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thelizardlord (11/28/2015) [-] 
Haha ha ha yeah that isn't true. I will find someone. Just you wait!
We'll hold hands and kiss and cuddle and stuff. You wait and see!
We'll hold hands and kiss and cuddle and stuff. You wait and see!
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crutos (11/28/2015) [-] Because approaching a woman and who don't deem you attractive enough will get you labeled creepy (And for a really long time, if you go to school/uni/college with her) or downright get you arrested for sexual harassment and/or rape now a days.
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Kadzait (11/30/2015) [-] Yep, I'm retarded for not generalizing all women as man-hating ************ machines that exist only to put us "nice guys" down.
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plasticcup (11/29/2015) [-] >dark blue name
>spends all day on the computer
>probably fat single and lazy
>le maymay arrows.
>spends all day on the computer
>probably fat single and lazy
>le maymay arrows.
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Whaaaaaaaaa (11/29/2015) [-] Hey Admin is living his dream life, but I can see this guy's pointed.
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checkemninja ONLINE (11/29/2015) [-] Obviously,but it's still a very unfair double standard that deserves to be addressed instead of acting as if its completely the dudes fault
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Viceroy (11/29/2015) [-] Oh come on man you don't really belive that do you?
I mean if you come up to group of girls with nothing to say, that might get some awkward stares. But It's not like every girl has pepper spray and an inherit fear of men. Just find a girl with a cool tshirt and start with a compliment.
I mean if you come up to group of girls with nothing to say, that might get some awkward stares. But It's not like every girl has pepper spray and an inherit fear of men. Just find a girl with a cool tshirt and start with a compliment.
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commoncrunch (11/29/2015) [-] Question still stands.
What sex are you, and how hot are you?
What sex are you, and how hot are you?
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commoncrunch (11/29/2015) [-] I'm just concerned that attractiveness and confidence can blind one to the difficulty in attempting to meet people.
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Viceroy (11/29/2015) [-] I assure you, I am neither conventionally attractive nor confident in my speaking ability. I've been called a 7 by like, 2 girls, and a weirdo by most others.
But that's why I don't approach girls willy nilly. If I approach any girl I see, I won't have anything to say.
But, if by chanve a girl has a **** or backpack with something about comic books or video games on it, then I have something to work with.
"Hey, I really like your Superman shirt, I'm a big fan of Superman."
"Oh, cool, I only really watched the cartoon."
"You should check out some of the comics. There's this one where..."
She may not say yes if you ask her out, she probably already has a boyfriend, from my experience. But as long as you don't approach them like they might be afraid of you, they won't be.
But that's why I don't approach girls willy nilly. If I approach any girl I see, I won't have anything to say.
But, if by chanve a girl has a **** or backpack with something about comic books or video games on it, then I have something to work with.
"Hey, I really like your Superman shirt, I'm a big fan of Superman."
"Oh, cool, I only really watched the cartoon."
"You should check out some of the comics. There's this one where..."
She may not say yes if you ask her out, she probably already has a boyfriend, from my experience. But as long as you don't approach them like they might be afraid of you, they won't be.
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colossusshadow (11/29/2015) [-] I get approached by guys a lot and if they ask if they can take me out sometime or ask for my number i politely decline, but they often don't stop there, and keep going.
I see the people who complain about being labeled as "creepy" as the guys who don't LET IT GO when I turn them down and instead think it's a good idea to keep talking to me.
I see the people who complain about being labeled as "creepy" as the guys who don't LET IT GO when I turn them down and instead think it's a good idea to keep talking to me.
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platinumaltaria (11/29/2015) [-] Actually the only major difference between something creepy and something romantic is whether the girl likes you already or not. That's not to say some things aren't exclusively creepy, but nowadays it's "creepy" to talk to a girl who didn't fill out a consent form in triplicate.
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platinumaltaria (11/29/2015) [-] Even something as innocent as talking to a girl can be perceived as creepy.
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platinumaltaria (11/29/2015) [-] Yes, let me get that restraining order LIKE A MAN! Manhood has nothing to do with being a complete idiot.
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commoncrunch (11/29/2015) [-] Picture your typical fedoralord.
How would he go about not being creepy without changing who he is?
How would he go about not being creepy without changing who he is?
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fukkendragonite (11/29/2015) [-] >Take off the fedora
>Shave the neckbeard
>Lose some weight.
Report back to me when you've done that for stage two. Most of the creepy guys refuse to even attempt to get past stage one and that's their problem.
>Shave the neckbeard
>Lose some weight.
Report back to me when you've done that for stage two. Most of the creepy guys refuse to even attempt to get past stage one and that's their problem.
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plantain (11/29/2015) [-] Well that's just it. If you have a flaw, you should work on getting rid of or at least mitigating it.
For example, if you tend to go on and on about stuff without noticing that the other party isn't interested, you should try to change that. If you stay inside your house on 4chan all day and never do anything to try to improve your mind or just admire the beautiful world we live in, you should try to change that. Not just for women, but for yourself.
Also, you might want to elaborate on your fedoralord status, maybe post a picture. You're being a bit too vague for anyone to really help.
For example, if you tend to go on and on about stuff without noticing that the other party isn't interested, you should try to change that. If you stay inside your house on 4chan all day and never do anything to try to improve your mind or just admire the beautiful world we live in, you should try to change that. Not just for women, but for yourself.
Also, you might want to elaborate on your fedoralord status, maybe post a picture. You're being a bit too vague for anyone to really help.
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gigaidan (11/29/2015) [-] Some years ago I met a guy in class. He was obese and not particularly good looking in any way... he asked me if he could sit next to me in class... I said no... not because he was fat, or ugly, I usually don't care about that... but because earlier that day, when talking to him he was openly staring at my breasts... while smiling, pretty much grinning... not giving a discrete look every now and then, no. Staring. It was ******* creepy, obnoxious and truth be told, it kinda scared me a little... after that I would openly avoid the guy and sit as far away from him as possible.
Conclusion: let's cut the crap here for a second. Neither all women nor men are complete assholes, and neither is the poor victim of the other gender. Put yourself in the shoes of many women and you'll understand many things. I understand that for most guys it's hard to approach a girl, and that leads to many faux pas from them, but also understand that some of these faux pas are downright creepy and weird, and women have the right to feel weirded out, or even scared depending on the situation and yes, there are many inconsiderate bitches out there. But saying that all women are like that is as fair as saying all men are heartless douchebags
Also, please, pleeeease understand this: women ALSO fear asking out/talking to the guy they like. We are all humans, and we all have fears/insecurities. It's equally hard for us. No. The usual line most of you use of "you are a girl, you just need to say you want sex and anything with a penis will jump your way". That's not fair. And you know it. It's not about finding "anyone desperate enough to bang me". It's about liking someone so hard it hurts, and knowing the awful fact that they are way over your league. That **** hurts. Having a penis or not is irrelevant.
And yes, men can also be total douchebags to girls they don't find attractive. There was this guy in highschool I really liked. In one party I was sitting in a chair, he approached me and said "you wanna dance?" I was very happy. I said yes, stood up and went to "dance". I turned around, he wasn't there. He was sitting in the chair I was using, laughing with his friends. It was a joke to take my chair. Maybe not a big deal now, but at the time, it pretty much crushed the little self-esteem I had.
Again, neither gender is a particular victim of the other. Both have considerate individuals, total assholes, and of course, complete sociopaths. It's life, and that's how humans are. The only thing we can do, is to try to understand each other and not to cause any more pain to the other. Just be kind to others, that's all.
Sorry for the rant. Have a nice day.
Conclusion: let's cut the crap here for a second. Neither all women nor men are complete assholes, and neither is the poor victim of the other gender. Put yourself in the shoes of many women and you'll understand many things. I understand that for most guys it's hard to approach a girl, and that leads to many faux pas from them, but also understand that some of these faux pas are downright creepy and weird, and women have the right to feel weirded out, or even scared depending on the situation and yes, there are many inconsiderate bitches out there. But saying that all women are like that is as fair as saying all men are heartless douchebags
Also, please, pleeeease understand this: women ALSO fear asking out/talking to the guy they like. We are all humans, and we all have fears/insecurities. It's equally hard for us. No. The usual line most of you use of "you are a girl, you just need to say you want sex and anything with a penis will jump your way". That's not fair. And you know it. It's not about finding "anyone desperate enough to bang me". It's about liking someone so hard it hurts, and knowing the awful fact that they are way over your league. That **** hurts. Having a penis or not is irrelevant.
And yes, men can also be total douchebags to girls they don't find attractive. There was this guy in highschool I really liked. In one party I was sitting in a chair, he approached me and said "you wanna dance?" I was very happy. I said yes, stood up and went to "dance". I turned around, he wasn't there. He was sitting in the chair I was using, laughing with his friends. It was a joke to take my chair. Maybe not a big deal now, but at the time, it pretty much crushed the little self-esteem I had.
Again, neither gender is a particular victim of the other. Both have considerate individuals, total assholes, and of course, complete sociopaths. It's life, and that's how humans are. The only thing we can do, is to try to understand each other and not to cause any more pain to the other. Just be kind to others, that's all.
Sorry for the rant. Have a nice day.
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cumberdale (11/29/2015) [-] "He was sitting in the chair I was using, laughing with his friends. It was a joke to take my chair."
Damn, that's pretty ****** up. Asshole
Damn, that's pretty ****** up. Asshole
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Whaaaaaaaaa (11/29/2015) [-] Come off it chica the staring at your tits wasn't the issue.. if he was toned and hot you'd let stare at your chest fat sacks all day cause you'd feel attractive.. It because he wasn't attractive end of story.. **** don't sit here lie to us so you don't look shallow.
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Whaaaaaaaaa (11/29/2015) [-] Not making an assumption. I basing my idea off decades actual experiences with countless female friends and co-worker.
But if you're leaving to white knight somewhere else fine.
But if you're leaving to white knight somewhere else fine.
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spoopyskeleton (11/29/2015) [-] Don't sit and lie like if a 9/10 wanted to **** your pathetic ass you wouldn't let her.
If a 2/10 landwhale hit on you who was staring into your eyes all day, you would totally be creeped out.
Although you'd take anything you can get probably.
It goes both ways.
If a 2/10 landwhale hit on you who was staring into your eyes all day, you would totally be creeped out.
Although you'd take anything you can get probably.
It goes both ways.
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Whaaaaaaaaa (11/29/2015) [-] not saying it doesn't my white knight friend. I'm just calling ******** on the whole "he was Obese but it wasn't the reason." We are all shallow. Even you.
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spoopyskeleton (11/29/2015) [-] I am very shallow. We all are. Who gives a **** if she was being shallow.
Also, fat creepy autists can be.... Well... Creepy. It does happen.
Also, fat creepy autists can be.... Well... Creepy. It does happen.
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Whaaaaaaaaa (11/29/2015) [-] again not disputing it so I don't see what your point is. I'm just calling out the ******** in the last post.
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spoopyskeleton (11/29/2015) [-] I'm saying people CAN be creepy. You don't know what happened in her situation.
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Whaaaaaaaaa (11/29/2015) [-] if you look at what was posted and break it down then what I am saying will make sense.
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gigaidan (11/29/2015) [-] Not really, man. It's a matter of respect too. I would rather have a good looking guy compliment me or something?, yes, absolutely, who doesn't?. But when someone stares at you that way, you don't see it as ugly or handsome.... is just... annoying... you really feel like saying "dude, seriously? my eyes are ******* up here".
That I could find it endearing? maybe, but there must be some sort of spark first, and just because is a handsome guy it doesn't mean there is going to be chemistry, or sexual tension immediately. There may be some attraction, yes. But if I'm talking to you and you are only interested in my boobs, any kind of attraction is going to die. I would like to have your attention in what I'm saying, I would like to see if the physical attraction goes beyond just that, and if we could have something in common, or if he thinks I'm funny. **** like that. If he doesn't respect me enough to actually listen to me, then I'm not interested in him either.
That being said, yes, there are many girls that like that kind of attention. I'm just not one of them. I'm more of the kind that if someone stares at me for too long I feel more awkward than flattered
That I could find it endearing? maybe, but there must be some sort of spark first, and just because is a handsome guy it doesn't mean there is going to be chemistry, or sexual tension immediately. There may be some attraction, yes. But if I'm talking to you and you are only interested in my boobs, any kind of attraction is going to die. I would like to have your attention in what I'm saying, I would like to see if the physical attraction goes beyond just that, and if we could have something in common, or if he thinks I'm funny. **** like that. If he doesn't respect me enough to actually listen to me, then I'm not interested in him either.
That being said, yes, there are many girls that like that kind of attention. I'm just not one of them. I'm more of the kind that if someone stares at me for too long I feel more awkward than flattered
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thegamepixel ONLINE (11/30/2015) [-] so if the guy you like had been the one staring at your tits, you wouldn't let him sit next to you when he asked?
It's also ******** to say that women equally fear asking out the guy they like, because while they may feel that way, they generally aren't the ones asking the guys out. Generaly when a guy asks a girl out and she turns him down, it spreads and that makes the guy feel like a piece of **** . If its someone from school or work that you have to see every day, it makes you not want to take that risk in the first place.
It's also ******** to say that women equally fear asking out the guy they like, because while they may feel that way, they generally aren't the ones asking the guys out. Generaly when a guy asks a girl out and she turns him down, it spreads and that makes the guy feel like a piece of **** . If its someone from school or work that you have to see every day, it makes you not want to take that risk in the first place.
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gigaidan (12/03/2015) [-] As I said. Maybe if there was some strong attraction, or even already a relationship, I wouldn't have mind. Would you really judge me for that? Just don't think that a "handsome random guy" would have an immediate free pass to stare at me like a piece of meat. As I said, it's a matter of respect. If I meet any guy who is more interested on my boobs than what I'm trying to say, there is not going to be any spark, just disgust, and discomfort. No one likes to be stared at, I think. And I'm not hungry for attention, either I usually just try to pass unnoticed, to be honest
Yes. It is indeed a very unfair social construct that usually guys have to be the ones to ask out. It is slowly changing, though. There are more girls that say " **** it" and go for it. I'm sorry if you or any friend got rejected and mocked. It must have been really hard. I just hope you/them don't give up on finding someone who likes you/them back. There are many good fishes out there, don't to let the rotten ones ruin your life.
Yes. It is indeed a very unfair social construct that usually guys have to be the ones to ask out. It is slowly changing, though. There are more girls that say " **** it" and go for it. I'm sorry if you or any friend got rejected and mocked. It must have been really hard. I just hope you/them don't give up on finding someone who likes you/them back. There are many good fishes out there, don't to let the rotten ones ruin your life.
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thegamepixel ONLINE (12/03/2015) [-] I don;t know the situation, but it seemed like there wasn't a relationship or mutual attraction of any kind between you and the guy I refered to which is why I used him as an example, but wtv.
I'm not hurt over anything, but its a common sentiment amongst guys and I'm just trying to say that it is more of an issue for them for that reason. More women are asking guys out though, which is good.
I'm not hurt over anything, but its a common sentiment amongst guys and I'm just trying to say that it is more of an issue for them for that reason. More women are asking guys out though, which is good.
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crutos (11/29/2015) [-] Yeah I can certainly see how some guy and his friends laughing at you is the same as when a guy approaches a girl and she labels him creepy. They have forgotten all about stealing your chair after 20min and it stays among him and his friends. Being labeled creepy spreads faster than you can say "social-suicide", at college there was this guy in my class who liked this girl, he was average looking, down to earth, just the "average Joe" so to speak. she labeled him creepy after he had approached her and his dating life was over then and there and most of his social life too, he had to mingle with the other out-casts/socially awkward people because noone else wanted to be his friends in fear of being put in the social-outcast group and destroying their own social-life in the process...
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gigaidan (11/29/2015) [-] It's not a competition, dude. I'm not trying to show that I had it worse than anyone. I'm just saying that, before calling someone names, we should try to understand that there could be something behind it.
And well, maybe a dumb prang is not the same as having your reputation ruined, but how many stories have your heard where an asshole calls a girl a whore out of spite, and that also ruins her reputation forever? one asshole/bitch ruining another person's life/reputation is not new, nor is it the sin of just one gender against the other, so I don't see your point here.
Again, let's not pretend that one gender is the poor victim of the other. Life is a bitch to everybody, regardless sex, age, religion, etc. Fighting to see which gender has it worst/is worst, is not going to solve it, so why bother?
And well, maybe a dumb prang is not the same as having your reputation ruined, but how many stories have your heard where an asshole calls a girl a whore out of spite, and that also ruins her reputation forever? one asshole/bitch ruining another person's life/reputation is not new, nor is it the sin of just one gender against the other, so I don't see your point here.
Again, let's not pretend that one gender is the poor victim of the other. Life is a bitch to everybody, regardless sex, age, religion, etc. Fighting to see which gender has it worst/is worst, is not going to solve it, so why bother?
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gigaidan (11/29/2015) [-] I'm just saying that not all women are bitches that are going to call the police if you approach them. And that sometimes a completely innocent approach can be interpreted as creepy in some unfortunate cases. That doesn't make the woman evil or a bitch. It was just a misunderstanding. And most of the times this is going to lead to her awkwardly avoiding you, rather than her calling the cops. There are sociopathic bitches, but that's the exception, not the norm...
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commencingfailure (11/29/2015) [-] To be frank you're giving me the impression you're insanely insecure. I mean that fat ugly guy probably wasnt staring at your tits, you feared he was. Either that or he was a complete peanutbrain to still think he'd be on your good side when asking to sit next to you. Doesn't add up. Imagine what it would've done to his self esteem as in comparison to your "let's dance" example.
The real difference between men and women is that women are generally more pretentious(they're plenty of reasons for that, and it by no means means that women are worse than men). They are more likely to see stuff that isn't there, like your "staring at my tits" example, and more likely to say "omg what a creep :^)" due to them being more insecure(arrogance always finds its roots in insecurity somewhere). It's all due to meta culture, but I hope you realize it's true.
The real difference between men and women is that women are generally more pretentious(they're plenty of reasons for that, and it by no means means that women are worse than men). They are more likely to see stuff that isn't there, like your "staring at my tits" example, and more likely to say "omg what a creep :^)" due to them being more insecure(arrogance always finds its roots in insecurity somewhere). It's all due to meta culture, but I hope you realize it's true.
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gigaidan (11/29/2015) [-] Well, yes. It's a possibility. But when you are wearing a plain shirt (no drawings, or words or anything) and the guy is looking below your eye line to a high that could be considered chest-high, it is hard to think anything else. Again, this happened in my teens/early twenties, so yes, I was pretty insecure at the time.
But that's exactly what I'm trying to explain. It could have been nothing, but because of my insecurity I saw as something else. Was it the guy's fault? probably not, but I'm also human, I have many defects. Saying that women are just plain mean to men it's unfair. Something could have happened that she saw/understood different than you. That doesn't make us villains. Just different.
But that's exactly what I'm trying to explain. It could have been nothing, but because of my insecurity I saw as something else. Was it the guy's fault? probably not, but I'm also human, I have many defects. Saying that women are just plain mean to men it's unfair. Something could have happened that she saw/understood different than you. That doesn't make us villains. Just different.
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herecomesjohnny (11/29/2015) [-] nah stop having your head in the internet ass, a hot girl gets approached all the time everywhere
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commencingfailure (11/29/2015) [-]
Meh it's usually more your own doing than you'd dare admit. It happens to be that it's become, and pretty sure always was, normal for men to approach women first. Plenty of people just roll with that, so the competition between men is far greater than the other way around. Simply put, men are generally more likely to give a girl who asks him out a chance than a guy who asks a girl out.
With this comes that men are generally less pretentious than women are(excuuuuuse me, but it really is true). This has to do with other meta culture, because women's standards for looks are much higher than for men. Hence we usually don't see makeup on men but plenty on women. Women aren't bad people, they're usually just way more insecure and thus tend to act like "oh what a creep, how dares he ask me out!"(simply to make themselves feel good).
But in the end you shouldn't have any prejudices. I mean I'm not a good looking guy(by your standards prolly a 6,5/10) but I do have a girlfriend who's incredibly pretty(really no less than a 9/10). So yea it's possible with the right attitude.
With this comes that men are generally less pretentious than women are(excuuuuuse me, but it really is true). This has to do with other meta culture, because women's standards for looks are much higher than for men. Hence we usually don't see makeup on men but plenty on women. Women aren't bad people, they're usually just way more insecure and thus tend to act like "oh what a creep, how dares he ask me out!"(simply to make themselves feel good).
But in the end you shouldn't have any prejudices. I mean I'm not a good looking guy(by your standards prolly a 6,5/10) but I do have a girlfriend who's incredibly pretty(really no less than a 9/10). So yea it's possible with the right attitude.
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anon (11/29/2015) [-]
Looks do have a strong role in this. That is the one place where i'm going to say that girl that replied to you is flat wrong.
If a hot guy and a nasty **** say the same thing, the girl is going to be more forgiving for the hot guy.
And i'm not calling girls shallow necessarily, since guys do it too. Definitely spend some time at the gym and keep yourself in good hygiene, you're going to wanna look good.
If a hot guy and a nasty **** say the same thing, the girl is going to be more forgiving for the hot guy.
And i'm not calling girls shallow necessarily, since guys do it too. Definitely spend some time at the gym and keep yourself in good hygiene, you're going to wanna look good.
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moldybreadcrumb (11/29/2015) [-] For the most part, we hope men will hit on us.
There's a fine line between being creepy and being flattering, and it's not really in looks. It's in how they do it that makes a difference.
I guess there's a correlation between one's looks and ones confidence, but i've been asked out by people before who uh...went swimming in the bad end of the gene pool...and i was utterly flattered. It was clearly thought out.
On the flip side of things somebody who asked me on a date prior to that, who was much better looking, wasn't the case. I would never ask out a guy over facebook messenger whom i only know through class, and I would hope that others wouldn't want to do so to me.
If you're going to ask someone out, put enough effort into it to show them that they're worth the effort.
There's a fine line between being creepy and being flattering, and it's not really in looks. It's in how they do it that makes a difference.
I guess there's a correlation between one's looks and ones confidence, but i've been asked out by people before who uh...went swimming in the bad end of the gene pool...and i was utterly flattered. It was clearly thought out.
On the flip side of things somebody who asked me on a date prior to that, who was much better looking, wasn't the case. I would never ask out a guy over facebook messenger whom i only know through class, and I would hope that others wouldn't want to do so to me.
If you're going to ask someone out, put enough effort into it to show them that they're worth the effort.
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optimussum (11/29/2015) [-] i get this
im not exactly attractive but im easy to talk to and i think girls appreciate that
i have a more attractive friend and my last 2 gfs were people he tried to "woo" but couldnt because he's retarded
im not exactly attractive but im easy to talk to and i think girls appreciate that
i have a more attractive friend and my last 2 gfs were people he tried to "woo" but couldnt because he's retarded
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commoncrunch (11/29/2015) [-] >i've been asked out by people before who uh...went swimming in the bad end of the gene pool...and i was utterly flattered. It was clearly thought out.
It doesn't sound like they were successful in arousing any interesting in you.
It doesn't sound like they were successful in arousing any interesting in you.
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commoncrunch (11/29/2015) [-] All I'd like to know is how much failure can be expected.
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Ruspanic (11/29/2015) [-] Depends on a lot of things. Your looks, your hygiene, how you dress, your personality and confidence levels, knowing what to say, which girls you pursue, the context/place in which you pursue them, etc. No one's going to have 100% success and you're not entitled to anyone agreeing to go out with you.
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commoncrunch (11/29/2015) [-] Personally, I don't even like I'm entitled to have friends, much less a significant other.
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moldybreadcrumb (12/01/2015) [-] My head is on fire, but my feet are fine.
Anyway anyway anyway, hygene's the most important. I know it sounds stupid here, but one of the things i notice most about guys is how they smell.
I'd recommend EEEVERYBODY in existance to get some sort of draw scent bag to put in yoru closet and pants draws to give their clothes an attractive scent.
That and a daily shower is always the best bet. Greasy hair is always a huge no-no for either gender.
Just always keep up with hygene and do whatever you want to do to make your confidence in yourself show.
If you want to dress as a punk rocker in a pink tutu, do it.
What will get you a girlfriend or boyfriend won't be what what you wear, but how you wear your confidence.
At least, that's my experience.
Don't get me wrong, confidence isn't easy to come by. But if you can fake it, add just a small strut to your walk and smile, it goes a very long distance.
Anyway anyway anyway, hygene's the most important. I know it sounds stupid here, but one of the things i notice most about guys is how they smell.
I'd recommend EEEVERYBODY in existance to get some sort of draw scent bag to put in yoru closet and pants draws to give their clothes an attractive scent.
That and a daily shower is always the best bet. Greasy hair is always a huge no-no for either gender.
Just always keep up with hygene and do whatever you want to do to make your confidence in yourself show.
If you want to dress as a punk rocker in a pink tutu, do it.
What will get you a girlfriend or boyfriend won't be what what you wear, but how you wear your confidence.
At least, that's my experience.
Don't get me wrong, confidence isn't easy to come by. But if you can fake it, add just a small strut to your walk and smile, it goes a very long distance.
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moldybreadcrumb (12/01/2015) [-] I really do like him as a human being. I enjoy his company and i feel happy and content around him.
So i told him i'd go out with him, but that i don't see any situation in the future that would result in a happy ending.
I'm not picky about looks, but i don't want to be with someone repulsive.
But we had a nice time.
He's moved on, gotten himself a boyfriend, and him and i are good friends now.
So i told him i'd go out with him, but that i don't see any situation in the future that would result in a happy ending.
I'm not picky about looks, but i don't want to be with someone repulsive.
But we had a nice time.
He's moved on, gotten himself a boyfriend, and him and i are good friends now.
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moldybreadcrumb (11/29/2015) [-] Text or phone call?
Also, if you got their number without them aware you know their number, that's no bueno as well.
If you do ask someone out over phone call, don't ask them to be your boyfriend/girlfriend. Ask them if they wanna go somewhere with you first, and once you're there, have a nice time, and ask them in person.
At least that's what i'd do.
A phone call is always better than a text. Hands down.
Also, if you got their number without them aware you know their number, that's no bueno as well.
If you do ask someone out over phone call, don't ask them to be your boyfriend/girlfriend. Ask them if they wanna go somewhere with you first, and once you're there, have a nice time, and ask them in person.
At least that's what i'd do.
A phone call is always better than a text. Hands down.
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Urfriedrice (11/29/2015) [-]
The **** kind of beta fedora ass answer is that? Are you asking her out for some coffee or are you groping her at gunpoint? You and everyone who liked your comment are the ones who are gonna die alone.
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spoopyskeleton (11/29/2015) [-] So that's not the point in his comment? It's rare I can get hit by a car walking down the street.
Do I stop walking down the street and call every driver a cunt?
No.
Do I stop walking down the street and call every driver a cunt?
No.
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peanutsaurusrex ONLINE (11/29/2015) [-] The **** kind of beta fedora ass comment is that?
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mytwocents (11/29/2015) [-] he is right.
i once tried to date a girl in school. but some feminazi must have called the cops. cannot get closer than 250 meters to that school now.
i once tried to date a girl in school. but some feminazi must have called the cops. cannot get closer than 250 meters to that school now.
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spoopyskeleton (11/29/2015) [-] Yeah, tell yourself that.
Tell yourself you don't have the balls to approach a woman, and instead blame it on information you hear from the internet.
How about you actually approach a woman in the right environment, and see how it goes.
The same goes for woman. They can get turned down and insulted by trying to get with guys.
Also, getting arrested for sexual harassment/rape because you approached a girl? What dream world do you live in? Does every woman you know live to be a cunt? Or do you just get your information from /r9k/ who believe every woman is evil?
Tell yourself you don't have the balls to approach a woman, and instead blame it on information you hear from the internet.
How about you actually approach a woman in the right environment, and see how it goes.
The same goes for woman. They can get turned down and insulted by trying to get with guys.
Also, getting arrested for sexual harassment/rape because you approached a girl? What dream world do you live in? Does every woman you know live to be a cunt? Or do you just get your information from /r9k/ who believe every woman is evil?
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commoncrunch (11/29/2015) [-] Imagine, if you will, a 5;7, 300 lb 22-year-old, whose hobbies are frequenting FJ, watching plenty of anime, and playing video games well into the night.
What WOULD be the right environment?
Also,
>Also, getting arrested for sexual harassment/rape because you approached a girl? What dream world do you live in? Does every woman you know live to be a cunt? Or do you just get your information from /r9k/ who believe every woman is evil?
I get my information on expectations of a woman's reactions from Tumblr.
What WOULD be the right environment?
Also,
>Also, getting arrested for sexual harassment/rape because you approached a girl? What dream world do you live in? Does every woman you know live to be a cunt? Or do you just get your information from /r9k/ who believe every woman is evil?
I get my information on expectations of a woman's reactions from Tumblr.
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spoopyskeleton (11/29/2015) [-] Well, stop being a fat cunt and do something about it.
If you want to be more attractive to woman, do something about it, first of all. It happens to women as well. a 300lb landwhale isn't going to get hit on or even have a chance compared to somebody fitter.
"I get my information on expectations of a woman's reactions from Tumblr."
That is literally one of the most autistic and stupid things I have ever heard. You are hopeless if you actually believe that women on tumblr represent every woman out there.
If you want to be more attractive to woman, do something about it, first of all. It happens to women as well. a 300lb landwhale isn't going to get hit on or even have a chance compared to somebody fitter.
"I get my information on expectations of a woman's reactions from Tumblr."
That is literally one of the most autistic and stupid things I have ever heard. You are hopeless if you actually believe that women on tumblr represent every woman out there.
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commoncrunch (11/29/2015) [-] I said, what would be the right environment for it, not how to fix it
Also, there are a ******* of women on tumblr compared to other sites. Seems logical.
Also, there are a ******* of women on tumblr compared to other sites. Seems logical.
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spoopyskeleton (11/29/2015) [-] Okay, right environment for picking up girls you don't know beforehand? A club/pub. An event of some sort, Something that gets your fat ass out of the house. Unless you build a friendship with somebody from school/college.
But being a fat autist, your hopes are slim no matter where you are.
Also I guess I should just assume every guys opinions are taken straight from 4chan then? if I'm going by your logic. Seriously that is stupid as **** and just harming yourself thinking like that.
But being a fat autist, your hopes are slim no matter where you are.
Also I guess I should just assume every guys opinions are taken straight from 4chan then? if I'm going by your logic. Seriously that is stupid as **** and just harming yourself thinking like that.
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commoncrunch (11/29/2015) [-] 1. And if I don't like drinking?
2. You browse FJ, you're just as vulnerable to autism.
3. How is that harmful thinking?
2. You browse FJ, you're just as vulnerable to autism.
3. How is that harmful thinking?
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bwiedieter (11/29/2015) [-]
1. You don´t need to drink alcohol at a pub. Very feeble excuse.
2. We browse FJ, but are otherwise functioning adults. The world isn´t black and white like that.
3. You´re throwing yourself into a deep dark place by avoiding social contact because you extrapolate the MO of Tumblerinas onto every female human being on this planet. You´d be much better off not restricting yourself by fearing that everyone is out to get you.
2. We browse FJ, but are otherwise functioning adults. The world isn´t black and white like that.
3. You´re throwing yourself into a deep dark place by avoiding social contact because you extrapolate the MO of Tumblerinas onto every female human being on this planet. You´d be much better off not restricting yourself by fearing that everyone is out to get you.
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spoopyskeleton (11/29/2015) [-] Then go to some sort of event, or take up a sport, join a club.
But i'm done speaking to you. You're obviously set on your ways.
Keep feeling sorry for yourself and blaming women for your problems. You're really just a fat autist with no hopes of changing.
But i'm done speaking to you. You're obviously set on your ways.
Keep feeling sorry for yourself and blaming women for your problems. You're really just a fat autist with no hopes of changing.
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commoncrunch (11/29/2015) [-] Have you ever watched The 40-Year-Old Virgin?
I have a similar mentality. I love and respect women so much, I fear them.
I feel like I can't do anything to succeed when it comes to the dating scene.
All the effort, and for what? Whoever I talk to can merely just say no, and make it all worthless.
Haven't you ever felt that way?
I have a similar mentality. I love and respect women so much, I fear them.
I feel like I can't do anything to succeed when it comes to the dating scene.
All the effort, and for what? Whoever I talk to can merely just say no, and make it all worthless.
Haven't you ever felt that way?
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spoopyskeleton (11/29/2015) [-] Well. No. I'm 20 and have plenty of female friends. I talk to them like human beings, like I would any of my male friends.
Don't be afraid of them, they ARE just human. Don't get too strung up on a girl for her to just say no, THAT has happened to me and you just need to accept it and move on. It happens to everyone.
Don't be afraid of them, they ARE just human. Don't get too strung up on a girl for her to just say no, THAT has happened to me and you just need to accept it and move on. It happens to everyone.
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commoncrunch (11/29/2015) [-] Another question I have is, how long should one go on as a friend before making any attempt at making more romantic gestures?
A year? A decade? When?
A year? A decade? When?
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anon (11/29/2015) [-]
The things you've listed are not your problem. It actually sounds like you're very similar to my boyfriend and those things are all part of why I like him. Your problem is you're generalizing women and as soon as you do that you stop treating us like people and that's when we get creeped out
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commoncrunch (11/29/2015) [-] I know it's reasonable to treat people like people, but things never go anywhere when I do, so I try to say something, but I get such trouble for it.
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anon (11/29/2015) [-]
What're you saying?? I just don't see a scenario where a girl will cause you trouble cause you politely asked her on a date or whatever unless she's a narcissistic bitch and you offended her vanity by even thinking you had a chance with her in which case good riddens to her
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optimussum (11/29/2015) [-] >approaching women with romantic intent straight away
>not building up a gradual friendship first
no wonder
>not building up a gradual friendship first
no wonder
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alfrsa (11/29/2015) [-] Doesn't seem to be the case www.nationmaster.com/country-info/compare/Russia/United-States/Crime
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Whaaaaaaaaa (11/29/2015) [-] you know for like the a century Russia has lied about their crime rates to make them seem not a violent as the US?
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Whaaaaaaaaa (12/01/2015) [-] its not a train of thought.. up till recently Russia flat out lied about their crime rates. Only recently has the national crime rate and crime rates of third party groups conflicted.
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gimmyjibbs (11/29/2015) [-] I like this comp, since it makes my fetish not seem as disgusting.
Of course It's not an instinct thing, but I'll take what I can get.
Of course It's not an instinct thing, but I'll take what I can get.
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lotengo ONLINE (11/29/2015) [-] This behaviour is not exclusive to parrots. Japanese ppl are also into it.
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ogthegreat (11/29/2015) [-] Funny, but social anxiety is a thing. The thought of being rejected by someone you deem highly ******** is paralyzing by itself.
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articulate (11/29/2015) [-] Sucks. You're missing out on the feel of connecting with another human. How often do you make eye contact?
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articulate (11/29/2015) [-] Try doing it more often. People will feel more connected to you, and you to them. It's also a great way to see if a girl is interested. This one tip will help you the most I think. The next step is hard too though (talking to them.)
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articulate (11/30/2015) [-] And whatever you say don't screen yourself. If you say something stupid or awkward then you have one less awkward thing you'll say the next time (hopefully you don't repeat things found to be bad lines.) Eventually you'll know better what to and what not to say.
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articulate (11/30/2015) [-] It's more about them anyway. Just ask open ended questions about anything. Then, using information gained from their answer, ask more questions.
Example 1:
You: Hey, what are you up to tonight?
Them: Going out with some friends.
You: Where to?
Them: A bar.
You: What's your poison?
Etc, etc. You can't know what they'll say in advance which is what makes it fun. It's an exercise in thinking on your feet.
Example 1:
You: Hey, what are you up to tonight?
Them: Going out with some friends.
You: Where to?
Them: A bar.
You: What's your poison?
Etc, etc. You can't know what they'll say in advance which is what makes it fun. It's an exercise in thinking on your feet.
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reican (11/30/2015) [-] perhaps.
Usually when i go to the local pub i just usually stay by the pool table and then I end up focusing on that mostly. Especially if I'm playing against a girl then I just focus only on the pool because I feel if i start talking, I'd just be a bother. But I guess I can try it out.
Usually when i go to the local pub i just usually stay by the pool table and then I end up focusing on that mostly. Especially if I'm playing against a girl then I just focus only on the pool because I feel if i start talking, I'd just be a bother. But I guess I can try it out.
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articulate (11/30/2015) [-] Just talk to them. If it works out you're gonna end up talking to them a lot anyway. If not then it just wasn't meant to be.
What are some of your hobbies?
What are some of your hobbies?
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articulate (11/30/2015) [-] Maybe we could do it together some time?
Boom. Successfully hit on.
Boom. Successfully hit on.
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commoncrunch (11/29/2015) [-] All those comments under >>#3 make me wanna ask for an objective list of what WOULD get a short, fat guy labeled creepy to most girls.
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anon (11/29/2015) [-]
Y'all sound pretty lonely. Take a class, go to the gym, whatever. Gain confidence and a relationship will come to you.
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dingdongz (11/29/2015) [-] >going to a bar on purpose
I'd rather stay at work the extra 2 hours
I'd rather stay at work the extra 2 hours
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makethingsworse (11/29/2015) [-] The Polar bear one is just what a long term relationship is... except it's just (usually) threatening to tear their face off and not actually doing it.
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proudtoserve (11/29/2015) [-]
Before I read the fact I thought the giraffe just had it's horn shoved up the other's ass.
