we'll can't really help. it was her first date ever. and i have had quite some dates (not many worked out though) so i knew a bit on how to handle it. for example: i noticed she was feeling nervous, so i said "are you as nervous as i am?" ya know, to let her know she's not alone in this. it broke the tension immediately. try to make her feel comfortable and make sure you have something to talk about, for me it was music and the love for food. only a few months in we noticed we both are a quite geeky and even now we surprise each other. all of this is great and all, but there is one thing more important. love yourself and be comfortable with yourself. you don't need a person who makes you feel like you are not yourself. i need emotional support from time to time, i like to talk about what bothers me. search for the person who is able, or at least willing, to give what you need in a relationship
I really agree. But I'm not sure what would happen when I would be alone. I guess I'm pretty dependent... In the last 9 years I always had a girlfriend (except for maybe 6 months in total), because I can't handle to be alone. It makes me nervous somehow...
But it's really really great to boost other person's self confidence. Both of my ex gfs and also my current gf hated some of their bodyparts for example, although it wasn't too bad. It's awesome to see them smile when you show them you love exactly those body parts... Well but my ex gf left me after she got too much confidence... damn hope it won't happen again.
I honestly don't know a different way to approach girls than via long and interesting messages... Also I don't have many real friends, so where should I meet girls? Well the girls at my university seemed interesting (but not interested) when I went there a few years ago...
for me this wouldn't take that much confidence. it's just some random girl that i don't even know yet. if it fails then who cares. if it works though.. girls i know take confidence to ask out.