Shoulda know that "Dungeons and Dragons explain" was into "dungeons"
Do you usually include it in your games?

zekeon believes otherwise, but nope.

no problem!

>Nine Years.
Bro you're ******* 20.
Relax.

What. You were doing bondage when you were eleven?

not always willingly, but unfortunately yes

Apologies for the third Degree.
But ya know.

it's to be expected.

I got this like.
Suspicion, yeah?
That this is some kind of attention grabbing nonsense.

You shouldn't say nine years if you were raped or pushed around or some **** .

Consent is like. A majority of what S&M is.

I'm sorry that you were like, raped, or that your peepee was touched when you were a kid, but it's kind of ridiculous to say 9 years.

Like. I'm Twenty as well, and I've been in it since I was Seventeen. But that's being gay and sexually active in New York City, for you.

Now when you say active, are you one of those jive ****** who runs around saying roleplay is S&M/BDSM, or has done it maybe a few times in their life? Or do you actively do it on a weekly/biweekly/monthly basis?

I have a sub/dom relationship.

That doesn't mean **** .
People have Dom/Sub relationships over thousands of miles and RP over skype/steam. You're not one of these people, are you?

this current one is long distance, but I have had local ones.
we're planning on moving in together within the next few years.
he's actually on funnyjunk, if you're curious.

I'm in a long distance relationship as well (over two years, finally met him in November) don't listen to anyone, it can work. We're also interested in bondage as well

thank you for your help

Long distance doesn't count. (As much as people pretend like it does.)
Moving in together doesn't out, planning on moving in is even worse. You need to be actively engaged in this kind of relationship physically for it to mean anything.

How many times have you actively engaged in sexual relations /physically/ over the '9 years' that you've been 'active'? Barring rapes and consensual bouts and what not.

I was engaged to my girlfriend in Pennsylvania, does that not count because I live in New York? It SEEM like it counted when I got on one knee and told her she was the love of my life and I never wanted to be with anyone else.

That's different bruh.
Medium distance (Over a few hours) ain't long distance.

Medium Distance = Someone you can see like. On the weekends.

I live in New York and dated someone from PA too. I live in NYC, they were in Philly, I saw them all the time.

Where in the city do you live? I'm right up the Hudson line in Tarrrytown, I visit my buddy a couple city blocks from Grand Station all the time

Awh **** ***** .
I live in Queens. Near Astoria. I work in Manhattan (usually) tho.

An old friend of mine used to live in Astoria, until she was around 3 or 4, then moved up to Tarrytown. That's pretty cool, man. One of the benefits of us New Yorkers (Especially those of us in or near the city) is that when we play Fallout 3, while everyone is confused by the metro tunnels, we look at the subway map and go "Oh, well that's not hard. I just gotta take the A line over to the C station then swing around to D and I"ll keep on straight until I hit the F line". Even if it's not the NYC subway, the maps are still the same, lmao

The best thing about being from New York is that I can be a huge condescending asshole about any game/movie that takes place here.

But yeah dude. I love our subways.

**** like this happens:

www.facebook.com/video.php?v=10152876237466745&pnref=story

Eric Andre is bae.

four or five, and it is no one's right to tell people whether their relationships do or do not count.

Four or five times?
That hardly counts as active. Especially over the course of '9 years'

Listen, long distance relationships are rad and all. But it seems like to me you're just like every other sexual RPer on the internet. Long Distance BDSM over the internet hardly counts as the real thing.

four or five relationships. I didn't know that people only had sex once in their relationship. sounds like news to me.
I'm sorry that you don't approve of the legitimacy of a long distance relationship, but it isn't your relationship.

I didn't say I didn't approve.
Life is life bruh. Live and let live. You can have all the E-RP sex you want.

But don't try to pass it as having nine years of experience in the BDSM community.

Kinda bothers people like me on account of I, and many of my colleagues meet people like you, constantly. Completely inexperienced types who have close to no experience outside of internet roleplay, trying to pass it it off as the real thing.

I started roleplaying about three years ago, dude.
the reason I list my experience in this lifestyle as nine years ago is because my father was a dom who liked to get drunk.
and that's the thing, a lot of not-nice people use this type of **** so they can abuse people.
that's why I treat my subs like they're the ******* world to me.

get off of your ******* high horse.

Like. 80% of the submissive types have some kind of ailment, and it's tragic af. You need to straight up always be there for them, a lot of them have been abused and what not. BDSM ain't about sex, it ain't about leather, and it certainly ain't about being dominant or submissive. It's a relationship, with dynamics. You can't paint it as Dominant /or/ submissive. That's far too black and white for what it actually is.

I don't like most other Doms (Not because I'm a mammal and have a natural knack for it, or anything) because they're generally overly sexually minded abusive scumbags who'd rather manipulate and hurt the ones they care about.

I've actually had subs leave me because I am not as sexually active as most people would think.

Don't get me wrong.
Most submissive types are just as bad. A lot of them just have zero personality, or are only interested in sex. They're a total joke.

I am aware. I've dealt with a few of those.
I am in this lifestyle because it feels natural to me, and I do love my sub very much.
I've been called abusive
a deviant
et cetera.

one person actually tried to call the cops on me.

Domination/Submission is the natural dynamic of a human relationship, no doubt it feels natural, it's very primal and animalistic.
That's why you got those sadists and masochists in apocalyptic movies and vidya. It's pretty legit.

But love is a big ******* word bruh.

That blows major D, a lot of people just don't understand the lifestyle.

I'm aware it's a big word. that's why I used it, it's how I feel.

You seem offended.
You shouldn't be. It's not like I'm insulting you. You can't take these things personally bruh.

This just shows me that you're an inexperienced Dom. A real true-to-form dom would have just shrugged his shoulders and continued on his day.

Why are you even defending yourself against someone like me? rofl

From what you've told me thus far? You're not. You may have experienced it, but to me you seem like a poser. You seem like a good guy and all, and you're on the right path, I dig how you care about your other half in the way you do, but all that doesn't really pass as "9 years active in the BDSM community"

in the end it doesn't matter to me whether you think I'm a poser or not, so I don't plan on continuing this conversation, but I'll tell you one last time that I've been in this lifestyle for nine years.

Hey man, if that's how you feel, then so be it.
It's just not very dominant like to be emotionally dependent.

but back to the main point, I don't appreciate being told that I'm not really into bdsm, by someone who does not actually know.

nonconsensual*

Reminder that this person is a 20 year old man in a relationship with a 14 year old girl and another 20 year old man.

actually we broke up, and she was sixteen.

you still a kiddy fiddler

k

i dont think sex roleplaying on steam chats counts as bdsm lifestyle

it doesn't, but I do that too

never read it.

hm. I might give it a read then

hul,

Man, you'd be my favorite person on here if you weren't a "progressive" idiot.

how exactly am I a "progressive idiot"

Ever saw the anon shotposting image? "Progressive Parrot" and "Factual Falcon"?
Talking about how gays are leading a destructive lifestyle but the "Progressive" parrot just leaves them be?

*********** is magic.

I think the problem is that most people think that the sub is treated as someone "below" the dom at all times. A bdsm relationship should be just like any other relationship. The only difference is what you do in the bedroom (unless you're a 24/7 submissive). Both dom and sub should treat each other as equals unless they're role playing together.

I see what you mean. Your "equals" comment threw me off. But yes, it's absolutely based on trust!

Hmm. DnD expert and BDSM voyeur.

That's some kind of resume.

I also write.

God bless. Me too. Great hobby.

Anything good?

nothing worth talking about sadly

I see. 'Nothing'. Gotcha'.

yeeep

not always willingly, but yes.

I have mental issues, but have either gone through or am going through therapy to work through and manage them.
I'm not normal, but I'm not disturbed.

yes.

Damn....you seem pretty open about talking about it though. I don't think I could ever talk about that **** .

>>#435, therapy helped. that's all I can really say about it.

Ehh, it's in the past and now is now. Most of us went through some pretty terrible **** , it's important to look forward and move on with life.

indeed.
also, thresh is second best support.

Second best?!

He also is a decent toplaner. Thanks to his passive and some armor runes you can start with MR.

no one's better than sona

****** even Nautilus is better than Sona and he's not even an official support

don't be that guy

I am always that guy.

this is why no one grabs the lantern!

It's obviously because they have a deathwish and don't know clicking lantern is good thing to do.

or they want the shield and vision it grants

It must've been pretty horrible, but bad **** happens and you seem to handle it fairly well by being able to talk about it so openly.

Good for ya.

indeed.

That got heavy really fast.

Sorry to hear that. The summer going into my sophomore year I had just lost my dad, and I started to date a girl who experienced the same thing as yourself. She would have nightmares almost every goddam night. It was nice knowing I was there for her when she needed, and helped put my own misery from my father's death behind me. I would always say to her, "Gee, I know I lost my father, but I can't even understand what you went through." She would always say back, "don't try and compare our events, everyone handles pain differently."

it's in the past.

a guy.
I go both ways tho

As someone who has been in this lifestyle a while as well, I second that. Why are all the explains so kinky?

we have a lot of knowledge.
especially in the sack?

Carnal knowledge

i'm into bdsm, can i be some sort of magic the gathering/binding of isaac explain?

Tboi explain pls

i could do it.

I beg of you, every site needs more Isaac

but surely nobody will ask for isaacexplain to explain anything...

So make them ask!

ok

I'll have a go at it.

You were molested when you were a beggar.
Now you're a molestedbeggar YEEEEEEEEEEEEEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!

we used to have an mtgexplain but he's nowehre to be found.

...So you're literally a sadistic DM.

bingo.

yeah, my gf and i dabble here and there and the very first thing we did is read up on the proper way to do things.

the community is exactly as you and op say, they're supportive and encouraging, and without aftercare a day of awesome sex can turn into a paranoia filled nightmare. fsog is a very stupid book

A BDSM-er with the imagination of someone into D&D?

You must get into some WILD **** .

Does your partner dress up as a Drow priestess?

driders, they dress up as driders

dndxplain, explain!

he doesn't like spiders :c

'fraid not

I'm game. Let's do it.

oki

Genuinely curious
How does one get into and find people to do this stuff with?n
I just feel like finding that stuff wouldn't be that easy

For me and my man, it happened by mistake. I met him on an MMO and we became very close friends through our guild. Then, we started talking to each other on the phone. After a few months of being best friends we found out we were both into bdsm. Then we finally met in person and tried it out.

I think most of the time you meet someone with your kinky preferences by accident. There are websites out there though, like fetlife, which are basically dating sites for people who are into the lifestyle. I suppose that's a simpler way to do it.

Honestly? Just ask your SO if they want to try it. I did with my ex, turns out she was totally into it but had been too shy to ask me about it.

would require me to have a SO
or and ex SO
but I take your meaning haha

you can also go to You need to login to view this link if you reeaally want to search

..........you have me both curious and aroused right now

I do? what did I do?

Curious as to how you know about this, and aroused because I've never been so close to BDSM

6 years in the life style

not about you but about the lifestyle

uh sure go ahead, just i'm playing a game so if the reply is slow be patient

Now i have even more questions
you mind?

honestly, might sound cliche, but a lot of the time, it finds you.

I couldn't have said it better myself.

DnDxplain is into BDSM?

I bet you like fighting taressques daily

omfg duelknite

Yes?

I'm not a masochist.

oh you're that kind of DM... remind me to never play with you

<3