Seems like as good a time as any to post this story...
>Be me, 19, living with abusive 22 year old b.f.
>B.f. has never been violent, only screams at me
>Stay with him because I had no one else at the time to share bills with
>One day b.f. decides to make the change from verbally abusive to physically abusive
>Get into argument one night, b.f. won't stop screaming in my face so I push him away I didn't hurt him or push him into anything, just getting him the **** out of my bubble
>B.f. doesn't like this, hits me in the tits then grabs me in a choker hold
>I start freaking out, can't get this manimal off of me
>I manage to elbow him in the sternum and break the douchelock around my neck
>Run to my lounge room and grab my .40 pistol and point it at his face when he catches up with me
>Tell him if he ever touches me again I will cut off his dick and blow his brains out
>MFW I scared him so badly he was afraid of me for the rest of our meaningless relationship and never touched me again
I was young, stupid, and my family (at the time) wouldn't help me financially. :/ I had a job obviously but it wasn't enough to live on. Trust me I kicked him to the curb as soon as I could.
Normally the "he'll change" thing is because emotionally they are attached to memories or ideas of things that he does for her or did for her. They know it won't happen, but they hope it will because they can't bring themselves to end the relationship for the tiny things that still give them happiness that they do, whether or not it means nothing in comparison to the pain they cause.
necessary evils are a bitch to deal with when you have no options though I'd rather deal with the aftermath of being homeless than suffer a minute with an abusive partner. Plenty fish in the sea. Hope Casval never had to deal with that **** again