As a man, I would strongly suggest not attempting a relationship with a woman who has had more sexual partners than you. Generally, women prefer their man to be more experienced than themselves, and if they already have a history while you are an inexperienced virgin, there's a good chance it won't last.
If you value a serious long-term relationship with a woman, the fewer sex partners she's had before you, the better. Generally speaking, the more partners a girl (or a guy) has had, the less likely they will be emotionally available and sexually satisfied. This leads to cheating, break-ups, and divorce.
The manner in which a girl has had sex also matters. If a girl has a history of one-night-stands, likes to get drunk or high and blow dudes at parties, has cheated, or been with more than one guy at a time, she's clearly a sensation-seeking risk taker. Watch out for STDs, pregnancy, bipolar/borderline disorder, etc. If she's not a party girl and has only ever had sex with serious boyfriends she thought she loved, it's much less of an issue.
I would never long-term date a girl with more than 10 sex partners, and I'd try for under 5. Innocence and responsibility may be boring sometimes, but it's very valuable in a long-term partner and increasingly rare these days.
My current GF of 3+ years has been with several other guys in the past. She was once branded the High School Slut... She is also the most loyal girl I have ever been with, and I have come to terms with her past, so it doesn't bother me at all.
With almost any pretty girl, there are always exes that will try to get in contact. With a girl who has had well over 20 partners, won't it bother you how many guys will keep contacting her? Maybe she's the type of girl that just need many men in order to be pleased and in a couple more years with you, she won't feel satisfied anymore? To me, sex is the ultimate form of intimacy and trust, and a girl who is willing to give up that kind of thing so often (so easily) sounds like she may have some deep seated problems. Is that something to look out for that could come up later? This **** really bothers me yo...
It shouldn't matter. However, how the partners came to be should matter.
If they were serious relationships, then let 'em **** . If they're promiscuous, then that'll be a problem
1: not too many 2: not too many 3: a bit much but ok 4: it take a bit of convincing but im still ok 5: she'd have to be at least a perfect 10/10 6: no 7: hell no 8: **** no 9: *covers mouth and nose when in proximity* 10: How many abortions have you had? 11: *calls CDC and reports STD samples have been stolen* 12: Why am I even considering this? 13: *begin to realize something* 14: *OH she's been sleeping with other women* 15: yes. ^
yeah, I have and still would. I don't see the difference; if you love each other or might do in time then what's the difference? The number doesn't a slippery slut make, rather it's the presence of overlap between one and another.
Putting numbers on it is arbitrary, whether that person can make you feel like you're the only one that counted wihtout being overly juvenile is the ideal I would say.
I don't think you should just reject them on that basis, but don't be surprised when she ditches your ass for someone else. and especially don't just consider yourself just better than all her exes, my bro made that mistake. she was engaged 3 times by 21, and her last engagement ended with her sleeping with my bro.