone treated them like the scum of the earth.
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anon (01/05/2016) [-]
No, that's how your ONE relationship went.
Don't date people you don't like. People don't leave their partners because they get comfortable and they become a habit.
After all, being single is scary right? Best just stay where you are, miserable but in a familiar situation. People like familiar things and don't like change, so they keep themselves miserable for literally no good reason.
Don't date people you don't like. People don't leave their partners because they get comfortable and they become a habit.
After all, being single is scary right? Best just stay where you are, miserable but in a familiar situation. People like familiar things and don't like change, so they keep themselves miserable for literally no good reason.
Obviously, the argument should have stopped here. Once they show you that bitch side, run for the hills and don't look back. Why would you stick around in a relationship that's bound to crash and burn? Bitch starts acting cray, leave. Problem over.
Well that's ******* stupid. If everyone would just go after what they actually wanted no one would be lonely.
If everyone would just go after what they actually wanted
Like I said. We do. The girls show us what we want, we go for it. After they've reeled us in, they show us what they really are.
It's simple fishing.
Like I said. We do. The girls show us what we want, we go for it. After they've reeled us in, they show us what they really are.
It's simple fishing.
Yes, in that all of my experience is incomparable.
Care to give us an example?
You know, to prove how stupid my point apparently was
You know, to prove how stupid my point apparently was
Well your point is predicated on the preposterous proposition that women are purposefully perfidious, which I find to be not only patently false, but also practically screaming that you've had a recent bad experience.
That I have. Quite a few times.
All of my friends, too.
I know that good women exist in the world, but I'm not really seeing it right now.
All of my friends, too.
I know that good women exist in the world, but I'm not really seeing it right now.
Well let's think logically, shall we? It's a simple matter of finding a cause, a common denominator if you will, that explains the trend. That's you. You are the problem. Choose better people.
"WHINING THAT YOU HAVE A FETISH FOR BITCHES"
Right. Did I ever say that I like that they do it? No.
It's just that everyone I've come across either was one or they've dated one.
And how can I pick better if, like I said in an earlier comment, they pretend to not be bitches even though they are?
Right. Did I ever say that I like that they do it? No.
It's just that everyone I've come across either was one or they've dated one.
And how can I pick better if, like I said in an earlier comment, they pretend to not be bitches even though they are?
I mean, I know you two are in an argument and all but maybe you do have a fetish for bitches and just don't realize it. It's the male equivalent to the girls who will only date bad boys and then cry about how all men are pigs.
You think they dont know what theyre doing? They're really good at covering themselves up.
Right, it's all a conspiracy by women to hurt you, and you own none of the blame.
"I'm a good person"
I can't count how many times I've heard that said.
I can't count how many times I've heard that said.
This guy goes around all over the place saying he's a 'good person' and pretends (or maybe he's just autistic) to not understand why doing that is obnoxious and makes people dislike you.
Trust me, I understand how you feel. The difference is I don't care anymore.
I meant people. I don't believe in people anymore.
Whenever I see a person doing something good or nice, I can't believe that they're doing it for a legitimate reason or just because. I can only believe that they're doing it either to blend in, to seem normal or to just make others believe that they're a good person even though inside they might not be.
Gender has nothing to do with it.
Good people are only fictional.
I've seen too many people pretending to be good and being despicable when nobody is looking to believe that people, like you said, actually exist.
Whenever I see a person doing something good or nice, I can't believe that they're doing it for a legitimate reason or just because. I can only believe that they're doing it either to blend in, to seem normal or to just make others believe that they're a good person even though inside they might not be.
Gender has nothing to do with it.
Good people are only fictional.
I've seen too many people pretending to be good and being despicable when nobody is looking to believe that people, like you said, actually exist.
Well guess what, I'm a good person, and I'll tell you I know exactly why people don't do good things: no one cares. If I died tomorrow some people might be sad for a week. No one's going to lose their **** if I go, so why not eh? People are born good and slowly damaged until they aren't, that's called life. And I have no life.
Maybe where you live. But here women know how to keep a facade up pretty well.
So I've got to be an idiot to not understand when a woman is lying or not?
You seem to be confused. Women do not lie; assholes lie. Detecting an asshole is not that hard.
You sure made it sound like all women are idiots incapable of lying properly.
No, that was you. I said that you were the idiot.
Oh no, not at all.
It's just that women are stupid and don't know how to lie properly, meaning you can easily tell when they're lying or not.
It's just that women are stupid and don't know how to lie properly, meaning you can easily tell when they're lying or not.
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ashedust (01/04/2016) [-]
For some people the excitement wears off. They thought they could handle commitment, but they couldn't.
Unfortunately, people get hurt when their other cheats and some people don't seem to realize this.
Some people see it as a game. How long can you go without getting caught? The sexual thrill! Others feel wronged by their partner in some sense and see cheating as a form of revenge.
There are a number of reasons. All of them are ****** .
Unfortunately, people get hurt when their other cheats and some people don't seem to realize this.
Some people see it as a game. How long can you go without getting caught? The sexual thrill! Others feel wronged by their partner in some sense and see cheating as a form of revenge.
There are a number of reasons. All of them are ****** .
The guy i was with said he gets horny and makes poor decisions, you can add that to the list
pretty sure all guys make ****** decisions when we're horny