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#1 - penileburglar (11/08/2015) [-]
Yeah, 'kink acceptance' is one of the silliest things. I'm about the kinkiest ****** you can meet. I go to fetish clubs, I check fetlife like most people check facebook, I have a toy collection that could make a whore blush, and there are only a handful of remotely-common kinks that don't turn me on. I've indulged in some ******* weird fetishes with some ******* weird people and for the most part, I've loved every minute of it.

But I think the idea of 'kink acceptance' is ridiculous. Kinks SHOULD be behind closed doors, and if you are constantly exposing your kink to those who do not want to get involved, you SHOULD be shamed for doing so. With the internet and all the fetish groups out, there's no reason you can't keep your kink between you and others who are equally interested.
#140 to #1 - anon (11/09/2015) [-]
**** I check fetlife too. I see people I know in real life all the time. my policy is to keep my lives separated. A good etiquette is to call that user by their chosen username unless otherwise stated and never talk about real life in kink or kink in real life. by the way nice choice on website.
#141 to #140 - vgamefrk ONLINE (11/09/2015) [-]
wow did I forget to log in like a total chump.
User avatar #145 to #141 - penileburglar (11/10/2015) [-]
Indeed, general etiquette is the exact same here. During play parties, we use fet names only. No real names, no photography, no risk of anyone's name ending up on a recording. I've seen several people from play parties out in the real world and we just nod to each other and move about our day until we see each other at the party again. Basically just pretend we don't know each other.

There are only a couple of people with whom I associate both in and out of the fetish community, and only because I know and trust their ability to compartmentalize such parts of life.
#63 to #1 - anon (11/09/2015) [-]
No you're not.
Shut the **** up.
User avatar #66 to #63 - penileburglar (11/09/2015) [-]
No I'm not... What, exactly?

Just because you have a boring social life doesn't mean the rest of us do. All it takes to get into the fetish community is a desire to do so, the existence of the community in your area, and some common sense and basic social skills.
#94 to #66 - numbmind ONLINE (11/09/2015) [-]
**numbmind used "*roll picture*"**
**numbmind rolled image**Can you point me in the direction of the social skill store, i seem to be all out...
#32 to #1 - hongkonglongdong (11/09/2015) [-]
Shaming is never based on rational objective thoughts, just emotional disgust.
#35 to #32 - heartlessrobot (11/09/2015) [-]
And at the point where my ***** pegging rape fetish is socially acceptable, is the point where the earth should be glassed.
#90 to #35 - balor (11/09/2015) [-]
You are a sick person.

But you aren't sicker than me.
User avatar #112 to #90 - heartlessrobot (11/09/2015) [-]
Then you need to git gud.
#36 to #35 - hongkonglongdong (11/09/2015) [-]
Why?
Also the past was largely pretty okay, Oglaf.
User avatar #37 to #36 - heartlessrobot (11/09/2015) [-]
Ok, first of all, I'm going to point out the RAPE bit. Shouldn't need an explanation.
Now, pegging, is when a female uses a strap-on dildo on a male.
And a ***** , is a little boy.
Combined, you have something that should never be socially acceptable.
#38 to #37 - hongkonglongdong (11/09/2015) [-]
You haven't explained anything. You've just repeated your original statement. Why should that be shamed?

Now, I can already feel the red thumbs rolling in, so I'm just going to say I'm mostly doing this as devil's advocate. What I really think is that having fetishes shouldn't be shamed, rather than practicing them (some of which should be prevented).
User avatar #39 to #38 - heartlessrobot (11/09/2015) [-]
Because raping little boys is far from a good thing.
Yeah, it's just drawings, but the more accepted something becomes, the more real it becomes.
#40 to #39 - hongkonglongdong (11/09/2015) [-]
>Because raping little boys is far from a good thing.
Why? You keep dodging the question.

>Yeah, it's just drawings, but the more accepted something becomes, the more real it becomes.
Now this is wrong. Accepting people who dress up as little boys and get ****** in the arse by women does not make paedophilic male rape more real.
User avatar #41 to #40 - heartlessrobot (11/09/2015) [-]
I'm done here, this is like talking to levvy or uchihalover.
User avatar #56 to #41 - Tusura (11/09/2015) [-]
Don't group uchihalover with levvy, that's just wrong.

uchihalover may have been a theme account, but they weren't stupid and pedantic.
They made some very good comments when it wasn't "sasuke-sama is better".
User avatar #111 to #56 - heartlessrobot (11/09/2015) [-]
Themed *********** are just as bad as retarded *********** and should have their fingers broken.
#42 to #41 - hongkonglongdong (11/09/2015) [-]
I asked you some questions, which you refused to even try to answer.

I would seriously advise you run through this: www.philosophyexperiments.com/cat/Default.aspx

It's smug as **** , but illustrates my point well.
#83 to #42 - itsgnar (11/09/2015) [-]
I see what you're trying to do here but pondering why raping a young boy by shoving a strap-on dildo in his ass is morally wrong isn't really getting us anywhere.

First of all, both rape and sexual abuse of young boys are ethically wrong.

Why is that?
- Because rape is sexual assault perpetrated against a person without their consent, and that's frowned upon in society.
- Because they are young boys. They still have certain innocence to the whole sex concept and, knowing what is happening is rape, they are most likely not enjoying it, especially since we're talking about anal penetration here.

If that's what someone gets turned on by, it's up to that person to decide if it's morally right or wrong to become interested in it. But ethically it's considered to be something wrong, so the perspective of said person will differ to the general view on the topic.

You really are asking him to point out the obvious here.
User avatar #48 to #42 - nanako (11/09/2015) [-]
i see the point you're trying to make, even if others don't.
User avatar #70 to #48 - aizeinstein (11/09/2015) [-]
> Not getting common morality
> Repeats himself because he thinks that's kinda smart

I don't know, man. Arguing isn't about pretending to not get things. You can ask why someone thinks something is amoral, instead of acting like a jerk.
User avatar #71 to #70 - nanako (11/09/2015) [-]
he did ask why someone thinks it's amoral, that was the entire gist of his past few posts.

It's nothing to do with not "getting" anything. He's questioning common morality. He's trying to point out that "It's just common sense" or "that's just wrong" are not valid bases for a moral compass.
User avatar #82 to #71 - elcreepo (11/09/2015) [-]
How about this then.

If you rape a little kid, they're not biologically capable of having sex- you will hurt them extremely badly, maybe even kill them, and leave them with scars for life.

And a little boy's anus is doubly taboo because that's not a hole meant for procreation.

I've seen torn anal rings. **** takes major surgery to repair and then you can never really close your asshole tight again, so **** leaks out. And if the rapist doesn't use lube, you have the risk of a ruptured anus or colon in the case of a small child. That can lead to a nasty infection which requires the entire long intestine to be removed, in the worst cases.

Hongkonglongdong, that's why this is common morality- because by doing it you're ******* up a life, maybe even taking it. Especially the life of a child, who we are evolutionary engineered to protect as the next generation of our species.

That said, doesn't stop me from reading a massive ******* of sir snuff, but the moment the world decides it's perfectly legal to destroy a small child like that and then eat them, we need to be gassed.
User avatar #121 to #82 - nanako (11/09/2015) [-]
neat, That's the sort of answer he wanted, tell him, not me
User avatar #128 to #121 - elcreepo (11/09/2015) [-]
I mentioned him in my post.
User avatar #72 to #71 - aizeinstein (11/09/2015) [-]
It's about the wording. You can ask something in different ways. Like when you ask your teacher a question and when he doesn't get it, you put it differently.
I'm not saying, his question isn't valid but his method for it. One's gotta adapt, if he's serious about arguing.
#125 to #48 - garyhasmorebadges (11/09/2015) [-]
Kiss up. Gonna lick his ass clean too?
User avatar #106 to #48 - tarabostes ONLINE (11/09/2015) [-]
I thought you weren't stupid nanako
#123 to #42 - rollfourexplain (11/09/2015) [-]
I went through some stuff on that website. It sucks. Too much of what is there is based around a specific viewpoint on the self and whatever other terms for that. The "You're Being Tortured In The Morning" in particular was crap.

I remember that website too. This is the third time I've gone there and I gave up on it the first two times over a year ago as well. I can get past the smugness but it states and assumes things I do not hold true and in a manner that conflicts with how I view the situation.

As some old psychologist said "Every individual is the exception to the rule."
User avatar #130 to #41 - strangesir (11/09/2015) [-]
You did very good dealing with this baseless baiter \o/
#46 to #40 - anon (11/09/2015) [-]
You're missing the keyword here. It's not 'acceptable,' it's 'socially.'

Doing that in your bedroom with other people who are interested and of consensual age is fine. Having it become a part of your social life / social identity is a different story.
#47 to #46 - hongkonglongdong (11/09/2015) [-]
Why?
Come on, there's no need to red thumb. I'm just asking a question.
User avatar #59 to #47 - masdercheef ONLINE (11/09/2015) [-]
There's only so far you can cover your ass with the excuse of "devil's advocate" before you're just being a stubborn asshole.

Is there any philosophical reason it's wrong? Maybe, maybe not, I don't ****** know. The point is, though, it's socially viewed as being wrong, and the vast majority of people within society accept that it's wrong, and they don't really care that there isn't some grand ******* philosophical why behind it.
User avatar #73 to #47 - tempuscasus ONLINE (11/09/2015) [-]
there is every reason to red thumb you
#64 to #47 - anon (11/09/2015) [-]
-Because society includes children and impressionable people who should not be exposed to such things due to their development and their inability to understand some of the finer details of safety and consent

-Because sexual acts in public are unsanitary, so a reaction of shame / disgust is not unwarranted

-Because our ability to rise past our base urges and get stuff done is why we've come so far as a society

As #59 said, you've gone past the point of 'devil's advocate' into the point of 'devil's asshole' here.
#126 to #64 - garyhasmorebadges (11/09/2015) [-]
Good job, anon. Have a jojo picture.
#50 to #47 - rollfourexplain (11/09/2015) [-]
I get what you're saying. Why do we hold the values we have? If you don't have much of a reason they fall away or become an obstacle when pressured.

" ***** pegging rape"

***** = underage (male) human. Someone of this age should not be having sex.

pegging ... In and of itself there's nothing inherently wrong with it. It's a sexual action and should only be brought up in an appropriate environment. I don't like anal, but that is beside the point.

rape = forced sex without consent. This is a massive invasion of a person's sense of privacy and is a very negative and harmful experience.
User avatar #60 to #47 - Tusura (11/09/2015) [-]
Lemme see here.

Rape is unacceptable because you are removing the free will and presence of mind of another human being, and probably causing physical harm as well.

***** in unacceptable because it's an underage male. Key word, underage.
They are not yet old enough to be considered able to take care of themselves, whether they are capable or not. This is a grey area depending on age.
That's why we have age of consent. Combine that with the pegging and rape, and it's beyond the boundaries of acceptable behavior.

Pegging is fine, as long as it's between two consenting adults.


The point i'm trying to make here, is that anything sexual must have consent from the willing. The willing must also be of a certain age to be able to consent, because otherwise they are too young to understand the repercussions of their actions. Typically that age is 16+ when they are able to make an educated decision for themselves on sexual matters.
User avatar #80 to #38 - elcreepo (11/09/2015) [-]
The shame is what makes it hot, in my opinion.

The taboo nature of the porn- and it's taboo because to most normal people it's horrifying/sickening/morally or ethically wrong- makes it that much more hard to find and that much more gratifying.

Also the BDSM community thrives off of humiliation and other psychological aspects to the fetish.
User avatar #95 to #35 - ogthegreat (11/09/2015) [-]
Source plz
#108 to #1 - anon (11/09/2015) [-]
Exposing your kink to the public and trying to get it accepted defeats the purpose of it being a kink. The whole sexual thrill is that it's taboo. If everyone is aware of it it will just become more and more casual. It wouldn't even be considered a kink at that point. You'd just be oversexualizing society for "acceptance" The kink community would literally be killing itself if it spread awareness. Just let people be into their kink and leave it behind closed doors
User avatar #146 to #108 - penileburglar (11/10/2015) [-]
Yes and no. The act of it being 'taboo' is part of it, but generally a kink/fetish is anything that turns you on either without direct sexual stimulation or more than just because of the stimulation.

For example, I would still be hugely into spanking and pet play even if they were totally common and acceptable in public. It's not about the taboo for me, it's about the endorphins and the mental associations I've developed.
User avatar #18 to #1 - lennylorenzo (11/09/2015) [-]
Dude, keep it to yourself
#3 to #1 - itsgnar (11/09/2015) [-]
Hang on... Kink acceptance is a thing?

What the **** , man. Do people who support this movement just assume it's OK to display your fetish/kink (that might be potentially disgusting to others) to everyone because they're supposed to just go with it?

Is it something like: "You must understand and accept that I adore to have my spiked, 13-inch Dildominator 3000 shoved in my asshole and if not you're a [made up term]." ?
User avatar #5 to #3 - penileburglar (11/09/2015) [-]
Yep, that's basically about it. A bunch of people who think they're being 'shamed' because buttplug tails, adult diapers, and leather gimpsuits are not appropriate daily dress.
#8 to #5 - thebakerboy (11/09/2015) [-]
I thought kink shaming was more along the lines of "I'm into all this stuff but if you're into "THAT" then you're a disgusting pervert. I thought it was just about not judging people for what they were into
User avatar #31 to #8 - penileburglar (11/09/2015) [-]
Yes and no. There are certainly some who simply desire that, but there are others (see >>#28 ) with different ideas in mind.

I guess it's all about whether you've sought out a fetish just to ridicule it or whether that fetish has been inappropriately presented to you. Because I agree, I always find it silly when people ridicule every fetish they don't have while defending every fetish they do. I don't think there's much we can do about that, though. Defending what you understand and shunning what you don't seems to be human nature.
#65 to #3 - anon (11/09/2015) [-]
Kinkshaming is a tumblr joke, for ****** sake. People on there tend to have no issues confessing every weirdo thing they like, kinkshaming was used as a term for people who would go specifically to blogs dedicated to specific kinks and start bitching at them about it.

Dickhead penileburglar right there doesn't actually know **** and, as usual, the rest of FJ are eating it up because hurrdurr now i feels intelligents.
User avatar #150 to #65 - penileburglar (11/10/2015) [-]
No, I can promise you that kinkshaming is not a 'tumblr joke' and that there are people in the fetish community who really think that public 'kink acceptance' should be a thing. See >>#9 and >>#28 for a couple of explanatory anecdotes as to what the problem is with the 'kink acceptance' movement.

Just because you have only seen it exist as a tumblr joke does not mean it does not exist in other capacities as well. I'm not sure who you are or why you seem to dislike me so much, but there's no reason to resort to insults like that over something this silly, man. Just calm down and read what people are saying instead of getting so worked up.
User avatar #68 to #65 - itsgnar (11/09/2015) [-]
That was kind of why I was asking though.
User avatar #100 to #1 - erotictentacle (11/09/2015) [-]
ok, im curious, what is the strangest kink you've ever witnessed?
I don't mean the grosses like maybe scat or baby play or whatever, but just the weirdest
User avatar #143 to #100 - penileburglar (11/10/2015) [-]
Fish hook suspension. Definitely fish hook suspension. To each their own, but to me that **** is just ******* weird and disturbing to watch.
User avatar #153 to #143 - erotictentacle (11/10/2015) [-]
Whats that? ******* someone while tearing their cheak outside with their finger like in gangs of new york?
User avatar #156 to #154 - erotictentacle (11/10/2015) [-]
there don't seem to be many positions available to have sex like that
User avatar #157 to #156 - penileburglar (11/10/2015) [-]
Actually, a lot of fetish stuff doesn't involve actual sex. That's a common misconception (probably because of all the fetish porn out there that is always blatantly sexual.)
User avatar #158 to #157 - erotictentacle (11/10/2015) [-]
guess i'm never done learning~
User avatar #15 to #1 - dantemp (11/09/2015) [-]
Can you give examples of someone exposing their kinks demanding acceptance? I think whatever happens in your bed should stay there but that's not a reason for anyone to vocally shame anyone that does whatever. Everyone has his/hers unique craziness and we should respect that. As long as you are not parading your weirdness, you don't deserve shame.
User avatar #28 to #15 - penileburglar (11/09/2015) [-]
Yep, got a perfect example for you.

I was at an anime convention. NOT a fetish convention, an anime convention full of kids and teenagers. I was there to help a friend work a little stand that sold some non-kinky leather accessories. We were just outside the doors at the entrance to the convention center. Again, FULL of kids and teens.

Along comes some shirtless dude in leather chaps showing a clear bulge leading another fully-gimped dude in a leather dog set around outside. He starts beating the dude up and inviting others to come slap his slave around too. When asked to leave, both became extremely confrontational, with the master insisting that they had every right to do what they were doing in public without being judged. A couple swings were even taken at the con staff attempting to get him off the property. Police had to be called to get the two of them off the property, not sure if they received any charges or not.
User avatar #135 to #28 - dantemp (11/09/2015) [-]
OK, that's ****** up but I don't imagine this occurs often and I don't imagine big communities supporting it? Right?
User avatar #151 to #135 - penileburglar (11/10/2015) [-]
Correct. It is a fairly rare occurrence thankfully, and most of the fetish community just has a live-and-let-live attitude towards kinks as opposed to some aggressive 'society must be forced to accept my lifestyle' policy. We don't want to force our kink on the public, but we do want to be able to enjoy it in private without receiving flak. Unfortunately there's always that vocal minority such as the asshat in the story above.
User avatar #103 to #1 - CoolStoryBrosky (11/09/2015) [-]
"Kinks SHOULD be behind closed doors"


What if public stuff is your kink?
User avatar #148 to #103 - penileburglar (11/10/2015) [-]
There are plenty of ways to indulge exhibitionism without actually exposing yourself to the unsuspecting public via play parties, roleplay, streaming, fetish clubs, etc.

Kink doesn't give you a free pass for anything. Rape, ageplay, and abduction are pretty common kinks, for example. But responsible people with those kinks use roleplay to indulge those kinks in such a way that satisfies them as much as possible without actually causing harm to others.
User avatar #24 to #1 - rebornpotato (11/09/2015) [-]
You should make content of the **** you've gone through, because it really sounds interesting, talk about the **** you've gone through i'd love to hear it.
User avatar #43 to #24 - penileburglar (11/09/2015) [-]
I've thought about it, but most of my stories wouldn't really be that entertaining. Fetish clubs aren't really much interest from regular clubs, except we stop to do kinky stuff with people once in a while. I think most of the non-sexual stories I could tell are 'you had to be there' kind of moment. Entertaining enough when they're relevant to a conversation or they're requested, but they don't really feel content-worthy to me.

As for the sexual stories, the idea that someone out there has a functional social and sex life seems to offend many people here. I don't really feel like sifting through a comment section full of "FJ User, sex life, pick one" nonsense and having to 'prove' that each story happened.

I think I'm going to do a compilation of pick-up lines that myself and my partners have received on our online streaming accounts, though. THAT **** is ******* hilarious. As much as we joke about the 'hey bb u wan sum fuk' those people ACTUALLY exist. We don't look through our private messages when we're horny, we look through them when we want a good laugh.
User avatar #57 to #43 - rebornpotato (11/09/2015) [-]
Ahh alright i see your point there, and that sounds really funny actualy i'd love to hear the pick up lines then haha.
User avatar #89 to #43 - talldumbdork (11/09/2015) [-]
What is the male to female ratio at clubs and events? do they screen out ugly or super fat people (serious question, I know a lot of swinger events do) Do they require tests for stds prior?
User avatar #161 to #89 - penileburglar (11/12/2015) [-]
Male-to-female is actually pretty good, I'd say we're still a bit male favored bit it approaches even. Though I'll admit, the attractiveness of the males is a little higher than the attractiveness of the females (with exceptions in each category, of course.)

They do not screen out 'ugly or fat people.' Naturally those that are unable to find partners will be less inclined to come to the events, but it's a pretty nonjudgemental crowd. Fetish parties are not a free-for-all like some swinger events, scenes must be negotiated and most of the playdates are actually set in advance.

They do not require STD tests, but this is a fetish club, not a swinger's club. On most nights there is no nudity or blatant sex allowed, and on the nights where it IS allowed, they are extremely strict on using barriers for toys or the rare event of vanilla 'sex.' And proper sanitation procedures have to be followed if bodily fluids of any kind are involved. Beyond that the individuals involved assume all risk. Many couples will require you to do an STD test prior to making a play date with them, of course. But you can beat, whip, shock, humiliate, tie up, tease, torture, use toys, and do all manner of fetish activity without actually risking an STD, so most people just avoid activities that would risk STD's altogether since there's so much else to do.
User avatar #33 to #24 - xbits (11/09/2015) [-]
yeah you'd love that wouldnt u ya little slut
#58 to #33 - rebornpotato (11/09/2015) [-]
You're god damn right.
User avatar #78 to #58 - xbits (11/09/2015) [-]
ye good south park maymay
#16 to #1 - probrem (11/09/2015) [-]
Thank you for being a functional member of society!
User avatar #29 to #1 - advice (11/09/2015) [-]
in other words: NEVER REVEAL YOUR POWER LEVEL
User avatar #4 to #1 - ieatsnatch (11/09/2015) [-]
******* this. Your PRIVATE LIFE should be YOUR private life. It's no-one else's business unless you've become sexually involved with that person.

Although it would be a low blow if you open up to someone whom you've become sexually involved with about a kink that is odd and they roast you for it.
User avatar #6 to #4 - penileburglar (11/09/2015) [-]
Indeed. I've never once been shamed for my kinks or my sexuality because I keep that **** where it belongs. And yeah, when it IS appropriate to bring up and then you get ridiculed for it, THAT'S actually pretty ****** of the other person. It's rarer than people make it out to be, but it certainly does happen. Unfortunately, that does not seem to be what the 'kink acceptance' stuff is about. :/
User avatar #133 to #1 - shinyarmor (11/09/2015) [-]
if my dick fits ill do it.
#129 to #1 - veryfahnyjokes (11/09/2015) [-]
So I take it you once tied your other hand to the radiator while you masturbated?
User avatar #101 to #1 - travishein (11/09/2015) [-]
It's a pretty silly concept. Accept my kink which should be my business alone. Another term I despise..."vanilla sex". Just because some people need a leather harness and a 12 inch dildo mounted to a pile driver to get off...doesn't mean the sex I'm having is boring. I love the act of sex...that alone gets me going. I'm not opposed to kink, and I dabble in moderate stuff...but I love emotionally driven, PIV sex. I guess you could say, it's my kink. Peace.
User avatar #147 to #101 - penileburglar (11/10/2015) [-]
Indeed. I've always felt a little bit of disdain for those who look down on 'vanilla' sex. I may be into the freaky **** , but I'm still totally up for dinner, a movie, and some lovemaking with any clean, attractive, and engaging person.
#74 to #1 - bmnhu ONLINE (11/09/2015) [-]
Out of curiosity, which common kinks don't turn you on?
User avatar #75 to #74 - penileburglar (11/09/2015) [-]
Scat, excess weight, uniforms/authority play, piercing, knifeplay, body modding, and serious ageplay (as in adult-diaper levels of ageplay.)

I can get behind just about anything else to at least some degree.
User avatar #105 to #75 - dorfdorfdorf (11/09/2015) [-]
we share an anti-kink list

sharing an anti-kink list is one of my kinks
#87 to #75 - anon (11/09/2015) [-]
You and I seem like we could've gone along fine.
#132 to #75 - gaifgt ONLINE (11/09/2015) [-]
>scat
User avatar #149 to #132 - penileburglar (11/10/2015) [-]
Yep, that's my reaction to it as well.

What people want to do behind closed doors with another consenting adult is their own business. I'm not going to go out of my way to find and shame people who are into scat. But I'm well within reason to insist that people who want to indulge that fetish stay the **** away from me.
#88 to #1 - anon (11/09/2015) [-]
Can I get some advice from you? I'm into pet play with my Master and have been dying to try exhibitionism lately. I'd like to try out something simple first- like having him walk me around in public with a leash on like a kitty and then progressively move on toward something more hardcore. Obviously, I can't do that in public. How do the groups you go to address that? Is there a specific place I can go with him to try that in public (besides once-a-year festivals like Folsom)?
#144 to #88 - penileburglar (11/10/2015) [-]
Here, the local fetish groups hold play parties pretty frequently (there's one or two every month). The cool thing is that while there are always a few couples active in the back room, most of the party is just a regular 'party' with booze and party games and such. So casual exhibitionism can be indulged there. If you don't intend for it to get sexual, you could do it pretty much any night at most fetish/gothic/industrial clubs.

Streaming or recording is another good option for safely indulging exhibitionism. You can have anywhere from dozens to thousands of people watching you from the safety and comfort of your own home, and you can use masks if you want to keep your identity safe (get yourself a kitty hood such as in the picture!)

Beyond that, there's always wearing some kinky stuff under your clothes. And Halloween is a great opportunity, as most people will unwittingly see it as a cute couple's costume instead of a kinky activity. And yep, there are festivals and conventions like Folsom to give you the occasional ability to truly go all-out.

Lastly is, of course, doing it late at night. Frankly, everyone whose out at 1-2 in the morning in a park should be old enough to handle the sight of a frisky couple in a park, but obviously in that case there will always be a risk of actually getting caught, so indulge at your own risk. Having an extra person 'spotting' to allow you to cover up in time like exhibitionist porn videos do is a common strategy.

Exhibitionism is a tricky one. I openly admit that when I was young and dumb I way overindulged in it and I'm lucky I never got in legal trouble. But I'll say this: while the IDEA of getting caught by an unsuspecting person is sexy, the actuality of it is that you'll usually only get conflict and trouble if that actually happens.
#9 to #1 - ragingcajun (11/09/2015) [-]
I used to have a dom that made it his mission to have people know about the SM lifestyle. Granted, he held a Mr. Leather title State level , but it got to a point that he looked for ways to interject his lifestyle into conversations with everyone. We went to Folsom this year, he took some pics of me and us, and he put it up on facebook and tagged me like it was a normal day. I didn't care that he told strangers, but all of a sudden, people I interacted with on a daily basis knew about my personal life. I got ostracized from my family and friends and nearly lost my job because he felt that he knew better about 'kink shaming'. Ever since, I've backed out of the community and focused on more wholesome hobbies. Right now, I'm not sure if I'm going back out anytime soon.
User avatar #11 to #9 - YllekNayr (11/09/2015) [-]
that's ****** up, yo
User avatar #45 to #9 - penileburglar (11/09/2015) [-]
Jesus that is ****** , I'm sorry to hear that. You probably could have gotten him stripped of that title for that one, 'outing' a sub to the non-fetish part of their life without their permission is a HUGE no-no, arguably a full protocol/safeword breach if privacy was part of the terms of your submission to him. But I understand not going through that, since it only would have generally more publicity for you (which was already the issue.)

Thank you for sharing, though. Hopefully your story can prevent others from making the same mistakes. Tales like yours have resulting in the local fetish club enacting an extremely strict rule against unauthorized photography (a rule I am 100% in support of. Being able to relive and share the memories is not worth risking my job and my relationship with my family.)
#2 - donnymuffinasdf (11/08/2015) [-]
something tells me someone from here made that
#22 to #2 - anon (11/09/2015) [-]
but they've got such pointy knuckles

maybe its part of their kink ?
#67 to #2 - rollfourexplain (11/09/2015) [-]
This was made before Admin changed FJ's thumb icon a dozen times. Crazy, right?
#61 to #2 - anon (11/09/2015) [-]
Nope.

That post was made well before FJ's thumbs changed shape.

So Admin uses tumblr, or they both used some generic thumbs-down shape. They're not even identical, so no, FJ is still not relevant or important.
User avatar #7 to #2 - maxismahname (11/09/2015) [-]
I'd guess it's because of the thumb
#10 - stormieskys (11/09/2015) [-]
Yes, I can see kink acceptance going very well. Just look at this lad right here.
#55 to #10 - anon (11/09/2015) [-]
Reminds me of a guy on here that told his family that he's into traps and wants to become a trap. Like, his whole life is traps, to the point that he openly has trap hentai out on the bus and **** . I don't how people can function like that.

Anon because I don't want him to get mad. He's a nice guy,.
User avatar #127 to #10 - choobe (11/09/2015) [-]
So I googled "vore" and it's appearantly fetish for being eaten. How does anal vore work then? Are you being eaten up by the asshole of someone?
User avatar #134 to #10 - thumbingthumbing (11/09/2015) [-]
They must be socially inept to think this is okay. Gay's and lesbian's coming out is fine for obvious reasons but it's not like people to throw a party and invite all their friends & family to say 'Hey! I adore giving blow jobs, being called a slut and being rammed...'

Good for you but did they really need to know?
#17 to #10 - sirpostie (11/09/2015) [-]
probably says a lot that i think i know what site that comes from tfgamessite.com
#85 to #17 - anon (11/09/2015) [-]
Wrong
#92 to #85 - sirpostie (11/09/2015) [-]
Care to correct me then?
User avatar #139 to #92 - talkingbrickbrick (11/09/2015) [-]
it's deviantart
#115 to #10 - zionsype (11/09/2015) [-]
You...you don't "come out" with fetishes.
That isn't something people need to know about you.
User avatar #117 to #115 - heartlessrobot (11/09/2015) [-]
Exactly.
The only people that need to know your fetishes are the ones participating.
User avatar #104 to #10 - dorfdorfdorf (11/09/2015) [-]
"Did i do something wrong?"

no

no

nature did
#84 to #10 - elcreepo (11/09/2015) [-]
***** went and told his family that he's into anal vore as if he expected it to be perfectly acceptable among normalfags

Does he not get fetishes or is humiliation one of his fetishes
User avatar #52 to #10 - yaybacon (11/09/2015) [-]
It hurts every time I read it.
#23 to #10 - anon (11/09/2015) [-]
so a young guy invites people to a party and it turns out to be about him soliciting everyone for some crazy anal action ?

and not only that but he's labeling himself as a fanatical extremist about it ?

no wonder he didnt get a very positive response to his unusual interest in poopshutes when he just shoves that gross stuff in everyones face outta nowhere.

#79 - elcreepo (11/09/2015) [-]
Wait, wait, wait.

There's a kink acceptance movement?

Now I'm not one to toot my own horn but I've got more fetishes and kink in me than the devil himself.

But why should I force others to accept it? Tolerate it, maybe, but nobody is threatening my life because I like watching girls masturbate with knives or cartoon girls being forced to grow enormous breasts and clits.

But if that ain't your thing, by all means, voice your opinion. It's my right to fap, your right to be horrified. In fact, I want you to be horrified, I wantit to be taboo... THAT'S WHY IT'S CALLED KINK.

A kink acceptance movement ruins the purpose of having fetishes.
#97 to #79 - tarabostes ONLINE (11/09/2015) [-]
Y-YOU DISGUSTING PERVERT! I'M GOING TO EXECUTE YOUR KINKY ASS!
#99 to #97 - elcreepo (11/09/2015) [-]
ONLY IF YOU CAN CATCH ME FIRST mods pls no ban
#102 to #99 - tarabostes ONLINE (11/09/2015) [-]
Ewwwwwwwwwwwww stop posting faggots pleinair you know what you have to do
User avatar #81 to #79 - cackledemon (11/09/2015) [-]
just wanted to say I'm also a perv and I totally aggree with you
User avatar #25 - colonelroymustang (11/09/2015) [-]
The meta here is getting too deep. I can't even tell whether anything is trolling or genuine insanity anymore.
User avatar #30 - galkawhm (11/09/2015) [-]
Anti kink shaming kink shaming kinks are my kink
User avatar #44 to #30 - Izen (11/09/2015) [-]
WILL THE BUFFOONERY AND SHENANIGANS EVER END
#62 - ayumieguy (11/09/2015) [-]
Uncultured/Unconditioned: Homosexuality
Cultured/Conditioned: The LGBTQRSTUVWXYZ1234567890!@#$%^&*()_+

#77 - kanedam ONLINE (11/09/2015) [-]
what happens in my brain when i read such things...
#113 - assassindash (11/09/2015) [-]
**assassindash used "*roll picture*"**
**assassindash rolled image**

"I feel like ******* with people today."
User avatar #116 to #113 - Elk (11/09/2015) [-]
Sigh...
User avatar #118 to #116 - assassindash (11/09/2015) [-]
what's wrong, sad you're never gonna get the opportunity?
User avatar #119 to #118 - Elk (11/09/2015) [-]
This picture was posted because an anonymous was mad at me.
User avatar #122 to #119 - assassindash (11/09/2015) [-]
Oh, so he was the one who was sad for that reason, and you're just sad someone doesn't like you? Or are you sad because anon's a lost opportunity?
User avatar #76 - syntheticdoll (11/09/2015) [-]
And what if my kink is shaming people who's kink is shaming kinkshamers?
User avatar #98 to #76 - tarabostes ONLINE (11/09/2015) [-]
Then you're Leonardo Dickaprio
#69 - anon (11/09/2015) [-]
...I think your kink is great and you should be proud of it?

God, how do I make you feel like trash??
#14 - captainprincess ONLINE (11/09/2015) [-]
Shame is pleasure
#19 to #14 - anon (11/09/2015) [-]
There is a humiliation fetish, so yeah.
#142 - ryantheacrobat (11/09/2015) [-]
**ryantheacrobat used "*roll picture*"**
**ryantheacrobat rolled image**
#131 - strangesir (11/09/2015) [-]
Usually, I can understand why people are into certain kinks... but... why the **** would you ever be into being shat on/etc other than the fact you're mentally ill?
#136 to #131 - xgrandmoffx (11/09/2015) [-]
>Scat is disgusting
It's not as bad as vore. Or worse, cockvore .
#137 to #136 - strangesir (11/09/2015) [-]
Include the parts when they like the whole " ******** out" part, and then you're right.
#109 - tarabostes ONLINE (11/09/2015) [-]
User avatar #93 - sphincterface (11/09/2015) [-]
Nice to see everyone on the post is making fun of it though. I was half expecting a "No you have to accept them because you have to accept everybody."

Nice to see there are still some logical people on Tumblr.
#20 - veryfahnyjokes (11/09/2015) [-]
That's just FJ pinkie on some random background. Literally everything they say on tumblr is ******** .
User avatar #51 to #20 - handsomestalin (11/09/2015) [-]
It even says "jokes" in your username
#124 to #51 - veryfahnyjokes (11/09/2015) [-]
yeah...so?
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