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PULLS OUT FUNDING DAUGHTER WEDDING
AT LAST MINUTE. BUT Ills REASONING IS .
My will be getting married on
November rrd. The wedding planning has consumed
most of her and her mother' s life (I say her mother
because we aren' t married, though we' lived
together for 10 years) for the past six months.
My graduated last December from
University. I paid for her to go to college, though it
was a state school, it still ran . She does not
have a job and has been living with us for the
duration of her college career and since her
graduation. I also bought her a car to get back and
forth from school when she finished high school.
From time to time her deadbeat father would pop
into her life and she would fawn all over him.
Although he has not contributed a cent to her
education or paid any child support, though that is
my girlfriend' s fault as c. s. was not part of the
settlement, she still loves him and wants him in her
life. He stays long enough to break her heart by
skipping town and breaking some promise that he
made her.
The wedding venue holds 250 people max. I gave
them a list of 20 people that I wanted invited, you
know, since I was paying for everything. They told
me that was no problem and they' d take care of it.
So I let these people know they' d be getting an
invite and they should save the date. Saturday, I saw
one of my friends on this list at the golf course and
asked if he was coming. He told me that he wasn' t
invited. He told me that he got an announcement,
but not an invitation. He had it in his back seat
along with probably six months of mail) and
showed it to me. Sure enough, it was just an
announcement, and my name was nowhere on it. It
had her dad' s name and her mom' s name and not
mine.
This led to a pretty big fight with my , as I found
out that NONE of my list of twenty "made the cut"
for the final guest list because "250 people is very
tight." I was pissed, but not a hell of a lot I could do
because the important people in my life had already
been offended. My said "if some people didn' t
rsvp yes, I might be able to get a couple people in."
But that is an ultimate slap in the face in my
opinion. So, I was boiling on Saturday.
Yesterday, we had a Sunday dinner with the future
inflow' s family and us and a surprise guest, the
Real Dad." At this little dinner my
announced that her "Real Dad" was going to be able
to make it to her wedding and that now he' d be able
to give her away. This was greeted with a chorus of
Oh how great" and "How wonderful" s.
I don' t thinkl have ever felt so angry and so
disrespected. I was shaking. I took a few seconds to
gather my composure, because I honestly wasn' t
sure if I would cry or start throwing punches or
both. Once I was sure I' d be able to speaka got up
from my chair and said I' d like to make a toast. I
can' t remember exactly what I said but the gist of it
was this:
I' d like to make a toast." The sound of spoons
against glasses ring in my years. "It has been my
great pleasure to be a part of this family for the past
ten years." Awe, how sweet. "At this point in my life
I feel I owe a debt of gratitude to bride and groom,
because they have opened my eyes to something
very important." Confident smiles exchanged. "They
have showed me that my position in this family is
not what I once thought it was." And now a glimmer
of confusion and shock begins to spread on the faces
in the room. "Though I once thought of myself as
the patriarch or godfather of the family,
commanding great respect and sought out for help
in times of need, it seems instead that I hold the
position of an ATM, good for a stream of money, but
not much else. As I have been replaced as host, both
on the invitations and in the ceremony, I am
resigning my financial duties as host to my
successor, Real Dad. So cheers to the happy couple
and the path they have chosen." I finished my drink.
You all can let yourselves out."
Is this selfish? I' m supposed to shell out 40 - 50
grand for a wedding that I can' t invite anyone to?
That I am not a part of? I' m so done with this crap.
I' m done with my , I' m done with my
I transferred the money out of our joint account
last night. (she has not had a job since she moved in
with me) This morning I called all the vendors I had
written checks to for deposits to refund my money.
At present it looks like I' ll lose around 1500, for the
venue, but the other vendors have been great about
refunding. VIA nuns mm

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#10 - thewhitedouche (10/28/2015) [-]

Seriously I can understand the love for your biological parents, but to disrespect a man that have given you everything in life is not cool at all.

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#301 to #10 - MandiMarie (10/29/2015) [-]

I agree completely. My dad's parents got divorced when he was in the 2nd grade, and his mom remarried when he was in the 4th grade. He loves and respects both his biological dad and his step dad. I understand her wanting her biological dad to walk her down the aisle, but if it were me, I would want them to do it together.

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#8 - mattyflash (10/28/2015) [-]

‘Real dad’? No.
‘Cool dad’? Yes.

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#61 to #8 - smartythechicken (10/28/2015) [-]

shouldn't a "real" dad be the one that is "real" to you?
SO:
drunk-ass biological dad isn't your real dad.
Tyrone that has had 24 ex's is NOT your real dad
real-ass dad that is ******* nice to you and always backs you up (without having any sexual intentions) is your real dad

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#212 to #61 - mattyflash (10/28/2015) [-]

Agreed. But her ‘real dad’ sounds like a scumbag.

#423 to #212 - smartythechicken (10/29/2015) [-]

her 'real dad' was her step dad.

#427 to #423 - mattyflash (10/29/2015) [-]

The dad she calls her ‘real dad’ (who biologically is her ‘real dad’) isn’t a ‘real dad’, but the dad she doesn’t call her ‘real dad’ (who biologically isn’t her ‘real dad’) was more of a ‘real dad’.

#429 to #427 - smartythechicken (10/29/2015) [-]

EXACTLY!
we birds understand everything.

#430 to #429 - mattyflash (10/29/2015) [-]

#298 to #61 - centaurstesticle (10/29/2015) [-]

yeah I live full time with my "step dad" but I just call him dad, more a dad then some deadbeat guy who ive barely seen. I cant imagine why someone would be so disrespectful to someone whos given them everything, its absurd.

#437 to #298 - anon (11/02/2015) [-]

This is probably fake, but still a good post for conversation.

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#4 - beasert (10/28/2015) [-]

Down 1500? Sounds like you got a deal.

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#190 to #4 - Maadmann (10/28/2015) [-]

Worth not speaking to any of them ever again.

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#198 to #4 - bann (10/28/2015) [-]

Right? especially for a 40k wedding...I'd have been surprised if he'd gotten away 30k that close to the deadline...most places take at LEAST a 25% deposit.

#329 to #198 - twofreegerbils (10/29/2015) [-]

It has a lot to do with how fake the story is.

#331 to #329 - bann (10/29/2015) [-]

Yea, probably

#359 to #329 - anon (10/29/2015) [-]

Why does FJ love to spaz over these fake stories? It's as if we like to feel riled up at something so blatantly fake and then spaz over the blatantly fake 'justice', it's ******* retarded.

#426 to #359 - anon (10/29/2015) [-]

Please show how you KNOW this is fake. This type of thing happens a lot more than many people think. I'm 58 and have seen this happen several times, complete with the one being used having a similar revelation and response. To a lesser extent it has even happened to me with my step kids trying to mooch of my parents (asking for money for nothing) several months after my divorce was final.

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#3 - anon (10/28/2015) [-]

run the **** away OP while you still can
leave those degenerates of a family
its better to be alone than to be exploited like that

#285 to #3 - alansir (10/29/2015) [-]

I agree. It's kinda ****** up how the step-daughter forgot completely of a helping hand of the person that's been there for all of her life.

#328 to #285 - gandalfr ONLINE (10/29/2015) [-]

well she bit the hand that feeds her, so there's that at least

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#314 to #3 - wrpen (10/29/2015) [-]

"You all can let yourselves out".

Anon...It's his house.

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#2 - platinumaltaria (10/28/2015) [-]

That seems more than reasonable.

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#22 - ihateeverybodytoo (10/28/2015) [-]

This is why you don't mess with chicks with kids. There is usually something not right about them.

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#393 to #22 - anon (10/29/2015) [-]

Yuuuuuuup. Chicks with kids and divorced girls. Both are bad. The only time it's acceptable is if the husband died and she's a widow. If she's dumb enough to have a kid without a father or dumb enough to get married and divorced, she's clearly not mature or smart enough to make life decisions. These girls are rarely ever wife material. The only exception to widow is mutual divorce or psycho boyfriend, but even then there's still high risk. Any girl dumb enough to become a single mom isn't a girl you want to be with. Do not ever go for a MILF or divorcee and expect a good serious relationship.

#290 to #22 - tapeworms (10/29/2015) [-]

Can confirm, my mom has been a single mom the last 8 years and she's turned into a psycho.

#159 to #22 - greyhoundfd (10/28/2015) [-]

I have to disagree, because my mom is a dating single mother. She was absolutely not responsible for the divorce, and it was a mutual agreement that she and my dad were not right for each other. She has raised all three of us, and worked, and gotten a Master's degree. She has just had a ****** run of luck, and I think that extends to a lot of single mothers, especially given that mental illness can often play a part in causing divorces between two otherwise amicable people.

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#30 to #22 - satansferret (10/28/2015) [-]

Agreed 100%. There's a reason most of the time like you said. Either they make **** decisions, you have to deal with "baby daddy" or simply have the fear and possibility of becoming part of a childs life, growing to love them and having it torn from you.

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#33 to #30 - ihateeverybodytoo (10/28/2015) [-]

yeah women have no problem using their children as a weapon. Like that woman that set her 3 children alight and called her husband so he could listen to them die.

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#39 to #33 - romuloid (10/28/2015) [-]

Wait what?!

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#42 to #39 - ihateeverybodytoo (10/28/2015) [-]

www.mirror.co.uk/news/world-news/listen-screams-mothers-chilling-phone-5151121

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#67 to #42 - lennylorenzo (10/28/2015) [-]

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#182 to #42 - thelastelephant (10/28/2015) [-]

And people say the death penalty is a bad thing

#262 to #182 - ayumu (10/29/2015) [-]

Being gently put to sleep?
Nah, that's not rough enough
It makes me angry knowing these people will never get what they have coming to them

#441 to #262 - anon (11/18/2015) [-]

actually lethal injection only has a short term drug to induce unconsciousness. The next drug is a muscle paralyzing agent that has been described as "fire coursing through the veins" by a woman who was awoken during a sugary when it was used. It is excruciatingly painful and the recipient will usually die of suffocation as their diaphragm is paralyzed.

Watched a cool documentary on the death penalty it was called "How to Kill a Human Being" you can find it by googling: "BBC Horizon s2008e01 How to Kill a Human Being"

#261 to #182 - anon (10/29/2015) [-]

It is. Wasting more and more money on these people just to put them out of their misery...I mean **** it costs more to put inmates on death row than it does to simply keep them there for life, where other inmates can and probably will **** them up, and lets not forget that guilt is a wonderful thing, and can weigh heavily, given enough time. Maybe her realizing what shes done and having that always following her, is a fitter punishment.

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#161 to #42 - greyhoundfd (10/28/2015) [-]

"The 35-year-old mother has been arrested on suspicion of murder and taken in for questioning, DeMorgen news reported."
She was found next to the shed and had called the father of the children just to say that she was burning them alive, how is that only "suspicion" of murder?

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#167 to #161 - quantumranger (10/28/2015) [-]

Innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. It's just how they avoid potential lawsuits if the person isn't convicted

#236 to #167 - arolexion (10/28/2015) [-]

I'd take it upon me to burn that bitch slowly till she dies. Life in prison would totes be worth it.

#419 to #161 - enlightednatzie (10/29/2015) [-]

Reminds me of how the media handled the schoolstaber case here in sweden. Just because he was a right wing maniac who killed two immigrants he is the worst person who have ever wandered the earth along with everyone else who listens to rammstein and hated hip hop. Meanwhile some african islamist killed two swedes just because he didnt get asylum are just "suspected" of the murderings. Journalists are the true scum of the world.

#144 to #42 - neokun (10/28/2015) [-]

I would do unspeakable things to the women that done that to my kids.

#145 to #144 - ihateeverybodytoo (10/28/2015) [-]

yeah. I would to

#267 to #144 - sinonyx (10/29/2015) [-]

**** the "to my kids" part.. to ******* anyones kids

#50 to #42 - romuloid (10/28/2015) [-]

That woman just looks sketchy. God damn, hard to believe that someone would do that to their own children

#115 to #42 - Anonymis (10/28/2015) [-]

rage/10 would burn at the stake.

#220 to #42 - drewciferous (10/28/2015) [-]

how the **** is that suspicion of murder?

#264 to #42 - sinonyx (10/29/2015) [-]

an article about a mother burning her children alive

"to read this article please answer the following question. 'how often do you browse travel media'"

#240 to #42 - arolexion (10/28/2015) [-]

Interesting.. Father is white, bitch is a ****** ...
Sigh. Don't marry black women.

#36 to #33 - satansferret (10/28/2015) [-]

wtf

#43 to #36 - ihateeverybodytoo (10/28/2015) [-]

I posted a link to someone else that replied to my comment.

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#1 - leonhardt (10/28/2015) [-]

Is it a completely dick move? Absolutely.
Is it completely justified? Also Absolutely.

#444 to #1 - robuntu (11/22/2015) [-]

Is it completely fictional? Almost certainly.

Notice the lack of details.

Reads like angry guy fan fiction.

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#265 to #1 - mrfloop (10/29/2015) [-]

Seriously?
The **** that happened to him wasn't that bad. He ******* ruined everything over it, everyone would've been happy if he had went along with it. He also left his girlfriend with no money like a ******* greedy piece of **** . I have no idea how you think any of this is justified.

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#287 to #265 - ekusas (10/29/2015) [-]

Pls

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#268 to #265 - dinosauraids (10/29/2015) [-]

You don't really think that

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#310 to #265 - monkeylord (10/29/2015) [-]

#338 to #265 - llamasattack (10/29/2015) [-]

Watching this argument like

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#275 to #265 - iom (10/29/2015) [-]

i was going to wright a long detailed essay on how he was right to do so because its his money and he can do what he wants with it but no just **** you and your wrong

#366 to #275 - anon (10/29/2015) [-]

I'm glad you didn't WRITE your essay. You have terrible grammar.

wright,wright,wright, just die please.

#369 to #366 - elcreepo (10/29/2015) [-]

If a person's inability to spell correctly pisses you off enough to want them to die I'd suggest going to a psychiatrist and getting some pills for that autism

#434 to #369 - anon (10/31/2015) [-]

That's not "autism" creepo. Autism is not a catchall for every mental illness.

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#375 to #369 - anon (10/29/2015) [-]

You should die too.

#383 to #375 - hexis (10/29/2015) [-]

You got some big balls for an anon

#385 to #383 - anon (10/29/2015) [-]

Thanks.

#387 to #385 - hexis (10/29/2015) [-]

*Forgot that sarcasm doesn't transfer over the internet, then realizes you were likely responding in sarcasm.* Oh, no problem.

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#397 to #387 - anon (10/29/2015) [-]

You know what else doesn't transfer over the internet? *****

#399 to #397 - hexis (10/29/2015) [-]

Thank god or else rape would be much easier to commit. I mean if you could go around ******* people over the internet. Man that'd be insane!

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#402 to #399 - anon (10/29/2015) [-]

You misunderstood, but you make a great point! Rape is bad.

#404 to #402 - hexis (10/29/2015) [-]

Yay. Bring up rape and everyone drops the subject and goes, "Rape is bad!" Now isn't that a conversation killer?

#407 to #404 - hexis (10/29/2015) [-]

Don't bother replying. I forgot what we were arguing about and it's beginning to bore me. I am kinda impressed that you managed to keep up with the comments. When i don't bother logging in i always loose track.

#406 to #404 - anon (10/29/2015) [-]

Are you insinuating that you enjoy rape?

#409 to #406 - hexis (10/29/2015) [-]

Anyway, I'm bored and tired. Night.

#408 to #406 - hexis (10/29/2015) [-]

Nah m8. I was just saying that i used rape to misdirect you from the subject.

#412 to #408 - anon (10/29/2015) [-]

Nice champ! You are cleaver.

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#378 to #375 - elcreepo (10/29/2015) [-]

Well someone clearly pissed in your cornflakes this morning, didn't they?

Go back to bed until you feel better.

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#379 to #378 - anon (10/29/2015) [-]

I do what i want. **** off.

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#380 to #379 - elcreepo (10/29/2015) [-]

I suppose it is hard to sleep at night wondering when your itty-bitty boy penis is gonna turn into a man's

Your mother's worried son, go to bed

#384 to #380 - anon (10/29/2015) [-]

Keep my dick out of this and I'll keep my dick out of your mom.

#435 to #384 - anon (10/31/2015) [-]

LOL, good one.

#391 to #384 - elcreepo (10/29/2015) [-]

Are you sure that such a tiny dick can even satisfy her?

I mean I know she's desperate and old, but even she has standards.

Go to bed already, little ***** .

#395 to #391 - anon (10/29/2015) [-]

Keep talking about dicks and people are gonna start thinking funny of you.

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#386 to #366 - iom (10/29/2015) [-]

i said i was going to right a essay i didnt say the essay was going to be riten good

#389 to #386 - anon (10/29/2015) [-]

Your stupidity amuses me.

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#392 to #389 - iom (10/29/2015) [-]

your moms pussy amuses me

#394 to #392 - anon (10/29/2015) [-]

I am just going to assume you are 12 and end this conversation.

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#396 to #394 - iom (10/29/2015) [-]

not even close to 12 just like eating your moms pussy and asshole

#400 to #396 - anon (10/29/2015) [-]

It's your fault this site is dying.

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#401 to #400 - iom (10/29/2015) [-]

yes because insulting people for no reason is making it better

-1

#405 to #401 - anon (10/29/2015) [-]

This site was built on insulting people. **** your feelings.

-1

#416 to #405 - iom (10/29/2015) [-]

you dip **** this site was built on funny pictures you ass clown

#445 to #366 - deadlydong (11/23/2015) [-]

yes because grammar matters so much on the internet. really? who the **** are we trying to impress? and before you say oh it makes people take you more serious, just shut the **** up people should take you serious based on the point youre making not grammar. people like you are pathetic.

#284 to #265 - damitfel (10/29/2015) [-]

no **** you you're wrong

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#322 to #265 - Daeiros (10/29/2015) [-]

He left his girlfriend of 10 years, who has been unemployed since the day she moved in with him, with no money? She hasn't had a job in years and he left her with no money? Wow, what a piece of **** he is,

I mean, it's almost as if he thinks people should have to do things to earn money, and that is just plain greedy. He should have happily handed over all his hard earned money to an unemployed woman who cut him and everyone he cared about out of the event he was paying for so that everyone who did nothing to deserve it could be happy at the expense of him, his friends, and his family. I mean, anything else is just plain selfish.

What kind of self-centered, narcissistic asshole would expect that the mother and daughter that he has financially supported for a decade through the sweat of his brow actually owe him the right to participate in the ceremony? What makes him feel entitled to invite nearly 1/10th of the guest list to an event he is paying for in addition to the college education and transportation of the person said event is for?

Clearly he is some sort of prick of the highest magnitude! I mean, he even expects the girl he has been there for every step of the way to care about him as much as the deadbeat who made a sperm deposit and then skipped out on her, breaking promises and only showing up when it is convenient for him.

What a selfish, greedy asshole he is! I can't believe people would feel that he is justified in his horrific act of not giving people things they have done absolutely nothing to deserve or even show gratitude for! Being taking advantage of and disrespected for a decade isn't that bad! Having well over $100,000 of your money taken from you by someone who makes no effort to accommodate your very reasonable requests that go along with that money while showing you no respect is just something you should brush off, it's no big deal, and certainly doesn't justify cutting of the flow of your money.

Or perhaps you, mrfloop, are just a pussy worshiping cuck who thinks that women can do no wrong and the only thing men can possibly do that isn't wrong is to be subservient to women in any way they demand, because any and all demands issued by the holy goddesses are perfectly reasonable and men who expect anything at all in return for their service are scum because it is the most honorable holy privilege on high to merely be seen as fit to serve at the feet of our glorious feminine overlords.

In short, **** you and your devaluing of, and complete lack of empathy for, the suffering of men. I hope, for your sake, that you one day learn self respect before it is too late and you have had the will to live drained from your body by a heartless succubus who views you only as a useful tool, worthy not of any praise for it's service, but only of contempt when it refuses to work.

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#323 to #322 - mrfloop (10/29/2015) [-]

I'm not even gonna take the time (like you did, dork) to explain how stupid you are.

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#325 to #323 - Daeiros (10/29/2015) [-]

"I'm not going to take the time to explain" is just something people incapable of explaining say to try and save face.

You know damn well you have been blown the **** out and don't have a god damned leg to stand on, but instead of admitting your defeat like a mature adult, you allude to some imaginary rebuttal that you totally have, for serious, and it's really good, promise, but you just can't seem to provide it because you are so lazy and that is the only reason.

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#418 to #325 - anon (10/29/2015) [-]

he was trolling you ******* dumb cunt. stop being so up yourself

#342 to #265 - iexs (10/29/2015) [-]

You silly cunts he's -316.

#354 to #265 - Voxker (10/29/2015) [-]

wasnt that bad? the guy paid for the step-daughters education, paid for her car, was gonna dish out another 40-50k for the wedding and what did he get for it? absolutely **** all.

#376 to #265 - samamarine (10/29/2015) [-]

Lets see you dish out 40k for a wedding and even more for someones college and have them treat you and your feelings like dirt. Making you feel like a piece of garbage thats only important when you're needed.

#312 to #265 - leonhardt (10/29/2015) [-]

Someone's desperate for attention.

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#324 to #312 - anon (10/29/2015) [-]

>implying you aren't
>implying that it's actually any different from pretty much everything else here
>implying that it isn't funny

#339 to #324 - leonhardt (10/29/2015) [-]

>Getting this butthurt

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#340 to #339 - anon (10/29/2015) [-]

>is butthurt so calls others butthurt

#341 to #340 - leonhardt (10/29/2015) [-]

Stay salty kiddo

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#356 to #341 - anon (10/29/2015) [-]

>being a stinky butthead

#360 to #324 - dicloniusmaximus (10/29/2015) [-]

>>>IMPLYING>>>

#368 to #265 - elcreepo (10/29/2015) [-]

This had better be some high quality bait, senor floop.

#320 to #265 - styxenstones (10/29/2015) [-]

#353 to #320 - scandalouszander ONLINE (10/29/2015) [-]

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#433 to #353 - styxenstones (10/30/2015) [-]

Thanks mate.

#442 to #265 - mordenkrad (11/18/2015) [-]

#348 to #1 - ramosnoodles (10/29/2015) [-]

jesus dude u bout to have 1000 thumbs

#343 to #1 - ampharosrules (10/29/2015) [-]

I wouldn't initially say it was a dick move, but I guess him letting it get to that point makes it somewhat his fault.

#295 to #1 - Maroon (10/29/2015) [-]

It's hardly even a dick move. I'd have done something far worse after being taken for a chump like that and still felt justified.

#318 to #295 - destismad (10/29/2015) [-]

I demand an explanation. I am certain that it shall entertain me. im sory pls tell me pls

#351 to #295 - thesnarfalarker (10/29/2015) [-]

I second the explanation pls

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#230 to #1 - anon (10/28/2015) [-]

Ehh less so dick move and more so karma.

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#248 to #1 - balor (10/28/2015) [-]

Ain't nothing wrong with being a dick.

Now if he was an asshole.

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#13 to #1 - europe (10/28/2015) [-]

It's not a dick move if it's justified

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#48 to #13 - thismustbeseen (10/28/2015) [-]

I agree. It's absolutely justified, and it's not a dick move.

#225 to #13 - sesshii (10/28/2015) [-]

If you can justify a dick move, then it's not a dick move.

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#17 to #13 - barbeqdbrwniez (10/28/2015) [-]

That's false. The "nice" (read: not dick) move would be to just pay for it anyways. It is a dick move, ruins her wedding etcetcetc, but it's definitely the right thing to do.

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#18 to #17 - europe (10/28/2015) [-]

No, you'd be ******* yourself over
Being nice doesn't mean you've got to be a little bitch

#231 to #18 - arolexion (10/28/2015) [-]

♪All of my kindness, mistaken for weakness♪

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#19 to #18 - barbeqdbrwniez (10/28/2015) [-]

Stopping paying probably made them upset. It is "mean". Continuing to pay would not. It is "nice." The right thing to do and the nice thing to do are not the same, the wrong thing and the mean thing are also not the same. The right thing to do in this situation is to be a justified dick.

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#20 to #19 - europe (10/28/2015) [-]

Denying those who do not deserve it something isn't mean, it's just. It's not 'nice' but that doesn't mean it's a dick move either.

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#29 to #20 - satansferret (10/28/2015) [-]

It is the nicest way possible to go about it with salvaging some self respect. A dick move would be not informing them and letting them continue with expectations of a "free" wedding only to find out down the road that it's not happening.

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#37 to #29 - barbeqdbrwniez (10/28/2015) [-]

It's the least dick-move that's still the correct decision. But it's still a dick move, it's not selfless. Like I said, it's the right thing.

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#52 to #37 - mollike (10/28/2015) [-]

Someone ****** all over you and you gotta take it or if you say anything you are a dick, basically what you are saying

#424 to #52 - barbeqdbrwniez (10/29/2015) [-]

Why do you people have such trouble understanding the difference between these things.... He did something that hurt people, it's a dick move. That doesn't make it wrong, and it's not the worst possible move, but it still is and he still has my full support, there's nothing wrong with a few dick moves.

#428 to #424 - mollike (10/29/2015) [-]

it's not a dick move then, maybe self intrest cause you know not being an atm is good for you, but it doesn't really hurt people they don't get a wedding perhaps depending on the financial situation of the woman and the true father of the "bride" but it's no means hurtful

#431 to #428 - barbeqdbrwniez (10/29/2015) [-]

Pretty sure they would be emotionally distraught at having their wedding ripped from their hands.

#432 to #431 - mollike (10/29/2015) [-]

feel ****** and sad but not hurt.

#192 to #37 - ciacheczko (10/28/2015) [-]

Dude, for your own good in present and future life - significantly redefine your idea of "nice".

#165 to #37 - anon (10/28/2015) [-]

***********

you cant have both sides
you can be oh but what if this happened

HERES THE STORY
THERES THE INFO
PICK A SIDE

CAUSE IF YOU CHOOSE BOTH
YOU CHOOSE NEITHER

but you can become the faggot we know you can be, so whatever

#244 to #37 - anon (10/28/2015) [-]

How can you be this much of a faggot?

#364 to #29 - dicloniusmaximus (10/29/2015) [-]

Maybe so, but their reactions would have been priceless.
"What do you mean, 'hasn't been paid for?'"

#300 to #19 - Maroon (10/29/2015) [-]

#160 to #19 - trollyando ONLINE (10/28/2015) [-]

No, the biggest dick here is the family not him, if anythig he is the nicest guy to come out of this, for enduring all that ******** for 10 years only to be equal to a removable tattoo

#362 to #19 - anon (10/29/2015) [-]

You don't deserve all the down votes you're getting You are right.

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#64 to #18 - smartythechicken has deleted their comment [-]

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#221 to #64 - akarathesixth ONLINE (10/28/2015) [-]

God ******* dammit don't make a bad name for warhammer 40k with that cringey ass garbage.

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#186 to #64 - leonhardt (10/28/2015) [-]

You faggots are literally worse than bronies.

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#141 to #17 - lenytunes (10/28/2015) [-]

Just because it makes you feel nice doesn't mean that it's right. He already did more than enough for his step daughter, the fact that he was about to pay for her wedding is enough to earn this man a damn medal.

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#184 to #141 - leonhardt (10/28/2015) [-]

And just because it's a justified doesn't mean it's not a dick move.

#233 to #184 - europe (10/28/2015) [-]

That's a contradiction, m8

#241 to #233 - leonhardt (10/28/2015) [-]

Not really.

#327 to #241 - gandalfr ONLINE (10/29/2015) [-]

mate if you paid for someone's degree, bought them a car, let them crash at your place rent free and then pay for their wedding but then get told that all your devotion and care would not be reciprocated because chad the next town came back to hog the care and devotion in your place, you'd be completely justified and it wouldn't be a dick move to cut ties with said person on the basis that as the content stated you are a living ATM machine. this content made me madder than I thought it would.

#425 to #327 - barbeqdbrwniez (10/29/2015) [-]

It's the right thing to do but it's still a dick move. It caused other people emotional discomfort, it's a dick move at it's core. It's the right thing to do, it's completely justified, and I would judge him if he DIDN'T do what he did. Just because it's right doesn't mean it's not a dick move. If somebody is trying to beat the **** out of your friend so you nail him in the back of the head it's a dick move, doesn't mean it's wrong.

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#55 to #17 - anon (10/28/2015) [-]

this response seems fine to me, but it has some red thumbs... so here, have a red thumb.

#223 to #55 - lenytunes (10/28/2015) [-]

Lol Anon with red thumbs makes me laugh, here Anon

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#162 to #13 - deansg (10/28/2015) [-]

>2015
>not putting the black man picture when confused

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#189 to #1 - otisriedel (10/28/2015) [-]

talk **** get hit. rule applies to everything.

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#143 to #1 - valax (10/28/2015) [-]

It's not a dick move if it's a justice move.

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#149 to #143 - perform (10/28/2015) [-]

The cock of justice does not acknowledge your statement.

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#232 to #149 - drtrousersnake (10/28/2015) [-]

ms paint skills off the charts

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#169 to #1 - topoftherock (10/28/2015) [-]

a true example of a girl getting "that good dick" as it were

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#183 to #169 - leonhardt (10/28/2015) [-]

A stern dicking.
The kind you can only get from a stepfather.

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#59 to #1 - lenytunes (10/28/2015) [-]

I bet her real daddy made a "Surprise" disappearance after the stepfather made his toast.

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#82 to #1 - GDUBBS (10/28/2015) [-]

I think from his standpoint its not a dick move at all. But from the step-families skewed reality, it is a dick move.

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#41 - lolollo (10/28/2015) [-]

As someone with a half sister with the same sort of 'you're not my real dad!' philosophy, this hits, hard. My Dad, her step-dad, is by no means perfect. He's got anger issues to make an Adam Sandler movie jealous. But when someone makes the decision of taking on the mantle of financially backing your childhood, no matter how partial, the least you can do is give the basic level of respect for that.

And to treat someone who willfully DOESNT take on this mantle, when its socially expected they do, better than this person, you are nothing less than an idiot with your priorities in how you treat people absolutely backwards.

Beyond "I only date crack addicts!" level.

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#45 to #41 - clarkxonehundred (10/28/2015) [-]

I know the feeling. My older brother's biological father was never in his life from the moment he was born. My dad has been with my mom since my brother was 8 months old and took care of him like his own child. It's been 25 years next month. All the while growing up he was never treated different than me or my little brother. I didn't even know he was my half brother until I was 14. Once he was about 16 the "You're not my real dad" **** started and hasn't stopped since. He steals, lies, and does things you can't take back. He ditched out of my mamaw's funeral and never came to the cookout we had for papaw on his birthday the next month because it was dad's side of the family so why should he care. No one on that side of the family treated him different because my dad was in the same position. He was 3 when mamaw married papaw and 3 more children.

**** like this makes me sick. I saw how much it hurt my dad when he refused to go see papaw. You can't take that back. Then all the while finding out he's been spending time with his useless ass "real dad" who wanted nothing to do with him until he was old enough to spend money on his "other brothers and sisters"

I don't understand this obsession with wanting approval and acceptance from people who wouldn't care if you were dead while shunning and hurting the people who loved you unconditionally.

Best part is. He married a girl who adopted a kid from her crackhead cousin. I hope my new nephew does the same thing to him. I want him to feel what it's like to have a child you care for reject you for a pile of human garbage

#46 to #45 - clarkxonehundred (10/28/2015) [-]

EDIT: and HAD 3 more children. Rest assured my mamaw didnt marry 3 children

#69 to #46 - lennylorenzo (10/28/2015) [-]

lol

#174 to #45 - thesoulseeker (10/28/2015) [-]

lolollo hey guys I see you are well into rants and sad/rage stories so I'd like to share a bit about a good friend of mine from highschool.

When his mom was young, 20 something, she got pregnant and shortly after my friend was born the father basically left.
Some years down the line, dunno details, his mother remarried and had a second son.
My friend told me he doesn't consider his biological father to be his dad, his dad is the man who raised him. As far as I know his biological father is some kind of poor artist.
He gets along great with his little brother and they're basically a happy family. There was only one problem and it was that my friend had some neurological health problems, but last I heard that was pretty much fixed.

So hope this makes you feel at least a little bit better guys.

#188 to #174 - clarkxonehundred (10/28/2015) [-]

That does make me feel better actually. Your friend is a good guy

#269 to #45 - CNBrown (10/29/2015) [-]

My brother is 8 years older than me, we have different fathers. I also didn't realise we had different father till I was 14. My father brought my brother up since he was 2, my brother went through a rebellious phase between the ages of 15-17 where my brother hated my dad. Once my brother turned 18 it completely changed he started to respect my dad and he realised how much my dad did for him. My brother gets along better with my dad now than with our mum. My brother got married last year and both his dad's were there but he gave the position at the family table to my dad. At the end of the wedding my brothers dad told my dad how thankfully he was that he brought up my brother so well

#138 to #45 - skebaba ONLINE (10/28/2015) [-]

Except he isn't your nephew, since he is adopted...

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#15 - feedix (10/28/2015) [-]

you handled that so much better than i or anyone i know would have. Be proud man, even if it hurts.

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#7 - smokesalot (10/28/2015) [-]

If this is OC then you have my support. You did the right thing. Get away from those women, all they want is a free ride.

Maybe you don't take pleasure in revenge like I do, but once you leave, life will hit them hard in the face.

#103 to #7 - wanpanman (10/28/2015) [-]

Or.... They'll find some other desperate chump to latch on to. Sadly but surely there is not a lack of them about... Life hitting these sorts of women hard is a rarity... Cause there are always other guys... Sadly that doesn't work for guys...

#279 to #103 - anon (10/29/2015) [-]

Yeah but there is still a sort of cosmic justice knowing that these people will never truly be happy. They will carry on wallowing in sloth and greed until perhaps the realization that their life was completely and utterly wasted hits hard when it's too late. They will never know the satisfaction of achievement or self reliance or what it's like to earn the respect of another person. Let 'em have their miserable lives.

#280 to #279 - wanpanman (10/29/2015) [-]

HAHA...women taking responsibility for their own actions and not blaming someone else!?! Either you are lucky as **** or i have **** taste in women! Am i bitter after my last train wreck...? **** you. I ain't here to be asked questions.

#294 to #103 - privatepumpanickel (10/29/2015) [-]

I agree with everything you say 'cept actually, there is an amount of gold-digga men/leeches out there too. I've been victim to at least a couple and yes because i'm a chump

#297 to #294 - wanpanman (10/29/2015) [-]

Wait....what? Seriously? How the **** ? Are they like ******* Adonis or something?

#304 to #297 - privatepumpanickel (10/29/2015) [-]

I would say that they possessed a fair bit of skillful deceit, charm and narciccism. And not-bad looks helped also I guess. And if the women was raised learning backward sets of principles - that you can buy affection - which a lot of guys naively think, too - it can happen to either sex.

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#307 to #304 - wanpanman (10/29/2015) [-]

Holy crap... I mean wow. I honestly thought it didn't work both ways... Thought tbh what the **** do i know? I thought....think all women are out to get what they can then screw you over too....experience has been my teacher.

#200 to #103 - bann (10/28/2015) [-]

Funny enough, not as many "other guys" that have money as they think. I'd say 20% of these latchers find someone who can help support them.

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#202 to #7 - twentyseconds (10/28/2015) [-]

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#11 to #7 - sonsofsol ONLINE (10/28/2015) [-]

there's a 9gag watermark in the corner.

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#12 to #11 - smokesalot (10/28/2015) [-]

Yeah your right, guess its not OC

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#139 - cazabrow ONLINE (10/28/2015) [-]

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#24 - anon (10/28/2015) [-]

Your step-daughter will probably want you to pay for her divorce in a couple of years as well.

Typically the more women spend on weddings the shorter or more unsuccessful the marriage is. She'd probably be divorced after 3 years.

#98 to #24 - kompel (10/28/2015) [-]

seems like they didn't have a dime to spent, so they are going to be together forever

#136 to #24 - aurareads (10/28/2015) [-]

Whelp since my wedding was the cost of the license, 40 bucks for a new outfit and 10 dollars on a small grocery store cake, I guess I am going to be married well into the afterlife. Feels good man.

#155 to #136 - greyhoundfd (10/28/2015) [-]

The less money you spend on a wedding, the more likely it is that you don't have a ton of money. The less money you have, the less likely it is that your wife married you because you could buy her things she wanted. The less likely it is that your wife married you just to get expensive things, the more likely it is that you both legitimately love each and the marriage will last.

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#40 - anon (10/28/2015) [-]

I never even met my "real Dad", so I've always considered my stepdad to be my real dad, I can't imagine someone doing this to their stepdad. What the **** is wrong with people?

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#164 - Misamisahime (10/28/2015) [-]

My step dad is walking me down the aisle this December
he has always been there for me and has been a major contributor to my wedding fund.
My "real" dad has been a disappointment from day 1
I call my step dad DAD because he is my hero.
I would never do something like that to him.
That girl is an ungrateful bitch.

#370 to #164 - redbannerman (10/29/2015) [-]

Same for me and my Step-Dad. My biological father doesn't deserve the right to be called "Dad". Me and my Step-dad have been through so much **** together, including the suicide of my mother and the deaths of my grandparents. That's something my biological didn't even attempt to help with.

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#80 - solenguy (10/28/2015) [-]

Looks like they cut you out of her life long before you cut their funding.

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#210 - anon (10/28/2015) [-]

**** them all, pal. You spent 10 years of your life looking out for these people as your own and they treat you like a money fountain and nothing more. **** 'em.

And try to find a legal way of getting the college tuition money back. That's a huge chunk of money.

And burn her car. While she watches.

#245 - Byte (10/28/2015) [-]

Fully justified, sir.

#110 - silasP (10/28/2015) [-]

What a slap in the ******* face.
"Real dad?"
My mother was raised by her step dad, and he went as far as adopting her legally, os it's official. She calls him dad, and doesn't even talk about her biological father (who abandoned her.)
The bride in this story is the definition of thundercunt, and I'm glad her step-dad walked away before it got much worse. I don't know if I could have weathered such ********* for as long as he did.

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#38 - jomgor (10/28/2015) [-]

more evidence to why i prefer to be alone and not have friends/family to deal with. Thank god for Aspergers, i couldn't imagine how much it must suck to have emotions like a normal person.