Then you're probably good, but I don't think most people realize that more people use the app than use the computer for AM. It's basically another version of tinder.
How could your boyfriend do that to you? That's so rude and he seemed like such a nice guy no really though sorry bb that's a ****** up thing to do to someone
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but i agree with him here. if you don't want to only sleep with your partner then don't ******* get into a relationship. **** this new age open relationship sex positivity whore ******** . just don't ******* do it. cheaters are the worst kind of human being because what they are doing isn't justifiable at all, it is selfish, cowardly, animalistic and pointless. all the arguments women and feminists give that are pro cheating are ******* stupid too, take some responsibility for your life and actions and end a ******* relationship or at least talk about it if you feel like it isn't working out.
so its not newage, its not selfish, its not cowardly, and of course its animalistic, we are animals, and its not pointless, its sex. if there was no point in having sex with someone else there would be little point in having sex with a loved one.
Wrong.
get a girlfriend
AND BE FAITHFUL, YOU SACK OF ****
if you want to **** something else:
LEAVE!
don't drag some other poor person into your selfish sex games
goddammit.
life is complex. there are toxic relationships. some of us can't get out of them because we're too weak to assert ourselves.
sometimes we're in relationships because we like the idea of being in a relationship more than actually being in one.
sometimes we grow to resent our partner so much that we would rather spite them in silence than give them closure.
any of these possibilities form the spectrum of human experience. every situation is unique, but also predictable in a way.
the people who make absolute, strict moral claims about cheating are emotionally inept human beings.
it's not an excuse. it's a flaw. it's part of being human.
you don't get to make these prescriptive claims unless you're deeply aware of someone's situation, or have been there yourself.
So there's something wrong with me having a problem with this "flaw" as you put it?
I have been there myself, I spent the majority of my life trying not to be open with people because at their very core, people aren't untrustworthy and have the potential to hurt you.
Yet I dropped my guard and thought I had something good going for me.
Despite treating my then partner very well I still ended up getting cheated on, and it left me feeling shattered and worthless for the longest time.
In the long run it was probably for the best, I'd rather it happened early on in the relationship than 10 years down the line, but I was still cheated. If she didn't want to be with me she could have had the decency to tell me but no, most people are selfish and will hurt you on an impulse because humans are "flawed" as you put it.
If people are allowed to cheat on each other then I'm also allowed to be upset that this is the kind of society we live in.
People will make excuses for their abhorrent behavior and never come to terms with it or be willing to face it and fix it. Then they will turn around and say, "You just don't understand."
Ah man, that's literally exactly like what happened with my ex. I won't lie, this is the first thing I've seen in a long while that makes me think I'm not a nutter for thinking so bad about it. Big ups ma UK don. Brizzle? LDN?
"I'm too spineless and/or ****** in the head to confront another person about X, so you need to stop judging me and cater to my insecurities, regardless of how morally or socially imbecilic they are."
Besides, having an unpopular opinion isn't just exclusive to Tumblr. There are idiots all around and justify their stupid **** everywhere.
Yeah, cheating sucks and you're a scumbag if you do it. But there seems to be way too many moral crusaders bagging on about this who would turn a blind eye to other ****** up **** people do because relationships = feels.
(what site has those kinds of people in droves btw? Oh yeah, Tumblr)
To be fair if I violently rape and murder someone that is also evidence of my human flaws, and shouldn't be held against me. How dare you tell me I can't do that?
If you were so weak you should have never entered the relationship in the first place, unfortunately when it comes to relationships people don't think before they act these days.
Relationship toxic? Get out.
Too weak? Get a support group and get out.
Don't know why you're in a relationship? Don't be in one.
resent your partner? Tell them to their face and leave.
These are some simplistic suggestions to the aforementioned situations.
People who give any justification for cheating while being in a mutually agreed monogamous relationship are emotionally inept human beings. If you can't be mature enough to have an adult relationship, then you've got no reason to be in one. People that cheat are like the people that do 60 in the fast lane, that take 20 items to the express line and people that jaywalk in busy traffic. These people are being stupid and selfish, they're doing it wrong and it's causing problems for people around them.
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snapchat allows two people to communicate without a saved log. My ex used this to be with another guy. i only found out because i unfortunately saw him send her a bunch of naked pictures. I continued to very creepily look over her shoulder and read the conversation. She took 2 years of my life and flushed it down the toilet. i ******* hate cheaters and anything that is commonly used to help those **** faces. I hope both get hacked and expose every unfaithful asshat out there.
I don't see why you're getting thumbed down, I agree completely.
Snapchat, Kik, Tinder, all this *************** . I can recall an instance in which I've seen each of these used by some bitch to **** someone on the side. Once it was one of my best friends.
fj sees one red thumb and don't bother reading the content. they usually just flock together and will thumb either way according to the one or two thumbs that are already there. ive been here a while, it took me way longer to figure that out than i'd like to admit.
hes being thumbed down because hes making a comment claiming hes an expert because it happened to him one time and in doing so he admits "i know first hand" implying he has been a member of this site. if that is not the case then he has poorly worded his comment and he means his SO or ex-SO was a member of the site.
atleast thats why i reded him. the others could be bandwagoners.
Yeah... Some bitch? The person who said the profiles of six women had been compromised was at least a little accurate. Go check out some of the stats. Women are not the majority on that site. Some bastard is a bit more accurate.
Yes- but there's stupid people that like to harass people on the Internet, they may contact relatives, etc putting their unconventional relationship there for everyone to see. Idk
My mom cheated on my dad. I would never cheat on my girlfriend.
That said, I understand the reasons some people might. They lack the courage to tell their spouse they're no longer interested, don't want to have that fight (a long divorce fight), don't want to put their kids through that, are denied sexual gratification by their significant other, might be fiscally and economically unable to survive without their attachment -- and they still have romantic and sexual needs.
It's easy to think of every cheater as an asshole until someone very nice you know does it.
My friend Jim lives in California. His Dad walked out on him and his mom at a very young age. His mom is a disabled alcoholic. He grew up in relative poverty, getting by on financial aid and whatever his mom could muster up with government disability checks. He's dated the same girl for nearly 12 years. She has a rich aunt that gives her a ******** of money for simple things like watching her grandma. She complains all day about the hard work she has to do, whereas Jim works incredibly longer hours at a job for a lot less pay. He has looked around EXTENSIVELY for jobs. He's been very careful. He can't move in with his mom -- she lives out in the country and there are no jobs. His girlfriend is emotionally abusive. She's obese. She's immature. She's obnoxious. But he relies on his relationship with her for housing, food and internet. But he's no longer interested romantically or sexually with her. So he met someone else. If he were to break up with his girlfriend, he might have to live on the street.
Would she still give him her money if she knew he was cheating? If the answer is no, then yes it is wrong. Not only is it cheating, but it's practically stealing. It doesn't make it okay just because you don't like someone.
As someone who has lived on the street, sometimes you have to take a chance and do the right thing. The money will come later.
Joshlol, I feel you man. I've been that route myself. It's a ****** up route. I won't even get into the crap pulled and excuses and whatnot. I'm just glad it's over. I wish I would have been smarter and seen it coming. But unfortunately, the world is not nor ever will be fair. I have a co-worker who likes to sleep around as well. I keep warning him he'll catch a disease.
**leifbunny used "*roll picture*"** **leifbunny rolled image**You should have seen the ******* ad for it. I can't even find a high quality video of it, but... it was like... just men singing about "looknig for someone other than their wives", like there's an upbeat part of cheating.
There's no excuse for cheating. No matter what the circumstance. All these people that try to justify it make me sick. I can't even tolerate cheating in my porn. Literally. I'll be watching a porn video and I'd be enjoying it, jacking off, having a good time. Ya know. Then the dumb actress would say some stupid **** like "AH! YOU HAVE A WAY BIGGER DICK THAN MY BF! OOOH! I AM A WHORE ABDIWBDKH!!"
I'd just close the video in shame. Then I'd find another video with a chick who knows how to keep her slut mouth shut.
If whoever you're with can't satisfy you, then grow a pair and end it. Instead of going behind people's backs like a pussy. Cheating hurts.
I gots no monies. You can't take what I don't gots.
Nah. But for real. I'd rather have them take my money than to destroy my confidence and trust. I may sound like a fag or you might disagree with that. But I'm a prideful son of a bitch. So whatever.
I completely agree. For me, cheating shows that you have no respect for the other person and you don't want to even try to go through it like an adult (reconciliation or break-up, doesn't matter. but at least "grow a pair" like you said.)
>Implying I'll ever even get to first base with any girls
But it's pretty terrible that we live in a society where not only are prenups recommended for everyone who has anything to their name, but the possibility that they'd be voided as well being there... I kinda wish that I could go back in time to the 50's before the baby boomer's generation along with their ideals, policies, and economic destruction had the chance to harm this nation. It seems like a better time, despite the technological losses.
Are swingers cheating?
Are love triangles cheating if you literally can't decide?
If you say its over and they don't agree?
If it's after a lovers spat?
If they are intoxicated?
If you're only together in name?
Arrange d marriages
Life has no absolutes, morality is subjective everything is permitted
Posting as anonymous because the subject of this message frequents this site.
I recently had the girl of my dreams who I've been in love with for years laying on my lap more or less begging for cock and I said no at least 3 to 4 times before she finally got off the bed. She has a boyfriend that I knew personally several years ago and who currently hates my guts. I won't say I wasn't very sorely tempted to cuckold him both out of a dislike of him personally and out of my deep, abiding affection for her, but I will never willingly **** somebody over like that.
I've been burned once by an ex who decided that my ex best friend was a bit studlier than I was and that has given me the resolve to never, _ ever_ give another man horns if I could help it.
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But really who gives a **** ? Let people do what they want to with their lives, let them do ****** up stuff, it doesn't affect you at all (Because you're a no-GF virgin mobile for life lel)
Hackers need to stop interfering in **** that doesn't concern them, like every neckbeard lost their **** when PSN and WoW got hacked, but when this happens no one gives a flying **** because it only affects "bad people" and not them.
My thought is that it's too much wasted energy on something that doesn't matter.
Their logo is really obnoxious.. ''Life is short. Have an affair.'' Really? If life really is short, spend in with your significant other, you asshole.
"Avid Life Media has been instructed to take Ashley Madison and Established Men offline permanently in all forms," the hacker group wrote in a statement released Sunday. If ALM doesn't comply, "we will release all customer records, including profiles with all the customers' secret sexual fantasies and matching credit card transactions, real names and addresses, and employee documents and emails."
Employee documents? Oh man, you guys are tumblr but the ******* polar opposite. Trying to ruin somebody's career because of their personal lives? Get ****** faggot. You can now call yourself a sjw.
Your right about woman being the once more likely to cheat but polls have little meaning because almost all woman lie on them in order to protect there needs while men tend not to lie or say they do to big them self up its just the way sociology works. woman have a natural instinct to find better/healthier man which results in a lot of cheating typically in married couples. However in a non married relationship man are more likely to cheat especially younger man due to male Instinct to find the one (boobs and hips) before choosing a life mate to give offspring. (I used to know the names of these Instincts so I basically tried to explain them).
fj does the same but with women. look at what admin said.
Anyway I don't think he said it as a "all men are scumbags" thing but more that ashley madison ads are usually only on porn sites, and men are the largest consumers of porn. And there are a bunch of hot fake female profiles to draw more men in, so I'd be safe to assume more men use the site seeing as you'd only really hear about it on a porn pop up.
from sources I've read I've seen 33 million and the site (from our comments) seems to think 10 million so maybe 1. he was joking because there are a lot of men pretending to be women on the internet and most dating sites are more men than women anyway and he was playing off that or 2. he just had the wrong stats.
Yeah I know right, everyone knows that out of all unfaithful relationships men and women are split exactly down the middle, 50/50 each. God forbid someone actually say that gender may have any influence on being unfaithful or not. what is so bad about saying one gender may be different than another?
just relooked it up and most sources say women cheat more but some also say men cheat more. and the precentages vary even though most of the articles are from 2012 which is weird.
because if you say women cheat more on this site you'll get a million pinkies, if you say men you'll get a million thumbs down. And the guy I replied to is pissed at someone assuming it was men who cheat more and got offended.
so what I'm saying is, if it's a fact that's fine, but spewing **** and people taking it to heart with no back up is tumblr level stupid.
Even if a study was done that said men cheat more fj would reject the study for ******** reasons "the women lied, it's biased, muh white male oppression". Last I checked men do cheat more because they have more opportunities, most affairs happen with a coworker and more women are stay at home moms. Also men claim they can love one women and sleep with another and it's just sex to them, women for the most part need or want an emotional connection first.
I'm kind of torn on this one. On the one hand, the hackers aren't good people. On the other hand, every single person who has an account on that website is a cunt.
You assume that hackers aren't good people ..... actually this is 1000% true but the problem is that your thinking of them as bad people which they aren't.
Ashley Madison is a sight that markets itself on its discretion and its ability to maintain personal security of its clients. This is its ONLY market point, the rest (the whole cheating aspect) is the sights THEME not its market point. Any product on the market has the right to be tested, and if it fails it is the problem of the producer NOT the tester.
Part of the real problem with hacking is that very few now what it actually means, all hacking is, is gaining access to files which are intended to be kept from access, actual damage to the code and intelligence infrastructure (the stuff that is actually illegal and damaging) is craking NOT hacking, examples accessing customer files = hacking, downloading a program to steal credit card numbers = cracking. or the real life example a hacker walks into a secure building and see how easy it is to walk past the guards and a cracker blows a hole in the side of the building and storms in with guns.
yah being exposed to hackers is not a good thing but its the internet equivalent to trespassing, yes its illegal but it is mainly the fault of the SECURITY personnel NOT the individual.
or i could just be talking out of my ass im on the internet so this is a very very very good point , but at the end of the day, an information security company (which Ashley Madison IS weather or not they understand this) is RESPONSIBLE for the security of its information, period. end of story. THAT'S IT.
I was going to create some scenario where you might be inclined to think about it from a different perspective...but...you're right. If you are married and unhappy, just ******* leave already. No excuse to put someone through that ******** . I've always said I can understand (and possibly forgive) a random, drunken encounter. But if you are actively out there looking for someone to get a side piece from...you're a **** person. Peace.
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I heard on the radio that they want the site to shut down or they will release the information. They could have tried to blackmail instead; so I don't know. I think it's a horrible website and I feel sorry for the people who are affected by it, so a part of me is happy.
There are cases of hackers being good people, and this is one of them. There is no excuse to cheat, ever. Hackers don't sit at their computers thinking about new dastardly plans to inflict on people, cackling to themselves. I saw the site being advertised more and more recently, so honestly I've very happy this has happened.
I said the exact same thing when i heard. "I bet it's a divorced Programmer or someone who got cheated on via this site."
I don't feel sorry for any of the people involved. If things in your romance arn't good for you, Why the **** did you rush n get married? Obviously your partner is fine with it but the person who needs to cheat is bein' a greedy lil dick.
I have never understood this, Why would you cheat when you're dating / Marrying the exact thing you're looking for. "maaan her tits arn't big enough tho" Why the **** did you marry her for her tits first off, And secondly if you were investing in her tits you should have KNOWN by now they weren't big enough!
So yeah, I feel no remorse for these guys. Hope they get what they deserve.