Everyone apparently thought I was a bitch because of this. One girl finally talked to me and said at the end of our conversation "wow, I always thought you were really mean and hated everyone, but I guess you're just quiet"
Earlier today my mother ask me why I was looking at her like she was stupid. I wasn't really looking at her and I was thinking about what to eat. My mother knows me my whole life and she thought that about me; I can only imaging how others think of me.
My mom has the same thing going for me, except its my voice and face.
She thinks everything I say is sarcastic and patronizing her and everyone else, my dad knows its not true though. My friends just assume Im a prick 50% of the time and im a bit less of a prick the other 50%.
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I have the worst resting bitchface and I force myself to smile and laugh most of the time.
Everybody assumes that I'm some kind of smug if not doing so
On the last day of school these two girls that were in my math class came up to me and started talking to me I was confused because no one talked to me in that class and what I learned was the whole class thought I was going to shoot up the school. I would alway wear hoodies and they said I looked mad found out this the reason I never got bullied in high school.
I have arched eyebrows, and I squint because I'm blind as **** , never sleep right, and sensitive to light, so with my powers combined, I apparently have a predatory look about me, and it makes people think I'm always angry.
I work outside but I don't like sunglasses so I'm always squinting too. I guess I look pissed all the time. People will randomly ask me Why are you so frustrated? Then they don't believe me when I say I'm not.
i got in trouble for cursing, i got three evocations of it. 1: i got an infraction in the 2nd grade for saying stupid in the middle of a field by my self and a retard named Edgardo told the teacher, 2: i got sent to the office for saying jackass underneath my breath after a dude said i kicked like a ballerina even though my leg hyper extended, i got sent to the office from like 11:00am then i slept until like 3:00pm because they wouldn't like my go to my car and my mom ended up having to come in after waiting in the parking lot forever, i got suspended for 2 days and my cheap ass mom claimed that's the reason i didn't get a laptop for Christmas, and last but not least 3: i got up in the middle of class pissed twice in a semester in 8th grade and cussed out my retarded ass class in front of a substitute that was going to do the same thing but too timid, see spoiler for backstory ok so the class was doing poetry and they repeated the same 2 poems on a radio 10 ten times a piece, and when me and my friends, three had 4.0 gpas, decided to start doing the work while they repeated the poems the sub said to pay attention to the story, and then took away my friends work books even though the teacher said "YOU GUYS CAN WORK ON THE WORKSHEET WHILE WE REVIEW THE STORY." an the class said we weren't supposed to like a bunch of dolts, then my other friend started reading a book, then the teacher took it away, then he pulled out another book and then the teacher took his other books away, then i went to the desk when she wasn't looking and took their stuff back, and then when i was getting too much ******** for my fried end of the year nerves to handle i blew up, after cussing out the class for i minute the sub sent my to the office, i talked to the vice princeable and told her a said foul language in a loud manner out the class, she didn't get me in trouble and told me all the teachers thinks its the demon class anyway, she ask me if i wanted to stay at the office for the rest of the period and i said yes, so i went back in the classroom, took my stuff, left without a word, an people at lunch were like "did you get in trouble?" and i said no, it was one of the feel good moments of the year because it was like therapy, and i didn't get kicked out of school, sorry for long story. , and i think the other time i cussed out some wanna be ghetto black kid that i kept myself from fighting. and before you guys start thumbing down saying "LE 2EDGY4ME" ******** you do not know how retarded the schools i went to were, holy **** so much **** i could make 50 green texts out of it. also SORRY FOR THE NOVEL,-Charles dickens
I would honestly love to hear 50 green texts worth of these stories. And who the **** gets suspending for cussing? That is so painfully stupid it physically ails me to think about it.
i don't ******* know, the only times i got in trouble was when something i felt was stupid happened and i didn't want to be taking for a fool. i think i was self aware and self conscious at a earlier age then most kids at the schools, because i wouldn't do stupid **** and get in trouble. idk if i feel like me making a green text story would actually get some attention as content then i might. i'm not going to just type it out for 5 views 2 thumbs and one comment, if i can figure out a way to get it to be funny so people would like it as OC then i'll do it, maybe i should post it on 4 chan and treat it like a repost, then maybe i'll get some of those repost thumbs
I think the people in my classes who weren't my friends thought i was retarded. I didnt talk so i think someone spread a rumor that i was but everyone at that school respected the special education kids. So i guess i got a free pass? I don't know, i got in and out without any **** .
I always used to be the shy kid. But then, I changed in 8 grade (inb4 *********************** ) to a loudmouth, *************** guy. The change only happened because I got tired of all the ******** expectations the teachers and our obnoxious principal had of me.
Feels nice man.
I would KILL to be able to trade my loudmouth for your shyness.
Being shy is a blessing in disguise. Nobody treats you like a nuisance, and there are plenty of people more than willing to be friends with someone who will just listen. Becoming friends with a shy person is seen as more rewarding than someone who talks their soul out. A shy person is less noticeable, and therefore less at risk of being ridiculed by their peers.
I know it has its pitfalls, but man... what I wouldn't give to be able just to be quiet AND engaged in class.
Bitch I don't know what kind of fantasy world you live in but being shy is ******* hell. Aside from the fact that you are in constant belief that everyone and everything is watching you and judging your every goddamm move and every god damn fiber of your shirt, you are to damn nervous and too damn shy to even utter a ******* sentence because you think that the whole goddam populace will judge you for talking and then because you are to nervous to talk you stop talking and inherit a speech impediment because of your lack of communication which just makes the whole talking thing even worse. And make friends? Do you even hear what you said there? Make friends, bitch being shy means that you are too goddam shy to even talk how the **** are you gonna make friends? And sure the first few years you arent noticed and you like that until by grade 5 every thinks you're the creepy kid who never talks. You're then ostracized from any ******* form of social communication and then you start to believe that you are this creepy ************ everyone avoids just because you are too damn shy to talk.
>>#151 Both of you have problems and benefits from your personalities. But guess what, those traits make you who you are. And I bet you're both ******* awesome, so shut up, be happy with who you are, and stop comparing yourself to someone whose life you literally nothing about. For ****** sake, you did not need to turn this into a "who has it worse" pissing match.
I make friends with shy people all the time. You don't need to talk with people like me. Bitch I do the talking.
It's much harder to make friends when you simply can't shut the **** up. Literally having no initial fear of judgement is hard because every time you open your mouth, something stupid that you didn't even think about might pour out. I've burned so many bridges before they were even bridges because I can't stop myself from talking.
I've never found a shy person to be creepy. In fact, I find them rather nice.
As I said, I know it has its downsides.
But it's far better than knowing that pretty much everyone you meet hates you because you're annoying and can't physically help it.
And then you get picked on. And your impulsive reactions just make it worse. I've had food, rocks, THROWN at me. I've had kids run away when I even just approached.
I can't ******* help talking. I would love to be quiet, even if it means living in fear of being judged.
You aren't as hated as you think you are. At least, not from what I've seen.
Shy kids are the ones with good friends, VERY close friends. Shy kids are the ones being encouraged and accepted by the others.
Loud kids get pelted with rocks on the playground. Loud kids are told constantly to go away, they're annoying.
Nobody has probably ever come up to you and told you to **** off because you're annoying and they don't like you. Nobody has taken advantage of your impulsive thinking and made you the mockery of a school dance.
You don't humiliate yourself every single day you're in a social situation or class. You don't know the hatred of your own vocal cords because you just told the kid who's dad is in the hospital that it was a good thing to this day, I don't know what broken bulb in my brain thought that would be a good to say . I would, and I will always, KILL to give someone else my loudmouth for their shyness.
And I've tried, I've tried for so long. I've used every method I could think of, from setting a limit of times I can raise my hand to literally covering my mouth with my hand for an entire class. I've tried thinking before I speak.
It doesn't ******* work. My brain is just ITCHING to say **** that doesn't even matter. The only thing that works is to be not paying attention to class at all.
Then I get told "oh, you did so good today with not talking too much!" when in reality I was playing a computer game and getting nothing done.
I understand how it is, man...
Shy people think about what they'll say - analyze it to hell and when they finally do speak, everyone loves it. They say the exact right thing because they stopped to think about it.
Being loud and outgoing means 90% of the time, you're talking without a filter. You offend people on accident all the time, or people think you're self-obsessed or simply get tired of your voice. Everyone knows everything about you immediately and that scares people off, where shyness gives you a certain mystery and actually makes people want to know more.
And God forbid you ever shut the **** up either. Shy people are outgoing for a day, and nobody seems to mind - or they flat out praise them. But a loudmouth is quite for an hour and "what's wrong? Are you okay? Well fine, if you don't want to talk about the problem then I won't talk to you." any time you just stop and try to not be obnoxious...
I get it, man.
Having no filter runs in my family, and so I grew up thinking it was normal. I can say anything around my family, even those who are not loudmouthed, and not offend, unless it was obviously pretty damn rude.
But the rest of the world, or at least a great majority, don't get it. I think I'm psychologically incapable of thinking before I speak. And that gets me into trouble. I've gotten into fights because of some pretty heinous and over-the-top reply to being made fun of. My mouth gets me into more **** than it ever helps get me out of.
On the actually trying to be quiet thing... I've been sent straight to the therapist's office for forcing myself to near silence, which is as I've said only possible if I don't pay attention to anything. It's pretty stupid. If you talk everyone hates you, if you shut up everyone thinks something's wrong with you.
At least with shy people, when they do speak up, people tend to actually listen since it's so rare.
And on the internet at least I have the opportunity to reread what I type and edit out the unimportant stuff, provided I'm not on here like last night at 3 am.
There are more people like us out there - the world just doesn't realize it a lot.
Being shy is a trope - it's a thing and people can recognize it and respond accordingly. Being a loudmouth is so unrecognized, it doesn't even have a real term - just being really talkative.
And no one ever knows when something is really wrong. Because shy people withdraw even more when there is a problem, and people really recognize that. No one notices if I talk more, or I talk faster, or I talk about things I'd normally not talk about - because I'm always talking anyway and they've just tuned it out.
I tend to talk REALLY fast if I'm stressed or anxious.
Only my mom and fiance can spot it. My whole demeanor shifts to using speech as a means of keeping fear away. But I do tend not to bottle up problems I'm aware of because they vocalize themselves. I suppose suicide and the like are something I'll never have to worry about- even if I were to get extraordinarily depressed, I'd end up telling someone, getting help, and be able to talk to that help about it.
Man, I've tried. You don't think I'm not aware of this problem? It drives me absolutely nuts.
I psychologically can't, despite years of therapy looking into the issue I was in it for unrelated problems but it just happened to be another issue needing to be solved in my life . I've tried to think before I speak. I can't. The moment comes and BAM my mouth runs away.
To have the gift of thinking before doing or speaking, to the extent where you don't talk unless strictly necessary... for all the social anxiety it might cause, it's better than running like a blind horse straight into conversations and burning bridges.
At least people want to get to know a shy person. A loud person comes off as rude and abrasive when we're not even trying to be.
I only regret what I say after it's been said. And boy, do I spend nights mentally slamming myself for not knowing when or how to shut up.
Oh and I forgot to add to the fact that because you don't like to talk everyone comes to the conclusion you're a ******* snooty as hole who thinks he's better than everyone else when in reality you are just too god damn terrified to talk. so not only are you unnoticed, avoided, and ignored but you are also hated.
I've never come to that conclusion. In fact most shy kids HAD friends at my school, understanding ones.
Shyness is so well understood, at least from my perspective.
You aren't hated, you THINK you are, but the shy girls I've met have all been well liked. Hell one even got nominated for prom queen because she was just so nice and pretty.
You know you're hated when kids cheer and laugh whenever the teacher embarrasses you by telling you "not now" when you raise your hand.
I also used to by the shy kid. I got good grades with little to no effort (straight As, Bs from time to time) but everybody thought I was a huge nerd with his nose in the books, so I got **** for that. I admit, I was overprotected (or sheltered or whatever the word is when your family treats you like a ******* porcelain doll) and I was on a path to become sociophobic.
But then, when the puberty hit me, I somehow started to revolt against myself (well, every teenager revolts against something). I never got to be the cool kid, but I managed to get respect by being smart and not being nerd. When I saw that people care more about themselves than about me, I got much more comfortable.
What really helped me was to constantly push myself out of the comfort zone. I dont mean it in the sense that I became some edgy bastard - I just made myself to interact with people. Man, that hurt like a mofo, but you get used to it. It blunts the shyness.
The sad thing is, now I'm 25 and I feel like being in regress. I never had a big social circle, but the sociophobic thing looks like its returning. I feel less and less comfortable in buses, in shopping malls, in cinema... And I'm not sure how to get back to being comfortable.
Throughout my whole life I used to have these a-ha! moments, when something that bothered me for a long time (im talking years) just made sense and I came to terms with it. But now, I'm desperately waiting for one of those, and it seems like it's not coming. What helped me before was analyzing myself, my past, my thinking, getting deeper and deeper but I feel like its not going anywhere this time. But it always seems like that and then, when i stop thinking about it, it just hits me. I hope it will be soon.
TL;DR if you are shy it doesnt mean you have to be shy forever. It hurts to overcome it and the results may not be forever, but its worth it. Hang in there, man.
Funny thing is i grew up in Canada, and they teach in you in grade 4(teachers started calling randomly only after grade 6) that you always have the right to refuse, we had a 2 week course where the teacher just told us that we always have the right to refuse and pass if we don't want to answer. I loved it at the time, now as a 21 year old antisocial i see that is was a very idiotic rule
i was in 4th grade in 2002/2003 (in alberta, canada) and we never had that **** . i tried refusing and telling teachers to pick someone else before and that never worked either, just made it awkward
In America we didn't get that **** . Fortunately I never had an issue with it, and was actually one of the people who raised my hand before the russian roulette could begin.
Of course, eventually they all say "anyone else besides elcreepo and other loudmouth kids?" because forcing kids who don't want to speak up is so vital to their education. There aren't enough listeners in the world because of many teacher's desires to "engage" a child and break them of their shyness. If the kid is taking notes and listening, they're engaged.
when you're in 8th grade and the teacher tells you break up into groups of 4-5 and you just sit there the only one without a group in an empty corner of the class and the teacher announces to everyone that anon needs a group and the other groups all do rock paper scissors where the losing group has to take you in.
god damn man... Usually I never had no one to partner up with, so the teacher would match me with someone else or put me in a group of 3. When I had an odd # of friends in a class with me, I would always be left out feelsbadman:C
And when you're a guy everyone just thinks you're going to come in with a gun eventually.
I had like 6 black people come up to me about once every two weeks and talk to me while I ate sushi alone at the lunch table.... I always thought it was really weird that random black people would walk up to me and be super super friendly, and literally everyone else ignored me
i ended up moving schools a few times, when i got to the district i stayed in, the guys ignored me, but, and this really pissed me off, girls would constantly do the thing "would you date my friend", and of course they went "ewww nooooo" so not only was i quite since i didnt know anyone, i was quiet with a **** self confidence. then it repeated for weeks,
girls asking why im so quiet, if they'd date their friend, their friend going eww no. and it happened for a year till i had an actual group of friends.
"what girl do you think is the cutest out of all of us"
"bitch 2" (because I wasn't smart enough to tell them they are all cows)
"hahahahhaa ewwwww he likes *bitch 2*"
I'm pretty sure that movie clip is from a movie called 28 days later. Zombie movie That scene is also right in the beginning right after some Pepsi product placement.
I hate being shy and knowing that the world probably thinks I'm a stuck up bitch because I don't talk to them. Because I don't know what to say and everything sounds stupid in my head so I just don't say anything.
For a very long time I had many of these problems. I saw social interaction and small talk with people I don't know as a nightmare. About a year ago I learned that I looked arrogant and angry when I wasn't with my friends and I decided to work on that. Simply saying hi to people and smiling makes a huge difference. It makes you look more approachable and if you try to talk to people and kinda joke around from time to time they will like you so much more. It's something you learn and get better at with practice. If you have a positive attitude people will be more likely to respond the same way.
I'm still **** when it comes to public speaking though. But making friends at new workplaces or school or everywhere in general became much easier. Just relax and don't think about it too much, try to have a good time and see something positive in everyone you meet. In the end it doesn't hurt to try, and people who are assholes might discourage you, but they're not worth your time and worries.
Same broseph. I wasn't really shy, but some situations i just hated like meeting new people or speaking up at meetings in work. Eventually got better at it and realised it's not a big deal. Saying that though at the time it does feel horrible being all anxious and **** .