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Hey, guys. I know this isn't funny, and shouldn't get thumbed as a result, but I needed to get something out. My girlfriend and I have been having problems for a while. It's always back and forth with me asking her to talk to me and her not doing so. She says she has to keep secrets because there are "some things she can't even tell herself" and that I'm not the only one she keeps in the dark, so I should stop "victimizing myself". I don't know...we were fine when we started out. I took her to prom, I lost my virginity with her, and I loved her more than I've loved anyone else in the world. But I can't handle working for a relationship where she doesn't tell me everything important. We're on a temporary separation as of today, and I needed to know if I should just end it, or if I should just accept the fact that she has problems she'll never tell me about and force myself to be ok with it. If it helps, we've been dating for 9 months and both of our friends/ family are pressuring us to end things.

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#7 - anon (12/16/2014) [-]

if you aren't getting what you want/need out of the relationship then tell her that, don't force yourself to be with her if you aren't happy.

#9 - nanako (12/23/2014) [-]

bro, she's ******* crazy.

plenty of fish in the sea, many of them only half as crazy as that. you're a man now, go out and pickup someone new, leave this one behind

#10 to #9 - morphodite [OP](12/31/2014) [-]

You were so right. We just broke up over the dumbest **** . Thanks for being based, man.

#11 to #10 - nanako (12/31/2014) [-]

*hugs* i hope things go well for you in future. grab a beer, get yourself a new game or something, take a little time to relax. sounds like you need some persona time

#5 - flemsdfer (12/16/2014) [-]

I say if you can't have trust in a relationship, how can there be a relationship?

I mean, what kind of ******** line is "There are some things I can't even tell myself"?
It's good to talk through problems, but if one side refuses to talk, what is there left to do? You tried, you can't say you didn't.
9 months isn't that much commitment though. Not even a year of your life has been devoted to this person, so don't look at it too hard if you two go your separate ways.

#4 - heroicdose (12/16/2014) [-]

just be honest with yourself and ask "whats the best thing for me to do for myself?". its almost guaranteed you know whatever the answer is already, you just want others to resonate with you.

#3 - anon (12/16/2014) [-]

9 months ain't **** . what are you, dying of some terminal disease?

#2 - grimfuck (12/16/2014) [-]

cant tell you secerets?

I think she is cheating on you. Here I have just what you need:
www.funnyjunk.com/nsfw/

#1 - anon (12/16/2014) [-]

As a random lurker, I'll just say that you probably shouldn't ask people on FJ for relationship advice, I mean, it's the home of you know who...

But if you really want to hear the thoughts of a random stranger, I'll just say this: Everybody has secrets they don't want to tell anyone. As long as it's minor, I suggest that you don't let it bother you that much.

#6 - penelo (12/16/2014) [-]

First of all I won't tell you to leave her because I don't think you want that, otherwise you wouldn't be here. Do you love her? If you do and you kinda want this to work you should give her space, if you back up a bit, she'll probably react.
If she's telling you to stop victimizing yourself I take it that you are probably just "nagging" her about things that don't matter I know, she's probably nagging you too, just bear with it for now, if you feel like it . Stop it, and actually listen to her, there's probably something nasty under that silence, she will only tell you if she feels confortable around you sadly, we don't always trust the people we love, it's just too much at stake and sometimes it's better to let it be .
If you guys are already on a break, I honestly think you should both just stop and think about each other. Again, give her space and let her figure herself on her own.