Everybody has their own personal **** to deal with and yet, only some act like huge asshats cause of it. Once more, YOU are nothing special, Your problems are not unique, YOU choose to be asshole, dont blame it on the everyday problems most people have.
I'm sure some fag comes to point out ''Everybody is unique and deals with the stuff differently and some just becomes assholes etc etc cant blame em bla bla blaa'' To save time coming back and answer that load of ******** , you're wrong.
"The problem with your way of thinking" is that you act as if everyone should act a single way. You can't control what people do. If they want to be assholes then let them, it's all about how you deal with the **** that matters. The funny thing is, is that everyone is actually special to themselves. It doesn't matter whether their problems are unique, or whether their reason for being an asshole is justified.
In the end humans rely on emotions, and people's emotions cannot be controlled. You will never be able to stop people from shifting the blame, since humans try to rationalize and give reason to everything. Emotions don't exist in the world of logic, simply having any emotion is illogical.
Scandinavian people have an unspoken law called the jante-jaw to state exactly what u are saying. The only problem is that it wont let people have dreams or goals too high in life..
The problem with your way of thinking is that you are asking a wrong question. The point is not to find whom to blame, but how to deal with the problem and what factors affect it and in what way. Of course you might conclude that problems this people face are not something that is impossible to deal with, that it's their own fault for giving up to them. But will it help?
In order to really change something we need to know about factors that we can affect, blaming everything on people themselves won't help. Yes, it may seem unfair that some people need more attention than others, that we need to work harder just to help them through something that we ourselves have gone through without help. And it IS unfair, but in the end it will be beneficial for everyone.
Our human nature demands from us to find someone to blame, but it is of no use, what is really important is what we should do.
Very big guy in my school got picked on for several years, and like really hard, bullies did some nasty **** to him like pissing in his backpack. Then one day (after x years) he snapped and socked one of them in the face breaking the bully's jaw and eyesocket.
mfw he got expelled even though every teacher and our principal knew about the issue
I got lucky, when I snapped on one of the bullies that all harassed me, no one but other bullies were around to see it, and none of them were keen on ******* with the guy was now crouched animalistically over the bully I'd snapped on and beat.
Big guy here, I bet you've hear this one: "You're way stronger than him, you can really hurt him, so just don't do anything or you'll get in troubles".
Try this one on for size; 'what if the bully starts getting physical or tries to hit us?'
'ignore them and walk away.'
Ignore somebody who just laid their hands on you, and act as if they didn't.
because there is no surefire way to stop a bullying. Beating him up often works, but in most cases the bully is bigger and/or older so that wont be a good idea unless you want to get your ass kicked.
The only solution to bullying is to have absolutely no tolerance for it. If someone tries to push you around, break their ******* face. I assure you the problem will cease.
I didn't say anything about beating up anyone who calls you a name, now did I? I said if someone tries to push you around, meaning physically intimidate you, hit you, steal from you, etc.
I take it you're being sarcastic. Obviously it's the responsibility of the schools to deal with bullying, but since they refuse, the problem falls on the students; and all you can do as a student is fight back. There is no other effective course of action to take.
There is some truth to that, really.
The bullies are always at fault more than anyone else, but you shouldn't provoke them. If you are gay, be proud of it. There's nothing wrong with that. However, if you prance about with limp hands and greet everyone with "Heyyy darliiiing!" (acting gay), then you are partially to blame. Let's be honest, that way of speaking is irritating. Neil Patrick Harris is awesome. Pretty much everyone can appreciate that. Louie Spence, however, should do the world a favour and communicate with text-to-speech software.
As long as you can back it up you can act however you want.
When i was in highschool I came out as bisexual and the worst thing i dealt with was a few jokes and i joked right back about it, people take things way to seriously.
>Be socially awkward Asian kid with glasses in elementary school
>Just moved to town and don't know anybody
>Kind of scrawny popular kid who always hangs out with girls comes up to me
>Asks me if I've seen High School Musical
>"Uh... no. I don't really like school or musicals...."
>Makes fun of me throughout elementary school
>Gets all the girls to make fun of me, gets all the guys to make fun of me because I don't like football
>Elementary school becomes ******* hell
>Middle school goes by, I got stronger working out after school and less bitchy, hang out with assholes and sort of become an asshole
>Haven't seen him in years, but I joined the swim team and see him on the diving team, still the same height and build as he was in elementary school. Kind of weird hairstyle going on
>First time we're alone in the locker room, I grab his head and knock it into the locker
>"Hey, bitch! Remember me?"
>Just looks at me, dazed and confused. Seems to remember me, but he looks away like he's going to run
>Push his back into the locker and call him *********** . Ask if he still dances and sings like a ******* idiot
>Looks like he's going to cry. Runs out of the locker room.
>I WILL HAVE MY REVENGE!!!
>Grab him by the neck and threaten to pull his spine out of his ass. Girl comes up and screams at me to stop.
>Tells me not to bully him for being gay
>gay
>gay
>...
>I was bullied by a gay kid and can't have my revenge on him because people will call me homophobic.
Oh, I know good sir. I have watched that show and have felt no emotions either way towards it. It was just a show about traps. Though, Katawa Shoujo was a different story entirely.
Depends on what kind of bullying. I dealt with verbal bullying by standing up for myself, and came out stronger because of it. If instead I was getting the stuffing kicked out of me on a regular basis, and no adults gave a crap, that doesn't leave many options besides suicide or bringing a weapon to school.
i don't care how much character you have, i could make you consider suicide if i controlled your mother. you don't know all the levels of bullying, and perhaps you take for granted the people you have in your life, and the ones who were around when you grew up
This is true. People who kill themselves are usually mentally unstable, and more often than not, bullying contributes to other problems they already have.
That's not true at all. People who kill themselves feel like they are worthless and have nothing to contribute to society, which is exactly what bullies try to get them to believe. It can happen to the best of us if there's no one to contradict the bully.
No. A person without mental issues will not kill themselves because of bullying.
"Untreated mental illness (including depression, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, and others) is the cause for the vast majority of suicides." ("Suicide Causes" par 2).
Also stated on that super scientific, all-knowing page:
"the most common mental illness is depression"
"Many people die by suicide because depression is triggered by several negative life experiences"
Mental illness is a poorly understood subject, and we tend to label people we don't understand (who's had experiences than us) as mentally ill. Obviously, anyone who feels worthless will be depressed. That's the point of the emotion. And, you can call all depression a mental illness, but you only detract from the real cause. What I posted was accurate, if not obvious, and it can happen to anyone, even you, given enough over-vocal bullies, and no support.
I think the problem here is that you believe that feeling worthless causes people to be depressed, and I believe that being depressed can cause people to feel worthless. Well both can be true, I believe that most people who kill themselves are experiencing some form of depression.
Very few people are physiologically predispositioned to be depressed. Depression is a normal reaction to very negative life events. We categorize it as mental illness and medicate it because people naturally want to avoid it (that causes other problems).
We're talking about bullying, and if suicide had nothing to do with bullies there wouldn't be a link. The bully is the real mentally ill person, broken themselves in life, and generally sociopathic, unable to empathize with their victims. Bullies, using their human intellect, try to make a person feel bad about who they are as a person. With enough force, this inevitably works, and the person can suffer a number of negative side effects. Often, the person faces the decision of suicide. If the person can't defend that they are more loved in this world than hated, their heart may do what seems best for everyone. That is why the law is love.
"Death and life are in the power of the tongue" Proverbs 18:21
I didn't say the bullies didn't have something wrong with them. I also didn't say that bullying had no link to suicide. I just said that a person killing them self is not the normal reaction to bullying, and that people who do kill themselves are mentally ill.
I'm saying suicide is a normal reaction to feeling useless, and feeling useless is a normal reaction to bullying, by design, and that the victims are no more mentally ill than you or I, because we are liable to do the same thing if we believed there was no reason left for us to live. Those thoughts can be triggered in anyone, and the only disease here is the tendency for people to categorize specific people and behaviors we don't want to relate with as mentally ill. Pic related
i think just like you, and i think that if you get bullyed and you do nothing yo udeserve it, bullies makes your character strong
havent yet meet someone bulllied worsed than me so dont start with ****
That's the sort of ******** I don't like. "Can't do anything about it?" ... If you've tried talking to parents and the school, but they did nothing, you got two choices. One is to go with it, the other is to try something else. If you go with it ... Too bad, then I'm not having any of your **** about "I can't do anything". On the other hand, it's easy to force your parents to make you move school; Write down everything that happens each day, give it your parents. Tell other students what they do "Don't go near xx, they beat up everyone they don't like ..."
You could even run away from home, leaving a note saying "If you wont transfer me, I got no choice but to run, or else I'll end up taking my own life" That would probably make things happen. Compared to suicide, everything is less dangerous and has a bigger chance of improving life quality.
I'll probably drown in the sea of red thumbs, because it seems like everyone on this ******* site thinks they are so ******* worthless that they can't do **** to help themselves nor anyone else.
except some bullies are, i dont know, smart? they threaten you and they threaten those close to you, and you dont really have any proof sturdy enough to get them restrained instantly
I agree. I was bullied when I was at school and higschool. I tried to defend myself but it was already too late because when I was a brat I didn't ever defend myself. I got in fights and even when it was some other's fault (I was just defending myself), I got punished.
Then, I had a new chance: I went to a new higschool (where I live there's some kind of superior higschool where you spend 2 years before going to university, not sure how's that called in English). Instead of being a pussy, I decided something: if someone ever bullies at me, I'd stand for myself from the beggining. So when some asshats started to try to bully me, I exploded with rage, grabbed a can from the floor and hit the nearest of them I had with it. My friends grabbed me and dragged me out of there, preventing me to do the same with the other faggot. Later that day, some retards clapped at me because apparently that's how things works and they thought it was "cool" and "funny". And thus, bullies didn't mess with me anymore. Nobody helped me with that. Neither my "friends" nor the teachers nor anyone. I was the only one who did something about it, and the only one able to fix it.
MFW people moan and bitch about their bullies or are depressed because of them.
TL;DR: If you don't defend yourself, you won't ever be left alone. But you gotta do it from the start because if you don't, no matter what you do in the future they will mess with you over and over.
my 25 year old brother bullies me. He's a green beret in the army, and I'm a 16 year old kid that occasionally goes to the gym. he doesn't respect me enough to recognize when i stand up to him vocally, and i can't match him physically. what are people supposed to do when they can't even get close to matching their bullies? not everyone contains the courage to stand up to certain people. my brother has this aura about him that no one can stand up to, and there are lots of people like that. if you aren't directly in the situation, then you can't understand it and how they feel.
That's a kind of a different case, the problem is in your own family. Your brother's known you since forever so you've got it really hard. My point is exactly that even if you defend yourself now, it won't matter because he doesn't respect you already. I've had that problem too when I tried to defend myself: they already thought I was someone worths to be messed with so I already ****** up.
Besides, I never said I could "match" the people who bullied me. Physically I was weaker than them. I was slightly over average in physical terms but those were the classic douchebags who were to gym usually and stuff. I just got them with their guard down and surprised them (they didn't expect that just from several comments I'd rage so much to grab a can from the floor and hit them).
I can't agree. You can't equate all kinds of bullying, that's an equivocation. There is bullying as in people making fun of you at school and perhaps even messing with your properties or physically intimidating you. And then there's hardcore bullying, people who beat the **** out, extort you, coerce you into sexual acts, force you to do all kinds of disgusting **** .
That's not bullying. That's torture. It's not part of today's world and it must not be compared with assholish behaviour, because it's way worst. People who do those things deserve death.
he's more than likely referring to the first part of your statement, the second part i can understand but it gets to a point where you take a stand , send the ******* to jail, or you deserve to be treated that way, welcome to the real world, where no one who has an inkling of understanding human society gives a damn about bullying
Most Funnyjunk users are in no position to complain about bullies. Just take a look at this community, It's filled with judgmental assholes. They hide behind their computer screens and act all tough to cover up the fact they're all insecure.
plus, you can't really make judgments on situations that you haven't directly experienced. I don't know what it feels like to get bullied by joey brown or whoever someone get's bullied by, so i shouldn't make an opinion on something that i don't understand
You have to man the **** up to stop a bully. Be absolutely horrible to the guy. If you're physically weak than attack him emotionally. His sister just died? Make fun of him for that. Call her a slut, bitch, cunt, whatever you want. Make it burn. Do not give a **** about him. He doesn't care about you so you shouldn't care about him. Ruin his entire life. Make up rumors and **** , idk. Make his life a living hell so he suffers. Destroy his self confidence. Emotional pain hurts a lot more than physical. Destroy him from the inside until he is suicidal and than hopefully he'll kill himself. That is your goal. Remove him from existence, he deserves it.
"As soon as men decide that all means are permitted to fight an evil, then their good becomes indistinguishable from the evil that they set out to destroy."
But you're doing it to someone who actually ******* deserves it. They want to be a dickhead you be an even BIGGER dickhead right back to them. **** that asshole. They obviously don't care about you so why care about them? They don't deserve sympathy or empathy. They're assholes.
but now that he is being bullied he should also respond by being an even bigger asshole to you? I mean where does it end?
Not saying be sympathetic, just saying like i dont know, buy some coke, slip it in his locker room or car and then tell the school security guard you heard him bragging about how he was selling coke around the school. IMPORTANT NOTE: check for security cameras first, otherwise you are the one getting expelled.
>Be in second grade
>Be a girl and my bully was a boy
>"LLOLLL HURR HE JUST LIKES YU
>no he ******* doesnt
>He and his friend chased me down a hill and choked me when he caught me
> ******* CHOKED me
>tell my dad because bully happens to live about 3 houses away
>dad scares the ever living **** out of this kid
>never get picked on again
A girl who had a crush on me showed it by punching me in the spine. I worry she thought I felt the same way when I punched her in the kidney in retaliation.
I never got over it but kids stopped bullying me, or talking to me in general, when i made a noose out of a shoelace in my 9th grade social studies class and carried it around, calling it "noosie," my pet noose.
I was bullied through out school, and it caused me to fall into depression. Every time I fought back, they'd come back stronger and in greater numbers. I'd get letters in my locker telling me to kill myself, beat downs, and other things. I had a couple friends, but it appeared everyone was out to get me.
One day, before Christmas break, one of my classmates was doing their regular **** . I turned around and started to beat him down. When I was done, I had a broken hand and wrist, but he was missing several teeth, his nose was bent to the side, his eye was swollen and he had a few broken ribs. The next time I saw him, the dentist had to remove all of his teeth on the bottom row so he had to wear dentures.
Nobody ****** with me after that, and the fall after, I was elected to the homecoming court.
I do regret it in a way. I messed up his life for a bit, for what? Petty insults?
If everyone else is telling stories then.. I guess I'll add mine.
>Been picked on since elementary school
>Typical American in Texas, white, middle-class, a bit chubby
>Live a short ways from Dallas
>Always bothered by thug Mexicans and black kids.
>Currently a freshmen in highschool
>Gym class
>I'm a lazy ass and coach doesn't give a **** , so I'm reading a book in the corner while others are playing basketball
>Two assholes decide its funny to start throwing basketballs as hard as they can AT people
>I either block or avoid most stray ones that come by me
>One of the assholes decides to target me (this isn't the first time he's messed with me)
>Get pegged in the face as I was talking to a friend
>I've had ******* enough, the years of bottled hatred can't be contained
>I strangely calmly walk over to them, staring at the one who threw that ball with intense rage
>Before I even do anything he clocks me in the jaw
>Unphased, the fury of a thousand rages is inside me
>Tackle the bastard to the ground
>On top of him, I put all my weight on my forearm across his throat.
>Coach is running towards us, I have enough sense to stop myself and get off him
>The school's security cop arrives and pulls me out to the disciplinary office
>Explain story, I get out with no punishment, asshole gets AEP
>Bullying from others seems to just... stop
I'm now a senior this year in highschool and I haven't been bullied or bothered since.
ha i used to be a master, and still am, at annoying the living **** out of people in real life, and what i would do whenever i didnt like someone alot is stealthly annoy the **** out of them without the teachers noticing and then theyll get to the point of trying to hit me and i dodge them until a teacher or some staff thaty likes me, because i was kind and helpful during class and such in front of techers, to see when they would punch me or hit me and because most of my schools were strict they got expelled and the teachers wouldnt believe them and vouched for me. heh i was a dick. mfw kids got expelled