What do you think? Give us your opinion. Anonymous comments allowed.
#28 - Lintutu (11/10/2013) [-]
i'll just leave this here
#164 to #28 - swagbot (11/11/2013) [-]
Above all the greentexts, FJ comments, satirical comments and all others attempts to explain the 'friendzone', this one is the most illuminative of all.   
Sav'd... and maybe I'll try to stop being such a clingy bitch.

Above all the greentexts, FJ comments, satirical comments and all others attempts to explain the 'friendzone', this one is the most illuminative of all.

Sav'd... and maybe I'll try to stop being such a clingy bitch.
#162 to #28 - Shawksta (11/11/2013) [-]
#165 to #162 - swagbot (11/11/2013) [-]
read it... it's worth it.
#139 to #28 - yobs (11/10/2013) [-]
Well this kind of applies to me in that have horrible insecurity and anxiety, but I will never pretend to be what I'm not, be nice for an underlying motive or treat someone different because they're hot. I don't get used but I'm just ******* lonely.
#110 to #28 - anonymous (11/10/2013) [-]
Man, I fit all those traits like a finely-crafted glove. As melodramatic as this is, I should probably kill myself. It would be far better for the world to exist without self-pitying faggots like me scouring it.
User avatar #64 to #28 - joeyliquid (11/10/2013) [-]
Whoever posted that doesn't seem to understand guys (probably people in general, she seems to know what a girl wants.. femanon probs) she does state that you don't have to an over inflated **** tard but does she realize how hard it is to change a personality? It's like trying to change someone who's had confidence issues into night-club goer 9000, but seriously ... It's very easy to slip from being a nice guy into a asshole and from there it's game over. Sure nice guys have insecurities and whatever you wanna call them, but the thing about love is.. Your suppose to love them for who they are, that includes all their faults and problems. I do agree with some things said like raising your opinion, because if you wanna have a good relationship.. Your gonna need to at least argue a few times, never understood that thought.
But anyway I probably ****** up somewhere typing and confused you guys, so essentially:
**** that post, I get that's trying to push guys away from being insecure and that's a good thing, but the problem is she's confusing being a gentleman/real man with being a nice guy. "Nice guys" are actually secret douchebags who just want to **** 24/7 and then cry when their plan doesn't work out. A real gentlemen will assert his passion and gentleness as well clearly making their intentions clear without being a douchebag.
User avatar #111 to #64 - knightr **User deleted account** (11/10/2013) [-]
I agree, I just read Lintutu's post and it's pretty much ******** that basically says being nice is synonymous with being an insecure pussy.

this post was most likely written from a women point of view..
It say biased thing like "not all women are the same" but pretty much says any guy that is even remotely nice is just pretentious, weak, and too "attached"
User avatar #128 to #111 - joeyliquid (11/10/2013) [-]
*shrug* It's just women wanting princes when they sit on their asses all day. If you want a prince, your gonna need to be a princess. Or at least a beautiful maid or something like that.
But I'm glad someone agrees, I usually post unpopular opinions and get down-voted to hell. Usually because my opinions are the blunt truth, truth hurts.
User avatar #135 to #128 - knightr **User deleted account** (11/10/2013) [-]
sure, there are some dumb guys that are fake and think that pretending to be nice and doing anything for a girl they like on a whim will get them laid.

But there are also many dumb girls who only like the "bad boy" who they think they can "change" him but fail then say that "there are no nice guys out there"

some guys can be shallow and want an unrealistically attractive woman but girls can be even more shallow than men and want a perfect knight in shining armor who is not only "cute", but funny, smart, has money, etc
#53 to #28 - infernis has deleted their comment [-]
User avatar #43 to #28 - carlonord (11/10/2013) [-]
Just gunna say this. If there's someone who figures that they're a nice guy, buys flowers, etc. I did the same thing. It's not a bad habit, as long as you don't come on too strong or weak. But anyway, it's not always the guy's fault for being too much of a push-over. My last gf manipulated me, abused me, and did some things to me that would make you want to rip her lips off, and I took it cause I was a nice guy, and it was my first relationship. She later flipped her lid and went off with a douche from a different town, because of a reason that keeps changing. Funny thing is, I know this wasn't my fault, because a lot of people around me were really happy that she was gone. It turns out that throughout the relationship, a lot of people were trying to get me away from her because I was too good for her.

TL;DR: It's not always your fault, do what you feel is right and natural. Sometimes the girl will demand that you put her on a pedestal, or something ridiculous, stay away from them.
User avatar #51 to #43 - alostsomeone (11/10/2013) [-]
Sorry but it most definitely is your fault. A relationship isn't a bloody contract. You communicate with your partner and tell them what you like and don't like. The way you describe your situation sounds to me like you never even tried to fix it.

I'd strongly recommend you try and focus on the good lessons you took from the relationship INSTEAD of bad mouthing her with this one-sided story.
User avatar #168 to #51 - carlonord (11/11/2013) [-]
I can understand how I may make it seem one-sided, but I'm doing my best to stay un-biased. She used to do sexual and intimate things with me, and then call me a rapist and tell me I didn't love her because I didn't say no. I could go on, but please do trust me when I tell you, this was not my fault. Also, be careful before you spew judgement, there could be a lot more than you know.

As for you saying I didn't try to fix it? I spent months trying to talk to her about how she was feeling, asking her if she was stressed, helping talk to her when she was upset, talking to her all night long until she went to sleep, and more. I tried talking to her about our arguments and such, but she was a very stubborn girl, and not in the good way. Don't tell me I didn't try.
User avatar #70 to #51 - lolollo (11/10/2013) [-]
You have as much understanding of human psychology as I'd expect out of Cosmo.

"If you're so antisocial, why don't you just, like, be more social to fix it! DUH!"

In other words, the phrase "It's more complicated than that." would be a gross understatement as a reply to your comment.
User avatar #150 to #70 - hawaiianhappysauce (11/10/2013) [-]
I honestly think alcohol helps with being more social, it's probably not healthy but it works.
#159 to #150 - anonymous (11/11/2013) [-]
Works for me. Initially removes inhibitions, which makes me more social, then I become more comfortable with being social because of being social.
#39 to #28 - anonymous (11/10/2013) [-]
I agree with this image a lot, but it is true that women do tend to prefer jerks, since it's just as easy to mistake being an asshole for confidence. It's these women that turn into users, since they feel that because men are pricks, they deserve to be mainipulated.

I have also met people that act like total nice guys simply because they don't know better.
 Friends (0)