Social anxiety
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chillybilly (05/29/2015) [-] 
For the past four years, Customer Service has been a huge part of the lines of work that I have done.
I love people, and I love engaging with and making people happy.
However, when I'm away from that, there is nothing more toxic to me than the thought of having to be around more than one person for an extended amount of time.
I've always wondered if I either have a mild form of social anxiety, or I just find people exhausting at the end of the day.
I love people, and I love engaging with and making people happy.
However, when I'm away from that, there is nothing more toxic to me than the thought of having to be around more than one person for an extended amount of time.
I've always wondered if I either have a mild form of social anxiety, or I just find people exhausting at the end of the day.
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definitelynotamod (05/30/2015) [-] Join the club im gonna exercise more to lose some of that anxiety even though I keep putting it off
i weigh 210 lbs fml
i weigh 210 lbs fml
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vegasstoner ONLINE (05/30/2015) [-]
im in the same boat bro. just got to the point where i decieded its too far. im a bit too heavy to be okay with it now and i have to do something about it. but i have a hard time just actually going out and doing it. and if i do. i have a hard time doing it every day. once i take a break for a day its like im done.
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definitelynotamod (05/30/2015) [-] I'm making this guy my coach.I'm gonna bug the crap out of him.
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vegasstoner ONLINE (05/30/2015) [-]
hahaha good luck with that. hope he doesnt hate you.
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definitelynotamod (05/30/2015) [-] He seems pretty chill about it. So I hope not. By bug him I mean just asking politely of course
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chillybilly (05/30/2015) [-] It's super easy to stay in shape.
If you're having trouble getting into an active lifestyle, you'll find that having an mp3 player handy makes a great distraction from the exhaustion of exercise. Start off easy by popping in your earbuds and going for a light job. Shortness of breath, profuse sweating- those are good things and you should push yourself to continue even after those set in.
STRETCH WELL BEFORE AND AFTER ANY EXERCISING.
I'm not the best at giving advice in starting to exercise, because I always have and do, but I can imagine what kind of resistance one must feel when you begin from scratch.
Also, if you're looking to lose some weight, don't think that you absolutely must increase your food intake to match your newfound level of activity. Continue to eat healthily, but if you eat more you will gain weight despite being more active.
If you're having trouble getting into an active lifestyle, you'll find that having an mp3 player handy makes a great distraction from the exhaustion of exercise. Start off easy by popping in your earbuds and going for a light job. Shortness of breath, profuse sweating- those are good things and you should push yourself to continue even after those set in.
STRETCH WELL BEFORE AND AFTER ANY EXERCISING.
I'm not the best at giving advice in starting to exercise, because I always have and do, but I can imagine what kind of resistance one must feel when you begin from scratch.
Also, if you're looking to lose some weight, don't think that you absolutely must increase your food intake to match your newfound level of activity. Continue to eat healthily, but if you eat more you will gain weight despite being more active.
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definitelynotamod (05/30/2015) [-] Thanks bro. Much appreciated. You just became my coach. Gratz. Ima add you and everything.
tips on healthy stuff ?
tips on healthy stuff ?
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chillybilly (05/30/2015) [-] ask me any time
except now
because zzzz work in the morning
except now
because zzzz work in the morning
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mattythebeaver (05/29/2015) [-] I got invited to go to a theme park with some friends, acquaintances, and some people I've never met in about a month from now, and said "yeah i'll go" to not seem like a social reject.
But as the day approaches I'm not really feeling it, but everyone else has been very excited for it and the thought of saying "sorry don't want to come any more" after all this time frightens me about as much as actually going makes me anxious.
pls halp
But as the day approaches I'm not really feeling it, but everyone else has been very excited for it and the thought of saying "sorry don't want to come any more" after all this time frightens me about as much as actually going makes me anxious.
pls halp
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masdercheef (05/30/2015) [-] Speaking strictly from personal experience it would probably turn out better to go. I understand the anxiety makes it difficult to make a decision either way, however - in the end it comes down to whatever decision you make.
If you'll take my advice, I'd suggest going. If you happen to overcome the anxiety, you'll most assuredly have a good time. However, if you feel as though the anxiety is too much to bear and would rather back out, perhaps you should mention it when you tell them you're not going - you'd be surprised how often people actually understand anxiety and are chill with any choice you may make as a result of it.
If you'll take my advice, I'd suggest going. If you happen to overcome the anxiety, you'll most assuredly have a good time. However, if you feel as though the anxiety is too much to bear and would rather back out, perhaps you should mention it when you tell them you're not going - you'd be surprised how often people actually understand anxiety and are chill with any choice you may make as a result of it.
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vegasstoner ONLINE (05/30/2015) [-]
this **** always happens to me to!! whenever someone asks me if i want to do something that sounds fun i'm always down for it. but when that thing has a few days or more to approach like 70% of the time i start dreading it and dont want to do it anymore. where as if the plans woulda been for that night i would have gone without a doubt.
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captnnorway (05/30/2015) [-] u ded ***** . I'm going to a cottage in a few days. That's several days with no rest from people. Send help
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yudodat ONLINE (05/30/2015) [-] You've probably gotten enough responses, but I'll throw this out there.
I used to think the same as you, and I still can't go out in large areas with people I don't know. One day I got sick and tired of my family making jokes about how I never leave the house, so when my friends invited me to do something, which I would usually say no to, I told them yes. I felt the same as you as the day approached, but I stuck with it and I had a good time. I used that motivation to keep going out and now I go anywhere I can when I get invited. Is my social anxiety gone? No, but I can go out with my friends every now and then without getting scared. It just takes a little pushing and you can do anything you want.
I used to think the same as you, and I still can't go out in large areas with people I don't know. One day I got sick and tired of my family making jokes about how I never leave the house, so when my friends invited me to do something, which I would usually say no to, I told them yes. I felt the same as you as the day approached, but I stuck with it and I had a good time. I used that motivation to keep going out and now I go anywhere I can when I get invited. Is my social anxiety gone? No, but I can go out with my friends every now and then without getting scared. It just takes a little pushing and you can do anything you want.
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anon (05/30/2015) [-]
Go, I used to be the same way. You have to bite the bullet and do it, you will probably enjoy it. Even if you don't, try and remain with the group, it will help you to practice being in social situation, and you will get more used to it. If you continue to be social it will seem like less and less of a deal.
I HIGHLY advise at least trying. I say this because I have a dormmate who is a good friend. He has social anxiety, and instead of trying to overcome it he "embraced" it and now will make no attempt to meet or interact with people he doesn't already know. He could actually become more friendly and less awkward, I have seen it in him, but all he does is comment to me and other friends in Skype how socially awkward he is, like that is his only identity. It's pretty sad.
I HIGHLY advise at least trying. I say this because I have a dormmate who is a good friend. He has social anxiety, and instead of trying to overcome it he "embraced" it and now will make no attempt to meet or interact with people he doesn't already know. He could actually become more friendly and less awkward, I have seen it in him, but all he does is comment to me and other friends in Skype how socially awkward he is, like that is his only identity. It's pretty sad.
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chillybilly (05/29/2015) [-] Rather than being cancer, I think it does a good job clueing in those who may not understand how relatable his words are to others.
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jarofdirt (05/30/2015) [-] For y'all introverts in here, I highly recommend reading this book. It gave me a whole new perspective to being an introvert.
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isradam (05/30/2015) [-] I started hosting parties at my house and my social anxiety went down by 69%
Having social gatherings that you plan in your own house will make y'all at least a bit more confident in general.
Having social gatherings that you plan in your own house will make y'all at least a bit more confident in general.
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derpthefifth ONLINE (05/30/2015) [-] Unless you're the kind of person who goes crazy wondering if everybody's having fun or if they need something but then you worry about if you're bothering them to much and annoying people but on the other hand you don't want to just not participate or see if people need stuff cause you don't wanna be neglectful to your guests so in the end you find yourself hiding out in your room pretending to be sleeping because you woke up early this morning or something.....
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derpthefifth ONLINE (05/30/2015) [-] I kinda ended up doing the same thing except with weed and internet....
At a certain point i'm just to damn stoned to care and so are my guests. Still though it never really got me over the initial feeling of anxiety in regards to being a good host, i just know it goes away after a few good bong hits.
At a certain point i'm just to damn stoned to care and so are my guests. Still though it never really got me over the initial feeling of anxiety in regards to being a good host, i just know it goes away after a few good bong hits.
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isradam (05/30/2015) [-] Well we also recently started playing DnD. We being mostly a bunch of LARPers as well, we get dressed in homemade leather armor (made by yours trully) and other outfits and get ******* wasted. Then we can perfectly play our characters, and hilarity ensues.
I'm a brass dragonborn druid: "An arrow suddenly pierces your throat. You notice the goblin in the woods, what do you do?"
"I USE MY FIRE BREATH ON THE ******* FOREST AND BURN THAT **** TO THE GROUND"
"-rolls natural 20- you burn the entire forest, and your breath burns the arrow and cauterizes the wound, However from now on you'll have to speak like lemongrab"
I'm a brass dragonborn druid: "An arrow suddenly pierces your throat. You notice the goblin in the woods, what do you do?"
"I USE MY FIRE BREATH ON THE ******* FOREST AND BURN THAT **** TO THE GROUND"
"-rolls natural 20- you burn the entire forest, and your breath burns the arrow and cauterizes the wound, However from now on you'll have to speak like lemongrab"
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derpthefifth ONLINE (05/30/2015) [-] Funny you should mention DnD cause knowing absolutely nothing about it i thought it might be a neat idea to get a group together, but then we actually found somebody who would DM and he seems to be wwwaaayyy more into it than i was prepared for, paired with the fact that his attitude seems to be "We're all going to do it the way i want to or **** off" He wants to do a steam-punk theme or something and literally said "I don't give a **** , we're doing it my way or i'm not gonna DM" when it was suggested that maybe some people might like to do some other setting.
I heard my two friends who've played before (one of whom wants to be the DM, the other of which came up with the idea to begin with) talk about DnD a little and it was like listening to people converse in another language all together, might have just been cause i was high at the time, but now i'm feeling like i'm not so sure i want to get that involved just for a game.
Man... that was probably not necessary information, but i've been kept up for quite a while now (like 17+ hours with alergies and a head ache) so i'm a little out of it.
I heard my two friends who've played before (one of whom wants to be the DM, the other of which came up with the idea to begin with) talk about DnD a little and it was like listening to people converse in another language all together, might have just been cause i was high at the time, but now i'm feeling like i'm not so sure i want to get that involved just for a game.
Man... that was probably not necessary information, but i've been kept up for quite a while now (like 17+ hours with alergies and a head ache) so i'm a little out of it.
